Interview with Julie

My 'lill sketch slut asked if he could interview me and if I would post the responses on my blog. Happy to!

1. How early on did you discover your own kinks, were their early life experiences where you look back and think: 'That was one of the first times my response was definitely dommy!'?

I didn't know I was for sure kinky in this way until my husband asked me to spank him about five years ago.  But I was kinky in other ways, for sure. One man asked me to pee on him when I was quite young. I did it and found I enjoyed it a lot. He even licked me as I was peeing and that felt soooo good! For some reason I did not tie this activity into BDSM at all and did not pursue anything else (I was young and confused). I just thought he was into this one thing.

I did totally enjoy being a cock tease in high school. I enjoyed getting my dates hard under their pants and not doing anything about it. I distinctly remember enjoying that. I was not afraid of sex (and did give a few hand jobs and blow jobs when in high school), I just found I really enjoyed sending them home hard also.

As a child, I was definitely the bossy one!


2. At what point did you become aware of david having a submissive side? Was it very early or was it some years in? Was it a particular event or did it just come out in conversation? Was it part of the attraction to him?

I was actually pretty clueless until his "great reveal" to me, and that was already several years into our marriage, plus a couple of years dating before that. My boy could sure keep a secret!


3. Do you think that david has become more submissive over time as you have played more intensely?

I don't think so. I keep pushing it more and more and discover new depths in his submissiveness, but I strongly believe it was there all along, it was about how much I had the skill to access.


4. Does david ever act 'macho' or protective of you?

He definitely does and I love it. There was once a confrontation with some drunks in the street and david was cool and composed and navigated our way out of it with assurance. It even got a bit physical and he did not show the slightest fear, which turned me on (after the fact!). Made me want to beat the crap out of him! This man, who was willing to take on three drunks in the street, would submit to me for his beating. Yummy!


5. Do you think there is a clear division between punishment and play spankings for you and david?

They are all play spankings, though our favourite play acting scene is strict wife and misbehaving husband for which I often pick out some real life thing and scene him without warning. Of course, this is where the lines get blurred. After it's all said and done, though, we both know it's a scene and debrief on it after the fact.

On the other hand, if he messes up, he knows a scene might be on its way, and he never refuses once I start in. So he does get punished for real things, but equally so for made up things (I got him legit punishment paddled by his trainer the other day for a totally made up offense).

So it's all very capricious and delicious!


6. Have ideas from your followers fed into how your relationship with david has developed or has it just been at the level of giving you occasional play ideas that have been fun?

Some ideas have been very concrete. But mostly it's just general inspiration and encouragement for me to outdo myself! He's had more public scenes than you can imagine in part because I receive such great feedback from my readers on those.


7. There is plenty of third-person play on your site, as with shop assistants in your recent post. This seems like something that might go out of control with unexpected negative reactions? Is this a concern - or part of the fun?

It for sure is a risk and it gets both of our hearts pumping like crazy with the adrenalin, so it is part of the fun. But I am very careful and monitor closely for any signs of a negative reaction, escalating slowly to keep everybody safe and happy. There have been some non-starters I have not blogged about because of the instant negative reaction to even a small hint.

However, generally our fears are overblown, and there are a great many women who love to see a wife publicly put her man in his place. I know I do! They live vicariously through us, no doubt wishing on occasion that they had such control over they naughty boys.


8. Third person play has mostly involved dominant females(?) Do you see where a male might be involved in domming david? or a second submissive, male or female, might be involved? Is there a safe/workable level for this sort of play that you can see?

I would love to involve another male, but so far that has happened only once: a hand job I arranged for him by a male massage therapist in Spain. However, he has not shown an interest in wanting to play more like that and I respect that.

A second female submissive he would for sure be into and is something I might definitely entertain at some point. I would love if I could make him have sex with her, and then make him suffer the consequences after. Something about having a woman willingly submit to being punished by, say, having to take my husband's cock up her ass just fucking turns me on. But holy crap he would get such a leathering from me afterwards, in front of her, that he might never want to repeat it!

And absolutely there is a safe way to do this. Just go slow and get to know the people you are going to play with.


