Wednesday, August 8

His Hairbrush and the Mystical Feminine

I was blogging around today and happened to visit andy's blog at http://someonesgonnagetit.wordpress.com. He posted a captioned picture that started making me think and inspired a blog entry. I reproduce his delightful captioned photo below.


I was taken by this image and andy's caption. Here is portrayed a physically slight woman, completely in command, in no doubt whatsoever that her hulking man will docilely fetch her the paddle and endure a hard spanking from her, meekly staying in position just because she commands him to. It's no coincidence that his mother knows his wife spanks him, and encourages her.

How many of my male readers would meekly go over her knee when ordered to? No doubt the vast majority of you. I think you should all agree to wear a special pin or something. That way if any of us dominant women see one of you in the street, we will know it is fine to haul you into the lady's room and take your pants down for a good old-fashioned bare bottomed spanking. I have no doubt you would obey us, you poor, enthralled boys.

I feel like her. I am much smaller physically than my husband. Yet I can command him to fetch me his hairbrush, lay across my knees, and endure a very long and hard hairbrush spanking. It will be painful, and it will be punishment if I make it so. Nonetheless, he will kiss my feet afterwards, and beg only to be loved.

I punish him in front of other women, I embarrass the fuck out of him, and I make him stand with his nose against the living room wall wearing panty, bra, and heels while my sister and I finish a bottle of wine and watch his strapped thighs quivering from the strain. He does the housework when I tell him to, and if he doesn't do a good job, he's spanked and in panties for a week. (Yes, he has been "panty trained" like that, even having to wear them to work, much to his embarrassment!)

What's with that? Is it breast or vagina that makes them obey like that? Or is it more subtle? Is it femininity that makes them obey?

Certainly, society and the law is on our side. If he lays a finger on us he is in jail. If we spank him too hard will he press charges and take us to court? Ha Ha! I think I for one would actually enjoy that, testifying in court about all the little humiliating details, and having my lawyer cross-examine him on them "and you were in women's underwear you say? And this small woman here 'forced' you to wear them you say? How much do you weigh, sir? A background in martial arts you say?" I would no doubt emerge as some sort of a folk hero. If he touches me, he's a disgusting wife-beater, throw away the key!

Or is it a "Mommy" thing? andy clearly confuses the two, bringing "Mom" into his little fantasy. Is it true that men's behaviors are conditioned by a repressed "Mommy" fetish? I once made david call me "Mommy" as I spanked him. He slipped into it surprisingly easily, as in "no Mommy, please Mommy, I'm sorry Mommy! Wahhhh!"

If not Madonna, perhaps Whore?

I've known since I was a teenager the pleasure of using my sexuality to make boys do what I want them to do. With some boys and men it backfires. With my husband it never does.

When I peg him, he asks if I can do it missionary style, with his legs raised high. He says he likes me topless as I do that, as a reminder that it is a woman who is subjugating him like that, treating him like a slutty whore. I happily oblige. I love the image as well. Often I band his panties around his ankles as I fuck him like that. That puts an extra blush on his face, as that is where he must look.

I say we are not 24x7 FLR, but sometimes even I wonder. It is true that I make up scenes, and we go into character and then out of character to discuss it afterwards.

Other times my "scenes" consist of "why the hell is the laundry not done???" Actually, doing the laundry is not his "chore". This is nothing we ever discussed as being "his chore." Sometimes I happily do it. Completely arbitrarily I will see it not done and take him to task for it. Why the fuck shouldn't he do it before I do? Usually there is some pathetic excuse from him, some scolding from me, and the inevitable "bring me your hairbrush. Now, mister!" After I spank him part of the "scene" is making him do the laundry (generally in feminine lingerie as he still has this idea that housework is "woman's work" so I oblige him in that regard). After the laundry is washed, dried, ironed, folded, and put away, then our "scene" is over. We often don't bother de-briefing after a "scene" like that. Is that FLR or scening? You see what I mean?

The hairbrush I use on his bottom is definitely "his hairbrush". It magically showed up out of nowhere that first day he ever asked me to spank him. Therefore I still think of it as "his hairbrush". So therefore it's, "honey, fetch me your hairbrush," or "your hairbrush is going to be getting a workout today!"

Other implements are mine. I bought the wicked strap. It's mine, as in "I am going to teach you a lesson with my strap you will never forget, mister!"

