Wednesday, November 13

Timeouts

I was talking to a friend at work the other day who is an executive assistant to one of the male execs, and the subject of timeouts (in the context of her child) came up, and that inspired this blog post.


I have gotten to know this lady quite well: we chat almost every day and go out together fairly often for lunch. Her name is Abigail and she's from a Jewish family. She's married and has a one-year-old son and an almost three-year-old daughter. Her Mom looks after the kids during the day. She has a University degree and is pretty, smart, educated, and funny (though is still working on losing some of that baby weight).

Closest I could find of not her!

I often ask about her kids. She's been having trouble with the behavior of the girl lately. Not quite out of the "terrible twos" yet, she tells me. I ventured to her (heart pounding a bit) that when I was a kid I got smacked on the bum and that seemed to have done the trick. She seemed envious and said "if only!" Parents nowadays are not allowed to smack their kids. She says even timeouts are being questioned in favour of "positive parenting" (see Time-Out versus Time-In), but she still would favour timeouts.
Have you noticed that when you're a spanko like us (you readers you), even mentioning the topic of punishments, timeouts, and spankings makes your heart beat a little faster? But vanilla people can routinely talk about such things in regards to child rearing without ascribing any significance beyond face value, bless their little vanilla hearts.
Of course, forget about kids, I do, for real, put my husband in timeouts and smack his bum when he is naughty. We have a "scening FLR" (Female-Led Relationship for any newbies), not a "real FLR"; but I often find real-life excuses to start a scene, and he always submits to me when I start a scene, and I'm always super-realistic in playing the part of the FLR wife; so how different is that from a real FLR?

So while we were talking about the pros and cons of butt smacking versus timeouts versus "positive parenting" I could not help but think of my husband in this context, though I did not "spill the beans" at all to her (at least not yet).

Timeouts in and of themselves seem pretty scary. Here are some quasi-governmental suggestions for Using Time-Outs.
  1. Check the behavior and give a warning
  2. Tell your child why
  3. Have your child sit in time-out
    When you get to the time-out space, tell him to sit down. Tell him to stay in the time-out space until you say he can get up. When your child is in time-out:
    • Do NOT let anyone talk with him.
    • Do NOT let him play with anything.
    When you first use time-out, you may have to return your child to time-out several times.

    No one should give your child any attention while he is in time-out. Do not look at your child, do not talk to your child, and do not touch your child. Make sure your child’s brothers and sisters are also not giving him attention in time-out.

    Time-outs can be given anywhere (the grocery store, the car), but it still needs to be a time-out from anything your child may find fun and entertaining. In public places, your child might face a wall or something boring.

    If your child is not cooperating with time-out in a public place, you may take him to a place that is not surrounded by people. For example, you could take your child to a bathroom stall if he will not behave in the store.

  4. End time-out
  5. Praise the next good thing your child does
I love how this government website, whenever it uses a gendered pronoun, uses "him" exclusively as the example gender for timeouts. A bunch of femdoms in training!
As I read this, I could easily substitute "husband" for "child":
  1. Have your husband sit in time-out
    When you get to the time-out space, tell him to sit down. Tell him to stay in the time-out space until you say he can get up. When your husband is in time-out:
    • Do NOT let anyone talk with him.
    • Do NOT let him play with anything.
    When you first use time-out, you may have to return your husband to time-out several times.

    No one should give your husband any attention while he is in time-out. Do not look at your husband, do not talk to your husband, and do not touch your husband. Make sure your guests and relatives are also not giving him any attention in time-out.

    Time-outs can be given anywhere (the grocery store, the car), but it still needs to be a time-out from anything your husband may find fun and entertaining. In public places, your husband might face a wall or something boring.

    If your husband is not cooperating with time-out in a public place, you may take him to a place that is not surrounded by people. For example, you could take your husband to a bathroom stall in the ladies' room if he will not behave in the store.

See what I mean? Perfectly translates. I once read somewhere that while certainly not all punishments suitable for a grown man are suitable for a child, all punishments suitable for a child are also suitable for a grown man. Words of wisdom to an FLR-oriented wife.

My husband's timeouts are a little more harsh than would be appropriate for a child. I have him facing a wall in the living room where he is made to hold up a coin with his nose. I make him cross his arms behind his back and I tie something loose around them such as scotch tape. I can then go about my business knowing that he is secure in his timeout. If he moves at all the coin will drop and it is impossible for him to put it back without his arms. If he breaks the light bindings around his arms to help get the coin back, I will know that. I can actually even leave the house with him like that, secure in the knowledge that there is no way for him to not complete his timeout without me finding out. This image by Sardax is more illustrative of the position I am talking about.


The depicted timeout also includes gagging, feminization, a fully bared bottom, a female witness, and the imminent threat of a bare bottomed hairbrush spanking from his wife in front of the other woman (his mother-in-law perhaps?). These are all elements I have included in my husband's timeouts.

Length of timeout varies depends on his behaviour and my mood. We have done anywhere from five minutes to well over an hour. Even five minutes can seem like a long time to him when he's in timeout. Anything longer than that adds a greater element of physical punishment as well, as it is a stress position. An hour in timeout like this is a pretty severe punishment that he very genuinely would not want repeated.

