Friday, October 7

Restaurant Domination

Sometimes restaurants can give you a great opportunity for a little subtle (or not so subtle!) hubby domination.


We were having dinner out yesterday evening. We took advantage of what is most likely one of the last patio evenings of the season, augmented by a heat lamp. The patio was fairly empty as we were eating early and most preferred to dine indoors. Our waitress was a very attractive and fresh faced young lady who seemed quite on the ball and happy.


I decided then and there to have a little fun with david.

When she came and asked for our drink orders, david gave me the perfect pretext. Without even waiting for me to order he blurted out "I'll have a Guinness".

"Excuse me?" I said. "What happened to ladies first?"

"Oh... sorry, honey. You go ahead."

"I'll have a class of red wine," I said, and selected a specific one from the list. So far pretty normal. And then I added, "but cancel the beer for him, he'll be drinking water tonight."

"Honey..." he whined.

The waitress visibly smirked!

"No, besides everything you're driving tonight. But you will have something else, won't you sweetie?"

david looked confused. The waitress had her pencil on her pad ready to take this down.


"You'll have a good spanking as soon as I get you home, won't you?"

"Ahhh, geez..." he answered as he very visibly blushed, confirming the truth of the matter.

Now she giggled openly.

"Maybe that will help him learn some manners," I said to her.

She didn't say anything out loud, but her smile said a lot!

The nice thing about doing this right at the start of the meal is that david gets reminded of the humiliation each and every time the waitress comes by.
  • I ordered for him, making healthy choices.
  • I refused desert on his behalf.
  • I was the one who asked for the check
  • I paid and tipped.
I'm sure she did not doubt whatsoever that my husband would be spanked.

Would she imagine that he would need to face me and have his pants taken down?


That he would be taken across my knee getting his bare bum smacked, kicking and crying as I taught him a lesson in manners?


Would she ever imagine the humiliating corner time afterwards?


Do you think she would have enjoyed participating even?


Could she imagine other ways I have of reminding him of his place?


And could she even dream that he would in fact be subject to the ultimate humiliation that a husband can suffer at his wife's hands?


Having to take it up his rear end, fucked like a lady for as long and as hard as I choose, until there is no doubt whatsoever that he has been reminded of his place in the marriage.

90 comments:

  1. He might want to consider having dinner delivered next time. Generally speaking, the risk of anal trauma is lower.

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    1. Not sure about that... delivery boy and all.

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  2. What a delightful story of reminding your man of his place!
    I am sure that many of your readers would appreciate being controlled like this.
    Thank you for the wonderful pictures, particularly that last one of being fucked like a lady up the rear end. Awesome!

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  3. Would been cool if she admit he need a spanking too been awesome if she would told him she would of given him a spanking too?

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    1. Yes, but I suspect the wait staff is not allowed to get too familiar like that!

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    2. Yep i agree too with that statement i mean if she has done might got in trouble even if both spanked him same time then

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    3. what a hot fantasy.............

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  4. I like these real life humiliations. It produces a lot of excitement.
    It happened, this summer, i was with my wife at a restaurant and the waiter brought what we ordered
    He said « a chief kebab » for the chief
    But i myself put me in a humiliating posture because i found full of sprit to answer « Oh, i'm not the chief... » so he turned to my wife and said « Congratulation, madam ! » I blushed, not understanding why i have said that. This is giving the stick to be beaten with.
    (I love, in the last giff, the authoritarian and decided way in which the wife brought her lesson deep in her husband)

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    1. Good story. And yes, that gif is awesome!

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  5. I have found that it's always more fun to read about moments like this or look back on ones that actually happened than it is to BE in that moment as it plays out. I have a tough time "in the moment" and Rosa is not shy about teasing me the way you got David.

    Still, the one thing I have to say is that situations like this always seem to work better for F/M relationships. Could you imagine a server's reaction to a similar exchange coming from a dominant husband publicly admonishing his wife and warning her of a spanking to come? In situations like these, dominant women get a "you go girl" while men in the same situation would be perceived as jerks or even abusers.

