The article is called A "Scening" Female Led Relationship. I hope you enjoy reading it!
Monday, February 16
My Article on Simply Sxy
Thought you guys might enjoy this. As for many other of us bloggers, I was solicited for a short article for an e-magazine called Simply Sxy. I thought it would help drive traffic my way, which is always fun (watching those counters go up like my husband's erection when the belt comes out!).
The article is called A "Scening" Female Led Relationship. I hope you enjoy reading it!
The article is called A "Scening" Female Led Relationship. I hope you enjoy reading it!
Saturday, February 14
Husband Flogged and Caned
I went shopping the other day. There's a leather store in the city where the front of the store is more normal clothing, but the back of the store is all fetish type stuff. Well I happened to be parked right nearby for an unrelated reason, so I thought I would go shopping for david.
They have a pretty big collection of beautiful spanking implements. I was like a kid in a toy store. But they were all displayed on hooks behind the checkout counter, and at the checkout was a very pretty young man. I surmise he was gay, and doubtless on the receiving end himself of many of those implements, and no doubt of cocks in his mouth and bum also! (So not unlike my husband - albeit strap-ons in his case)
I actually found I had to get a bit of courage up to go there and ask the young man about the spanking implements, but I got over it quickly thinking to myself, "hey, whose the big bad Domme here!?"
He was very helpful, commenting on the effects of many of the implements. He invited me back behind the counter, to browse at my heart's content. After much smacking of implement to palm, I selected two toys: a flogger and a cane.
They are both approximately two feet long. The cane has a heavy metal handle. The business end is made from some sort of hard flexible resin (?). It's fully a centimetre in diameter. It makes a wonderful Woosh sound and hurt like hell on the palm of my hand! I was thinking both me and Mags could enjoy marking him with that. Welty tramlines here we come: Yay!
The flogger is made from real leather. It has a nice chunky handle that fits nicely in my hand. The business hand is made up of 16 fairly light leather fingers (how nerdy/OCD is that of me - I had to count them for this blog article!). The overall feel when I strike my palm is a heavy one, combined with a bunch of light little zingy stingers at the ends.
I got them home and I tried them out that same night on my husband.
I decided to start him off with a flogging. A full body flogging. I had him strip nude and lie face down on the bed with his hands raised above his head. I went slowly at first, asking him about the feel of it. It was quite pleasurable for him when the strokes were slow and heavy, and a bit stingy in certain cases when the tips were flying more quickly. If I flogged hard, it took on more of a spanking feel.
Once I felt I was pretty much used to the thing, I started going to town all up and down the back side of his body. I flogged his upper back around the shoulder blades, his bum of course, and all down the backs of his legs. I allowed some of the strokes to wrap around, and others not. I found I could get some nice "near side" wrap around (where you aim for the near cheek or near leg, and you allow the tips to wrap around into his ass crack or his inner thigh).
For my next position, I had him still face down but with his ass elevated over several pillows, and made him spread his legs as widely as possible. I also made him leave his cock and balls out between his legs. I then used the flogger more in a vertical orientation, striking his inner thighs, bum cheeks and his crack, trying to get the zingers right onto his rosebud. This was pretty successful. I also started out lightly on his cock and balls from behind like that. It was good. The flogger isn't really heavy enough (unless I whip it like crazy, I suspect, which I didn't) to do any injury or even excruciating ball pain. But that cock and ball whipping from behind did have him yelling and jumping! Each time he yelled I asked if he was ok to proceed, and he was, so I made him "present" to me properly for the next stroke and the next and the next. He suffered nicely for me.
The effect of the flogger was to at first create mottled markings that as I kept going all fused into a uniform red all over the backside of his body.
I then took away the pillows and had him lie face up on the bed, again with his hands high up above his head. I got to work on his front side. I enjoyed flogging his chest and belly and making them mottled and then red. I also did his legs from ankle to crotch, paying special attention to his inner thighs (I had to move around to get them both). And no, of course I didn't ignore his low abdomen and his penis and testicles. Of course not! They got flogged very well also. He was very sensitive there, and I especially enjoyed targeting the circumcised tip of his penis with the whip ends of the flogger. That got a most satisfactory response from him!
