Tuesday, February 14

Musings on david's panties

My hubby "hates" his panties. By which I mean he loves to be humiliated in them, of course.


The first time I saw him in panties was when I forced him into a pair of mine before his spanking. Something along those lines was suggested to me on the Topix forum, and it didn't take a long time reading our blogs to figure out that a lot of guys into being dommed by us wives are also into being put into our panties. So I took a flyer on that and made him wear them.

Why did I do it? Mainly I thought it would be fun to tease him as a "little girl getting her spanking" and thought the dressup would go well with that. I lost a lot of respect for him as a man the first time I had him kicking his legs and howling like a baby across my knee getting his bare fanny whacked. I also genuinely do love fucking him in the ass, and I can't help but think of him as taking it "like a woman" when I do that, hence panties again make sense as his go-to dress for that. Obviously, any man who bends over like that and lets a woman do that to him is less of a man in my books. But while I lost respect for him in this area, I genuinely prefer him like this, and would not go back to fake "macho man" for anything.

As usual, after a scene david and I talk. Our thing is not really 24x7 FLR. Our thing is more I come up with a scene without discussing it with him at all, and then I put him through it. Afterwards we will talk about it. When we are not scening, we have a pretty normal relationship (except I am getting more and more dommie with him as time goes by. Ha Ha!). He never knows when a scene is about to be sprung on him, and he has never complained about one yet (except the exercise last weekend!).

Anyways, after that first time putting him in panties, during debrief he told me how he was incredibly humiliated to be put into them, but that he gets tremendously aroused being tremendously humiliated, so he loves me. If you turn your head sideways while standing on one foot you can see the sense in that. He said it's been a fantasy of his for as long as he can remember, being "forced" into panties, or being "caught" in panties and spanked for it, but that he didn't dare raise it with me thinking I would go all freaky on him. Silly boy. Mildly insulting to me.

Hey, if he loves his panties, who am I to say no? It's a small enough thing, really, and rife with opportunity. If such a simple thing can humiliate the piss out of him, then go for it, I say.

I quickly took him out panty shopping (a couple of times now), embarrassing the heck out of him each time. I also got him into skirt and panties for some girlie sex from me (he had to clutch his little panties at his knees while he took it right down his throat and balls deep up his ass like a good little slut should). Later I added forced sashaying and bra and lingerie based corner time. I even had him in bra and panties the first time Sue saw him all cute and subby. I know, give me an inch and I'll take a mile!

The thing is, I don't get it. I have a whole drawer full of panties myself. Some nicer than others, some sexier than others, but they really don't "turn me on". They're underwear. I hope some of them turn him on because they show me off nicely, but I really don't get it.

Physically, they're not that different from a swimsuit, from his underwear, or even gym shorts. How kinky would it be if I put on a pair of his underwear? Why would I want to? Would I get all hot and bothered and super embarrassed? No. I don't get it. I wear bra and panties most every day. And so? And what about cross-dressing? If I wear one of his T-shirts, it's because mine are all in the wash.

Mind you, david has a low tolerance for being embarrassed.  He was so embarrassed the first time he was standing bare in front of my sister showing off his penis and testicles (there's nothing to be ashamed of there, really, but he was blushing up a storm). And he was so embarrassed that time I took his pants down in front of his trainer. He did everything to hide his front from her. Ha Ha! Other guys too. I was at a pool party when I was 16 where a guy got totally pantsed, all his stuff on show. He was so awkward! Would I be embarrassed if I was nude in public? No way. I love getting naked! Before I started spanking him we were at a "clothing optional" beach together. I was bare in like 3 seconds. He wouldn't get out of his swimsuit! Oh boy, if we ever go back there again I'll have him out of his swimsuit in 3 seconds flat and right across my knee for a fanny warmer!

Last weekend for his workout I put him into a pair of his panties. I can honestly they didn't turn me on or turn me off in any way. They were just short shorts. They did have the advantage of being flimsy and riding up his ass so there was more to whip. And it was amusing when he was doing push-up burpees and his cock and balls kept flopping out. Ha Ha!

