Thursday, May 21

Tea with Mom

I got called over to have a cup of tea with my Mom the other day. I was a bit worried!


I recently got punished at my Mom and Dad's for talking politics at the dinner table. It was in front of my Mom, Dad, and older Sister. My husband sent me to stand in the corner right there in the dining room for the last part of main course, all through desert, and then stay there, in the darkened room, until we left to go home. Before we left I had to apologize to my Mom. David then strongly implied, in front of them all, that I would be getting a spanking back home, which I sure did get, across his knee and on my bare bum.

Of the people present, Sue knows exactly what I'm doing and why and thinks I'm crazy, but goes along with it. My Dad seems amused by it, and his only comment was that David should not "go too hard on me". Mom looked dubious throughout, I would say, but played along. After I apologized to her she quipped that she "liked the new Julie". It was all described in detail in Monday Dinner + Politics = Nose in Corner :-(

I had previously shared with them what I was doing, as recounted in Honesty is the Very Best Policy. At that time I had just signed a DD Contract and I, with David at my side, explained the general concept of the thing to Mom and Dad. Actually, that discussion followed a couple of weeks after a revelation from David (and I) that I had just been spanked for punishment, which they did not take too seriously, I would say.

What we explained was that I crave, from time to time, to not be so responsible for my behavior and to be treated like a child by the "adults" around me. It's psychological and fucked up, I know, but it's real. Mom and Dad were surprisingly accepting of what we told them. I was "in for" a spanking at the time of that discussion, and while we originally thought I would be taken upstairs for that by my husband, one thing led to another and it wound up being "on the spot", bare bum and everything, in front of Mom and Dad, who thought it was "cute" (it was a very mild spanking by my husband's standards).

I guess it went to a slightly different level with David, a bit angrily, sentencing me to corner time during dinner. It must have been weird for my Mom and Dad to see their grown-up daughter so publicly punished by her husband like that. David insisted my nose touch the corner (both walls), which if you've ever done corner time before, you know that it's for sure extra punishment and makes you mush your breasts against the wall and stick your butt out in a silly way and is just darned humiliating.

So a few days later Mom phoned up and suggested we have tea together, just the two of us. She didn't say what the topic of conversation would be, but I could sure guess!


I arrived at her place and we went to the sun-room off the kitchen for tea. Dad was nowhere to be seen. I guess he had been told to make himself scarce. After serving, and after a bit of smalltalk, Mom asked "so how is this spanking thing going?" I told Mom it was going good, that I felt good about it, that I liked it when David took charge of me.

"You spent a lot of your last visit standing in the corner. Is that what you really want?" she asked. There it was.

I told my Mom that I know it looks stupid, but that I had asked David to hold me accountable, and that I deliberately pushed some boundaries, and got what I had asked for.

"I like my grown-up Julie," said my Mom to me.

I told her that I like that too, most of the time. It's just that I've been really needing to be "taken care of" like that. That it made me feel good. Warm and loved.

My Mom asked if I thought my childhood, my emotional needs, and my sexuality all got tied up together somehow. Something like that I said, blushing a bit. Mom was making clear she knew my sexuality was involved in this as well, but what did I expect. Of course it is.

She then asked if I thought this was at all related to what happened to me...

I never told Mom the details of it, but she knows something bad of a forced sexual nature had happened to me just after I had moved out on my own. I did cry in her arms, but I did not want to speak of it, to anybody. She really pushed for me to see a counselor at the time, but I pushed back. Even angrily at times. I wanted to just move on.

I told her it probably was, and that this was actually a positive step. I told her how I was pretty messed up around dating until I had met David (she knew that much!), but that I had shared everything with him, and how supportive he had been and still is. I even confided in her, in strictest secrecy, that for a long time it was him getting all the spankings from me! That it was really empowering for me. And then somehow I just got less and less nervous and eventually wanted to explore David dominating me, and that I was delighted that I could do that now without any fear or anxiety at all, and just the opposite in fact, it felt good to be "taken charge of".

Well that gave Mom some pause. "Hmmmm," she said, trying to figure out if this was a good thing or a bad thing.

