Tuesday, May 12

Aftermath

I know everybody is curious as to the aftermath of my little spanking from my Dad. I certainly got more than the usual number of comments and in record time. Many thought I had gone too far. My husband amongst them. So I was "in the doghouse" for a while.


The aftermath of it is that we are cancelling my DD Contract, by mutual agreement.

As described in Spanked by Daddy, I had my Dad alone and I sort of threw myself over his lap, taking my own pants and panties down as I did so, and asked him to spank me. He gave me about a dozen or so mild slaps to my rear end, and then I got up and we joked about it. He told me to tell David about it, I thought because he was giving me an excuse to get spanked (the conversation started with me complaining my husband did not spank me enough).

Well I got home and that evening I told David about it. He was legit angry with me for having done that. He said I don't think before acting, and it had become a pattern. He said there was a chance it could harm our relationship with my family, and he would have liked to have been consulted and had a chance to talk some sense into me. He said the reason I didn't talk to him was because I knew he would disapprove, so I just went around him.

In fact, that was not the reason. It was very spur of the moment and I did not expect to be alone with my Dad, and did not know when I might organically be again. But I can't get too indignant at his comment, because I probably would not have consulted him anyways, and for just the reason he gave. I'm pretty independent minded, and I don't like being second-guessed on things. He was sufficiently angry with me that he did not even want to spank me at first, and I didn't raise it. Serious David and serious Julie.

When I said on the comments how David was angry with me, one person commented that I might have seriously jeopardized my relationship with my husband. No. There's nothing that can do that. Our love is not transactional, it's covenantal. It's the kind of love between parent and child, or if you're Christian, between you and Jesus. We owe duties and obligations to one another, and sometimes we mess up, but that does not shake our relationship. Too many relationships, I observe, are transactional: what have you done for me lately? If you don't give me what I need, I'm divorcing you. That is not us. Oh yee of little faith.

By next morning, David seemed less angry. I had described to him how my Dad had reacted and he said I was lucky, and that it could have easily gone a different way (no it couldn't have - it's obvious, but like many of my commenters, he didn't see it either). So, since I had "gotten away with something", and there was "no harm no foul", that assuaged his anger.

We wound up discussing my DD Contract. We both realize that it was not working the way I had imagined. The root of the problem is that I'm really way too self-disciplined. Everything I set my mind to doing, I actually do. So all the things I was obliged to do in the contract, all of which I wanted to do, I did them, which really left no room for disciplinary spankings, unless they were totally made up. It also seemed funny because he's the one who's way less self-disciplined than me (he admits it readily), so punishing me for some made-up lack of self-discipline seemed silly (he's the one with the quarantine 20 pounds, not me!). And if it's not something I specifically want to do and agree with, then I bristle at being told to do it, and won't listen anyways. Seems obvious in retrospect!

So we mutually agreed to bin the contract. However, we retain spanking rights over one another. If I do something that upsets him, or he thinks is just plain wrong, I consent to being spanked by him, irrespective of what I think, and the same the other way around. It feels more natural this way. Of course, this did mean I was in for a spanking for my recent escapade, and I totally accepted that.

David kept me in suspense and only put me across his knee on Sunday just before we headed over to my Mom and Dad's house for dinner. He wanted to make a point. I wore a long skirt and blouse. I've taken to wearing little-girl style cotton panties practically all the time now :-). David got out the spanking chair and the hairbrush.


Gulp! Screenshots from this video captures it perfectly.

Not sure where you can any longer get this exact one.
Maybe at http://www.realspankings.com?
But similar are at Clips4Sale/RealSpapnkingNetworkClips

He took me across his knee. He flipped up my dress and lowered my panties. He began by just spanking me with his hand. That was fairly long and involved as it was. I would not classify it as a "warm-up" - it was a spanking.

The he picked up the hairbrush. He proceeded to scorch my cheeks.


Yow yow yow! It was a good couple hundred or so? It was not as hard as he could (obviously), but it stung like hell. He made it a point to concentrate on my low sit spots, where butt meets thigh. As he was doing this he said he wanted me to be reminded of my spanking during Sunday dinner!