9. A lot of D/s relationships seem to head toward more 'extreme' expressions like: cuckolding, chastity, forced bi/gay encounters, body modification (piercing, tattoos), bondage, Mistress/slave or stronger '24/7' arrangements. Is there anything that you think might develop on these lines?

I doubt it. We are very happy with our focus on domestic scenes with some public play mixed in, and keeping our play life and real life quite separate. He is not really turned on by those things (though I enjoy the thought of some of them!)


10. Do you find it incongruous for david to make straight 'male on top' love to you when you are aware of his submissive, or even occasionally slightly feminine side?

Not at all. We sometimes do just plain vanilla sex without the BDSM overtones. But I don't orgasm from his cock in my pussy. I need a tongue or strong vibrator down there, so that limits it a bit. I also don't particularly enjoy giving oral.

Also, he confesses that what turns him on the most when he is on top is imagining something a bit submissive for himself. One example he shared was him imagining I as a chambermaid that he was discovered having sex with and his aristocratic mother is behind him, whipping his ass with a crop and insisting he cum into the "little slut" who will be promptly whipped and dismissed after she has received the young master's cum into her pussy.

But no, I don't think of my husband as "submissive" or "feminine" except when the scene calls for me to, mainly because we spend a lot of time interacting in real life as well, I suppose, where he is neither of those two things. To us it's just fun play - like children!

11. Is there something about your vanilla life work, relaxation, hobbies that you would like to share?

I always feel I had better not. I like keeping "Julie" (not my real name) separate from my real life. But after many years of blogging, Julie has become my kinky avatar, and mixing my "real name" with all this kink is somehow less fun for me.


12. Do you get many hurtful or nasty comments that your followers never see?

Almost none. I generally can't resist the temptation to publish them so that I can tell them off (with kindness mostly?). I'll only not publish if we've already been back and forth and I want the last word.


13. Has there ever been a 'scene' that has turned into a 'train-wreck', perhaps where david has safe-worded out of a scene or been really resentful about how a scene has developed? So perhaps, scenes you would never repeat? Or do these things get sorted out OK in after the event open chats?

Yes. We once scened with a supposed pro and it was a disaster. I didn't even blog about it. But fortunately I was there and not afraid to control the action to keep him safe. Generally not when it has just been the two of us as I am very careful (much more so than my general readers assume).


14. Has david stated any hard limits? have any of these been relinquished?

Chastity and involving males are the two main hard limits that I would want to explore and he does not. So far not significantly relinquished!


15. David doesn't know about your blog. Do you think this will ever change?

I am constantly aware that he might discover it. For all I know he already has and it would be just like him to post anonymous comments and not let on (he is dastardly that way). He would respect the fact that this blog is my thing, and as long as I am discrete about our real life he would be encouraging, so I am not worried. If you're reading this, sweetie, thank you! I love you!


16. Do you have a 'dream scenario' or ultimate scene that you would like to do in real life with david?

Yes, I would like to meet up with another couple and have the boys 69 one another while the wives spank. I do believe you've drawn that one for me, in fact!

Kinky Ideas!

A couple of notable communications lately from bloggy readers.

Glenmore

I received an email from a fellow blogger Glenmore who is both a story-writer and an artist. I have him linked in my blog role to the right. the blog is called Glenmore's Adult Spanking Stories & Comics. It features many illustrated stories. He wanted to let me know that one of them was inspired by my blog! It is Bathbrush Encounter - Illustrated FM Spanking Story. He says "Reading blogs like yours gives me lots of ideas and inspiration, so I have written an illustrated story which is loosely based on your various adventures." With Glennies permission I include a few of the images from that story... I think you will be able to see the resemblance!

Just the sort of punishment I would inflict. And my husband does beg me like that to stop, but I know he loves it because of that thing down there. Mind you, when I really want to punish...

And then afterwards... ahhhhhh!

Bathbrush Encounter - Illustrated FM Spanking Story

cbtluvr

luvrboy sent me a series of suggestions. It's the sorts of things that turn him on, eloquently expressed. My comments in blue.