His cock is also mine. For example, if I catch him masturbating in front of the computer, it's "did I give you permission to play with my cock?" Then he gets a spanking, usually right there in front of the computer, with his naughty images still on the screen. I grab him by the hair and make him look at the images as I spank him. Truth be told, unlike some other wives, I like that he has a sex life with his hand. I think it's very amusing. Usually the end of his "punishment" is making him stand facing the computer monitor, bare ass naked, jerking off into his hand as I watch, me enjoying the clenching and jiggling of his bare red ass cheeks as he tugs on his penis and pulls on his balls. Then, when he has a big handfull, it's down the hatch, mister cock tugger! If those girls on the screen could only see him now.

Why does he allow me to do these humiliating things to him? Why does he crave me doing them to him?

I think it's the mystical feminine, and it's the best way I know of for me to get in touch with it. I highly recommend it.

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  1. Or maybe You make the best scrambled eggs, ever!

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    1. OK, i'm sorry, i just got the sillies.
      i agree with everything You said about the Feminine
      Mystique and Power all You Ladies have over us
      poor slobs.
      (sigh . . . )
      ricky-dicky

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    2. No... I don't think so!
      ;-)

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    3. I meant I don't think so about the eggs!

      Thank you for admitting your subbiness (as if I didn't know!)

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    4. i did?
      Well, OK, if You say so.
      ricky-dicky

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    5. Sure you did, "Power all YOU Ladies have over us poor slobs." By "us" I am assuming you are including yourself. Nothing to be ashamed about (well, actually, it is something to be ashamed about, come to think of it, subby ricky boy ;-)

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    6. So, now i'm ricky boy and not u-know-who?
      Doesn't matter.
      Grrrrr!
      What was that You said?
      'Ashamed', i should be, is it?
      Well, in Your Lovely Presence, so i should.
      There You go!
      Told You i wasn't a subby.

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    7. ooops!
      Did i really say that?
      i apologize.
      i guess i was just trying too hard to be funny, and
      it came out obnoxious.
      i didn't mean it that way.
      You're quite right:
      i am a subby in more ways than one.
      ricky.

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    8. Ha Ha! I love getting you boys to admit that you WOULD bend over for me, bare your butts, and put up with a good hard whipping, just 'cause I tell you to. Nyah Nyah!

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    9. OK, YOU got me!
      But there's just one insy-winsy little question i'd like to ask:
      WOULD YOU really give me a hard whipping, if i asked
      for one?
      i think i got YOU!
      ;-), ;-), ;-)!
      ricky.
      PS: (i hope You know i don't mean it.)

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    10. I'm sure you do mean it, naughty ricky!

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    11. OK, YOU got me again!
      YOU win!
      But 'enuff said.
      Thank YOU for puttin' up with me, and playin' along.
      ricky

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  2. I can't explain why he wants you do treat him so. All I can say is that I understand how he feels, and with the right Woman, it feels right.

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  3. Why do we let our women do this? I don't know. My wife is smaller than me and yet I find myself over her knee all the time. I am spanked and pantied for household chores. We have done most of the things you do. We have gone to a lingere store and I had to tell the saleslady they were for me. I definely spend more time in the corner than I like. We are at the point were when we are watching tv and she is hungry she doe not ask but tells me to get her something. Why do I do this? I don't know but don't want it any other way

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    1. It turns me on something fierce you saying that. Nothing sexier that an obedient husband.

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  4. It's his cock which makes him obey you, nothing else. Why his cock is wired the way it is, is one of the mysteries of the Universe, and my advice is not to delve too deeply, and to enjoy what you've got. You are a very lucky lady, to recognise the power you have, and to use it so wisely. Too many women let their conditioning stop them from doing so, and the whole world is the poorer for that!

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    1. Yes, it does have its own little mind, doesn't it? When I'm domming him usually his cock and hard and quivering, even though the rest of him is scared and embarrassed. I enjoy brushing it with my fingers when he is in that state, and hearing him groan with desire, but withholding any more.

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  5. If david feels humilated, at least he's not US sprinter Lashawn Merritt (suspended for two years for banned substances in a "male enhancement" product he took). It is now part of his lore - discussed by TV announcers during the Olympics coverage. It's even in his Wikipedia entry.

    While I doubt you could replicate that humiliation exposure level (it was even talked about on NPR) for david, you might have him wear one of these the next time you two are out running weekend errands...

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    1. Poor man!

