Tuesday, March 17

Kinky Marriage Counselling

Amidst all the scary Corona stuff out there, and given that folks will more likely be at home for a while with time to kill and lacking some of their usual entertainment outlets, I figure the best way for me to contribute is to keep on blogging. So I made a special effort this week for you with a nice long story!
A little while ago I orchestrated a scene for an online fan of mine. It involved himself,  Mistress Violet, and another Pro Domme on a "marriage counsellor" theme roleplay. What fun!


This is a married older male fan (in his fifties) who reads the blog and emails me every now and then. He is a natural subby, but has a wife who is not "into" playing at all. He says he tried with her, and that she tried as well, but that her heart was not into it, and he felt bad continuing to try to play on those terms (on top of being unsatisfied). But he absolutely wants to stay with her, and still enjoys having vanilla sex with her and being with her. So, he jerks off a lot to my blog.

little monkeys, all of you ;-)

He asked my advice at one point on discretely visiting a pro. Advice, or maybe permission? At any rate he seemed to be a loyal husband, so I was happy to give him my blessing, on condition that he could keep a secret. His first choice was of course my recommendation, Mistress Violet Mays.


He did visit her a couple of times and enjoyed it a lot. It was a good outlet for his kinky side and the little missus was none the wiser. Mistress Violet kept it very strict, caring, and professional, of course, and gave him what he needed without risking his marriage with any long term emotional entanglements (and lest you think I'm a hypocrite, I've sent my husband to Mistress Violet as well, together with me and alone on occasion).

Not so long ago this fan emailed me again, and said he really was turned on by the "humiliation" sort of thing (that my husband and I do a lot of), where he could be spanked by one woman in front of another. He asked me if I could play the witness. I could not, of course. I am very careful to keep blog life and real life quite separate, even when I feel 100% safe. Just a hard and fast rule for me. But I don't mind him asking (who knows, maybe one day I'll say yes to something like this). I suggested that he should come up with a scene concept, and then ask Violet's advice on choosing an appropriate witness/participant amongst her large group of contacts (Violet is highly respected within the Toronto BDSM community and abroad, and often plays "concierge of kink" to keep it fresh).

He asked if I would apply my "remarkably kinky imagination" (his words) to helping him to come up with a scene. I agreed to that, of course.

Because we had discussed his wife a bit, and I enjoy mind games, I suggested a wife / marriage counsellor theme for him. He would be some kind of bad / lazy husband who refused to do any of the "women's work" around the house. This resulted in arguments that threatened the marriage, a dwindling of sex, and constant masturbation in front of his computer to the further detriment of their sex life. Moreover, while not becoming violent, the husband had become borderline abusive towards his wife while arguing, and she feared for her own safety. In fact, it was so bad that the wife had mentally accepted a divorce, but that they would go visit a marriage counsellor as a last chance sort of thing. The marriage counsellor would hear them out, and then suggest what should be done. She heard them both out and concluded quickly that while in many cases there are two sides to a story, in this case the husband was completely in the wrong and needed his attitude adjusted. As the husband desperately wanted to save the marriage (and it helped that the wife had a giant trust fund that was coming to maturity), the husband agreed to do everything asked of him without questioning it during a month long "CBT" program (NO, not that! "Cognitive Behavioural Therapy", sillies). To paraphrase from Wikipedia,
"Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or CBT for short, is a psycho-social intervention that aims to address deep-seated issues. It focuses on challenging and changing unhelpful cognitive distortions. Most importantly, it directly addresses behaviours, and helps in the development of coping strategies that target solving current problems."
We floated the concept past Violet and she loved it and said she had somebody perfect in mind. Violet chose to play the wife, and she asked an older disciplinarian-oriented Pro Domme in Toronto to play the marriage counsellor. He set a date with the two of them, and then he and I collaborated on fleshing out the scene, and then sent it to Violet for her review. Here was Violet's response
I LOVE this scene as it really allows me to showcase a range of emotions (thank you, scriptwriter), and I really like the psychological mind fuck of accepting the divorce, then forcing my husband into a corner... I ALSO really like it that I'll be the less experienced woman in this scenario, learning from the therapist as she shows me how things are done. I will have lots of fun!
(Isn't Violet grand?)

After it was arranged, I knew I wanted to publish something concerning the event here on my blog, so I went into the scene concept we created and fleshed it out even more for publication. But I just could not stop, so in the end I wound up writing a 60-page story (I got carried away!).