This is what I must have looked like!
I circled the part where he concentrated on for me.

By the end of my spanking I was apologizing and begging, believe me. I remember at one point saying, "no more! no more!" and him coming back with, "Oh, I'm not done yet, I want you to remember this one." That was, like, only half way though.


Eventually he figured he had scorched my bum sufficiently to satisfy himself. David stood me up and I gave him a big hug and thanked him for punishing me. I knew the moment I had placed myself across my Dad's knee that this spanking from David was inevitable, so I'm glad it finally happened, though I was a little teary-eyed and my butt was very sore.

I asked if I was forgiven? He said I was forgiven, but that we still needed to talk to my Dad to make sure everything was ok. Oooooh.

Panties restored and skirt back down, we headed on over. I was fidgeting in my seat. "Ants in your panties?" asked David. Har dee har har.

When we got there Sue was already there with Mom preparing dinner in the kitchen. I was a bit nervous wondering who knew what. But I was greeted by Mom and by Sue totally like normal

Dad was in his study reading a book (he's a history buff - he reads these wierd smelly paper book-book things - I know!). David took me over to him. This is the conversation as best as I remember it.

"Hi Doug," David said.

"Oh, hello David. And hello sweetiepie," Dad said to me.

"Hi Daddy," I said back.

David said, "Julie told me what she got up to on Friday."

"Oh, I asked her to tell you. Took me a bit by surprise, I must say," said Dad, chuckling.

"I can imagine!" said David. "I'm really sorry about that."

"Oh, she was just playing around, weren't you, sweetie?"

"Yes Daddy. Sorry if I surprised you," was the most I was willing to go.

Then Daddy said, "think nothing of it. I enjoyed it!"

Daddy!

"Does anybody else, know? Julie's Mom or Sue?" asked David.

"Oh no," he said, "you don't want to make drama where you needn't to. Just a bit of fun, and she seemed to really want it, but they might not see it just that way."

"Well, we'll let sleeping dogs lie, then," said David, trading aphorisms with Daddy.

"Best policy when dealing with women," said Dad gravely. Yeesh. "dealing with women?"

"And, ah, feel free to spank her anytime," added David. Awwww!

"I'll leave that up to you for the most part," said Dad. Booooo! but... "most part"?

"She's sporting a red caboose right now, in fact," said David. Oh, HE'S just having fun now.

Dad laughed and said, "she is, is she?"

"Why don't you show your Dad?" David said to me.

"David!" I said, blushing and suddenly embarrassed.

"No need! No need!" said Dad, "Oh I think that may be dinner coming up. We should get some drinks started anyways." And with that Dad stood up and went to get a bottle of white wine to serve as a pre-dinner drink.

I was still blushing and looking at the floor as I gave David a smack with my hand against his shoulder. He laughed. So did I.

Dinner was... relatively uneventful! We did not talk about my spankings at all. I guess I like it that way? I did notice a real itching in my bum from where David had spanked me. I guess I squirmed a bit more than usual in my seat. David leaned over to me and whispered, "you're squirming and your Dad is enjoying it." It's true. Dad was giving me little grins. I do confess to laying on a little extra squirming than was strictly needed, and Dad winked at me, and I pouted back at him.

So, all is well that ends well. See, I didn't wreck anything. I won't be fucking my Dad next or anything like that. Yeesh! I got my spanking from my husband, which all of you wanted. And some teasing to go along with it. David and I have also ditched the DD Contract. We really didn't need it. He knows he can spank me anytime, anywhere, AND (evil smile) vice-versa!

93 comments:

  1. Well you dodged a bullet there. Fortunately you are surrounded by sensible men. Clever to hush it up and carry on spanking. No need to involve the ladies. Always leads to trouble. Pass the port and cigars. Mr D

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  2. The DD relationship formalizes and sets up the kind of regime I’m attracted to — that being the embodiment of authority, and disciplinary spankings in real life circumstances but, like you, I don’t think it would really hold up for me either. In the vanilla world where we must live, we’re still autonomous and equal adults. We don’t need to formalize discipline under contract. We recognize when it makes sense, we spank, and it provides what we’re looking for.