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    1. Why sure. That's called "affirmative action" ;-)

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  6. How devilish of you, Ms Julie, and humiliating yet exciting. Was david aroused? Would he have been embarrassed to walk tot he rest room?

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    1. He actually does not get erect in the moment when he is genuinely humiliated like this, but it does excite and arouse him tremendously, and he becomes very erect thinking back on it.

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  7. I was sitting in a local ma and pa restaurant eating lunch when i read your post. I nearly snorted my coffee through my nose when Igot to the part where you told Davidright in front of the server that he would also get a spanking. I love your stories!

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    1. Yes, I thought she would write it down on her pad. She really was standing there waiting to take a follow-on order!

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  8. L. has grown used to being warned of an impending spanking (and sometimes getting it!) in the presence of a few close (women) friends - not to mention my sister, of course - and I simply followed the way N, his first wife, dealt with him. I have occasionally issued such a warning when we could be overheard by 'strangers' (though never in a restaurant) - and, of course, there were the (two) times when N. -and I, later - took him along to select a martinet (in different locations).
    L. has been spanked in a number of places where we could be (and were!) overheard - in a department store's fitting room, in an airport's restroom, but mostly in hotel rooms (as did N.). Outdoors floggings (which both N. and I enjoyed) were never witnessed - except for that time in S.E. Italy when I was caught 'in the act' by this elderly farmwife who (after showing me how to use it) agreed to sell me that "Italian bridle"...

    J(2)

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    1. I don't recall ever hearing about his fitting room spanking... do tell!

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    2. L. (like many husbands, I suspect) balks at shopping in malls - especially when it involves watching me select some new garment (which takes a lot of time!). Yet, I like to ask for his opinion when I try it out in the fitting room - and, once in a while, loose patience with his surliness, and use the hairbrush I usually carry in my purse to get his attention... On two such occasions (at least) I know we were overheard by the fitting room's attendant (one gave me a knowing smile, and the other one added a brief comment). I suspect that some (female) customers in adjacent fitting booths also figured out what was going on- but I have no way of verifying that, unlike the reactions I often noticed from maids and female guests after L. had been spanked or whipped in some hotel rooms while we were traveling on vacation...

      J(2)

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    3. I love your readers comments....

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  9. L. has grown used to being warned of an impending spanking (and sometimes getting it!) in the presence of a few close (women) friends - not to mention my sister, of course - and I simply followed the way N, his first wife, dealt with him. I have occasionally issued such a warning when we could be overheard by 'strangers' (though never in a restaurant) - and, of course, there were the (two) times when N. -and I, later - took him along to select a martinet (in different locations).
    L. has been spanked in a number of places where we could be (and were!) overheard - in a department store's fitting room, in an airport's restroom, but mostly in hotel rooms (as did N.). Outdoors floggings (which both N. and I enjoyed) were never witnessed - except for that time in S.E. Italy when I was caught 'in the act' by this elderly farmwife who (after showing me how to use it) agreed to sell me that "Italian bridle"...

    J(2)

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  10. Shawn, my wife could care less if we are going out or not and a spanking is needed. A particular restaurant, older waitress notice my squirming, asked my wife, hand or other, my wife smiled, hairbrush, then asked waitress how she knew, her husband is spanked also. Wish a cushion she asked my wife said no, but a glass a milk, little boys, especially naughty little boys drink milk. I just wanted to run and hide.

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    1. Shawn, I will admit if more women took charge, used the tried and true punishment, the world would be a better place.

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    2. A glass of milk as a humiliation. That is absolutely brilliant. That blows me away.

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    3. Be the one drinking the milk and at times squirming. My wife takes charge and I have learned not to talk back or object no matter where we are. There is nothing and I meaning nothing worse than a bedtime spanking, laying naked over her lap and squirming, bawling, pleading. Hotels you do not want this to happen, others will hear. That particular breakfast I was squirming so much, the waitress insisted I have a cushion and then softly said you must have been really naughty young man, my wife said I was and then told her milk for her naughty little boy.

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    4. Yes, a bedtime spanking. Crying yourself to sleep. What matter if other women hear or know? When you are naughty, these are the consequences.