But I figure that as his domme, I don't need to understand why being put into panties turns him on so much, I just need to know that it does turn him on, and keep doing it to him.

Of course, I'm being disingenuous. Ultimately, it does turn me on, because I know I am realizing this deep dark secret fantasy of his, getting him wildly excited, letting other women know he is subject to "panty training" by his wife. His excitement at all of that turns me on incredibly. Also, I get turned on humiliating him, especially in front of other women (am I a bad girl for that?). If panties and a bra humiliate him, then I'm all in on it, I don't need to understand why, I just need to see those blushes keep coming.

All for the price of a pair of panties. Cheapest sex toy going.

So I say, vive les petites culottes!



63 comments:

  1. "If panties and a bra humiliate him, then I'm all in on it, I don't need to understand why, I just need to see those blushes keep coming." Such a lovely sentiment.

    Kudos, Julie, You have such a wonderful attitude and strong sense of Yourself and Your marriage. i love Your sense of play and up-for-anything high spirits, seems like You are having more and more fun, and deepening Your bond and control over david every day. And that's really what's it all about, right? Especially if those blushes keep coming! =-)

    Enjoyed this post, even if cross-dressing and feminization are not really a part of our play (just not something either of us are really all that into...) Your enthusiasm is infectious! i can appreciate how it could be deliciously humiliating for some subs, and potentially great fun for the Domme (and maybe even Her wicked sister...).

    Wishing You and david more fun and discovery to come, and wishing for the rest of us that we get to read all about it! =-)

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    1. Thank you, adoring.
      You will for sure read about it all.
      I get extra inspiriation knowing that I will blog about what I put poor little david through!

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    2. I am jealous of your husband! How fun for the both of you! So hott! I'm dripping and hard in my own panties right now... Yummm

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  2. A submissive's mind is a fun thing to walk thru. I too keep hubbette in panties and lots of dommes follow the same practice. It's a good reminder who is in charge but I think you'll find after a while he will find panties as boring as you do. It's more the humiliation of being caught in panties. Of course during the cold months up here in Maine hubbette wears pantyhose for a better reminder of who is in charge. He is very careful crossing his legs. LOL

    I would like to dig into your comment about "being less of a man". Is that how you see him and if so does it change your feelings towards him. Maybe I'm just misreading this.

    I also dress hubbette up and he's a cute little sissy. As a suggestion perhaps you and you sister can be treated to a little strip tease performed by david. They seem to like strip joints so perhaps he should feel the other side of the stage. If you are not happy with his performance you cna bring a whole new meaning to a lap dance. LOL

    QG

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    1. By "less of a man" I meant "less of a he-man", which is fantastic in my books.

      I like your idea. I'll buy him one of those "how to do a striptease" videos intended for women and make him learn the moves for us. At least he'll get to enjoy watching it!

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  3. So far I love your blog...My wife paddles me when I get out of line and keps a punishment journal so she can keep track...I tell you this because I do not think she "loses respect" for me because of my fetishes. She just gets it, and she knows I love her all the more for it...

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    1. I do not lose respect for david at all! Quite the contrary, I respect him more now that he is being honest with me. When I said I "lost respect for him in this area" I meant in the "macho he-man" area. I mean, it's hard to pretend you're a James Bond womanizer type when your wife keeps you in panties and spanks you!

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  4. Hi Julie,
    I am not sure David will like what you put about losing respect for him, although you may be right that getting fucked in the ass makes him closer to a woman (or gay) than a man.
    Perhaps if he was just a spanko things might have been different
    Turkish Sub

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    1. I think sometimes he regrets that he cannot be "more of a man" with me. As in tell me what to do, throw me over his knee and spank me, insist that I accept him into me. That sort of thing. I imagine that's what real he-man types want to do. I would not put it up with it before his spanking days, and would certainly be even less tolerant of that kind of behavior now. So he is "less of a man" in all the ways that the media and soceiety say a man should be, but he is "more of a person" in my books, which is a great trade.