      I think I would want a more subtle T-shirt, something like "Property of Julie" or something like that! At one level we can laugh it off at the joke, but EVERYBODY knows!

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    2. Zazzle has ones that say that also

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  6. Have you ever considered training david in the 'art' of pony play? Obviously he would be the pony...

    Looks like a great "excuse" to buy some new gear, and expose him to possible public humiliation. You might even consider involving Sue and her pony, Trina...

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    1. Well... hate to be closed minded... but not my thing. You enjoy, though, little pony boi!

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  7. i can't speak for others, but in my case there were no male roll models in my younger years. Perhaps i have a different view of females than other men. i know that i strive to protect them and feel a need to surrender to them and be accepted by them. It hasn't happened yet and is a fantasy that will probably never be fulfilled.

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    1. It sounds like you were brought up well. But don't get down on yourself. Every pot has a lid.

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    2. Sorry if i sounded down, can't happen. Perhaps resigned to the facts as they now exist. I really enjoy your blog, and the reports on the trails you put your husband through, it is as if i thought them up myself.

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    3. No need to apologize, OMG!
      Well whatever the case you can always enjoy a rich fantasy life, and that makes you way more lucky than some guy who never fantasizes about anything except big boobs.

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    4. Big Boobs, like the Married with Children guy. I've never been a big boob fan and yet, one can't deny a lady is a lady, boobs and all, and the way she carries herself, can be appealing.

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    5. You know what I mean!
      Guys who ONLY fantasize about some boring vanilla thing.
      Me: "don't you love the subtle interplay of the dominant and the submissive roles"
      Him: ??? you got nice boobs ???

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  8. Julie,
    Just the fact I log onto your blog and see you have a new post starts my erection. Which just gets harder as I read. I for one would gladly go over this womans lap or yours or any other attractive female for that matter. The Pin wearing idea would be a great thing. As far as why that is and I'm speaking for myself. I think because males are sexual creatures and are wired that way. I once read men think sexual thoughts about every 5 minutes. I think because we can be turned on by thought (i.e like reading your blog) or sight then yes it gives women a certain power over us sexually. I'm intrigued at the mystery of women and want nothing more than to please them. I guess that creates a desire or curiosity about what it would be like for me if I could have that power that women have over us sexually. As far as being panty trained or pegged I think that is just mentally getting closer at least in fantasy being like the woman you so desire as a man.
    Your right society is on your side because women can get away with anything. They wear mens boxer shorts or even suits or pants or whatever and still are considered sexy. But if a man goes out in a dress or thongs sticking up out of his jeans that is taboo and people think "what a weirdo." But in the privacy of your home you can live out these fatasies and to have a woman like you that plays along is the best of both worlds.
    For me panties are an intimate thing I guess beacause of there femininity and being up against the object of my desire(vagina). A favorite fantasy of mine is to be caught trying to sneak a peek up a womans dress or being caught going through her panty drawer. And then being told if I want to see or feel her panties so bad then I can just put them on and experience how it feels to be a woman. Then she would make me model for her and peg me and then eventually spank me in her panties for doing what I had done. So when I see a beautiful women where as I can see panty lines or catch a qiuck glimpse of them then I fantasize of her doing this to me.
    As far as the mommy thing I think that because women are nuturing by nature by being the bearer of children, and in most cases the one who runs the household and keeps things in order. It makes sense that when it comes to real punishment for misdeeds then I would find it easy to fall into the roll of being punished as a child. (Which you know I have recently). I have a desire and feel that need for nuturing and being taken down a peg when my behaviour warrants it. But that is cause of my deep rooted desire to be spanked. This type of spanking is not fun or sexual as I can attest to, but it is still very much a desire of mine.
    Finally I love how you own David's cock. But I can't understand why David would do this online unless he just wants your punishment. For me if I had a woman as beautiful as I'm sure you are that would give me the spankings and fulfill my desires as you do Davids I wouldn't need to be looking at this stuff. But since I don't have that relationship with my wife then the pictures like the one above and reading your blogs give me that sexual release (with help from my hand of course LOL)for my desires.
    Great post as always Julie,
    Bob S.

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    1. Thank you for the wonderful thoughtful comment, bob.

      I love that if you see a sexy woman in the street, you immediately fantasize about being spanked by her. If they only knew! Ha Ha!

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  9. ur activities stimulate his mind and sex drive as one. its very powerful when that happens! u r right all us men who r willing subjects of the corporal discipline should b identified n some way. it would b a thril to have u pull me n the ladies room and bare my bottom for some cheek blush application. XO buttwed!