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  11. I don't see my Irene being so brazen anytime soon - perhaps if the waitress were to encourage her in some way.

    But often, before we go out for coffee or a meal, Irene will whip my bottom, insert an anal plug, and put me in a tight girdle. Then she'll ask me how my bottom is feeling throughout dinner.

    We've also tried anal toys with remotely controlled vibrators, but been pretty underwhelmed by their quality and performance.

    I have at times been instructed not to ogle the waitress, and definitely not to admire her as she walks away from us.

    - Rosco

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    1. Sounds like you're just asking for it to be made more public, what with that ogling.

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    2. There was that brown haired waitress in a short green dress who so nicely showed her round bottom, wrapped in pretty white nylon panties, when she wiped of the table next to us. I remember it like it was yesterday. I got in big trouble that time, but the memory of that great view has outlasted the spanking.

      - Rosco

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    3. Boys will be boys. And boys will therefore be spanked.

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  12. OMG. I was having this very same fantasy when my wife and I were out to dinner this week!! We were doing an overnight in another city and went to dinner. The next day, while she was out I got sentenced to some naked, bound corner times (yes, she used your coin punishment!). I stood there and fantasized about just this scenario. Will have to incorporate it next time! BTW - really like the book. Not as turned on as I thought I'd be, but great reading and wonderful ideas. Thanks! TL

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    1. Interesting about the book. Why not so turned on? Are you more turned on when it's 100% real events described?

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    2. Hmmm. I had to go back and check my cock meter against your notes on what was real and what was fantasy. I have to say you are correct, Miss Julie. The chapters closest to 100% real were the ones that turned me on the most (personal trainer, mommy and ex-girlfriend role plays). I thought some of the other chapters had a touch of mean-spirit and were a bit overly cruel (my taste only). But if that's what turns you on, who am I to say anything? Also, my relationship is so much tamer -- the wife is pretty vanilla. And our spankings are usually play and full of games that tend toward fun and laughter -- with each other, not at one another. Maybe adding more of david's thoughts and reactions at the end of each of these would have humanized them a bit? All that said, I agree with so many others -- you are the best spanking kink writer I've read. Thank you for sharing so much of you. Oh, and one more question. I know when I write stories or role plays for us, it really makes me hard. You must have been steaming when writing the book. Right? (heart)TL

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    3. Thank you for the critique. I really do appreciate it! Good advice for next time!

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    4. πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»

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  13. Dear Julie,
    You have posted a picture of me! I'm the one in the corner with the grey t-shirt. I'm honored! Thank you.

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    1. Well good of you to donate your spanked tushy to the web like that!

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    2. Sorry to jump in on this but it struck a chord. 100 percent reality based is what turns me on and I bet a lot of men. And its missing from most of the F/m material available.Dramatized or even " based on " is almost as good but the fiction too often deteriorates into fantasy rather than real life DD. That's the reason your writing is so powerful. You are a skilled writer but ( most) of what you produce is reality based.
      Sammy

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    3. I must admit, I'm pretty excited by the fact that you like my spanked tushy

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    4. Oh I do!

      And yes, I hope that even the fantasy I write seems as if it almost could happen, as I have done so much and would do more given the right circumstance.

      But I know what you mean. Real real is the best!

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    5. Reality meeting fantasy can be a great moment in one's life!

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  14. I find it to be very repulsive how you belittle your husband in public. Shame on you, Julie. I'll leave it to that. It has little to do with 'a loving marriage with spankings'. Shame on you!

    Marco

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    1. Hoping this is sarcastic? The person who loves this sort of thing the absolute most is OF COURSE my husband!

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    2. Hello Julie. No, it's not sarcastic. But if your husband loves it so much, why is he always getting embarrassed? That's what you writing down, if I am correct, yes? If your man get's what he wants, it's fine. But that's not what I am reading. Just my opinion on the matter. Is this funny to read back: The nice thing about doing this right at the start of the meal is that david gets reminded of the humiliation each and every time the waitress comes by.
      I ordered for him, making healthy choices.
      I refused desert on his behalf.
      I was the one who asked for the check
      I paid and tipped.