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  5. This morning I found a good decription of the tortures men go through in the Lingerie Shop, from a surprising source-The Globe and Mail!
    I made a tiny url, but they kind of fudged it up: http://tinyurl.com/G-MailLingerie
    Here is what we go through in this inner sanctum of femininity and I hope others enjoy this accurate description:
    "almost immediately upon walking into the lingerie section of H&M, my body temperature rose ten degrees. At my left was a rack of sheer body suits with pink bows drawing one's eyes to where they already naturally go, and to my right, a rainbow cornucopia of panties covering an entire wall. I started to sweat.It happened so fast I was unable to take off my jacket for fear of looking like a weird sweaty guy looking at women’s underwear. Also, it crossed my mind that I was, in fact, a weird sweaty guy looking at women’s underwear."
    PS. Please keep up the great work. -Gary

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    1. Ha Ha! Good article, gary, thank you for sharing that.

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  6. i too am "forced" to wear panties by my Wife from time to time...And yes...Q has taken me out pantie shopping on two occasions...always making sure the sales girl knows...that what She is looking for...are "some panties that will fit him!"...once the girl was shocked a little...but quickly recovered...the other gave me and my Wife a knowing smile...and led Q off by the elbow where they both proceeded to pick out some pretty undies for me...laughing and giggling the whole time!

    i'm risking speaking for Her...but i don't feel that my Wife lost respect for me as a man...though i know that She now views me quite differently than when we first met!...i'm the one that for a couple of years...tried talking Her into spanking me!...To Dominate me as well...And it wasn't until some pretty rocky times came along, that Q, in no uncertain terms, took me up on my little "fantasies"...and used them totally the way She wanted...to produce the effect on our marriage that She deemed necessary! And i have to say, after the first couple of trips over my Wife's knee with Her hairbrush...i knew things had changed far beyond what goes on in the bedroom!...And the real game changer was when Q strapped on an over sized replica of an erect dick and fucked me like a bitch for the first time!...i mean...what can i expect...like you stated...for a Woman to be able to "make" Her husband bend over...or lay on his back with his legs spread wide...and beg to be fucked in his ass by Her big, black cock...nothing between the two will ever be the same again!...And from the moment Q took me like this...yes...Her view of my role in our very happy marriage has been quite clearly defined!...We still have intercourse...She still gives me blowjobs...but all on Her terms!...i have never been allowed to penetrate any where on Her body from on top...behind...or standing since that night...It's been over three years now...and Q has not wavered on the rule that She is always on top!...But that has not diminished Her need to be well fucked by a man!...Oh no...She has needs and wants...and makes no bones about getting what She needs...She gets at home what She wants, requires, and needs from me...and satisfies Her need to be taken elsewhere...

    So yes...Her view of me has changed...Her love for me...no! Her respect...i believe...no i feel it...i know that She respects my devotion and love for Her...To Her...there are different types of men in the world...i'm Her husband...and submissive by nature...and She knows that i'm the type of man that needs and wants that humiliation...that needs to be Dominated...that needs his bare bottom blistered on a very regular basis!...And She wants it all Her way!

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    1. very nice post, k, thank you for that!

      I love my david too, and do respect him. I'm just pointing out that he can't have his cake and eat it too. If a man allows himself to be pantied, spanked, and fucked in the ass by his wife then he is simply not a "real man" (in the traditional sex roles sense). Instead, he is a subbie slut. I really, really, love and respect my david as a subbie slut.

      I suspect Q feels the same way about you. She would probably laugh her head off if I suggested to her that you are a "real man" a la Clint Eastwood, for example (although who knows what he may be into!). Like most little boys you probably have moments when you imagine you are a real man like you see in the action movies. Nope. You get pantied, spanked, and fucked instead, and good for you!

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  7. Hi Julie,
    My husband is better now, we are going to start the spankings again, however, he wants the spanking to be with hand & slippers only, and is refusing any others.
    Do you think I should try the strapon dildo idea with him?
    Maria

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    1. When david refuses me something, I threaten him with stopping all spankings. Then he agrees to anything!