I have an iron clad rule that if he breaks timeout, he restarts it from the beginning. If he is even a minute away from completing a thirty minute timeout, and the coin drops, he repeats the full thirty minutes (sometimes after a short sharp correction, but more on that later). The only acceptable conclusion for a timeout is me going to him, asking him if he is learning his lesson, getting a yes and an apology for the behaviour, and then me taking the coin from the wall myself, thus releasing him. I have applied this rule on multiple occasions, and am very serious about it, and he knows it absolutely. And believe me, after having done 29 minutes of a 30 minute timeout, the last thing he wants to do is drop that coin and have to start from the beginning again but with a freshly paddled or belt-strapped bottom.

While he knows how long his timeout will be during his "sentencing", he does not have a time reference during timeout, except sometimes I will let him know how far along he is if I am feeling nice: "only ten more minutes".

Even a timeout all by itself is an utter humiliation for a husband being sentenced to it by his wife. Of course, it is my husband's kink to be humiliated by me in this fashion, but it makes it no less humiliating for him. Elements of forced feminization are often present in my husband's case, from panties, to bras, to schoolgirl skirts, stockings and garters, and even dresses. A number of other women have been present while my husband was in just such embarrassing timeout, even some vanilla women.


Unlike for how the government recommends that parents deal with children, there is no prohibition against spanking husbands when they are naughty. So timeout is almost always either preceded by, or followed by (or both), some form of corporal punishment as well.

Most commonly, he is invited over my knee for a quite strict hairbrush spanking.


By the time I am done with him his bottom will be deep red and he will be madly kicking his legs, writhing across my lap, apologizing profusely for his behaviour, promising he will never do it again, and begging me to stop.


Of course, from my point of view, a spanking doesn't really start until after he is begging for me to stop, and he will be spending many more frantic minutes across my knee after he has reached that point. For an example of "my style", I refer you to the video I made with my husband (Strict Julie Spanks).

The spanking may take place in front of witnesses, and is in fact recommended wherever it can be managed.


The image immediately above shows a misbehaving husband in the 1980s being very publicly corrected by his wife in front of her two girlfriends she happened to have invited over for a drink that day. The infraction was a speeding ticket that he did not tell her about that she noticed immediately before the photograph was taken. Unfortunately for him, justice delayed is justice denied in this household, and so he was further embarrassed by having his wife's friends present to witness his embarrassing bare-bottomed punishment (to tears) and the one hour of sniffly-nosed pants-down timeout that ensued.


Spankings combined with timeouts have a long history between dominant females and submissive males.


Here, for example, we see a photograph from the 1950's of a mother who has just gotten done paddling her son's caboose in the front room. He was then required to stand in timeout facing the corner with his pajama bottoms puddled around his ankles and his hands on his head until bedtime. The choice of the front room was not accidental. Any siblings, relatives, or visitors will see the boy's timeout, the humiliation of which deliberately adds to his punishment. The state of his bared bottom also clearly signals that his Mother has taken very seriously the misbehavior that prompted his punishment, and paddled him strictly beforehand. This is of course incredibly embarrassing to have that known and displayed so vividly and in such a public location for a boy of his age. Moreover, he may well be waiting for his father to come home and apply a healthy dose of strap oil to that naughty bottom before he is sent to bed without supper, crying his eyes out like a six-year-old child. As a "Strict Wife", I derive considerable inspiration in how to deal with my husband from images such as these.

Some wives insist on full nudity during timeout, and in embarrassing locations in the house.

This one was stripped and switched and then
placed in fully nude timeout ("birthday suit punishment")
in front of a window with the shades open for viewing.
See him cowering in his corner hoping to avoid the gaze
of his neighbors in his present state?

Others are subject to embarrassing forced feminization treatments during timeout.

This one was put in white stockings and garter belt
prior to his spanking, and then made to do
timeout dressed "like a girl"

Extra "womanly" chores can be assigned while being "panty trained", ideally with other women there to witness it.

This husband was fairly severely whipped in his birthday suit and
then "panty trained" by his wife during kitchen chores immediately after.
His mother-in-law was allowed to stay and watch the whole thing.
In fact, she took this photo to show to her friends the severity of
the whipping her daughter delivers and how her son-in-law is
"panty trained" afterwards, a new and amusing concept for her.

Sometimes rather than being treated as females, husbands are treated like babies as part of their punishment.

One of the more humiliating and exposed positions for a spanking,
called the "diaper position" for obvious reasons.
His penis, testicles, and bottom hole are fully displayed and available
for whipping if the offense warrants it.
A diapering is often not far behind.

Another variant of the "diaper position".

Made more humiliating when assisted by a friend or relation, such as a sister.

Here we can more easily see the full extent of the husband's exposure.
When other women are present, this level of exposure is only used
when a point must truly be driven home and the husband put firmly in his place.
His heretofore private parts will be fully displayed to
all woman watching this husband's chastisement,
with absolutely nothing left to the imagination,
a level of exposure usually reserved only for his wife or doctor.

And as alluded to in some of the captions above, sometime husbands are even diapered by their wives for punishment. I have done this to my husband in front of other women.


He is then required to drink a liter of water and stand in timeout until he publicly pees his diaper and then very vocally and politely requests that his diaper be changed, which I will happily oblige even while my guests look on.

Some punishments, however, are best meted out in private.


This punishment is really the ultimate in terms of forced feminization that cause him to fully embrace his submissive side. To be honest, there is one step further which involves recruiting a muscular, well-endowed male who will take the husband across his lap for a long hard spanking, and then have sex with the husband as if he were a woman (oral and anal included - to completion). This is called forced-bi, and is a powerful weapon in a Strict Wife's arsenal that her heterosexual husband will fear above almost all other things.