1. Have the submissive male stand against the wall, naked. Their feet should be shoulder length apart. Hand them a dime and tell them to press their nose to the wall, holding the dime against the wall with their nose. Tell the slave boy if he drops the dime he will get a 20 stroke caning. Now torture him by gently spanking his balls from behind with the crop, softly paddling his bare bottom with your hand or wooden spoon, pinching his nipples or tickling him. If he drops the dime, which most likely he will, he will get a good caning. Follow through and make tram lines in his cheeks. Be strict and angry if he drops the dime. Tell him Disobedience is swiftly punished.

I have definitely done similar to david. He tends to only drop that coin once per session!

2. Walk into cheap diner and sit in a booth in the corner away from every one. Order food for you and tell the waitress he's having water. Make sure he's not eaten yet that day and is hungry..... Before the food comes hand him a box with a pair of pink panties and a butt plug. Tell him to go in the mens'  room and put them on/in. Have him masturbate until he's hard.   Once he comes back to the table he sits back down. Under the table put your foot/shoe to his crotch as you eat, pressing hard , scolding him for being a bad boy, pressing your high heel into his jeans, trying not to alert the waitress or other patrons of what your doing. Tell him he's got to keep that plug in all nite and wear the panties too.

Sounds like fun, although I wouldn't be all that careful to not let the waitress know...

3. Find out his main fetish and what really turns him on. Put the slave in a CB3000 chastity device and tease him so he can't get an erection and if he tries it's extremely painful. He will be groaning and moaning to be let out. Offer a choice: he will be let out but he must take a single tail whipping or some other painful punishment on his bare tush. If he does not want a beating, he will stay locked in and you continue to tease him with his favorite fetish. Send him to bed with blue balls without supper. The next day spank his bare bottom so hard he cries and weeps. Keep him in chastity until you think he will serve you to the best of his ability. Tease him with your bare bottom cheeks and feet and breasts to test his strength.

I love the word "beating". Some don't, but I sure do!

4. For long-term live in slaves have the boy serve you dinner and clean the house in the nude and have rules where he must remain in the nude or dressed in women's panties at all times. Throw away his male underwear and have him wear satin panties. Shave his body hair: all of it. He's not allowed to sit on the furniture unless you give him permission and when you enter the house from being gone he must greet you at the door, kneel, and either kiss your bottom, feet or hands and he must thank you for being your slave. He must draw your bath and lay clothes out for you. He must brush your hair and cook and clean. Make rules for him to follow. He is not allowed to touch himself without permission.

One of my rules is that he stay naked, even when family or guests come by. When not needed, he goes to the corner and stands there facing outwards, squeezing his own two balls in his own two hands.

 

5. Keep him in chastity for days - even weeks at a time. Take him out from time to time to tease and torture him but put him back in before he makes a mess. Cock cages and ball rings work well.  Sometimes a slave will get excited and make a mess without permission or on accident. That type of behaviour should not be tolerated and the slave should be punished immediately.  A good, hard strapping on his bare bottom as he begs not to be spanked is appropriate.  Be steadfast, spank soundly, tell him how many strokes of the leather strap he is getting, and punish him until he learns a lesson in obedience and he promises not to make a mess again unless you give verbal consent.

100 strokes for a first offense. Doubles for a second the same week.

6. Loan him out to another Mistress and tell that Mistress he's been a very bad boy. If you are friend's with that Mistress you can trade slaves. If you go out to a play party, dress the slave in a school girl outfit and tie a small hand paddle around his waist. Make a sign and tie it around his neck that reads: "I've been a bad girl, please give me a spanking." Each Dominant Mistress at the play party will see the sign and he will have to bend over their lap for a few paddle spanks. Spank the slave until he begs and pleads you, Mistress to stop and that he will behave.

"I've been a bad girl, please give me a hard spanking, to tears."

7. Have a pair of dice. One die has 6 normal sides. The next die also has six sides but reads:   (wooden spoon, riding crop, wooden hairbrush, leather strap,  rubber paddle , wooden paddle). Roll them the number is the amount of minutes and the implement is what will be used.  Take him over your knee and have him set the timer. Ouch. Spank him hard until he cries out. HARD

Or maybe first die for hundreds of swats?