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  8. "...I lost a lot of respect for him as a man..."

    Do you ever get a hankering for a real man, even just for a good shag? It seems, now & then, you've got a bit of a "sub itch" and I wonder if (or how) you sense you'll get that scratched if you & david continue down the submissive male/dominant female path? Not judging, just wondering...

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    1. having read your blog, and lately with the, trainer you have. it sure seems a mater of time, until even on the rare occasion want a man, thatn wont do as you say.

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    2. You strike on an interesting point, guys.

      I do sometimes hanker to be "shown my place" and "taken" by a strong, handsome man. Early childhood education, I suppose.

      But I react very badly to it if it actually happens, so for the time being I am liking things as they are.

      If I want the itch scratched I will make david scratch it for me as a role play, and then give him a good spanking afterwards to remind him who wears the pants!

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    3. Or you could subject him to THIS!!!

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  9. Et vive le collant et l'épilation des jambes pour aller travailler !

    Frenchy

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    1. Hallo frenchy!

      J'esperais un petit mot en français apporteriez-vous a mon blog pour commenter!

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  10. You are really naughty Julie, being a switch I think it is time you get your bare bottom warmed...hehe. "It is more blessed to give than receive ;). Only kidding of course.
    Dave

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    1. You better be kiddin', dave! I ain't no switch!
      Yeesh, just because I got a bare butt massage from my man a while back DOES NOT make me a switch!
      ;-)

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    2. He should be kissing and caressing you bare butt also Julie, and how about a good tongue licking while he is at it? :)
      Dave

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    3. Now you're talking!
      A little tongue up my back-passage would humble him a bit also, don't you think?

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    4. Totally agree there Julie, I think you should make it happen, and let us know how it goes :)
      Dave

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    5. Nothing sexier than licking your Wifes Asshole. i have done it on many occasions in the past. And i kiss Her Ass every day. It's a great way to express my subservience. We have a motto around here - i kiss and lick Her Asshole with my tongue and She licks my ass with the backside of a wooden hairbrush!

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  11. Great post. I love when others put the time and effort into the mental and emotional aspects of female domination. Your comments about "the tease" and how you come up with a scene are lovely.

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    1. Hi Vanessa,

      Thank you for your comment. I do put time and effort into it, and it's nice to get recognized for that.

      I followed your profile to you blog. Love it! (and linked it!). I am thinking david's tongue needs to get acquainted with my back passage based on what I have read so far!

      Love it!

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    2. Miss Julie - maybe You should use a Queening chair when You have david get acquainted with Your "back passage". Maybe You and Your Sister could share a drink and conversation while david is cleaning You. After all You did clean his butthole with toothpaste so he owes You one.

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  12. Julie - I think you touched on it a bit, but it's not the panties that are "exciting" or "humiliating" him, it's what YOU are doing to him that creates that excitement and humiliation. Think of it this way - if you all of a sudden left him, and we was stuck with a vanilla wife who did not do any of the things you are doing, would he still be excited and humiliated putting on the panties on his own? Maybe he would still be at first, but the excitement and humiliation would be significantly reduced. Most likely, without someone addressing the mental side, wearing them would lose any significance.

    As Vanessa Chaland correctly states - it's mental and emotional aspects that make everything real, intense and fulfilling. Leather and whips do not make a WLM or Femdom. It's not about props. It's what you do with the props and why that really rocks people.

    Love the stuff that you do, even if some of it is not my cup of tea, the fact that you and he are thoroughly enjoying everything you are doing makes me happy for you (and him).

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    1. I know you are quite right. He has told me that the only reason he would ever put on a pair of panties alone is for a jerk off session to better imagine a woman making him put them on!

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  13. Julie

    Amazing post ma'am, and yes while I understand your comments, for me panties are just wonderful, both as a bottom and a lap. Panties were always the forbidden garment growing up and when you got to see a pair or peak at a pair, wow. Also panty is the last barrior to that lovely place for a lady. I believe that a spanking over panties hurts much more, just me, but love the feel.