Since he was on his back anyways, I had him raise his legs to "diaper position" and beyond. I will use my one hand to push down on his calves to get him over a bit more. I figure the stretch is good for him. It does leave his bum stretched tight as a drum, his crack well spread, his bumhole splayed open, and his testicles well exposed, especially the otherwise hard to reach undersides. I then flogged his legs, bum, anus, and balls. I decided that this was the best punishment position with the flogger owing to my man's reactions.
I'm looking forward to repeating this position, which I would characterize as a "legs back flogging to his private parts", in front of some other women: perhaps Mags or Sue (and Sue now has a new friend, so who knows there?). I really could use another woman kneeling at his head and holding his legs back while I work, so perhaps Mags after all, as it is a good abdominal exercise for him to try to get his legs back there and a good stretch for him once he's there, in addition to the embarrassment of his lewd exposure and the pain of the flogging to his sensitive bits. And once he's pinned back like that, he's not going anywhere until I'm done with the flogging no matter how long that is. And, who knows, strap-on afterwards pistoning in and out of his punished tight hole? Why not? A humiliating little reminder in front of another woman of who wields the cock in this family and who is required to take it?
Poor dear was red as a lobster all over, from neck to ankle, front and back, and his testicles were in some pain before I tired of my new toy for the day.
I especially like this new flogger because I can whip his penis and balls with it. It hurts him so much and really reminds him of how sensitive and vulnerable he is down there, and how he therefore shouldn't mess with me. As well, I think the threat of him receiving such a punishment in front of another woman is also a potent one. I mean, what man would want a woman other than his wife seeing his cock and balls, his "proud manly" sex organs, punished like that?
As one last experiment, I just had to take the cane for a quick run, so I flipped him over again and had him back face down on the bed. I then took the cane and laid down a half dozen strokes. OMG!!!! Best cane EVER! Every last stroke left a wonderful wide raised welt. I'm dying to see what kind of damage Mags will do with it!
They have a pretty big collection of beautiful spanking implements. I was like a kid in a toy store. But they were all displayed on hooks behind the checkout counter, and at the checkout was a very pretty young man. I surmise he was gay, and doubtless on the receiving end himself of many of those implements, and no doubt of cocks in his mouth and bum also! (So not unlike my husband - albeit strap-ons in his case)
I actually found I had to get a bit of courage up to go there and ask the young man about the spanking implements, but I got over it quickly thinking to myself, "hey, whose the big bad Domme here!?"
He was very helpful, commenting on the effects of many of the implements. He invited me back behind the counter, to browse at my heart's content. After much smacking of implement to palm, I selected two toys: a flogger and a cane.
They are both approximately two feet long. The cane has a heavy metal handle. The business end is made from some sort of hard flexible resin (?). It's fully a centimetre in diameter. It makes a wonderful Woosh sound and hurt like hell on the palm of my hand! I was thinking both me and Mags could enjoy marking him with that. Welty tramlines here we come: Yay!
The flogger is made from real leather. It has a nice chunky handle that fits nicely in my hand. The business hand is made up of 16 fairly light leather fingers (how nerdy/OCD is that of me - I had to count them for this blog article!). The overall feel when I strike my palm is a heavy one, combined with a bunch of light little zingy stingers at the ends.
I got them home and I tried them out that same night on my husband.
I decided to start him off with a flogging. A full body flogging. I had him strip nude and lie face down on the bed with his hands raised above his head. I went slowly at first, asking him about the feel of it. It was quite pleasurable for him when the strokes were slow and heavy, and a bit stingy in certain cases when the tips were flying more quickly. If I flogged hard, it took on more of a spanking feel.
Once I felt I was pretty much used to the thing, I started going to town all up and down the back side of his body. I flogged his upper back around the shoulder blades, his bum of course, and all down the backs of his legs. I allowed some of the strokes to wrap around, and others not. I found I could get some nice "near side" wrap around (where you aim for the near cheek or near leg, and you allow the tips to wrap around into his ass crack or his inner thigh).
For my next position, I had him still face down but with his ass elevated over several pillows, and made him spread his legs as widely as possible. I also made him leave his cock and balls out between his legs. I then used the flogger more in a vertical orientation, striking his inner thighs, bum cheeks and his crack, trying to get the zingers right onto his rosebud. This was pretty successful. I also started out lightly on his cock and balls from behind like that. It was good. The flogger isn't really heavy enough (unless I whip it like crazy, I suspect, which I didn't) to do any injury or even excruciating ball pain. But that cock and ball whipping from behind did have him yelling and jumping! Each time he yelled I asked if he was ok to proceed, and he was, so I made him "present" to me properly for the next stroke and the next and the next. He suffered nicely for me.