      'humiliation'?

      My wife and I share the joy of spanking also, Julie. But as equals. What you are doing to your man, is degrading.
      But, once again, it's your marriage.

      Best wishes,

      Marco

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    3. You really just don't understand this branch of kink at all. We both enjoy it, as equals, as you and your wife do the 'odd practice' of striking one another's buttocks. There's nothing remotely equal about one person striking another. You consider yourselves equals because you both consent to engaging in this painful and humiliating practice. Just as do my husband and I with our humiliation play. As do many, many others. Live and let live, marco.

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    4. Hello Julie. You are right, I don't understand this branch of kink. But understand that my spankings stop when I ask for them to stop. They are intended to be fun, never as punishment or degrading. In this we agree: Live and let live.

      Best wishes and may your 'kink' last as long as mine.
      :-)
      Thanks for the little chat.

      Marco

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    5. Yet there is NOTHING non-consensual about what my husband and I do either. If he were to ask me to stop, or slow down, I certainly would. In fact, he's the one who's been egging me on! Just a different expression of kink. No difference in the morality.

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    6. thanks for clarifying..........

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    7. Some people are a little slow...

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  15. Another chapter in your amazing writing and spanking life...this is fucking hot.
    Always
    Ron

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  16. would saty the 2 blonde pic you show could be u doing spanking to david i mention below

    1) sititng on couch guy over lap being spanked
    2) female sitting on couch guy being spanked the black hair lady watching

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    1. Close enough, that's why I picked them. One is younger than I, the other older.

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    2. either way i would say good choice older and younger doesnt matter still beautiful

      hope dont make hands sore or arm hurt during next spanking to david who know maybe waitress wrote down spanking part told coworker

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  17. You are so quick on your feet Ma'am.

    I've never asked if david is a heavy blusher? It would be an irresistible temptation to make him blish uncontrollably if he was. (I have very fair Northern-English skin, for the record Ma'am)

    lill (Ms Julie's punished sketch slut) jo

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    1. Oh yes. He is pale as well and blushes like a schoolgirl!

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  18. What about a diaper bag on the chair or table... With no baby in sight...?! Or is there...! Perhaps it could be open just enough for a infantile adult diaper to be visible sticking out? Now who could that be for... Hmm...!!!

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    1. Diapering is never out of the question...

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  19. Verbal humiliation is wonderful Julie. I love when my wife does it to me.

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  20. Great post. I'm always a bit leery of doing much in public for fear that someone will misunderstand and blow things out of proportion. But that's just may be one of my irrational fears. :)

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    1. I'm always nervous going into these things as well.

      But it's a lot like getting into a lake. First you test the water with a toe, and if it seems like it won't kill you you can either lower yourself slowly or just dive right in.

      I would not do this with just anybody. I have to be getting good vibes from the lady. And then I usually just do a little thing at first. A little hint perhaps, and I observe the reaction. If it's smiles, I keep going.

      In this case, the "little thing" was me scolding him about the "ladies first" thing. Then reversing his beer order. If either of those had gone badly (the waitress looking at me like "what a bitch!") I would have stopped. But as I was getting green lights I went for the spanking line with relatively little risk of it going wrong at that point.

      It's a huge Adrenalin rush!

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  21. I imagine the first Strict Julie Spanking Video (by Julie Delmar Production)
    It is call « Restaurant Domination »
    A feminine voiceover says :
    « Sometimes restaurant can give you a great opportunity for a little subtle (or not so subtle!) hubby domination. We were having dinner .......
    Julie Delmar as a producer-director found the actors (Julie, david, a waitress, a few customers) and the place.
    Action... start shooting !
    - I'll have a Guinness
    - Excuse me ? What happened to ladies first ?
    Until the end, the same feminine voiceover (commenting on a picture or a silent film ?)
    « Having to take it up his rear end, fucked like a lady for as long and as hard as I choose, until there is no doubt whatsoever that he has been reminded of his place in the marriage »

    David's humiliation would be visible, audible and also Julie's sadistic pleasure to humble him for real.
    Such movies do not currently exist. It's always the same boring videos where one or two mistresses
    spank or whip a devoted man but by no means humbled : there is neither desire nor words in these movies. And it is this desire that you know how to write : as a director you could film the real desire to dominate et the real humiliation to be dominated.