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    1. And we need something on cars also. So when that JERK cuts you off you know it's ok to pull him over, haul him out of his car, and whip his bare ass over the hood!!!

      (if only)

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  10. Hi Julie,
    You make some interesting points. I agree a lot of men, even those who are not submissive would go over that young lady's lap. Most men get their initial disipline from their Mothers so it is not surprising that at a later age they would like their wife to take over. My diaper sissy was a bed wetter until his late teens. His Mother and Aunt made him wear diapers at night and if he wet he had to wear them all weekend. His first orgasm was in a diaper when he had a wet dream. He has always associated diapers with pleasure except when I keep him in cloth until he gets a rash! It was easy to train him as my submissive as I only let him wear diapers if he agreed to serve me in ever capacity. My Mother and both my sisters know this and when they are over he is dressed as a big baby complete with pink plastic rumba panties, pacifier and bonnet. They tease him constantly and have my permission to spank him whenever they like. Keep up the good work. We dominant women need to get the message out that ALL men should be reduced to diaper wearing sissies!

    Goddess Gretchen

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    1. For some reason I like the idea that a bed wetter should be spanked and diapered. I associate pee with play (I love giving golden showers). And I associate spanking with play. And I associate humiliation with play. So why not combine them all (for grownups of course, never children!)

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  11. As usual great post, I've always wondered myself why we are wired the way we are, but could never answer that question.

    My Wife is also smaller than I am, but has no problem baring my bottom, and putting me over Her knee, and blistering my butt. And as you've seen in my videos, Her girlfriends have no problem either.

    I was never spanked as a youngster, but always wondered what it was like. My first spanking came as an adult and I was hooked from the start, but I knew from an early age that I would be. I've been extremely lucky to be married to the Woman I love, and I hope David knows how lucky he is also.


    james

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    1. I'm going to chock it up to my "Feminine Mystique" and leave it at that. All women should discover this in themselves!

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  12. I can't answer for david, but for me the holy grail is knowing my partner is turned on by the power exchange. I'm still thrilled if she 'does it for me' because I'm a twisted fuck that deeply craves all kinds of depraved acts, but those moments when she is just completely aroused by her treatment of me as her property and plaything, that is what I truly I crave. The humiliation, spanking, pain, etc are just icing on a very delicious cake.

    Turning her on is my "why".

    Now, I'll be ending 4 days of denial for you tonight, and I will do ask you ask, giving myself 10 hard lashes on the tip of my cock, all for you.

    Thank you, miss.

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    1. good boy.

      Use a very light switch, but I want to hear that that engorged tip was well-whipped before you stroked it. Tears in your eyes would be nice.

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    2. I just finished. I'm sorry to say I didn't do as well as I could have, no tears.

      I went out and cut the stem off of a Hosta, the little purple bell flowers are all gone and the remaining stem is very whippy and loaded with little buds. Perfect little penis switch.

      I was a little tentative, I wanted to obey to the letter but after the first lash it was very difficult. The tip of the switch wraps around my cock and it's a pain completely unlike spanking, harder to endure. I did 10 hard ones, but I felt as though I owed you a little more and took 10 more VERY hard paddles with the hair brush on my ass, as hard as I could. Those are still buzzing. I came very hard, and now I'm drifting off but I thought you might want a little update.

      Thank you, miss!

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    3. I looked up the Hosta on Wikipedia. No wonder there were no tears, that looks to be a pretty tame switch, mister! I'd have used a proper switch and had you in tears, guaranteed.
      ;-)

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    1. Your comments were very touching, but I don't think are meant for more general comment.

      Please e-mail me so we can write to one another - strictjulie at gmail

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  14. Obviously it's your feminine mystique, Julie! :)
    Yes, if you or another woman asked, I'd grab my hairbrush (or paddle) and subserviently bend over Your knees, awaiting anything You deemed necessary!
    Hmm, do like the idea of wearing a pin so you all could find us, and grab us by an ear or something :)
    We'd follow ya anywhere.
    Anyway, a very thoughtful post raising good questions. I think you've got some good comments already -- I must say, Bob S's is great, and how I feel.
    Hug, Sara

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    1. Yes, I can't help but feel that good spankings is what all you men need!