The effect of the flogger was to at first create mottled markings that as I kept going all fused into a uniform red all over the backside of his body.
I then took away the pillows and had him lie face up on the bed, again with his hands high up above his head. I got to work on his front side. I enjoyed flogging his chest and belly and making them mottled and then red. I also did his legs from ankle to crotch, paying special attention to his inner thighs (I had to move around to get them both). And no, of course I didn't ignore his low abdomen and his penis and testicles. Of course not! They got flogged very well also. He was very sensitive there, and I especially enjoyed targeting the circumcised tip of his penis with the whip ends of the flogger. That got a most satisfactory response from him!
Since he was on his back anyways, I had him raise his legs to "diaper position" and beyond. I will use my one hand to push down on his calves to get him over a bit more. I figure the stretch is good for him. It does leave his bum stretched tight as a drum, his crack well spread, his bumhole splayed open, and his testicles well exposed, especially the otherwise hard to reach undersides. I then flogged his legs, bum, anus, and balls. I decided that this was the best punishment position with the flogger owing to my man's reactions.
I'm looking forward to repeating this position, which I would characterize as a "legs back flogging to his private parts", in front of some other women: perhaps Mags or Sue (and Sue now has a new friend, so who knows there?). I really could use another woman kneeling at his head and holding his legs back while I work, so perhaps Mags after all, as it is a good abdominal exercise for him to try to get his legs back there and a good stretch for him once he's there, in addition to the embarrassment of his lewd exposure and the pain of the flogging to his sensitive bits. And once he's pinned back like that, he's not going anywhere until I'm done with the flogging no matter how long that is. And, who knows, strap-on afterwards pistoning in and out of his punished tight hole? Why not? A humiliating little reminder in front of another woman of who wields the cock in this family and who is required to take it?
Poor dear was red as a lobster all over, from neck to ankle, front and back, and his testicles were in some pain before I tired of my new toy for the day.
I especially like this new flogger because I can whip his penis and balls with it. It hurts him so much and really reminds him of how sensitive and vulnerable he is down there, and how he therefore shouldn't mess with me. As well, I think the threat of him receiving such a punishment in front of another woman is also a potent one. I mean, what man would want a woman other than his wife seeing his cock and balls, his "proud manly" sex organs, punished like that?
As one last experiment, I just had to take the cane for a quick run, so I flipped him over again and had him back face down on the bed. I then took the cane and laid down a half dozen strokes. OMG!!!! Best cane EVER! Every last stroke left a wonderful wide raised welt. I'm dying to see what kind of damage Mags will do with it!
Saturday, February 7
e-Book Anyone?
I had a thought and I'd love your feedback. I am thinking of writing an e-book.
My blog chronicles my kinky adventures with my husband. It is actual events (except when specifically tagged as fiction), mostly engineered by me as role plays. Sometimes the other women I bring in have been asked by me to play, other times it has been more happenstance. I do have to confess that sometimes I take a bit of artistic liberty to move the narrative along. For example, I sometimes don't exactly remember what everybody said (including myself!), but write it as if I do. Or maybe fill in the blanks based on something david told me without my actually being there to witness it. I've tried being 100% honest but it gets to be a bit of a dreary read!
But in some cases I feel very tempted to describe a scene how I would have wanted it to play out, rather that how it actually did (and >*blush*< sometimes I've even succumbed a little - guilty guilty guilty!)
So here is my e-book idea. For a bit of the book I'd describe the "Scening FLR" relationship I have with my husband, how we got started, how he got started, and maybe some practical tips for those who would like to play along at home. But most of the book would be chapters each covering off a particular scene. My starting point would be some actual scenes we played out, but I wouldn't constrain myself to what actually happened. Rather I'd fictionalize the scene with things that could have happened, or that my husband or I would have wished happen. I'd keep it 'kinda 'sorta realistic so you could still believe it if you twist your head sideways a bit, and write it as if it was true to life. For example, in one chapter I'd describe an amalgam of the various panty shopping expeditions I've done with my husband in real life and shared on my blog, but take it further into the realm of fiction, maybe end it with david across my knee in the change rooms while the salesgirls look on. This never actually happened, but both he and I would have loved if it had!
