Sunday, July 12

Advice for Wives

I've had so many men over the years e-mail me and lament the fact that they can't get their wives or partners to spank them, or they can but only grudgingly and in a way that doesn't do it for them at all.

So to help them out I've written a "Resource Page" called Advice for Wives targeted at the wife or girlfriend whose partner has just asked that they spank them, and who may be a bit confused what to make of it and what to do as a result.


I give my own perspective on the situation, and I also point to other resources that I think are great, much better at explaining this thing then I can do.

I've put a link to it in the sidebar along with another popular instructional post.

Please have a read and give me feedback.

CLICK HERE TO GO TO "Advice for Wives"

33 comments:

  1. Thank you, Strict Julie!! What a wonderful service - spanking advice to wives, from a wife who has experienced the intimacy spanking creates.

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    1. My pleasure! If it even gets one more husband properly spanked it will have been worth it. ;-)

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    2. Love how your so helpful !

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  2. Hello, Ms. Julie,
    I found the new Advice post to be very readable, friendly in tone, and non-threatening (though of course my "threatening gauge" is likely very different from a woman whose partner has just introduced the idea of spanking). My two thoughts: 1) I wished the caution you gave about your blog as a resource, "...It also tends to give a bit of a warped perspective of our relationship, covering off only the relatively small part of our lives that is "playtime" as if it was more than it is, and more "real-life" than it is," could have been placed more upfront. If enough women are at all like many men in this regard, there'll be lots of clicking around where they already are, before seriously investigating the "Resources" descriptions; 2) Since several of your recent posts have included third (and fourth) parties participating, maybe some word about that would be appropriate, e.g. how common/uncommon is it in actual practice, was it your idea originally or part of the wishes david described to you, etc.; my THREE thoughts (fear, surprise, and a ruthless efficiency) 3) It was very important in the birth of my own FLR that I not give research and resource suggestions to my Wife unless she asked me for them. Unsolicited suggestions would have had overtones of "I'm afraid you won't do it right," and "Are you sure you know how to use Google?" Obviously each woman is an individual in that regard, but it's a good thing for us guys to be sensitive to, in the heated times of hoping finally to get a spanking desire met.

    Thank you for doing this, Ms. Julie.
    Respectfully,
    WhMs

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    1. Wonderful comments! Thank you. I will edit the post as a result.

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    2. I think the "upfront placement" was perfectly done.

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  3. Ms. Julie,

    Thanks for doing this. I think it is an important issue that too many do not understand. My ex-wife had no use for this thing we do (TTWD), and thought I was a sick man. When we separated, she stated that I could "now associate with those kind of people." I tried to explain who "those people" are and were, but she just knew I was wrong. Perhaps with the huge expansion of information in the mainstream media, entertainment, and the internet she and others are more knowledgeable. Still, it always helps to hear it from one who has been there, done that, and lives the issue.

    Well done, Ms. Julie, and "make every stroke count, or is it count every stroke?"

    Mitch

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    1. Thank you mitch. I'm sorry your ex was such a...
      never mind. Be nice, Julie.

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    2. And i copied your comment over to the page as well. Wives should read that and feel the pain of their mates!

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  4. Great job Julie.

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  5. If this is ever read by a wife who is not into spanking, doesn't understand it, but is trying to because she loves her husband, I want to say thank you. I know you think you might understand how much this means to him to want to share this with YOU but multiple that by 10000000.

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    1. Thank you! I copied your comment over to the page for posterity!

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  6. Wish wives will listen to you, my wife totally refuses any spanking activities.
    Moreover in my country there are no pro doms, so I was stuck. Eventually I sought the prostitutes services

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    1. Yes, I can see that. It's hard to keep this thing inside.

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  7. you did good job on the advice you are one strict experience wife/gf to give advice too all the gf or wife out there to start spanking punishing their naughty boy

    iam sure your goa is have lot of and almost all female out there spanking their naughty boys /husband or bf have you met any couple or female out there where you figure out the female is the spanker

    mike
    ,madison ohio

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  8. Unfortunately I've never had a wife or girlfriend who would spank me or anything dominant. I asked and tried different things but they just weren't into it and didn't want to hurt me. Closest I came was getting women to bite my nipples and squeeze my balls sometimes.
    I'm divorced now though not related to sex. I still hope to find a woman who is into spanking and domination. I've got my fancies and I'll keep looking :))

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    1. It's so much not about hurting, isn't it?

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  9. bet you would if could travel and spank the female boyfriend/husband for them as they the female watch and mens will get what need and desver and have fear in them as well some how knew you say Absolutely lol i still be scare of you if saw you and made you mad would hold my butt the whole time might ask you please dont spank me lol


    mike
    madison

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    1. That's very right, mike. You would be a very sore bare red bottomed boy.

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  10. My beloved spouse (I am the wife's) would tell other women that she has the best of all worlds. A guy who does all the traditional guy things. A wife who does all the housework. A sissy maid who gives loving foot and body massages, manicures, pedicures and super intimate care and attention.

    And when she is feeling really dominant a sissy to be spanked and mounted and used like a real girl. She squeals, sighs and. moans under her lover's strap on. She pushes up and back while her skirts rustle over her backside.

    My spouse loves my girly side!

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    1. And I love my man's as well. Just published a post on that in fact!

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  11. We began spanking recently and have been trying to find our way. I am realizing that I need something harder and less erotic. I am tempted to show my wife this article but I'm almost afraid she'll give me what I ask for.

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    1. It's all about communications, as I take pains to point out!

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  12. My wife of 33 yeas has no problem spanking, strapping, caning or paddling me. She has me trained to accept my punishment. She knows I will get the scene prepared and help her think of new ways to restrain me so she can really beat my ass good.

    Last fall, winter and spring she kept me shaved completely smooth and I have not own male underwear for well over a year.

    I work at home and she and I have decided it will be best for me to get up early so I can be dressed properly for the office. This means a proper dress or skirt/blouse as well as full lingerie.

    I love wearing my bras and panties now and love to feel the weight of my breast forms that fill my bras. I have learned to wear and walk in 4" heels too.

    I am her sissy husband.

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  13. I will video the next punishment session. You have already seen me getting strapped Julie. I love knowing other women have seen me getting the strap, paddle or cane.

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    1. Oh yes, I have seen you writhing under your woman's strap, missy. Ask nicely if the next one (that you will video) could be EXTRA STRICT for me.

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  14. My wife and I have been together since we were young. My wife was timid but eager to please, but she did not understand the nuances of the fetish, but she could play dominant a little. So I began scripting our playtime and it has worked wonders. What I did was bought my wife a traditional nurse uniform with a traditional nurses cap. I had it embroidered to say DISCIPLINARIAN. I than created an entire "case file" on the I-pad. The scenario was that an overwhelmed housewife sent her husband for training. The case file has spousal comments and suggested punishments and training. These are pretty much work instructions for a procedure to be performed by a professional. She loved it. It gave her a lot of extra confidence. For instance I wrote, "The patient is not permitted to have an erections in when wife is not present. Under penalty of prostate milking and 12 swats with the paddle." In one fail swoop my wife understood exactly what to do. I never imagined I could get her to give me corner time with any sort of authority or understanding. In my first scripted session she put me in the corner and proceeded to lecture me while masturbating. This was thrilling, and my wife was really enjoying it. She was confident and began ad-libbing. She always works in intamacy training. So she gets 2 hours of pleasure out of it after my milking. She actually enjoys playing now because it is truly playing and fun. I hope this helps.

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    1. Sounds like a great way to ease her into it!

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