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  15. Ms. Julie,

    Thank you for a very thought-provoking post. I think you're right, that the force behind this kind of activity relates to a woman's femininity. It's certainly not physical strength, nor do most of us obedient/submissive men actually like pain. But there just is something special about women. I don't think the scientists have figured this out yet; perhaps it would be best if they don't. At a basic level, for me, and perhaps the other men here, I think that obedience and punishment are about both sex and love. Maybe that's enough?

    Hoping to find such a woman,
    Michael_Michael

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    1. You're very welcome, michael.

      My observation is that boy subs do seem to desperately crave it more than girl subs, so there is some credence to the fact that mens' brains are guided by their cocks.

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  16. Do we need a "special pin or something" or do you think Domme women (such as yourself) are good at picking submissive men who would willingly bend over your lap ? I have often wondered whether some women guess that i am submissive ? Also are there any little tests that would indicate a submissive streak....short of ..."on your knees boy"...just curious. Take care. Tim

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    1. I'm not sure how to pick you subby boys out of a crowd. I would never be able to tell with david. Just the opposite, OMG!

      Even watching the reaction to an offhand joking comment or a dominant act is no guarantee. You boys will do a lot to get into our pants, but that is no guarantee you are a true subby.

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  17. I totally agree with you, at my early teenage years an older pretty girl was baby sitting us, when she called me over her knee for some misdeed, I blindly obeyed.
    Week after am ugly one came and tried the same ways advised by the other one, I resisted and pushed her away relying on my strength & wrestling training.
    Tom

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    1. All of us women feel we are "ugly" in some way, I think dominance is about ignoring that, and acting a certain way. Maybe the "pretty" girl was just used to having boys obey her and so came across more dominant?

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  18. I made my guy read ur blog today.. We read it together.. He read it for the 1st time.. He had a mighty erection just by reading it! And he said he'd love to get spanked by you as hard as you spank david!
    I got really pissed with that I took him by the ear to do the dishes and was continuously caning him there.. It was over an hour.. He was all marked up till the thighs.. When I was done he got done on my feet and apologised.. Aww.. Cute! :D
    But still.. He deserved ever stroke of that..
    What do u think about it?
    Anaa

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    1. How disrespectful of him!!!!
      I am glad you gave him what's for. An hour long caning is no joking matter!

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    2. It sure wasn't . All marked up tears came rushing down more over a cold caning yet I say he deserved every stroke of it!

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    3. Absolutely he did! The nerve of him. He won't be making that mistake again, I'm quite sure. But don't you just love marking them up and making them cry? I do.

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  19. I think for many of us. We welcome the chance for close intimate contact with our woman. It is truly a relief not to have to be "in charge". I think for me it has made me a better person to be accountable. I might be sexually stimulated by thoughts in my head but not very far into a spanking the flame in my bottom adjusts that. And whatever the problem is, when the spanking is over, all is well. Men like David and me are very lucky to have women like you in our life.

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    1. I love how you include getting the tar beat out of you "close intimate contact"! Ha Ha! Clearly my kind of guy!

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  20. Continue to love and be addicted to your blog. I sometimes get even more out of your response to comments than your blog (or perhaps I should say just as much). Glad to know of your interest in golden showers. Hope to one day read more about that.

    I like the idea of a symbol for subs. Would enjoy it if a woman could see it and be able to say "boy, get my bags.". I like the idea of even more openly humiliating. I sent you a pic of two t-shirt with the definitions of Cuckoldress and cleanup crew a while back.

    I also like and am familiar with your concept that you own David's cock. May I suggest that if you choose to continue to permit him to mastabate you buy a shot glass and put it next to the computer.

    Wishing I were yours,
    Craigie

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    1. Thank you about the comment about the comments! I do try to make my responses timely, interesting, and, what the fuck eh, titilating!

      I LOVE the shot glass. I can let it build up and when it won't fit anymore, he has to come and ask permission to down it. Better keep it in the fridge in that case!

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  21. I know you said david isn't into chastity (or you weren't - I forgot which one)...but this link (at Ruby Ryder's Pegging Paradise) gives a nice "essay" (actually a comment written in by a site fan) as to why chastity and why chastity plus strapon play works for him/some.

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    1. I think chastity is too subtle for me. I like whalin' the tar out of him!