    Going to a store is amazing and the embarrassment is well worth it. I doubt you are realy disengenious ma'am, you take the time to think and talk about what turns him on as well as you. That is just hot.

    You are a wonderful lap and love your blog. Thank you for sharing.

    Always
    Ron

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    1. Hi ron,

      I suppose they were rather forbidden to the boys. The image of the little brother "sneaking in" to touch his sister's panties, or the college "panty raid".

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  14. I've been in that 'situation' of being undressed and being helped into satin yellow panties and a flippy skirt, the classic 'naughty little girl' look...only to be sat on my better half's lap and answer to why i've behaved like a naughty 5 yr old..and told what happens to 'little girls' that cant behave. I was then stood up...bent over her knee..made to raise my OWN skirt...and was scolded while i got my panties warmed...then i was made to take my OWN panties down...and required to say how naughty i was, and to please spank me until i was kicking and unable to sit...which she said she'd be more than happy to comply with...and she did. Funny thing is...if i had to do over again..I wouldnt change a thing...

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    1. You seem to get off on her forcing you to raise your skirt and lower your panties yourself. Thank you for the suggestion! Looks like my little girl will be raising her skirt and pulling down her panties for a spanking across my knee before too long!

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  15. Hi Julie,
    I spanked my husband with new wedge rubber flip flop the way the Egyptian lady told me, any may it hurts like hell, he was bowling in no time.
    After that I rubbed his bottom, but could not reduce much the heat as my hand was warm, but my feet were cold so I rubbed his bottom with my feet , his reaction was unbelievably good, he became very horny and we had sex like we never had since our honey moon.
    After that I tried to introduce the strapon idea which he firmly refused and said he would be the one doing the spanking if I ever bring this idea again, then he put me on his knee for a few whacks of his big hand, I think he is just interested in spanking not domination. What do you think?
    Maria

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    1. I think you liked it, Maria!
      Are you thinking of "playing for the other team?"

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    2. I think this couple are Switches, though the husband is more of a bottom & the wife is more of a top (I did not say mistress & sub because they are mainly into spanking).
      Any way Maria needs to focus on slipperings, I think hairbrush should be ok too but I would advise her to explore a bit his foot fetishes because I feel he is into it, a good way is to do a nice pedicare & go out shopping once back home ask him to massage your feet to rub off the aching from the long walk & see how he does it and take it steps further gradually until you reach the maximum of this fetish of course a spanking will be in order during or after this foot issue depending on how things evolve

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  16. I think the biggest reason wearing panties, or being exposed, is such a turn on to guys like me is because it completely strips away the macho persona from us who like to be humiliated. The truth is, I see no attraction to a man wearing panties. It has nothing to do with how it looks. But it has everything to do with how we feel by doing it. In macho circles, it is considered a demotion in status of one says he should be put in panties for how much of a wimp he is. The natural progression is to actually be pantied.

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    1. You are so right. At dinner the other day my little brother was talking about a relative who doesn't work and stays home to look after the kids. "I wonder if she makes him wear her panties also?" he asked with a big smirk on his face, and everybody around the (very vanilla) table laughed. I looked at david when he said that and winked at him. So I know exactly what you mean.

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  17. Hi Julie,
    After reading your post I put sissy in panties only, no diapers. We went shopping and guess what happened? He wet himself! He says that his bladder has weakened because of his growing dependance on diapers. What is a good punishment? Also have you put david in diapers?