A muscular recruit delivering "forced-bi" to this husband as punishment
under the direction of the wife. The gentleman is encouraged to leave a copious
"sperm deposit" deep up her husband's bumhole. During subsequent naked timeout,
the sperm will dribble embarrassingly down the backs of the punished husband's legs.

Before I close with a question for you regarding Abigail, I leave you with some miscellaneous photographs along the lines of this blog article that I collected and captioned for you while doing my photo search.

This is a spanking for masturbation.
Look at the very large hairbrush on the table in front of her
and the dirty magazine illicitly purchased by him that she is surveying.
His underpants will remain where they are before and during his spanking,
and afterwards during timeout as well. A week in diapers as an impromptu
"chastity device" is a possibility after such an offense.

Quite "mainstream" at one time!

A very serious looking FLR spanking!

So true!

A very sore bum for a feminized hubby.

Bare bottomed timeout.
Pre-spanking (I hope!)

An embarrassing little hand spanking that can be delivered
in the ladies' room or a change room in a store as a quick
"attitude adjustment" that can be reinforced once home again.
If other women walk in during this husband's chastisement,
it certainly would not bother me for them to stay and watch
in order to help drive the lesson home. Very many would.

An "extra" hard spanking for this husband.
His wife is making her displeasure known
in no uncertain terms.

A severe spanking in the relative privacy of the bedroom,
though the sounds of the scolding, of wood on bare flesh, and of his frantic cries
will be heard throughout the house, and especially by his wife's aunt
and cousins who are staying the weekend. He will be warned that if he
continues being unpleasant towards them, further spankings
and subsequent timeouts will by no means be as private.
A full apology to them will be expected, along with a dropping of
his trousers to show them all the full extent of his punishment.
He will then turn to deliver a bare penis apology.

Timeout with glowing red bum on display.
He knows that in ten minutes time he will be required to turn
and face his wife and her sister, hands at his sides,
and apologize for his atrocious behaviour.

A classic "heads down" spanking in the bathroom
allowing the legs to flutter kick freely.
[From a Kelly Payne video "The Internet Thief"
featuring blog reader NaturalSub
whose blog is A man getting spanked]

A typical spanking in an FLR household.
Corner time to follow.


This husband failed to perform his household chores for Thanksgiving weekend,
leaving it to his wife and her sisters to get them done. His wife is pissed!
As punishment, she has taken the unusual step of stripping him down to his
birthday suit in full view of her two younger sisters, and then handing him
off to their tender mercies for his spanking. They both deliver enthusiastic
punishments to his naked rear end, causing him to apologize repeatedly
and earnestly (if not frantically) to the sisters for his misbehaviour.
After the guests have left, his wife will take him on a long cold naked walk
by his ear to the woodshed for a strapping he will not soon forget.

And isn't that what it's all about?

Ahh! Letting the imagination run wild. I hope you enjoyed it!

Coming back down to earth...

I plan on taking Abigail out for lunch next week for her birthday. I wonder if I will get the opportunity to make a somewhat innocuous but slightly embarrassing comment about how I deal with my husband when he is naughty? We are good friends. I trust her and could swear her to secrecy. Thinking on it now, I would pretend we had a "for real" FLR which would set david up for an embarrassing evening at the company Christmas party where we will for sure spend some time with her. Thoughts? Inadvisable? Go for it? Let me know!

116 comments:

  1. Nice post Miss Julie. I believe as you do and many of us do, that adult timeouts for people like us are hugely important. Even the vanilla folks. If you ever get a chance to introduce an adult timeout to a vanilla person, they’re usually in tears and hugging you for it...crying out “thank you”.
    I had the opportunity to provide this for my cute neighbour not too long ago. She was stressed to the max and drowning in a sea of adult responsibility and screaming kids. A mere ten minutes with her nose to the corner was all she needed. She just needed someone to send her there.
    I’ve also been working with a corporate female who gets sent for timeout in her workplace washroom...bottom bare and timer set.
    We would all love to see your handiwork more often Miss, in David’s bum when you have sent him to the corner. On the rare occasion, the greatest treat of all is to see YOUR naughty bum on display in the corner. Standing, kneeling, sitting on a stool. Different positions for the arms...we’d welcome anything cornertime related from you and your David Miss. xoxo

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    1. That’s very cute about the young Mom :-)

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    2. Stress relief and an “escape” from it all, can come in many forms Miss.

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  2. As I told you I was wanting a spanking, I masturbated looking at spanking magazines, I showed them to the woman I married and the spanking was truly a spanking. Nothing kinky with our spankings, my wife reminds me, woman do not get turned on by seeing a man naked, more in control. I do face the wall, sometimes naked, most times just pants and underpants down. I have been spanked in front of her friends, my mother-in-law, and spanked by my mother-in-law. So this article was very good and as my wife states alot of times adult males are just little boys in adult bodies and so let the punishment fit the age. Jack

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    1. And so humbling for you boys.

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    2. Humbling very much so, but would have it no other way.

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    3. My wife loves me, spankings are just another way to show the love she has for me. Humbling yes, but over her lap reminds me that a warm stinging bottom I earned is her way of reminded me that loves comes in many forms.

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  3. Ms SJ

    Go for it. Telling Abigail that you give time outs to your grown husband may elicit questions about other forms of discipline, which I’m sure you’ll be happy to share.