Too long for a blog post, so I published it on an illustrated "Fiction with Julie" page, titled The Marriage Counsellor (of course). I changed the names of the characters as follows.
  • Julie, the wife
  • David, the husband
  • Dr. Joyce, the marriage counsellor
  • Cherie, the receptionist
  • Beth, Julie's little sister
  • "Julie's Mom", Julie's Mom
  • James, the handsome man in the elevator
(yes - carried away!)

The Table of Contents is as follows.
1. Trouble in Paradise
2. The Story Gets Told
3. The Hammer Drops
4. His First Session
5. David at Attention
6. David Confined
7. David Paddled
8. David Plugged
9. David Outfitted
10. David Made Into a Woman
11. David Spit-Roasted
12. David Rewarded
13. The Family Lends a Hand
14. David's New Lease on Life
Chapters 1-3 are a bit slow-paced but set the scene so you can suspend disbelief (at least a little?) for the remaining 11 chapters which are all "action packed".

Now the scene concept that my fan played out with Violet and her colleague did not do everything described in my story by any means. And for the sake of the privacy of all concerned, I will not get into what parts were and were not played out. Suffice to say I got the whole scoop, and the scene was, well, VERY GOOD for him! In fact, my original scene concept pushed a few boundaries with him, and the actual scene blew right through them in spades. Of course it included a full stripping in front of the two lovely ladies, and a very strict OTK spanking with a paddle that had him well-blistered, but there were many other things he was required to do as well, some of them very uncomfortable for him indeed, and all highly, highly humbling, which was his ask. Oh what fun!

We will neither confirm nor deny, but try figuring out for yourself what things from the story were acted out, and which ones were not, in the comments below. I'll give you a "hotter / cooler" feedback. Ha ha!

Enjoy the read and come back here to comment!

66 comments:

  1. I have not yet read the entire story, but I found one thing in Chapter 4 (His First Session) very interesting. Dr. Joyce says that David is basically submissive to female authority, but has become programmed towards male dominance as a result of societal influences. It was similar with me, for a long time I suppressed my submissive feelings.

    Fortunately things have changed. When I finally told my partner about my submissive feelings a few years ago, she was quite happy with the idea, it seems she had latent dominant feelings which she had also suppressed. She now spanks me quite often, sometimes so hard that I can't sit down for the rest of the day, and I do more of the housework than previously. We have also discussed the idea of her putting me in chastity, not 24/7, but at times when she thinks I might be tempted to masturbate.

    Thanks very much for your blog and for your exciting and encouraging stories!
    john

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    1. Wow. That sounds fun! Spanked until you can't sit down for a day. Mmmmmm. Plus doing the housework! Love it!

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  2. I'm just reading the second chapter and I feel like a cat on a tin roof. The best is really before the beginning ... and what is after the beginning...

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    1. Yes! Anticipation building. Objections overcome. ...

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  3. Ms. SJ

    I have started this story but will savor it on not rush through it.

    I really like stories/fantasies where the scene is developed wherein a man is required (unwillingly) by a third party to submit to discipline and humiliation as both penance and behavior modification.

    And my own strongest fantasies involve building on real-life situations in my past. Usually I am not treating my girlfriend with the respect she deserves, and her best friend tells her that together they need to teach me some manners. Sometimes I fondle my girlfriend in public in ways that embarrass her. Sometimes I am caught peeking up the friend's skirt. Sometimes I fail miserably when it is my turn to cook and serve so I am dressed as french maid. In all cases her friend takes the lead in first spanking me then taking things further.

    My wife Irene has adopted this fantasy her own (lucky me!), and often takes on the role of her best friend Laura as well as others. Only maybe 10% of my fantasies involve movie stars or women I have never met.

    I am looking forward to reading further.

    Best,

    Rosco

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    1. Sounds like fun Rosco. Maybe your wife and you should roleplay it with a pro?

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  4. I couldn’t stop reading it. I would absolutely love to live out that fantasy because I just can’t get enough spanking or the strapon to suit my incredible drive for it. Thank you for all the wonderful kink in your blog.

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  5. You could respond to my email and make me a sub for a day, i already sent 3 emails

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    1. Maybe you'll get lucky on #4? :-)
      No seriously, what email do you use? I'm not deliberately ignoring you.

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  6. What a well written and thought out story.

    Good that the wife has bought her husband under her thumb and learnt to properly administer the discipline he clearly needs.

    A pertinent lesson to all us husbands. A good paddling brings rapid modification of errant behaviour, as I know from a few visits over my wife’s knee. Indeed the threat of the hairbrush is sometimes enough to engender panic and a rapid eagerness to please her.

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    1. So true. Folks who think you can't modify a spanko's behaviour through spanking are ignorant. Sure, they get off on a regular spanking. But deploy a fierce paddle, or thick leather, or a Delrin cane, and you'll get a genuine (albeit temporary) change in behaviour.