    I enjoyed reading about the spanking you got. It pushed all the right buttons for how to spank and why spanking is powerful. The teasing and embarrassment after while apologies were made to your amused father, the squirming in your chair at family dinner, all gave the whole affair a delicious piquancy that you must have also enjoyed very much.

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    1. Yes. Enjoyed it all except for the second hundred. Maybe the first hundred as well. I was begging for it to end!

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    2. The rule of the house should be, a disciplinary hairbrush spanking can’t be enjoyed unless it’s not enjoyed.

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  3. I think you mean "transactional", not "transnational".

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    1. Thank you! Fixed. And twice? What's with that? It's darned spell checkers at play.

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  4. Also, "gig hug"? Maybe you should check for typos. You don't need to make this visible. It's just feedback for you.

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    1. Thank you Sir. Fixed. I like being publicly scolded, especially on posts like this.

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  5. Julie - sounds like you're glad things turned out as they did, so I'm happy for you for having the DD Contract experience and all that it enTAILed... :-)

    Isn't David from the US and you're obviously from The Great White North? If so, your marriage IS transnational, though likely not transactional. ;-)

    -T.

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  6. It’s seems all is right in the world again. I didn’t think you were in any peril at all and your followers were too hyper and harsh on you.

    I found it funny that amidst the anger and seriousness you suggested David was presenting, he’s still willing to hike your skirt up and show your Dad your recently paddled bum.

    He probably did this because he knows you’d get a thrill from that sort of humiliation and embarrassment.

    I think he secretly knew you would go for it one of these days and take a run at the Daddy spanking. This is also the guy who spanked you in front of them and deliberately aimed your princess parts in their direction.

    Sucks about the contract though. I like the structure and regularity of it, the boundaries and accountability.

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    1. By the time he spanked me, all his anger had already gone. He was not that comfortable with my DD Contract either (he felt like a puppet on a string!), and thought it brought out the worst in me, so he was glad that was done also. And AFTER spanking me, he was positively jolly!

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  7. The folks yelping "Ermahgawd, you're gonna divorce!" are likely the type who view any mistake, slight, or lapse in judgment as grounds for separation. And then those people wonder why the divorce rate is so high...

    Rubbishing the contract kinda stinks, but also seems quite reasonable at the same time. I hope you guys at least informally keep the "sexy maintenance" spankings. ;) Stay healthy and happy!

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    1. We will definitely keep spanking. I think we are a rare totally switch spanko couple!

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    2. I've followed this blog for quite some time, I knew that was never in doubt! Sore bottoms all around!

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  8. So nice to see a happy ending Julie. Your Dad sounds like a cool guy....although I'm a little disappointed you didn't use a pillow to sit on at dinner just for show. I'm sure he and David found your squirming cute though.

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    1. He's a great guy. And no pillow needed - Humph!

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  9. Hi,
    I am genuinely glad that things are all ok. As I said my stance was not to judge, but only to see it from my point of view in my own family context. I am relieved that David and Dad have kept a lid on the incident and I really hope you and David can carry on making each other happy as you spank your way through life.
    I look forwards to reading your continued adventures.
    Carry on being safe
    Hugs
    FM
    x

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  10. "Well you are a handful » said your father to his sweetie : a new word for me whose meaning I sought :

    Handful :
    A euphemism used to describe a kid who is an attention-demanding jerk and allowed to behave badly wherever she goes. (See sparkplug)

    Sparkplug :
    A person who has spunk. (See spunk)
     
    Spunk :
    For some reason, it is rarely used in its normal form (See spirit)

    Spirit :
    Ambitious, strong, beautiful, sexy, attractive, carefree (lighthearted, gay, eternally optimistic. can be careless. does not give 2 shits), brave asf (?), nice, sweet, caring, bubbly, funny, sassy, sarcastic, dumb at times, acts like a lady when she wants, shy at first, seductive, joyful, always smiling, secretive, full of surprises.