    Irene has never used that phrase, but regularly leaves me to ponder my naughty, pouty, obstreperous ways after a thorough spanking - sometimes standing in the corner, sometimes tied to the bed.

    Last week, she dressed me in a pink lace nightie and tied me to a wooden chair in her dark closet. I was there long enough to get pretty darn bored but very eager to please when she finally released me.

    Sometimes when she comes back she’ll pretend to be someone else, a giggle at the thought of who might have been punishing me. Perhaps you can do that with Abigail. Leave David in timeout, then invite her over before you release him. That would be a fun way for them to meet.

    Best,

    Rosco

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    1. For sure once we get into timeouts for husbands, more will need to be said! At least about his spankings at a minimum I suppose. I wonder if I can do it “straight” and if that would be beleivable?

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  4. We don't have time outs such as standing in a corner. My wife uses the display (as we call it) position. After a spanking I may be put in that position which is on knees and elbows legs spread and my will spanked bottom facing her so she can admire her work, and leaves nothing to the imagination as she can see everything, my balls cock and even my back door. I may be left this way about 30 minutes or so and sometime end with her getting excited looking at my bottom and will end up pegging me while still in that position. David is sure lucky that you embarrass him with others seeing him getting spanked and sometimes them also spanking him. I'm sure it's embarrassing but is something he wants and needs. Our FLR is kept between her and I. sometimes I wish she would spank me in front of one of her girl friends.
    archedone

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    1. Hard to resist a good pegging after having you in display for 30 minutes, ‘just begging for it” with that spread open hole on display like that.

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  5. i think you should give her a birthday spanking!

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    1. I don’t know, she’s pretty assertive!

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    2. Then ask her to give you a birthday spanking

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  6. Hi Julie. Corner time and time-outs would have to be accompanied by some of the other embarrassing embellishments you refer to if they were to be effective. We don't do corner time very often, but when we do I tend to just kind of zone out in a way that is similar to meditation.

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    1. My husband gets very fussy in cornertime, gets very bored. Perhaps he needs to work on that with more practice?

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  7. Your descriptions of how cornertimes work are so hot! Especially the spanking interludes...
    And that government advice is also improved if you replace 'time-outs' with 'spankings'!

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    1. It would be fun to write a little “govt approved” webpage on husband spanking!

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  8. I was surprised how far you went in your advice, including forced bi which i agree is a powerful device in emasculating an errant male. I have always wondered how often dominant women do this, or if it is mainly fantasy?

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    1. Unfortunately, fantasy so far in my case. But Mistress Violet has clients and a male colleague who definitely act it out.

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  9. Inadvisable. Don’t mix work and kink. On the risk/reward spectrum it’s risk high and reward low. You can find plenty of Abigail’s to mentor outside of the workplace.

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    1. NOT so easy to find suitable women (I always have my eye out), yes highish risk, but disagree with low reward!

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  10. This kind of scening FLR is what I'm most interested in. I want a wife who takes any child punishment she knows or hears about and applies it to the discipline of her husband. I think any form of punishment that thoroughly emasculates or strips away the adult status of a male like myself is devastatingly effective as a consequence to avoid, while at the same time is an intensely erotic situation to both anticipate and to live with afterwards. The attraction/repulsion seems overwhelming. The FLR doesn't need to be 'real' -- I just want the scene to be disciplinary in order to maximize the embarrassment and humiliation. Your methods for David are so powerful!

    I certainly like the idea of trying to get Abigail involved. Bringing in an outside party to witness what they believe is real honest-to-goodness FLR discipline takes the scene to new heart-stopping levels -- in fact, it's a different scene that a non-witnessed punishment can't match, and it is also much more powerful than if Abigail was already into the scene. How exciting if this was all new to her, and your husband's punishment was some kind of astonishing revelation for her. I would love/hate to be in David's place, as the humiliation would be felt and continue to burn on the most painfully deep level. I don't know how personal you can safely get with this co-worker, so I wouldn't offer advice, but carefully drawing her in could potentially be such an exciting relationship.

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    1. Exactly! See previous comment. Very high reward! Careful is the key.

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  11. IMO the “Official” advice on corner time for children , amounts to mental cruelty.
    I live in a country where ,if a child is naughty , a swift smack follows,done and dusted..
    The child knows he/she has done wrong , so do you,you deal with it,now let’s move on.
    With adults it’s essentially a game with a “happy” feedback loop and satisfaction for both parties

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    1. “Cruelty”? Really? I think they generally do it for less than 5 minutes. But I like the bum smack approach also. Kids are too coddled with all this “positive parenting”, else world wouldn’t be going to hell in a hand basket.

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  12. You can follow the idea of Martin, make david cumming in his pants in the lady's room before you go to the birthday's ceremony. You insist that he does not wear any underwear. He has to button his pants with his belly and his thighs covered with cum and you arrange for a stain to be visible enough on his shirt above the belt.
    Once you and david are talking with Abigail , you suddenly notice that stain and you scold David for where it might come from!;-) You tell Abigail that men are really dirty little boys and you remind her of your conversation about timeouts. You add that, because it makes you ashamed, david should be put in timeouts like a child but he will get what's coming to him...

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    1. I love the thinking, but THAT may be a bridge too far!

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  13. Many careers/reputations have come unstuck at company Christmas parties. Don’t do it. Keep it vanilla.

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    1. We're not talking about a drunken Christmas party (and those don't happen so much anymore - thanks HR department!).