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    2. My wife has a special hairbrush, changes my behavior, she has read your blog, enjoys, but tells me that my spankings I will not be able to sit, and trust me that is true. She has changed somewhat over time. Like a normal male I always get an erection, she will have me address it or the past couple of months have had to sit on her lap, naked, and she addresses it with oil and does not go easy. The bottom line if it wasn't for her taken charge, applying the spankings are marriage would be over and I would not be the man I'm today. Jack

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    3. For myself having clearly defined boundaries and expectations around behaviour are very helpful. Also knowing the strap or hairbrush is the result of not keeping in the boundaries helps. As my wife says, I’ve bought it on myself as I submit to punishment.

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    4. I disagree. I think ill-defined and arbitrary boundaries and expectations keeps a husband on his toes.

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  7. “A Delrin Cane” just the name makes me fear it.

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  8. Mistress Julie,

    My thoughts as I read through your blog:
    Is she talking about me?
    That sounds like me!
    It isn’t me.
    I wish it was me!
    Mistress Violet sounds amazing. Not THAT far from me, but I’m sure she’s out of my league unless somebody sets up a GoFundMe page for me. Now that the “Maple Curtain” has dropped between our countries, i can’t cross the border no matter what the attractions are.
    Your story is hitting me hard, maybe because it was written for/about somebody like me.
    As I got into the story, of course I had to assign actors for the roles. David is me, of course. That was easy. I played with some options for the wife and Dr. Joyce. At first I considered Mistress Violet, as in the original. But I finally decided on you as the doctor and my actual wife as the wife. But I didn’t make you older! You get to stay your age! The spanking scene description made me quiver and wish that someday I might be across your lap for real. I know you said things like that will not happen, but I will continue to dream about the possibility, however remote. Is putting you in my fantasy without your permission a “me too” moment?
    The role that is really working for me is that of “Cherie” I know you know who is playing that role in my version of the fantasy! It’s like it was written for her! I haven’t finished the story yet because of her. When “Cherie” locked me in chastity was the first time I lost control and spurted hard into my hand. It was more than a week’s worth of cum, and yes, I licked it up! Several hours later, I started the story and lasted until “Cherie” started prepping me for the butt plug. I didn’t even make it to the insertion before I was spurting again! And another load “down the hatch”! The thought of “Cherie” in real life seeing me like that will always put me over the edge.
    Soon I will begin reading again. How far do you think I’ll get this time? I can feel myself leaking into my underwear as I write this...
    Thank you so much for everything you do! I’m sure you are helping more people than you know manage through this crisis.
    david

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    1. Ha ha! Oh my! So much sperm. And ALL of it down the hatch.

      We should have a rating system for my stories and blogs where rather than awarding stars, we earn orgasms!

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    2. 3! And another load swallowed as I read about David ordered to his knees to suck his wife’s cock. I am producing quite a lot more cum than I realized. Also, the ice water bowl revived a 2 decade old memory for me. Ice water is a devious and effective device in tease and denial. It takes “shrinkage” to a humiliating new level!
      david

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    3. Have you tried to dip your genitals as I described in the scene? Please do if not and let us know if it works and if it's effective.

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    4. It has been a long time, but yes, I’ve done it. I will set it up and show you the results soon! david

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    5. A few days ago, I started reading the story again and quickly produced another “happy meal”. This time it was “Cherie” penetrating my mouth and bottom hole with her huge, painful strapon. I produced a copious load of cum and quickly sucked it off my fingers before it got cold and even more disgusting than warm cum is. Under the current conditions, I don’t know the next time I will see the woman I had playing Cherie’s role in my head, but when I do, I’m going to try to figure out how to get on my knees in front of her and imagine her obscenely waving her dildo in front of my face.

      As for the ice bath experiment, it didn’t turn out the way I remembered it. A couple days after cuming with Cherie’s cock pumping my ass, I teased myself as I read the rest of the story until I was as fully erect as my pathetic penis can manage. I plunged my genitals into the burning cold ice water for over two minutes and when I pulled out, I was still mostly hard, but my balls had disappeared! They had completely receded inside my body. I will email some before and after pics after I complete this report.

      The result got me thinking that the ice water may not have the desired affect of reducing the pain of the penis trapped in the chastity cage and may instead add pain to the balls trying to retreat. As soon as I am able, I will repeat the experiment while wearing my cage if there is interest.

      Submissively,
      david

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  9. Love the part at the end leaving in the elevator. I think think James would have loved to have given her an over the knee spanking right then and there. Must have been so nerve wracking for poor david at the thought of baring his backside for a real man to tan

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    1. A persistent fantasy of mine, to see my husband put into that position and then ass fucked by him afterwards!