    Isn't that exactly You !

    (No brown-noser here, just learning)

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    1. asf = "as fuck", "brave as fuck", "extremely brave"
      And 'gay' - yes sometimes ;-)

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    2. Handful, see feisty, see spirited :
      refers to a child who is active. It means "brat", but is used by over-protective moms who are afraid to discipline their children. A good caning now and then would profit her greatly. ;-)

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    3. my pussy tingles when people talk to me like that...

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  11. Ms. Julie:
    Little girl cotton panties are great, classic,  and I imagine ( imagining) they look really really fine on you.  But I still love those tasty watermelons too.
    vic

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  12. Sounds like David is in for a good blistering soon to curb his weight gain upon isolation? He may be the one squirming at dinner next week !

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    1. Indeed! He claims "mental health in times of COVID" for reasons not to diet. Hmmmmm.

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    2. Good try but it sounds to me like he's grasping at straws if he really thinks you are going to buy that one!

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    3. Exactly. Weigh-ins at bedtime have commenced.

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  13. Forgive me if this makes anyone uncomfortable, but I do admit that I'm hoping "for the most part" turns out to be a harbinger of future parental discipline, especially now that David has indicated his approval.

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    1. Oh, me too! Daddy enjoys it after all.

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    2. Hoping it's the real thing, not just love pats, next time.

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    3. I'll give him a spanking paddle for his birthday (or maybe for MY birthday!)

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    4. Perhaps a hairbrush will be less overt and more domestic...and painful.

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    5. No. A paddle with "Julie's Paddle" printed on it!

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  14. I'll stand by what I wrote in comments to your last post, but I am happy for you that things worked out, as they did, without any permanent negative fallout.

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  15. Better without a contract, just spank each other whenever you feel like it

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  16. You need to be spanked with the hairbrush once again in a few days as a reminder ,
    Once your butt has healed ,it should be set on fire once again :)
    What say ? *Wink*

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    1. If David feels I need it, I'll submit, of course, and be sexually submissive afterwards as well (assuming he's "man enough" to make me!)

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  17. I think that the contract had unexplored areas and underutilized areas. There were elements that mentioned your father, and there elements that mentioned additional sanctions and there were elements that mentioned remedies and renegotiation. It would seem that this was the first time that you well out of bounds and an actual sanction was required. There were also remedies in the punishment section that included some major deterrents to unwanted behavior. So I was quite surprised that you weren't on the receiving end of diapering, enemas, advanced corner time and an extended humiliating period. Countless entries in this blog have David enduring week long sanctions for far less serious offenses.
    In one perspective, when we read " I was one Screamin ass wife" we can see that, all of that energy was inside just waiting to be released. All of that energy that unrequited desire and longing is inside and it can manifest itself in a structured way, for example the supervised maintenance fantasy section of the contract, OR it can manifest itself in an uncontrolled way where you manage to get up to mischief and put yourself in hot water. The actual contract may be torn up , but the hours of work that went into it were not all wasted, there were some good concepts and policies in there. The first maintenance session alone was worth it. Perhaps some other areas are worth a second look? The desire for the things you wrote, all of the punishments you listed, you desire those things so I think somehow you will seek them out.

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    1. I agree. I think my husband is much more aware of the depths I crave going to now. Some of that stuff surprised him. It risks now making a reappearance and I really can't complain as it was asked for, and that realization CANNOT be "taken back".

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    2. I think one of the most complete and erotic posts in the entire blog was the post about the first maintenance session after the contract was signed. Now in the aftermath it seems that the supervised fantasy section of the maintenance is a very good means to keep the lines of communication open and have David remain in the loop on all of your cravings!

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  18. While we are copy editing, it's "anyway" never "anyways". (smile)

    I'm glad you got this worked out with your dad and david. I thought your DD contract was more your sexual fantasies than really a document for discipline. Your current agreement is what we have. Of course, I can't spank Mrs. Lion. I'm the only one who feels the paddle, but the arrangement is the same. She has the right to spank me for any reason. Period.