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  14. Of course you’ll have to steer Abigail from a discussion about disciplining toddlers to disciplining husbands. Does her husband support her efforts to discipline the children? Is she always the “bad cop”? If so he needs discipline himself and when the kids are in bed it’s pants down corner time for him and I’m sure she owns a hairbrush. From acorns oak trees grow. Mr D

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    1. There isn't a wife in the world who does not have some complaints about her husband (and Abigail has a few!)

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  15. Too right Ms Julie. All this liberal positive parenting nonsense! Your friend needs a dose of the old school. A sjambok followed up by a stiff 10 inches would soon put this socialist left wing political correctness into the proper perspective.

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    1. Totally agree! ;-)
      Legal age daughters who live at home under Daddy's rule should expect it :-)

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  16. Very hot Julie! WC

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  17. You remain the kinkiest woman on the internet!

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  18. Thank you, Julie, for including my pic on your page. I'm the one in the classic "heads down" spanking with the fluttering legs. That's from a video I did with Kelly Payne called "The Internet Thief".

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    1. Thank you for that. I added the credits!
      Also added your blog to my blogroll and will go take a peek (Mr. Monday, June 24, 2019 - get busy!)

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  19. I have a very attractive, young co-worker who is the mom of two small children. We were chatting recently and she mentioned how naughty her 3 year old daughter was and how she was considering spanking as a form of punishment. I was quite surprised by this but she went on to say she was spanked as a child and learned lessons from it and saw a lot of similar behaviours between herself and her daughter. And yes, my heart did beat a little faster. And I have to admit I have imagined her spanking me more than a few times since!

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  20. I can say from experience that it is VERY humiliating to have a diaper placed under you and then be spanked in diaper position, knowing the diaper will be fastened as soon as the spanking is over.
    As Abigail has two babies at home, she is probably an expert with diapers. Maybe you could “borrow” a diaper from her next time you are together in order to help curb David’s premature “accidents”.

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    1. I have a pack of adult sized at the ready, but perhaps she could teach me how...

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    2. Can you imagine a live tutorial with David as the subject?! Lol. I still like the idea of borrowing a diaper from Abigail, even if it is just used as a stuffer in the adult diaper. It just seems fitting that David be demoted to the same status as the toddlers who truly need the diapers. So embarrassing!

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  21. Great positions and corner time! Wish wife would include diapers..gosh, how to encourage that! s

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  22. About timeouts, a good friend has a story.
    One evening, they were a lot of people at home and her husband had angered her bull who had told him to face the wall to calm down.
    As he continued to laugh loudly with the other guests, her bull rushed on him and grabbed him by the waist of his shorts and lifted him off the ground. At home, her hubby was made to wear shorts and underwear rather loose and as his feet no longer touched the ground, they let appear his bum.
    She tells me that is peanuts came out through the crotch of his shorts while his willy remained camouflaged, well wrapped in his white underpants.
    She said her mother-in-law, who was present, often says with a laugh that she will always remember his two little nuts, completely shaved, out of his underwear.
    He was screaming "ouch! You stuck my balls ! It hurts !"
    but her lover did not appreciate that he uses the word "balls" (he thought he was too childish for that) and he put him in the corner butt naked, took his willy back between his cheeks and slammed his thighs until they were red. After that, she says they all called him the squirrel!
    What a story !

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  23. As you know, I am in a "real" FLRD (Female Led Relationship with Discipline). As far as I can tell, the only difference between your relationship and ours is that I am disciplined every time I break a rule. Mrs. Lion works hard to be consistent in enforcement. Other than that, I think we're pretty much in the same boat. You are just a strict, maybe stricter, with your punishments. Of course David wants it that way. Truth is, so do I.

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    1. Yes, I'm trying to figure out the difference between "Real" and "Scening" and am struggling. Maybe its in the mind of the top?

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    2. The way I see it, the difference between real and scening is the intent. If it's to modify behavior or attitude, or to satisfy a sense of justice, then it is real discipline. Without that, it's a scene only to pursue the kinds of feelings that a real discipline situation tends to evoke. I think it is possible that a relationship can include both real discipline and discipline scenes. My guess is that if someone is attracted to discipline, the lines between real and scene can be fuzzy at times.

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    3. I also agree with Brett. I would not say to Abigail that we have a "for real" FLR, it might worry her. I would tell her the truth, that is : david sometimes likes to be treated like a child with all that implies but that it is a game and that it would be fun if, at the Christmas party, she showed David that she has been taken into my confidence at our last lunch.David would not know what she knows exactly.

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  24. I don't know about meeting Abigail, but I have a suggestion to spice up david's timeouts. Tell him he's going to get a timeout, but with a twist. Tie his hands behind his back (for real, I would say, not just for show) and then get him erect and hard. Make him stand in the corner and hold the coin with his penis. This will force him to maintain the erection (ie, think dirty thoughts) for the duration of the timeout, which will naturally play right into his kink and increase frustration. Whether you choose to relieve that frustration at the end of the timeout is, of course, up to you.

    I would suggest starting with shorter durations, just to see how he does. An hour would be too long, I'd think, for any man in his 40s. (Although, if you have a chance to discipline a younger man...)

    Anyway, just an idea. As always, love your blog. :)

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  25. I don't know if this is a timeout, but it is similar. There is a couple that have a winter home here that allow me to play a small part in their scenes. The wife treats the husband like an errant child, with a bedtime, pajamas to wear, and punishments for misbehavior. Twice now, when i have arrived, hubby is visible on all fours through an open bathroom door, his pajama bottoms are around his ankles, bare bottom very red and striped with an enema nozzle and tubing in place.