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    2. A delicious fantasy of mine is to be a surrogate in your fantasy. You would pick the gay man from photo choices provided by Mistress Violet. And watch by Skype, providing direction.

      Direction such as how long my over the knee spanking would last.

      My hands would be restrained, the restraint held firmly by Mistress Violet. I’m sure the man you choose would be able to brace my legs

      You would also decide how long I would fluff his cock for my ass, and how long he would enjoy my tight hole

      And then I would find myself back on my knees, his cock back in my mouth, my ass having been thoroughly spanked and fucked, knowing that I would have to show enthusiasm to avoid your directed paddle smacks by Mistress Violet.

      And as you might direct, Mistress Violet would make me gag by pushing the back of my head.

      Finally the encounter would end with my mouth full of cum.
      peter peter

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    3. Imagine how cruel I'd be over Skype? Unimaginable!

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  10. "Yes," reinforced Dr. Joyce, "spanked like a child, bare naked across its mother’s knee. It's called birthday suit discipline, young man.

    That story really demonstrated the ultimate transformation from a bad husband and male chauvinist to a totally owned and obedient little girl. His ordeal is only beginning, and after a day that seemed to never end.

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    1. Can you tell I was thinking about you when I wrote that part?

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    2. I was really hoping you were, and that you remembered our discussions about birthday suit discipline. I loved how Dr. Joyce was able to articulate its effectiveness as therapy. I like to imagine being sent to a real therapist whose theories and practices are so completely in line with my most exciting fantasies and worst fears.

      Many years ago I wrote, or at least started to write, several stories with that general theme, where either a man, woman or couple were compelled to see an institutional type of authority (medical, judicial, educational,) and with mortifying results for those trapped in the situation. So it was even more interesting to see how you fashioned that kind of story, and I think you did a great job of it.

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    3. Yah, I think you'd be a great candidate for Birthday Suit Discipline, Brett.

      A good humiliating stripping in front of my sister and I. Hands on your head, young man.

      Seeing your little boner develop as we select your paddle, play with it, discuss it, discuss how long and how hard you should be spanked by us.

      Across each of our knees in turn. A true, punishment grade blister spanking from us both. No I'm not kidding, brent. Locked down with my leg, arm twisted behind your back, Sue holding your head and shoulders down. An absolutely relentless paddling. You've seen the video. I'd literally be laughing at the point you're in maximum distress. And it just wouldn't end.

      Then an hour, maybe two, or three of corner time. You wouldn't know how long you've been standing there or how much longer you have to go. I would literally not care? You know?

      If you FUCKING complain you'll be sorry you did, bretty.

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    4. My hard-on has been spankings and discipline with a nurturing parental mindset — bad boys and girls punished for their own good with humiliation as a key factor in applying effective psychology. Still, the idea of being under the control of two sadistic dominant sisters who use enforced nudity, over the knee blister paddling, and the juvenile state of prolonged corner time for simply their own pleasure is stirring. You don’t make idle promises, so knowing how much trouble I would be in under your authority is boner inducing. I remember when Sue punished you, and she would not only add another witness to my humiliation, but another real disciplinarian to have to face.

      Would I dare complain? It sounds like a situation calling for unquestioning obedience and deference to those who are in charge.

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  11. With so many people quarantined or otherwise restricted over the next 2 weeks or so, can you imagine how many naughty girls and naughty boys will have regularly sore bottoms in the near future? They may as well not wear anything below the waist for the duration!

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  12. The series of photos at the end with the male were clever. I like how in the very last photo he finally metamorphosed - like a caterpillar into a butterfly/hot and willing girl slut.
    Ms Julie surely it’s time for marriage counselling with Ms Violet for your own David - who must stop protesting and suck real cock now? I dare say Miss Violet could arrange a nice fit, large, clean cock for him (and you if desired). Tempting? MrD

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  13. I liked the family and friends connection and how the little sister will take his ass. Sooooo hot to be a service slut passed around the women for punishment and sex.

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    1. It's what he deserves. He requires the treatment.

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  14. No matter the circumstances it’s very naughty to fake orgasms ms julie. Bad behaviour. You should be whipped and tied to a St Andrews cross with a hitachi wand strapped to your inner thigh for 2 hours of clit stimulation. No more faking. cheeky sub

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    1. But it's so tiresome to have an uninspired, clumsy tongue licking your cunt. It's less cruel to fake it and ghost him.

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  15. With all this forced togetherness, I suspect many couples will be needing marriage counseling a few weeks from now

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    1. Yes! My husband has been sexually harassing me in the workplace!