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  22. i would say you are right i am sure any guy would right away get over yours or any strict female lap for a spanking when we misbehave out in public i for one know i will be one of those guys to do it with out asking why i may be shocked to know iam about to be spanked

    i often wonder if a strict female like yourself would ever make a serious threat to spank some guy they see out and about being bad or naughty or if they the guy make comment how they can behave and do what ever they want then out of no where a female like your self would say get drop your pants and get over my knee for a good spanking then we will find out if you still feel same way

    Mike

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    1. I would happily do that if the guy had previously agreed to be a subby (hence the pin idea). Or, better yet, if there was a law that said all guys needed to submit to a spanking whenever a female sentenced them to one! Heh heh! All you men would be in SO much trouble then!

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  23. Yes ma'am, I would throw myself over her lap and yours, love this very intrespective post from you and love you spanking your husband over your knee with his brush, love it.

    Always
    Ron

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    1. Thank you, ron, I know you would, you subby boy, you.

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    2. Yes ma'am, I am.

      Always
      Ron

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    3. Rhymes... sort of like Dr. Zeus...

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  24. Julie,

    I think a person is hard wired to be a sub or dom. i know from my own perspective submission was something that turned me on very early in life. i can remember watching a saturday morning cartoon which had one of the characters going through a bit of a torture obstacle course and me getting wood in my p.j's watching it. as i grew into manhood my feelings of being a sub intensified. i have been with my wife since i was 20 years old and our dom/sub thing started with her putting her panties on me and jerking me off into them. over time we continued to experiment and the domination continued to go to new levels. i find myself seriously into the humiliation of it all and being feminized and having her laugh at me when im in some ridiculous looking outfit (i dont pull off feminine attire well :p ) can put me right at the edge.

    so while mainstream finds it odd for sure, its something that works for us.

    The spanking and discipline part also matured over time. it went from being quite playful at first. me going over her knee and her lightly tapping my butt, however now it is with me leaning over the bed and her behind me with my belt, her shoe or the cheese board from the kitchen in her hand and her giving me all she's got, until my ass is a very deep shade of red. the funny thing that she found out is doing this is a very big turn on for her as well and she generally gets a kick out of it.

    i love your blog very much. i find most of these blogs eventually move on to cuckolding which is something im not at all into. the fact that you have been able to involve your sister into it takes it again to a whole new dimension and is a very awesome aspect to your relationship. that will never happen for me as my wife has 6 brothers. lol.

    anyway thanks for your blog and for you sharing your intimate moments with us.

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    1. Thank you for the lovely comment!

      I felt the same way as your wife. I started spanking david tentatively at first, but now that I know that he can take it and that I get off on it, he catches it much more severely!

      I am also into humiliating him, especially in front of other women, and my sister has turned out to be a real devotee as well (though swinging the other way re sexual preference, as I have recently discovered). So I am very fortunate there. I feel for your situation. 6 brothers??? OMG!

      I honestly don't want to get into cuckolding at all. I have no desire to have sex with another man. I expect david to be faithful to me, and feel I owe him the same. Would love to see him made to have sex by another man, but that's a different thing entirely! Ha Ha!

      But I'll bet your wife could scare up a trusted friend to observe you receiving a spanking from her. You can tell her from me that it's an amazing rush to demonstrate your dominance of your man in front of another woman like that, and I guarantee it will make you feel more subby than you EVER have before! Especially after the spanking, with your little red cheeks in the corner. Ha Ha! Believe me, a lot more women are open to it than you would ever imagine.

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    2. thanks for the reply. we have had brief glances with involving another women into the dom/sub thing pretty much unknowingly on thier part. she was out with a friend one night for drinks and she made me stay home wearing a pair of panties under my sweatpants. she had baked prior to going out and her friend asked to stop by to have a piece of cake prior to going home. my wife told my friend prior to coming in my house to call me a bitch and tell me to fetch her some cake. they had smoked some pot so they were all giggly about it. so her friend comes in and says hey bitch, get up and get me a piece of cake. i was flabbergasted and immdediatley got up. my wife comes in behind her and she was smiling at what had taken place, telling her friend, see hes doing it. her friend commented that it looked like he likes it and started teasing me some. at this point im in the kitchen giving her the cake and i feel like she can totally see the panties on under my sweats. i was terrified that my wife was going to go one step further and make me show her the panites but she did not, and thats as far as it has gone. we had a hot session after that and still sometimes talk about it to this day. i've seen her friend many times since and it never came up again.

      we did the panty buying shopping trip in kohls and she's made me pay for them. she berated me for not picking up a bag in front of the sales woman who thought that was funny but again its a case where your bringing someone into your fantasy and they have no idea about it. but it works.