    Both times the wife tells me about his misconduct and he remains like that for quite a while before she completes his punishment.

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    1. Holding an enema for a while can be nasty!

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  26. Yes it can, but i wasn't clear, she has him wait with nozzle in place before the actual enema. Last year i bought them a penis shaped nozzle for xmas, if there is a way to include a picture here i will. It is cute to see him in that position, his face as red as his bottom from blushing when i arrive.

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    1. Nice. Waiting for it. Knowing it is coming.

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  27. I love the 1950’s picture of the mother carrying the paddle (or strap) up the stairs and the naughty son doing corner time with his pyjama bottoms pooled around his ankles in the family room. You have commented well on the embarrassment of the son having his spanked bottom on display in a public part of the house. Personally, I am always turned on by images of women carrying spanking implements up stairs. Carrying the paddle or strap up or down stairs before or after the spanking speaks to a mother or wife’s determination to properly chastise a naughty husband or son. I wonder about the narrative order of these two pictures. Maybe the mother is taking the paddle upstairs to the scene of the punishment? Or maybe she is going upstairs to put it away after the punishment? Or maybe she spanked her son by hand, but she thinks he isn’t sorry enough, so she has gone downstairs to fetch the paddle while her son waits for the second part of his spanking? Or maybe a daughter got in trouble together with the son, and having disciplined the son the mother is on the way upstairs to take care of the daughter waiting nervously in her room? Or maybe the woman keeps that paddle in her room where she sometimes uses on her husband, and she is going back upstairs to put it away after paddling her son? The picture could tell so many different stories.
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    1. Yes. Your imagination can run wild thinking of the possibilities.

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    2. I'm not a little boy the husband would be saying as his wife puts away the paddle. The wife responding, who is facing the corner, wearing jammies and a very red bottom on display. The husband responds I'm sorry Mommie, The wife saids at least you got Mommie right, I'm not only your wife but Mommie at times. Jack

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  28. what would your respond be if He vDavid or I /anybody stomp our feet yell NOooo when you tell us go in corner for time out?

    would you get more mad would you pick up paddle or hairbrush give us the look ask us WOULD WE LIKE A SPANKING OR WERE GOING BE SPANKED IF DONT GET INTO CORNER RIGHT NOW

    i can picture you dishing out spankings for refuse get in corner then another spanking much worse after time out then back time out corner but longer then first time 1) time out be 1 ho second 2) time out be 1hr and half 1/2 to 2 hours but be in the nude

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    1. That answer is simple, my wife would spank my bottom so hard then and there, and my time facing the wall will be longer. I tried that once, I will not do that again. She treated me like a naughty little boy. Was given a bath that I would not want again. Put to bed early, had to wear my pajamas the next day, all day. What made it worse was my mother-in-law decided to drop in. Heard what had happen, I had to show her my red bottom. Once she left, my wife scolded me, had me stand with the bottoms of the pajamas down in the front room, told I was going to be spanked, but not when. That spanking just told me never, ever, do it again.

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    2. Yes. Spankings and naked timeouts, no matter who is there to see it.

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  29. As I understand it, you intend to lie to Abigail and make her believe that you are having a real FLR with david so that he will be really mortify at the party?
    Is she not likely to feel manipulated? Georges

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    1. Not only "real" but also he agrees and is kinky.

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  30. I think with Abigail you need to quickly steer the discipline conversation away from children to husbands. You could innocuously say “oh if my husband did that he’d soon regret it”. Then at the Christmas party he’ll fetch the wrong drink or make some mistake and in front of Abigail you can pat his cheek and say “we’ll be dealing with that later”. Hopefully this will lead to a demonstration one day. You won’t be able to push it too far at first - but a bare bottom spanking followed up by a bare penis apology would make a good start.

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    1. Bare bottom only at first would be enough!!!

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  31. I agree that forced-bi is an important weapon in a strict wife’s arsenal. I resisted it for years though. To me it was far more humiliating than having my spanked bottom and private parts shown to women as, being an exhibitionist, this actually gave me a secret thrill. Eventually my wife put me into training. She cured my gag reflex by making me place my toothbrush deep in my throat every day and we watched gay porn and I practised cock sucking on dildoes regularly. There was a lot of role play about how I would be made to suck cock for real one day. Eventually as my gag reflex was controlled and I became more confident in my abilities - I wondered more and more how it would be to take a real cock? I finally agreed to try it and my wife hired a male dominant. I was nervous that I was about to cross a line but I did it. There was much encouragement and praise, “you’re doing so well baby, suck that fat cock for mummy” Highly humiliating but so satisfying to make Mummy proud.

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  32. I have also coaxed and cajoled my hubby into sucking cock. Initially he was very reluctant. Although he is my subbed, I decided to slowly work on changing his mindset. I promised to allow him extra privileges like sucking my nipples, and more frequent opportunities to cum. The clincher was a once in a lifetime session with one of our best friends, an absolutely stunning brunette ( I am blonde; all over). He got to lick her pushy, kiss her blobs and cum on her feet; which he immediately and obediently licked as he always does.
    In return, I got to watch him suck a nice big black cock, struggling as he tried not to gag. The male was an office colleague of mine who is gay. I tell hubby that next time he is going to get flicked like the girl he is; although I will throw him a sweetener I exchange. He is not sure whether he wants to go thru the experience, but I know I want to see him squeal as a real cock (he has known only my dildo) penetrates him. Love Pamela

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  33. Dear Miss Julie. You are about as sensitive and intuitive a person I’ve come (cum) across in the spanko world. I’d say you’ll know exactly how far you can go with her once you get into it.