    Goddess Gretchem

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  18. My wife has had me in "training panties" for a number of years now. It is humiliating to be forced to wear them, but i know i have to to demonstrate how pussy-whipped i am. She calls me her "little pussy in training". That is because i have such a bad habit of trying to look up women's skirts that She decided i needed to be punished with the very items i'm attracted to. She has had me dress up as a sissy in pantyhose and panties, a miniskirt, heels, etc. i am then spanked in this outfit for being such a pussy. She has also pulled my pantyhose and panties down and fucked me up the ass with her strap-on. She then makes me suck it after having been up my ass. She has even totally humiliated me in front of her girlfriends to show how pussy whipped I am. She gives me a public spanking and lets them spank me as well. One of her favorites (and mine) is for me to spend time on my knees with my head up her skirt staring at her pantyhose gusset. She doesn't wear panties underneath - panties are reserved for me. She gives me commands to sniff her pussy, worship it with kisses and to lick it until she cums. I have to do the same with her asshole. One of he favorites is pantyhose facesitting (sometimes panty smothering). i am required to lick her asshole and pussy for prolonged periods. If She deems that i have been a "good boy", She will pull her pantyhose down and allow me to tongue fuck her asshole and eat her pussy. I enjoy being Her pantyboy. She never seems to run out ways to humiliate me.

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    1. I think the punishment you are receiving is well-suited to your crime. Looking up womens' skirts! Really??? I certainly hope she has you muttering your apologies with your tongue lodged up her backside.

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  19. As a man who has worn panties 24/7 for many years now i can tell you that any time i get to feeling any macho tendencies all i have to do is peek down my pants or under my skirt and my panties remind me of what a sissy i am. men who wear panties also love the word "panties". It is such a uniquely Feminine word. we guys don't wear Womens underpants, we wear "panties". i have bought panties at the store but prefer to call and place my panty orders with a Salesgirl over the phone. I have bought panties this way from four different retailers and i can truly tell everyone that these Salesgirls are almost always highly supportive and will tell you that men call "all the time" to buy panties and other lingerie for themselves. This is an exercise any Domme Women should give to Her sissy husband.

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    1. Oh mike, what a sissy you are.
      Those salesgirls seem supportive when on the phone, but I can tell you that as soon as they are off the phone they turn to the girl in the next cubicle and they both laugh their little heads off at the little panty trained sissy boi who just called them.

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    2. i am absolutely sure that these Girls laugh at us sissies. One time when i was calling in an order for a skirt the Salesgirl asked if i had called in the day earlier about another matter. i told Her i had and She said that the Salesgirl next to Her had motioned Her to come look at Her computer screen of a picture review i had posted of me wearing a skirt, pantyhose and high heels. She said that the other Girl had told Her "come here. You've got to see this picture of a guy wearing a skirt". She said they laughed and laughed after i got off the phone but They also thought it was "so cool" to see a man in a skirt and heels. i think there are many, many Women who want to see men put in skirts!

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    3. Yes indeed, mike. The world would be a much better place if more men were humbled on a regular basis by being forced into skirt and panties for the amusement of us ladies.

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  20. Yes ma'am, that is exactly it. Or of course standing under the stairway waiting for the girls to walk up the steps. Indeed and also those naughty boys who would look through aunt's or neighbor's panty drawer!! It was truly the forbidden garment.

    Thanks
    Ron

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    1. Oh ronnie! If I caught you looking through my panty drawer, young man, you can bet you'd be in for such a strapping that you would not be sitting for a week.

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  21. Yes Ma'am, sorry but could not help myself.

    Ron

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  22. Julie,

    A very thoughtful post. I tend to agree with you - I just don't get it either. I just don't. It's underwear. So what? This is meant as no disrespect for those men who find it a turn-on...but for me it does nothing. And yet I am forced to wear panties daily. I am in "panty training" but I am not sure exactly to what end. Sure, it forces me to be obedient (which I am) as I wear which ever pair she chooses me to wear each day. But it isn't so horrific for me (especially after a few months of this) that it blows my mind to have to wear them to work every day. At first it seemed very strange so there was that element at the time - but now? Not so much. But it pleases Cleo for me to wear them so I do. Don't get me wrong - I greatly prefer to wear men's briefs when she allows it once in a blue moon. But panties? Really? It doesn't affect me much either way.

    That being said, it does affect me when we go panty shopping. That is more public and embarrassing. What happens then is very similar to what happens with you and David when you go shopping. She can get a rise out of me that way. And there is always the element of embarrassment when pictures of what we buy are put on our blog.