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    3. I bet your wife's friend is game. Shows all the signs that she would LOVE to see you handled by your wife!

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  25. A while back, my wife & I were visiting some friends as house guests for several days. Until then, we had never been with them for more than a dinner and a day or evening visit. I had noticed that She often had a tendency t boss him around a little. They never argued and he seemed quite willing to obey.

    About the second day of our visit, She told me to do something. She does have a quite commanding voice and a somewhat bossy attitude about herself. I found myself jumping to do as She had told me. There were several instances where she told me what to do and i did find myself jumping at her commands. AND, i enjoyed the sensation.

    I told my wife i would like her to be that bossy and that I wished she would try to stretch the bossy part into a "do as i say or take punishment" scenario. She wants nothing to do with such foolishness. The funny thing is that upon occasion, she does become quite bossy and i do jump, but then she apologises.
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    1. You need to somehow communicate this to her. I have a wonderful link in my 'favourite links' to Jacqueline Omerta's books. You should ask her to read the first volume and then ask to discuss it with her afterwards. Say it is very important to you. See what happens. I am assuming you are a man, and hence a poor communicator, but forgive me if I'm off base!

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  26. Dear Miss Julie - i can assure You that at least in my case it is the Feminine Mystique that causes me to know that i muat obey my Wife in all things. It is such a turn-on knowing that i, a 6 ft 200lb man must submit to my 5 ft 3, 125 lb Wife or have my ass beat to a pulp with the backside of a wooden hairbrush while laying completely naked over her knees. i must also keep my dick shaved and I am required to dress completely as a Woman while doing "my housework" each morning. i crave this submission and the accompanying humiliation. i for one believe in the superiority of Women and i can't wait for the Matriarchal society which is surely coming soon. It won't be long as men are fast becoming the new "women" of the world. i think You would enjoy the blog titled "male femininity and gender role reversal" which espouses and promotes this phenomenon. i don't think most Women know how much power They have.

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    1. hi mike,

      I find it sexy also that my large man so humbly and willingly goes across my knee, even when he knows that he is really "in for it". The cross-dressing ('forced' in my david's case - he pretends to complain each time) really puts him in the right head space for household chores, or 'women's work' as I have come to refer to it - only he is 'the woman', Ha Ha!

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  27. Dear Miss Julie - my cross-dressing is also forced, though i am not allowed to wear make-up or a wig, the reason is so that each time i pass in front of a mirror i will be reminded that i am a mere man who is a sissy and whose Wife has conquered him. my housework must also be finished in a timely manner and be perfect or She will blister my ass to the point where i am crying. Needless to say i pay attention to how well i do my "womens work". my Wife does not butt fuck me but lately She has made my scrub my asshole with menthol toothpaste while kneeling in front of Her. Obviously She enjoyed that early post of Yours. You are an inspiration to Women and men everywhere.

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    1. That's so nice, mike.
      It warms my heart whenever I hear about a man like you, properly house-trained and panty-trained by their wife.

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  28. Maybe he just enjoys the spankings? I'd be very pleased to be spanked by the young lady in the photo you posted. Of course she is smaller than me, but I would like to allow her to spank me thoroughly if she wanted to.

    I just would. It would hurt a lot, I'm sure, but it would also make me feel good.

    I don't think that there is an explanation. Some people like to be spanked, some people like to spank, and some are indifferent.

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    1. Some men are men, others are 'lil bitches who need spankings across their woman's knee. You're right, that's just the way it is.

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  29. L. already had a long experience of being spanked, whipped, caned or strapped by N. (his first wife, and a good friend of mine) when we started dating some time after her death -and his experience had included having his bare bottom paddled under the eyes of some of N's friends (myself, for one) and/or of serving some 'corner time' with his backside exposed in full view. Hence I took it for granted that he not only needed, but also wanted (and enjoyed) to be soundly chastised by a no-nonsense woman -which accurately described both N. and myself).

    Only later did it occur to me to try and find out why, and when L. had first developed what, by then, was a deeply ingrained trait --and one which I certainly did not wish to alter, as I fully enjoyed having him at my beck and call -and delivering sound beatings on his derrière whenever I felt like it (including, occasionally, in front of a close (girl)friend).

    N. was never able to account for the roots of his 'inclination' -other than it was already present when he met N. His parents did not use corporal punishment -ever- and his only prior experience had occurred when ha was 18, and had been 'seduced'(?) and strapped by a woman twice his age.