    Meanwhile, corner time is on the top of my love/hate punishment list. Love the anticipation of being naked in the corner before a spanking, but get antsy with long duration timeouts following a good strong spanking.

    I liked the commenter who outlined a little bondage to go along with corner time. I’m often handcuffed behind my back and placed naked near a window for my timeouts. It might also include leg bondage so I really can’t move around. And try nipple clamps - they can provide a real attention grabber for the detainee. Hee Hee. TL

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  34. "A muscular recruit delivering "forced-bi" to this husband as punishment
    under the direction of the wife. The gentleman is encouraged to leave a copious
    "sperm deposit" deep up her husband's bumhole. During subsequent naked timeout,
    the sperm will dribble embarrassingly down the backs of the punished husband's legs. "

    Excuse me if I repeat what was already written.
    It is a pleasure to repeat what you liked to pay tribute to the one who had the idea.
    The most important thing is obviously that everything happens under the direction of the wife. Of the two males, the object it’s not who you think it is. Incentives for the "gentleman" to send a good amount of cum deep into the punished husband's rectum is only a prelude to his extreme later humiliation when he feels the semen drip publicly from his ass and fall on his thighs and his bare legs.
    That the woman has already considered this humiliating result when her husband is still mulling over the humiliating acceptance of being fucked is all her luminous perversity.

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    1. Oh yes! Thinking ahead always.

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    2. One step beyond
      While the husband feels the cold sperm get out of his anus and sink slowly inside his inner thighs, he let out a little squeack when he feels the thick fingertip of the guy who just fucked him sink into his anus and make a circular motion to recover sperm coming down from his rectum.
      The man approaches his spermed finger from his mouth, the husband turns away with disgust but the man grabs him by the hair and smears his lips with cum : "a spoonfull for daddy, little slut"
      Tears come to his eyes, both because of the pain of the hair pulled and the ignominy he suffered while his wife is watching.

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    3. It can NEVER be embarrassing enough.

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  35. When the Human Resources Director, Madame Dubois, finds out that you have been introducing distracting and non productive kink to the workplace, she’ll give you a taste of your own medicine. At the Christmas party your corporate suit, blouse and bra will be publicly and ceremonially stripped off and an elf Christmas hat will be placed on your head. Standing only in your hat and heels and with your panties around your ankles and your hands on your head, you’ll do corner time at the party for all to see.
    Then Madame will write “all I want for Xmas is a spanking” above your ass cheeks in bright slut red lipstick and will leave a paddle as a spanking implement next to you.
    Abigail will be invited to give you a biblical “eye for an eye” spanking first while the rest of your staff queue for their turn. Merry Xmas.
    cheeky sub.

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  36. My sister in law was visiting us with her 2 children, i was newly married then and they stayed with us for a week, one day her children did something and i heard her rebuking them, one got cheeky, she removed her slipper and spanked him.
    It was a short child spanking just 4-5 whacks, but the way she held the slipper and the rebuking and threat of further punishment turned me on, also it was the first time i realized she had nice feet.
    Ever since, i always welcomed the idea of my wife (who is a foreigner) inviting her relatives to visit and sleep over.
    I enjoyed their feet and seized any opportunity when i am alone at home to kiss and lick their slippers, even spank my self with their slippers.
    Sometimes, i venture stealing a visitor's home slipper on the night of their departure after they are packed and i know they will not wear it again, or some of her relatives come with so many foot wear that i find a good opportunity to snitch one unnoticed.

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    1. It's a small step from spanking a child mildly to spanking a male relation forcefully!

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    2. My sister in law, her cousin and a friend are coming next week for a 5 days visit.
      I am curious to see the friend's feet.
      I already have a slipper i snitched from my sister in law, the cousin wears socks all the time, even in the bathroom she changes them inside, i never got to see her feet before.

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  37. No matter how the spanking is given, I have found that my wife knew from the beginning her lap would be occupied alot. I've have never been happier, thank's to this blog especially, it is the best. From that first spanking, it hurt, I felt foolish, I felt little, I knew it was for my own good. Been spanked in front of my mother-in-law, a couple of my wife's close friends, seen facing the wall with a very red bottom. I admit I wanted to be spanked, but learned that there was more to it. My wife found that the spankings were not getting the results she wanted. I was told I would be calling her Mommie, I protested, sitting was a problem. Pajamas, were to be worn, little boy pajamas. If asked why I'm facing the wall, or squirming in church, or even out to eat, I must say that I was spanked for being a naughty little boy. My states sternly you wanted to be spanked and I too have wants, and so you best accept them. I'm erect prior to a spanking, sometimes she makes me wait, it hurts. Once over her lap it is quickly gone, she could care less about the mess I leave. So once again if it was not this blog and how my wife has decided to punish me and for me to accept, the outcome would be different. So Thank You. I know you understand why I need to be treated like a naughty little boy at times, my wife does, and I still plead, beg, tell Mommie I will be good, but Mommie still insures I learn my lesson, no matter how much I squirm, kick, and no matter if my mother-in-law is present or a close friend. Yes I'm Thankful so Thank You from the bottom of my heart, what a god send you have been. Jack

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    1. What? You leave a mess over her lap? Naughty boy!