    Perhaps there is something to the idea that I am forced to be a sissy of sorts even though I have no inclination to be sissified. Many of our readers are either sissies or wannabe sissies (again - no disrespect for them). They say I am "lucky." I am sure I am. However, I am not a sissy and therein lies the rub. I suspect that is why Cleo is having her fun with the panties. If it pleases her - that is all I care about.

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    1. What I enjoy about putting david into panties is that it knocks him down a notch in his own eyes. Hard to pretend you are a "James Bond" type when your wife makes you wear panties all day!

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  23. Man, does dan hates his panties too . I won't deny that since he is training at the gym for a full year now , he has the sexiest little ass in those and for my eyes only.

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    1. But he craves being whipped and humiliated by you, so it all works out.

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  24. Ms. J:

    Don't know which post, but someone mentioned a book about 'My Dominatrix.'

    Try "My Darling Dominatrix" by Grant Antrews.


    Strelnikov

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    1. Thanks for the reco. I'll look it up.

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  25. VS here.

    "Less of a man" to you, but "more of a person". Whom you still respect and love. It restores my faith in you as a caring (if capricious and somewhat cruel) domme.

    There is a dignity in submitting to one's wife unconditionally. It is seldom seen, and rarely appreciated. To endure what are to oneself humiliations, indignities, even cruel depravities, at the hands of one whom you love, takes an uncommon strength. As does accepting pain in measures determined exclusively by one's domme. The world sees a wimp in panties with a red bottom, but doesn't see the masculine will that accepts this, despite the ability to walk away. (It is perhaps a gift, of sorts, this sublimating one's strength to one's love, in the face of pain and humiliation.)

    I've mentioned this in Ms. Dianne's blog. There is a strength in david's submission, and I believe you cherish the real, unfeigned person beneath his skin.

    Strelnikov

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    1. I do indeed, and think very much along the lines you indicate. Thank you for your comment.

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  26. just recently discovered your blog and promised myself that i was not going to make any comments until I was caught up... now I'm breaking that promise:

    all the panty talk reminded me of this old episode clip:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ARK5hkqjIwU

    ...only now I'm thinking that maybe it was the husband that was wearing the panties :/.


    also,
    >RE: "nude in public" (specifically, your David and boys in general not wanting to be)
    At the risk of stumbling into the territory of the ridiculous & tiresome stereotypes of BBC via the cuckold fantasy... perhaps David and the rest of the boys are just terrified of not being able to "measure up."


    ...now back to trying to get caught up b/c your blog truly is a joy to read.

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  27. My wife is a lawyer and loves to dominated me. I'm naturally submissive, so the role fit me well. She keeps me in panties during the day for work, and in pretty, often very girlie, lingerie at home. She caught me masturbating to sissy porn, so has since locked up my little sissy clitty and wears the key on her at all times because she says I can't control myself.

    She also loves, maybe 2 to 3 times a week, taking me with her strap-on. She says she's the man so she has the cock and I take it. She also caught me flirting a little with our next door neighbor, though with a locked clitty I wasn't going to do anything, just having fun. Well, now she wants me to get a sissy tattoo on the small of my back and just above my clitty to make sure all know who I belong too. I keep nice and smooth from waxing and I'm afraid they'll make fun of me.

    She's also talking about bring in her friend so they can have me serve them dressed as a maid and then take me at both ends. I think that's too much, but I really want a release and not just the milkings she give me. She said if I did it she'd let me masturbate as they make out, so I'm thinking about it.

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    1. Definitely go for it. You will be terribly humiliated, for sure, but isn't that what's it's all about...?

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    2. It's weird, it excites me to no end, but also I do feel bad about it. Well, the maid outfit is in the mail and my wife is excited about the planned night. I will be the entertainment and the toy for their pleasure, but I'm also expecting to have my first real orgasm in a while. I also will be going to the tattoo place for my sissy mark, it'll be a script Sissy in pink with bows.

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