Mom had come into the discussion open-minded and now rendered her judgment. "Well, if this is what you want, and you think it's healthy for you, then I suppose we can put up with it. Your father even seems to enjoy it."

"I know!" I said.

"I enjoy it too, a little bit," added Mom in a whispery voice. "It's very cute in a way. And sexy for you and David!"

Sexy? Mom!

I was so relieved, you can't believe it. I was worried I'd be called out for being a sick pervert or something, but Mom was amazing. I knew that. But... amazing!

Encouraged by Mom's words I blushed and asked, "is it ok if David, still, like, spanks me in front of you and Daddy when he thinks I need it?"

"Yes, if that's what you want," answered Mom with a little laugh.

I thought I'd push my luck, "can Daddy spank me?"

Mom looked thoughtful and said she'd have to think about that, but she said it with a little smile!!!

And then Mom scolded, "but tell David no more making you spend the entire visit with your nose in the corner. A little bit is fine, but not the whole time. We want a proper visit from you!"

"Yes Mom, I'll tell him," I said. Wow. Carte blanche to be stood in the corner for a "little bit of time" and get spanked. And implicitly spanked bare bum, like i had been the first time. This was going better than expected! I was dying to tell David.

And then Mom added what I figured she was going to say all along. "You know, you can still go and see a therapist about all of this, even now. It may be very good for you."

You know, maybe I should? I am a pretty messed up chick in many ways. But I'm worried they'd cure me and then where would we all be???? Remember the "joke" from the Woody Allen movie, Annie Hall?
 A guy walks into a psychiatrist's office and says, hey doc, my brother's crazy! He thinks he's a chicken. Then the doc says, why don't you turn him in? Then the guy says, I would but I need the eggs.
I thanked Mom for the suggestions and told her I'd think about it seriously. She raised her eyebrows at that because it was the first time I had not made light of it or been angry at her for suggesting it. I hope she thinks it's progress!


And so that was my visit. I came home and told David all about it and he was not surprised. He did admit that it opened up certain possibilities for the future for me...

I wonder what Mom's ruling is going to be about whether Daddy can spank me? Is she going to discuss it with him? What a terrible situation for Dad. Dad is rarely tongue-tied, but what's he supposed to say? "oh, well, ahem, well, you know, if it's for her own good, I maybe can, you know, bring myself, yes that's it, bring myself to, well you know, carry something out along those lines... if that's what you want, of course... and everything..." 😁😂

82 comments:

  1. Oh my... seems the kink runs in your whole family.
    Maybe your Mom does spank your Dad and she won't tell you?

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    1. Or maybe it's more vanilla 50 shades sort of thing? Spanking is going a bit mainstream.

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  2. Yeah yeah yeah , that's great I really think you're getting a bare bottom strapping by David and Dad sooner than you think

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    1. VERY possible (if I'm naughty).

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    2. You want that to happen so badly that you will be naughty :-)

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    3. No! I try sooo hard to be a good little girl.

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  3. Dear Julie, this post will go down on your 'greats' list right near the top for a number of reasons. An intimate mother/daughter moment, very moving and beautifully written as always. Exceptional honesty and courage shown by you and your mum (she sounds wonderful!) And.... that little nugget in the middle!! The holy grail of male subby kink. The view of Everest from Kathmandu. David's Mother-in-law knows that he is spanked by her daughter, his wife. A spanked husband. Its too hot for words! You say its a secret and if both of you wish it, I hope it remains so. But Julie that is so fucking hot. Thank you. We love you but then you know that. Hugs from Ireland.

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    1. Woah, you're right. I had not even thought of the mother-in-law cliché. Come to think, I did not ask David's permission before spilling the beans like that. He does not even know I did yet... yikes.

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    2. There's no hurry to tell him Julie. You can keep that one in the bank for a rainy day. Your mother certainly won't mention it. She, like you, wants her son-in-law and your father to be looked upon as the men of the family, an important perception for many reasons. She doesn't want to think of him in the corner in panties (her panties?!) waiting for his wife to take him over her knees and spank him until he cries like a little girl. I know from past posts that David is strong and doesn't cry easily but it's a powerful image and one that will bring 'comfort' to one who will never have the great privilege of finding himself in the same position. Regards and Irish hugs.