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    1. Anyhoo...

      And yup. It was for sure more fantasy than ever "real life discipline". How silly of me not to have seen that clearly before. What we have right now, without contract, is WAY closer to "real life". It IS real life.

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    2. Why silly?

      Sometimes, you have to do a thing to understand both the thing AND your motivation.

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    3. Agreed. It's just that now it's so clear, that it seems silly now to have ever thought otherwise.

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  19. Looks like your Mum will have to bear the brunt of your Dad's firm hand now...

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    1. My Mom is a bit older than my Dad and has a bit of a heart condition. Not sure if she can be "into it". I'll have to sacrifice my bottom for Dad to get any spanking kicks in :-)

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  20. Hey there Julie, Kasey here.

    I'm relieved to hear that all's well that ends well. It was definitely a gutsy move on your behalf to expose that side of yourself to your farther, but no harm done!

    I do wonder though, you've repeatedly said that you confide everything in your sister, I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say this is the one thing you probably won't tell her about, huh? lol

    In the end, everything worked out: you got a pink bum from Daddy and a red bum from David, and after a little while in the doghouse, everything is fine. Seems like congratulations are in order?

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    1. Yeah.. we have a history there, and it's Dads privacy, so not likely!
      I did get away with sumthin!

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  21. Good idea to ditch your contract. It was never in you to be so controlled by another. But respect for trying something. It sounds as if David is the one who needs a touch of the crop though. Covid is no excuse to sit around and stuff your face. You need to whip him into shape.

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    1. Weigh-ins start tonight. The strap will be readied.

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    2. I hope you write about that strapping, if it happens. I enjoyed reading about your self discovery. I do miss reading about your domineering side and david's spankings. I think I've read all of your blog entries. Keep on spanking, Mistress Julie! lars

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    3. Oh it happened! Diet and exercise is MUCH more on track now. Chastity lock up played a role as well. Ha ha! Am writing it up now...

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  22. What about soliciting another hard spanking from Sue for no specific reason for her but you know why.

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  23. oh good golly you sure get yourself into lots of conundrums. Glad this one has been resolved. stay out of trouble, you!

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  24. Will david give you a repeat spanking when your bottom heals?

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    1. He is going easy on you Julie, he should use his belt.

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    2. I would welcome that - with trepidation!

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  25. I believe i need to make David a good paddle to deal with you in this situation

    Paddle Daddy

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  26. Does this mean you won’t be diapered for road trips?! Boo!!!

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    1. If I make him stop one more time less than 1 hour into the drive, don't count it out!

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  27. "Not sure where you can any longer get this exact one.
    Maybe at http://www.realspankings.com?
    But similar are at Clips4Sale/RealSpapnkingNetworkClips"
    I just checked, because it was not sure that this episode of Realspankings with Jennifer Clark is one of the videos available, but the readers of this blog can download together the three small videos of this spanking at this address:
    https://onlyspanking.org/26260-jennifers-hairbrush-punishment-realspankings-lq-rm.html

    Otherwise, this video starts on the long skirt, then continues on the panties before ending on the very pretty little naked ass of Jennifer. I do not think from what you describe that David was so progressive, even if unlike Michael Masterson he decided to start spanking you with the hand. You actually received your spanking straight on your bare butt, first by hand, then by brush. So deserved !

    For me the DD contract was too rigid, too restrictive, too nitpicky for intelligent people like David and you. You did well to abandon it, but I think it was a necessary step in your head to sanctify your change of status and give it a concrete dimension. A kind of initiation test, a rite of passage, in a way to fully accept the total availability of your buttocks to the spanking.

    "He knows he can spank me anytime, anywhere"... He knows it NOW. I think that it was not that obvious for him before the little tub of ice cream spanking.