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  16. Thank you, Julie for all your amazing writing. Hope you and David stay healthy and
    happy. Strange as it may sound, I miss riding the TTC every day!

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  17. Quarentine is always a good moment to babyfy your husbands :)

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  18. Sometimes I hear you laughing when you are writing your stories. Is that true? (the ice bowl running gag, the false breastfeeding...)

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    1. Oh yes! I try to think of the most humiliating things I can imagine for a man and then write about them while laughing, knowing most of the boys who read my blog would eagerly submit.

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    2. My wife enjoys when I'm facing the wall, one of her friends drop in. The friend will look, and my wife will say he thought he wore the pants in the family. She saids she enjoys that alot, especially if I'm naked. She also reminds me women have seen it all, but the spankings are rare. Jack

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    3. I guess you're DEFINITELY not wearing the pants in that situation!

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  19. OK; a bit harsh for me but I did get a kick out it. A laugh, actually! And I'll tell you why in a private email.

    Give me a couple days...

    A.J.

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  20. do you think during marriage counseling a man should bring up to wife or girlfriend even female Theparist is spanking dream or fantasy?

    i mean if a male always wanted his wife or gf take charge how he like being spanked should mention that right then and there

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    1. I definitely think so! It's the time and the place for it.

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  21. My therapist is a very attractive woman in her early 40's, and I would love to end up over her lap. So much so that I had a sex dream about it.

    The night before the session, my girlfriend spanked me and put me in panties for the rest of the week. I showed up to therapy with a sore bottom, wearing a tight pair of lacy panties over my red ass. Eventually my therapist noticed that I was squirming and unable to concentrate and asked me what the problem was.

    I then kind of sheepishly explained that I had been spanked the night before and was still being punished.She asked what that meant, and I gingerly pulled down my pants to show her my panties and ass.

    My therapist was disgusted and immediately called my girlfriend, who denied the entire thing. Being a responsible young woman, she told my therapist to deal with me however she felt was appropriate, and that I'd be dealt with again when I got home.

    From there it was a short trip to being bared over her knee and spanked so hard the people in the waiting room could hear me crying. Afterwards, she dragged me by my ear to the bathroom (with my pants and panties around my ankles) to wash my mouth out with soap for being a lying pervert, and got to spend the rest of the session in corner time.

    When I got home, my girlfriend put me back over her knee and spanked my already sore and bruised ass until I was bawling like a baby,and sent a couple of pictures to my therapist so she knew I'd been punished at home too.

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    1. Sexy and fun fantasy! Thank you for contributing!

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    2. Can I see that therapist? Really.

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    3. In your imagination, yes!

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  22. WC here. You stopped just before the handsome man in the elevator took charge of you both. Shame on you

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  23. My wife and I already have a FLR that involves her being in charge and giving REAL spankings with her strap and paddle.
    I told her that I was interested in items #9 and #10 to show me she really is the boss. She told me if we do this, there will be no turning back, inside the house there will be complete role-reversal in clothing and bedroom activity. I told her that is what I need and want. She has taken to her new role wearing the strap-on very well.

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    1. Yeah, well, that's what you get.
      Does she go hard with her strap-on? Really make your suffer and squeal? Bet that keeps you in your place.

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  24. Julie,
    I really enjoyed this story. Though it seemed a bit retaliatory for my taste at times I couldn’t help but devour it as quickly as I could furtively read the many sections throughout an otherwise busy day at work. The possibility of being used as a toy or an object by many women is very hot and fitting punishment for endlessly dirty and kinky thoughts on my part. I’m in a kind of sexless and vanilla soft FLR with a bossy woman who has no interest in sex. I find myself in a challenging position of being both resentful and frustrated and then then at other time of feeling guilty about being a lover who let her libido die. There is a fantasy there ( which is not likely grounded in reality) that there is and was a kinky and controlling bitch waiting just off stage all her life and if only I’d nurtured this then the garden of her libido would be lush with ravenous desire. Having squelched this possibility with my indifferent sexual attention or performance over the years she might demand better and more of me. The easy inevitability of male orgasm that defined the pattern of our distant sex would be replaced with patient and industrious attention to her pleasure. No orgasm of hers would be too high atop a mountain to pursue. And then from there she would take me down the road of orgasm denial, spanking, face sitting chastity and pegging we go. I’m not sure where the marriage counselor fits in. My God if my wife knew. If she could only imagine who lay in bed next to her.

    Please keep writing and blogging as you do.

    Best regards,

    JD

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    1. Time to go see the marriage counsellor and honestly confess your desires in front of your wife and she.

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