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    2. Can’t help it, my wife is more concern with the spanking. She will make a comment afterwards “Did you erection go away”?

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  38. Just remember the golden rules,
    "Don't shit where you eat"
    "Don't mix business with pleasure"

    Then go ahead and spank david as much as you can and put him in the corner, long timeouts.
    Or get Sue to spank you, give you long timeouts......

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  39. I like the timeouts in Lumasoc's drawings. Husbands are either sitting on a hot water bottle or tied to a heater or an ironing board. There is always an iron which let steam escape, waiting somewhere in the room.
    Hot.

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    1. Just checked them out. Nice!
      I like the sitting on a radiator after as punishment!

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  40. I spank my wife and put her in time outs, when she was pregnant, it was not possible to spank her.
    This made her get a bit cheeky, so one day i really had to punish her, moreover the doctor said she should rest and lie on her back but she did not do that and said she wanted to go out to the mall.
    I remembered seeing a falaka clip a while ago, so i thought why not, if i use a cane, it is light and won't shake her body like a paddle and it is applied on the feet soles, away from her belly and her feet will hurt so it will difficult for her to walk so will have to rest.
    I tied her securely and tied her feet tightly but kept them resting on tgw bed (not raised like the usual falaka position), i sat on a chair to be in a position to cane her feet while they are on bed and not well presented like the normal falaka position.
    I gave her moderate but so many strokes, till she was in real tears but was careful she does not shreak from a lighting stroke.
    Her feet were well punished, she was back to her obedient self as she knew she still could be punished.
    I only had to punish he 2 more times like thar till she gave birth and we returned to the usual spanking.

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    1. I wonder if there is a fetish category for pregnant wife spankings?
      What am I thinking!? There’s a fetish category for everything!

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  41. The birthday lunch with Abigail was it finally the occasion of a confession (a small time bomb for david) ?

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  42. Why not ask Abigail about her opinion in spanking ways (position, Implements, number of strokes, etc...).

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  43. Rogering here. Well you certainly threw the kitchen sink in with this story Julie.

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  44. Any spanking news from Abigail?

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  45. IMy husband was vanilla for a long time but we had an open marriage and I've always enjoyed spending time with friends who share my interests. He eventually got interested in my kinks and has wanted me to discipline him as I've done with friends and their husbands. So he gets spanked now and that may be preceded or followed by corner time. A domme friend once told me that requiring a man to wear panties for the day before being spanked got him ready for the disciplining. So I now have him wear my soiled panties from when he gets dressed in the morning if he is to be spanked later. When he goes to the corner, I find that pulling the panties down just below his bottom exposes him and embarrasses him if anyone should be visiting. I have also begun using the diaper position and started to regulate his toilet use as a disciplinary measure.

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  46. Wow I won't show this blog to my wife. We've been in a spanking relationship for over 27 years since we began dating. At first for play and after a year or so we progressed to real punishment spankings. For the last twenty years I'm the one who is spanked whenever she decides I need it. Punishment spankings are very embarrassing and painful as they should be. I always have corner time. I will usually be over her knee and well paddled while being scolded followed by 20-30 minutes in the corner. She will then put me over the ottoman or the arm of the couch or chair and use a belt, large paddle,strap or switch. She has occasionally used a strap on dildo when she's done. Seven years ago I agreed to be spanked with two of her friends and co-workers present. It had been a fantasy of mine and was exciting. I found out that when it actually happened I was a lot more nervous and embarrassed than I thought it would be. Very humbling to have these two women, one who is twenty years younger than me, see me stripped and have my bare bottom displayed in various positions. It made me much more aware of getting a scolding and how much I was squirming and wiggling my bottom as I yelled and pleaded. Eventually they both spanked me as well. I absolutely hated the corner time with my sore,red bottom on display. I've never had another man see me spanked let alone having him dominate me. I did witness one of her friends spank her husband when my wife and I were at their house and she got very upset with his attitude. This was somewhat embarrassing for me but my wife took it in stride. After he was in the corner for a half hour my wife put him over her knee and paddled him to years. When he had spent another half hour in the corner his wife bent him over the arm of the couch with his head down on the cushions. She got a belt and her and my wife decided that I would give him a good strapping. I was informed that if I didn't let him have it until he was sobbing like a little boy and begging for me to stop then I would be the next one spanked. I felt so bad for him even though I knew I had at times been just as severely strapped. I'm now worried that they are going to plan the same thing for me. I love reading your posts but I just can't see myself going that far.

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    1. Yes, I agree, I think you have a man-strapping coming. And given your wife chooses strap-on dildo punishment (meant to humiliate you), I see no reason why, at some point, both men will not be submitting to the ultimate humiliation...

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  47. All this is really fantastic!
    I didn't think a blog like this existed, but it's amazing!
    I am in a little different field, the martial arts one, but the outcome is the same.My girlfriend is a strong martial artist, way stronger than me, and we started dating after the first time she defeated me in the gym...since then, we've started a mistress/slave relationship :-)

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    1. Interesting! More wrestling or punching?

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    2. More wrestling and BJJ, she usually can tap me out in a couple of minute and I really can't defeat here even once :-)

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    3. That’s sexy! She should pin you, strip you, and spank you!

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    4. Ahahaha, she usually does!After the spank I have to lick her pussy and after we have sex :-)

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  48. Miss Julie, have you been able to broach the subject of spanking with Abigail? I always enjoy reading about you corrupting vanillas.

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