    For him also he has now to assume a complete evolution of roles, and given the embarrassed request he had addressed to you at the very beginning, yes just before asking you to spank him, I think that to your great pleasure your buttocks will often find naked, red and painful. He loves it too and knows that in this configuration, your pussy itches gently, gets wet and becomes hot with anticipation. I can tell you about it as a spanker who knew the situation before knowing his wife: there is no more intense pleasure for a spanker than that of penetrating doggy style the dripping and wonderfully warm pussy of a woman with the ass all red and hot from the spanking she just received.
    Have fun !

    So now little girl you have three people who can any time officially lower your panties and give you good "panties down" spanking on your bare bottom.
    This situation must delight you, you who love so much to show your bare buttocks and get spanked, and you must feel particularly pampered and loved. Your mom was perhaps not wrong after all, you are reconnecting with a "me" of very little girl who so badly needs to be loved and taken care of by adults. The backlash of the therapy that you could lead at the expense of David's consenting buttocks?
    And still consenting... ;)

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    1. Please do vote with your $s to support good spanking content such as what Michael Masterson and Jennifer Clark put out, or we might not get it anymore - just amateur grainy, blurred out videos like mine!

      I think you're absolutely right about needing to go through the contract phase. David did not realize how much I psychologically / emotionally need to be the "little girl" from time to time, and how it's really only embarrassing punishment that gives me that feeling without annoying me.

      I love your description of the pleasure a man feels from taking his wife from behind after a good hard spanking. Reading THAT made me wet even without the spanking!

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    2. Maybe that could be a future trigger julie. Compile a few outfits. Like extremely “little” ones that leave no question as to what you’re asking for, without having to ask.
      You shamefully and embarrassingly walk from downstairs into the living room in this attire, head lowered.
      David should know exactly what you need and why...without you having to ask him ?

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    3. I have my ways of hinting, but that would certainly be a dead giveaway! Except I'm not that into littling, except maybe being required to as punishment.

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    4. That’s what I mean. I’d like to help you get the parts you need for a “required” punishment outfit.

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  28. Glad you two are on the same level now. I am sure there still will be some wild adventures tho.

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  29. You really aught to be glad David doesn't read your blog. No doubt he would have noticed your sarcastic comment "Har dee har har".

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  30. Always thought you were a sick pervert and this proves it. Rubbing your bare pussy on your fathers lap. Did he fuck you too? How many times did he fuck you when you were a kid? Ten times? A hundred times? A thousand times? Has he fucked your sister? Bet he has, thats why she's a dyke.Having a pedophile for a father explains where your perversions and sickness come from.

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    1. You're barking up the wrong tree. Dad was always the perfect gentleman with us girls, despite the "sexual provocation" from me when I was a teen! If anybody is guilty of anything, it's certainly me.

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    2. With my strap on? Despite how big and rough, I suspect he'd still enjoy it too much.

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    3. Your Daddy thing has always been charming and sexy to me, but it would have been an entirely different thing if he had reciprocated. He was a good Daddy, and you love him for it.

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    4. Julie,
      I admire you for allowing total jerks like " NOnamee" to post their venom. Leave it up long enough for everyone to see what a living human virus looks like -and then delete it for the piece of shit it is. There are enough toxic people around. We don't need them on a blog of this quality.
      Alan

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    5. The light of day is the best disinfectant!

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  31. I'm sure I would, but then I would deserve it for being such a good boy!

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  32. Hi Julie, I know how you feel about your dad spanking you. I would get my mom to spank me till I was 26, then she said it had to stop, people would think it was weird. This was the beginning of the internet so any spanking contact had to be thru the local paper or I would make a spanking joke and see who was interested. To me, I knew I needed a spanking and mom really knew how to give them. Hairbrush or wooden spoon and bottom of the cheeks and tops of the thighs were her favorite. I only remember 3 times after I was 16 that she initiated the spankings. All 3 times I could not sit after. Mom is in her 80's now and I am in my 50's but would still like for her to give me a spanking again. There was nothing in any way related to sexual and yes even at 26 she had a full frontal view as I stood in front of her and she scolded me.

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