I would never preface it with "this actually happened", or let on where fantasy parts ways with reality, but just start in on a chapter describing a scene, and let it go wild by the end. It would in essence be a collaboration between david and I, because we talk about where some of our scenes could have gone afterwards during debrief, and I'd definitely incorporate those ideas as well as my own.
I'd keep my blog going, of course, to recount our scenes more or less as they actually happen, and to continue interacting with all you guys and gals, but also have this thing.
Now, I am thinking of charging for this e-book. I know. Up to now my blog has been totally non-commercial, but I have a ton of hits (almost 3 million page view to date, and google analytics tells me a half a million unique visitors in the past 2 years), so I am thinking maybe it would be cool if I somehow made some money by cashing in on my "fame". Would you all hate me for that? I'm thinking I can make enough for a beach holiday in Hawaii (fngers crossed!). It would be cool taking such a holiday knowing all you pervs out there paid for it (don't worry, I count myself amongst you!).
I'd imagine the e-book would be a good solid read, like 200 or 300 pages. So real book size, not like some of those porno femdom e-books out there (I did my research). What's a fair price? Is $6.99 too much? Would you pay more? Should it be less? Would you guys support me? Buy a copy and write an amazing 5 star comment maybe (if warranted)?
What do you think?
I nervously await your feedback!
My blog chronicles my kinky adventures with my husband. It is actual events (except when specifically tagged as fiction), mostly engineered by me as role plays. Sometimes the other women I bring in have been asked by me to play, other times it has been more happenstance. I do have to confess that sometimes I take a bit of artistic liberty to move the narrative along. For example, I sometimes don't exactly remember what everybody said (including myself!), but write it as if I do. Or maybe fill in the blanks based on something david told me without my actually being there to witness it. I've tried being 100% honest but it gets to be a bit of a dreary read!
But in some cases I feel very tempted to describe a scene how I would have wanted it to play out, rather that how it actually did (and >*blush*< sometimes I've even succumbed a little - guilty guilty guilty!)
So here is my e-book idea. For a bit of the book I'd describe the "Scening FLR" relationship I have with my husband, how we got started, how he got started, and maybe some practical tips for those who would like to play along at home. But most of the book would be chapters each covering off a particular scene. My starting point would be some actual scenes we played out, but I wouldn't constrain myself to what actually happened. Rather I'd fictionalize the scene with things that could have happened, or that my husband or I would have wished happen. I'd keep it 'kinda 'sorta realistic so you could still believe it if you twist your head sideways a bit, and write it as if it was true to life. For example, in one chapter I'd describe an amalgam of the various panty shopping expeditions I've done with my husband in real life and shared on my blog, but take it further into the realm of fiction, maybe end it with david across my knee in the change rooms while the salesgirls look on. This never actually happened, but both he and I would have loved if it had!
I would never preface it with "this actually happened", or let on where fantasy parts ways with reality, but just start in on a chapter describing a scene, and let it go wild by the end. It would in essence be a collaboration between david and I, because we talk about where some of our scenes could have gone afterwards during debrief, and I'd definitely incorporate those ideas as well as my own.
I'd keep my blog going, of course, to recount our scenes more or less as they actually happen, and to continue interacting with all you guys and gals, but also have this thing.
Now, I am thinking of charging for this e-book. I know. Up to now my blog has been totally non-commercial, but I have a ton of hits (almost 3 million page view to date, and google analytics tells me a half a million unique visitors in the past 2 years), so I am thinking maybe it would be cool if I somehow made some money by cashing in on my "fame". Would you all hate me for that? I'm thinking I can make enough for a beach holiday in Hawaii (fngers crossed!). It would be cool taking such a holiday knowing all you pervs out there paid for it (don't worry, I count myself amongst you!).
I'd imagine the e-book would be a good solid read, like 200 or 300 pages. So real book size, not like some of those porno femdom e-books out there (I did my research). What's a fair price? Is $6.99 too much? Would you pay more? Should it be less? Would you guys support me? Buy a copy and write an amazing 5 star comment maybe (if warranted)?
What do you think?
I nervously await your feedback!