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    3. Yes, I decided to keep Mum about it!

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  4. WOW!!! I know you know this already but I'm going to say it anyway. You are lucky to have such wonderful understanding and loving parents. Hold them close to you they love you more than you know.
    archedone

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  5. That must be a huge relief Jules? A big weight lifted off your chest. Good for you, I’m happy for you and actually proud of you as a long time follower. I’m sure you’re giddy with excitement.

    I got into reading a report once and you touched on something above that made me think of this. I guess it was some manner of survey with the respondents being into kink and bdsm, some into the darker and more extreme stuff. The study group was simply asked: “if you could take a pill today that would transform you into pure vanilla and you’d have no bdsm or kink urges ever again...you’d be free of all of this, would you do it?”

    I think 99% of the respondents answered, “no, no I wouldn’t.”

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    1. Yes - We lead such a richer and more nuanced sex life than the vanillas! I feel sorry for the poor dears.

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  6. My wife had no problem when her Mother told her she would spank me as long as it was in her home. My wife informed me, agreed, and when it happened the first time, I was glad it was in the bedroom, just my mother-in-law and me, did not like her baring my bottom, and when it was over, taken to the front room to face the wall. My wife told her Mother you still know how to redden a bottom and he sure is loud isn't Mother. He sure is. Spankings since then from my Mother-in-law don't always happen in the bedroom. Jack

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  7. Love the "Annie Hall" reference! Your Mom-talk reminded me the ones I had. Mothers can really surprise you.

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  8. Interesting that you’ve confided in your parents re your submissive side but not your dominant side.

    Rosco

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    1. It's more because I am so proud of David and want him to be perceived as "the man" within my family and to the general world at large. His being subby is a specially kinky thing we share with a few like-minded kinky people.

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  9. Wonderful post. I feel desperately sorry that you experienced abuse earlier in your life. At the same time, I marvel at the wonderful relationships you have now. Thank you for this amazing blog.

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  10. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. Such an amazing thing that your whole family is accepting of you and who you are. Thank you for sharing some of the ugly things in your past that have made you the awesome person you are today. I’m sure many struggle with reconciling similar stories with accepting their kink. Miss Julie, we came here just to read some naughty spanking stories and get these deep, emotional plots? #StrictJulieSpanksTheMovie

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  11. Mommy knows best! Just be glad (or sad?) she didn't put you across her knee...

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    1. I think she'll leave that to the men of the house!

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    2. My mother-in-law and my wife spankings are truly lasting, especially my wife's the bath brush gets my attention. Jack

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  12. Wow what a development.
    It is so good that you have the sort of relationship that you are able to have such a frank and open discussion with your Mom.
    I would imagine that you, like me and many of your readers will now be wondering where this new open door is going to lead.
    Does Sue have the same sort of open relationship with Mom? If she does there is a real good chance that they have also discussed your discipline.
    I am guessing you may find out about Moms decision re Dad Spanks this weekend. Do you have a holiday weekend in Canada this weekend? We do here in the UK.
    I genuinely wish you all the best on your journey but please be wary about ‘hamming up the beating’ to get spanked on purpose. That could undo all the great open tolerance made up to date.
    Take care, and as ever, stay safe
    X

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    1. Our Victoria Day weekend was last one (Monday before May 24).
      And I totally agree - I don't want to go looking for a spanking - but in the spilling of the beans to Mom about David I am apparently due...

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  13. Hey,so imagine this ,one day your father is bored and randomly gets the idea to use Google,he types -" David Julie spanking" and what pops up ? Your blog ! How will you feel if your parents happen to stumble upon this blog ?? Haha I know that's very very unlikely but still how would you react if that happens?

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    1. The names have been changed to protect the guilty!

      I'm actually proud of my blog, and proud of the activities I engage in, so if it's just my close-ins, I would not mind. Mind you, if it's my co-workers, that's a bit different. Hard to be effective in your job after that!