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    1. Those would be a lot of fun to make!
      But I'm afraid the audience would be relatively small. I would need a rich patron!

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    2. Who knows... may be one of your many admirers. Or why don't you try crowdfounding.
      You can also compensate for the small number of potential buyers with a higher price.

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    3. Crowdfunding! Love it. But i think a sugar daddy would be better!

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  22. Dear Julie, I don't have a problem bringing up the subject of spanking my husband in front of others if my husband gets sassy in public. Like you I have threaten him in restaurants in front of waitresses and even had them comment and add to his embarrassment. His face gets totally red. Robin has been spanked in front of others on occasions and it does wonder for his attitude. Keep up the good work. Jan

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    1. I think that until a wife has spanked her husband publicly, or at least threatened it, there is a sense that the domination is not 100% real. It's like having a marriage ceremony in public to make the relationship "real".

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    2. Julie,

      I agree 100 percent with this sentiment. There must be some public dimension to DD to make it real.My wife and I have been " playing" for several years. But in the last year she has been dropping hints to her immediate family that she is spanking me for discipline. I knew she was doing this but last summer her older sister asked me point blank if I "was still having trouble behaving" I was stunned at first and even a little angry but that now has become pride that my wife cares enough about me to spank when necessary and is comfortable enough with it to tell her family ( and maybe beyond). But making it public has made it for me 100 percent real and at the same time it has made be more obedient to her and better behaved ( getting fewer discipline spankings) .

      Mark

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    3. I can only imagine if i was in your shoes. Oh the tummy churning HUMILIATION of it all!

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    4. I remember feeling somewhat sorry for L. when N. (his late wife) first spanked him under my eyes, but I soon realized that -whether or not he "enjoyed" it - he fully accepted her "right" (and his need) for a firm domestic discipline, as well as its being manifested before other women. I also learned that N. would, if needed, spank or whip him in hotel rooms when traveling...
      And so, when L. and I started dating (and later married) after N's untimely death, both of us knew that he would expect to be subjected to the same sort of "domestic discipline" - including its being applied before some of my close friends (or -and this was a new twist- before and BY my own sister!)
      L. still gets embarrassed when he is spanked or whipped in semi-public locations, but he knows better than to complain -let alone resist- when he knows he deserves it!

      J(2)

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    5. As was the case with N., I recognize your right to apply any form of "discipline" where it will be remembered - even under the eyes of some of your friends, or where we can be overheard. I also accept (even if I have no choice about it) to be spanked or whipped by your sister when we get together, but I still feel embarrassed, no matter how often this happens...

      L.

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    6. I can understand your being embarrassed when I spank you where we can be overheard by 'strangers' - or in front of one of my friends - but my sister is 'family' : that's why she (and she alone!) is entitled to whack, flog, strap or birch your derrière when we get together.

      J(2)

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    7. Yes, Ma'am !- if you say so ...

      L.

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    8. Try to remember that when B. comes to visit over the 'twelve days of Xmas' - you know what's in store for you!

      J(2)

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  23. Way to go Julie , this is one of my wife's favourites also , although she does not often go as far as to actually mention the 'S' word.
    Very often I am sitting at the restaurant on a well spanked bottom so it gives her lots of opportunities to reference my spanking and why i am squirming on the seat.
    Sounds like david and the waitress enjoyed it as much as you did.

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    1. Well, any references to squirming bottoms certainly elicit the "S" word, though I can see it would be fun to not actually say it!

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  24. mmm, 'strictjulieswitches' has a nice ring to it.

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    1. well you'll like my latest post then!

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  25. What a completely delightful event to read. ( it would be wonderful to have happen, as i imagine many of the comments have been.) Any spanking couple having a lunch or dinner with you should be well warned by this event.
    bottoms up
    Red

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    1. And so easy to pull off. Just a word... But oh my what a word, and how much boldness needed to get it out!

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