8. Strap on. Make him put a condom on your strap on and give it head as you wear it. Tell him he's going to please you and if he does not suck that cock to your expectations then he's in for a punishment, say a flogging to his balls. Slap his face as he gags on it. Let him know it's very disrespectful to have women do this and now the tables are turned.

So true. Your male needs to be punished for all males collectively. Nice and hard and deep and firm.

9. Have the slave masturbate and get erect.  Put as many clothes pins on his scrotum as you can fit as he keeps wanking. He is not allowed to make a mess and tell him if he does he will be over your knee and spanked with the wooden spoon until he safe words. Really emphasize he's going to get a spanking if he makes a mess. Tease him with your beautiful body and don't let him stop stroking. Eventually he will have to ask permission and you say NO. He does make a mess and you get very angry, scolding him for disobedience. Tell him he's in trouble and has earned an over the knee spanking.  Have him clean up well, hand you the wooden spoon, and spank his lily white bottom a nice scarlet crimson until he cries. This is a very hot scene....it hurts so much to be spanked  AFTER the boy has made a mess.

Safe word???  Not my boi.

10. Make a rule where he must never leave the toilet seat up or he will be punished. And if he is caught playing with himself without permission he is punished.  He is naked in the house at all times. When you catch him disobeying you, make him place the erect member on your stocking covered knee and pull out a wide, brown rubber band. Tell him to place his hands on his head and proceed to snap the rubber band against parts of his penis. *SNAP *. Do this a set number of times and tell him how many he will get. Then wrap the rubber band around the base of his cock and snap it a few times.  If he moves his hands swat his bare balls hanging and dangling and brushing against your stocking covered knee. Ask him if he will disobey you again after the snapping. I bet he wont. He will be a good boy.

I'll have to give the rubber band a try on my boy.

11. Buy a rubber or plastic carpet mat at home depot, the ones with the little rubber/plastic tacks on the bottom. Tell the slave it's his Punishment Mat from now on and he must sit in it AFTER his bare bottom spankings and canings. Once his bottom is blistered red, place the mat on a high stool  - tacks up. He must sit bare bottomed on the stool for one hour, hands on his head. This is for disobedience and he will not like it. 

He certainly will not like it!

12. Have him buy a wooden spoon, men's wide belt and a wood hairbrush, a bag of clothes pins at the dept store. Also have him buy Icey Hot rub. Tell the slave he must check out with a very pretty girl when he buys them and he must mention that he will be spanked soundly with the wooden spoon when he gets home by his Mistress for misbehavior and transgressions. Once you are home with him, he must get his cock nice and hard for you as he worships your bare cheeks. Place a large amount of Icey Hot gel on his bare and tender balls as he plays with himself. Don't allow him to cum and if he does whip him with a switch from the nearby tree.

I shall have to give the Icey Hot a trial also.

13. Tie the slave over a spanking bench or over the arm of the couch. He's naked and must keep his legs wide. He presents his bare balls to you and you have either 5 tennis balls or 5 golf balls, your choice. Sit about 10 feet from him as his bottom and balls are exposed. In sets of five, toss or throw one ball at a time at his testicles. Do this until you tire of it. If you hit his balls, tell him that he will be rewarded with kissing of your bare bottom - each hit and he gets one smooch. Increase the strength of the throws at the end and tell him he gets 2 kisses if you hit his balls.

That actually sounds like a fun game. Could take turns with my sister and see who hits his balls the most.

14. Dress in a short skirt and no panties, a skirt like a cheerleader outfit with pleats. The slave should be in chastity under his clothes with panties on. He's not cum in 12 days. Take the slave to the mall and find an escalator. He's behind you as you ride up, your bottom and thighs bare as you tell him to look up your skirt. Do this 5 times to drive him wild. Up and down the escalator. Moon him and raise the skirt so he gets a peak, his face right near your beautiful buttocks. Flash him. Tell him when you get home he needs to get an ice pack out of the freezer. Have him strip, take off the chastity device, give him a lap dance while grinding on his penis. If he gets a hard on scold him then place the ice bag up against his balls. Do this ten times..dance, erect, ice....dance, erect...ice....he will beg you to stop. To stop he must beg to be put back in chastity and sent to bed without supper. Blue balls accomplished.