    At the end of the day, it does not really matter, as L. has been enjoying (despite the 'heat' on his backside) the way that I --and N. before me-- keep him in line!

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    1. Having a few other females handy is a wonderful way to knock a man down a peg, isn't it? Beatings, corner time, and severe teasings do a great job of man-humbling!

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    2. L. already was humble and obedient when I married him. N. has trained him well, of course, but she told me that he has submitted to her authority from the moment they met, so that the (frequent) beatings to which he was subjected were meant to remind him of his "place" - a sort of maintenance, I guess - and, of course, for her to re-affirm her authority. That's pretty much the way I see it too ... and, needless to say, N. and I always enjoy(ed) chastising him - while L. "appreciates" the way he is disciplined, although he is more ambivalent about having his bare bottom spanked or whipped before the occasional (female) witness.

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    3. Of course he's ambivalent about it, what man would want another woman to know how thoroughly pussy whipped he is? Goes against the "macho" grain!

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    4. "Ambivalent" means that he has mixed feelings about it: after all, this is how I learned that he needed (wanted?) to be spanked - and he has no regrets about that!

      He has also come to accept (and, in some way, to like) having his derrière flogged or strapped by my sister --she is "family", after all!-- but he has mixed feelings about being spanked under the eyes of "other women" (only three thus far!), and I must admit that I, too, have some reservations about having invited them: one the one hand, it demonstrates my authority (which I love!) -but, on the other hand, I have no reason or desire to have them be 'substitutes', in the way that I originally did after N. had died.

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    5. Well, you just make sure you teach him to whom he belongs after any other woman has a go!

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    6. Oh, but I do, believe me!... For one thing, I always make sure that I have the "last word" -and a particularly stinging one!- whenever one of my friends has been present (whether as a witness, or as an invited 'participant'), and I particularly insist on having him kiss my hand and thank me on his knees (being given 'corner time' with one of my friends watching also serves the purpose!)

      Even so, however, I often choose to deliver an additional paddling or flogging (to drive home my point) after my invited friend has left -or else the next morning- just to remind him of who wears the pants in our couple (and of whose pants must come down at the slightest notice!)

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    7. I usually like to punctuate my ownership of him with having him submissively bend over, in the privacy of our bedroom, for a session with my strap-on dildo. "Who's the bitch?" I ask him as I'm fucking him. "I am, I'm your little bitch" is what he says. "Who owns this ass?" I ask. "You do Ma'am!" Ha Ha!

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    8. Not my cup of tea, but I can get L. to admit that I "own" him (and his derrière) after he has been soundly paddled, whipped, caned or strapped - whether or not the 'session' had been witnessed!

      J(2)

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  30. I have not been spanked (too much) yet, but I would totally bend over for you or the girl in the picture if my wife approved.

    I love you idea of a pin. It would have to be anonymous, something only recognizable by dominant women, so it can be worn anywhere. It would also identify us to each other.

    Perhaps I should put my graphic design talents to work here...

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    1. I think your wife should definitely start spanking you more. You seem to need it.

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  31. Like vs-boy I have not been spanked an awful lot but that will come, I hope. I think you are spot on with your article above, their is some feminine mystique that allows a smaller, less strong person to impose their will on bigger, more aggressive persons. Since I started investigating this lifestyle I have done some things on my own to remind me of where I want to go. I keep my penis and testicles shaven and my pubes short and the knowledge of that change makes me more able to jump up and contribute more to our daily household work even though to date my wife is still carrying most of the load. Hopefully that will change soon!

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    1. I have three words for you, jake: panties and bra.
      Next time there is housework to be done, get yourself into a pair of panties and a bra, and really humiliate yourself in front of your wife. Oh, and you can write with her most expensive lipstick "spank me" on your lower back.
      Ha ha!

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    1. "dummies"....???!!!! that just takes away everything sweet you just posted there hun...you know now that you are in trouble big time "mister" ! ! !

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  34. VS here.

    For several years, I've thought about the feminine mystique and about dominance and submission between the sexes.

    I'll try to collect my thoughts and organize them into a Word document, then email it to you.

    Genitalia are the tip of the iceberg. Beneath the surface lie the psychology of male-female interaction, sex versus love, and things like assumed roles (e.g., a courtly knight and a celibate monk).

    Viktor Strelnikov

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