The ultimate tease girl. Love it! 

 

Pants Shopping at the Mall

I took david to the mall the other day to buy some pants. He was down to just two ratty pairs of more casual pants so he really needed more. He kept putting it off and so I just took him. And you know with me there will always be some adventure involved. I did not disappoint.

We got to the mall and he was instantly surly. What's with males and clothes shopping anyways????  I guess it did not help that parking was a nightmare. We went into one shop, but they didn't have anything suitable. I saw another shop and I headed in there. david complained that it was no good before we even got in. I had to practically drag him in. He looked around very briefly and left right away. I followed him out. He hadn't really given it a chance. He looked at the mall directory and found a Levi's store. He thought we should try there. On the way to that store I saw a Lucky Brand store.

I went in. david, quite petulantly, stayed out in the mall stating that it was effeminate, or something like that. What nonsense!

I saw a big wall of some very nice looking men's pants. I was also helped right away by two very nice young women. There were no other customers and they looked eager to help me. It felt like it had been a dry spell for them. I endured the embarrassment of having to tell them that my husband was sulking outside. They understood immediately, and commiserated how difficult men could be when clothes shopping. We picked out several styles, and then finally david wandered in after I had not come out.

"Here's our model!" said one of the girls cheerilly.

I had told them he was one or two sizes larger than he actually was. I had measured him around the waist with a tape measure before we went, but it seems as if pant waists use different sized inches, and he took a smaller size than I had suggested.

"He's no 42!" one of the girls said. "He looks a lot trimmer than that."

I could see david smiling at the compliment from the attractive young lady.

"Yeah, he looks good!" said the other girl.

Now he was looking downright embarrassed. But I think the girls knew what they were doing, and no doubt it was a good sales tactic.

We sent him to the change rooms to try on a 40. He came out and the girls were very disapproving. The pants did not fit him well at all. Much too baggy in the seat and crotch. We decided he was for sure a 38, if not smaller. So we sent him back in to try on a 38. He came back out again. And he again had our full female attention. They looked like a good fit. A little room to spare in the waist.

"Turn around, sweetie, let's see your ass," I said in front of the girls.

He turned and we consulted with one another. "Looks good," said one of them. His ass did look good.

david said, "you know, it says 'Lucky You' just inside the fly."

"Really? Show us," I said. He asked for it, and I'm never one to back down from a challenge.

david hesitated.

"Come on, show us. Pull down the fly".

"no..." he said.

The girls were fascinated!

"Do I need to put you across my knee? Show us," I said. OMG!!!! Right in front of the girls. They tittered.

david sighed and undid the fly. He got off on it!

"Hmm! So they do," I said, "but I think you'd be the lucky one if I ever saw that."

We picked out five pairs, three jeans of different materials and two other pants.

"Now wasn't that a lot better than the Levi's store would have been," I told him as the girls were ringing him up.

"And the service is a lot nicer!" chimed in one of the girls.

The store was still empty except for us, and the girls had been very playful up to now, so I thought taking it a little further couldn't hurt.

"And you came in and you got your pants like a good boy," I added, "and you didn't even need a spanking this time." I figured in for a penny, in for a pound!

"Oooh," one of the girls reacted, "do you spank him a lot?" she asked coyly with a little grin. These girls were a lot of fun.

"Do I spank you a lot, sweetie?" I asked him.

"yes ma'am" he answered with his head down and blushing up a storm.

"Am I going to put you in your panties tonight and give you a spanking for being such a pain in the ass about your pants shopping?" I asked him.

"yes ma'am," he answered again, really blushing!

"Sounds like fun!" One of the girls said conspiratorially, and they both giggled at david's expense, no doubt picturing my man across my knee getting spanked in nothing but a pulled down little pair of panties.

I LOVE the younger generation!

Born to spank!