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    2. Although... some of the fantasies involving my Dad... I think I would stay up all night cleansing those as fast as possible!

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    3. Not that it matters
      Your real name isn't Julie ? I really thought it was ..

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    4. After 9 years I think of myself as Julie when on the blog!
      But no - announced that in the very first post I ever did.

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    5. You have much to be proud of! Your blog is a flowering expression of such an incredibly kind, mindful, open minded, intelligent, insightful, and crazy sexy human being! peter peter

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    6. 25% of your life in a clandestine double life that you are now widening the circle of. Reference searches will lead them here eventually, might not be IF but WHEN. I think the definition of pride might not include the word clandestine, hard to reconcile those 2.

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    7. It's like I'm proud of my political views (I think they are well thought out) but I won't indiscriminately raise them in public as they might offend. Likewise for my kinky life.

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  14. If there was a magic pill, that took care of something, then why would you need to take the pill a second time? A second dose would be required because the effects of the pill wore off. at which point we could conclude that the pill is not magic, but a medication. If the pill is continually required then the condition is seen to be chronic. When we are using a paraphilia to manage a condition and then it becomes necessary to adopt it into a lifestyle, then the question of therapy as your mother mentioned would seem to be relevant. A pastime has become a need and it now involves your entire family, professional sex workers and the internet with no clearly pre established boundaries , privacy or consent ? The payoff of the kink and they mystery and discovery are most likely very big incentives.

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    1. Had to look that one up!

      noun: paraphilia
      a condition characterized by abnormal sexual desires, typically involving extreme or dangerous activities.

      Point taken.
      Yes, there are risks, but I think I am managing them, and you only live once - it's so intense!

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    2. Ooops sorry , Paraphiia is also a new buzzword in a segment of the spanko community ( see Jillian Keenan You -tube) where they are trying to mainstream alternative sexual behavior and qualify as orientation, as opposed to using the word Kink which they feel is overused, so they eschew words like Kink and Vanilla and 50 shades for a more technical approach.

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    3. I heard a very simple explanation, someone said that they just realized that non paraphilia types, think about sex and eroticism when they masturbate, whereas we think about our particular fetish.

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    4. I sure do! Thinking about vanilla sex bores me.

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  15. Ms. Julie:
    How great is that!  You must have been on cloud 9 after that visit.  I can only reiterate what  others here have said.  Your mom is fantastic!   She wants to learn and understand this part of her daughter, and her acceptance will always be there.  I think the same can be said of your father.  But he does things in his own way of course.
    To me all of their actions, reactions, questions, etc. to date speak to the underlying fact that they truly want you to have a good life and be happy.
    vic

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    1. I know. It makes me feel even more like a well-cared-for little girl!

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    2. Serious Question : Why is the paradigm for you to feel like a well-cared for Little girl? Why is that a desirable thing? Thoughts?

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    3. Life is complicated. There are many responsibilities. I went through some tough times in my past, it's nice to regress to a point where others were responsible for me. You weren't even responsible for your own behaviour, you were punished when naughty and then all was forgiven!

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    4. To Clarify I meant, Why is the psycho -sexual erotic paradigm,that of being regressed a well cared for little girl, why is that providing you with such an erotic turn on and such a high degree sexual arousal? Is it your preferred type of sex and sexuality now?

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    5. I would not say preferred, I think I switch 50-50. More currently obsessed due to the circumstances.

      As to why it turns me on so much... I really am not sure! I think it strikes to the heart of why we are all spankos. But who knows why that is?

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    6. Same anonymous. I meant preferred relations as opposed to non Bdsm/DD relations. I think it has to do with the illusion of taking control of our own trauma ( Illusion because we are never really in control), and whatever our particular undigested traumatic memory is, we get stuck in that loop until we attempt to process that experience in a way that our adult psyche can deal with. So it's different for everyone as to the particulars of age, intensity, activity, but our play partner is providing nurture in the form of outdoing the past trauma in an environment that the sub has set the parameters of. Then as far as how time consuming, how duplicitous ( in terms of a double life) and how self victimizing it is, I think that;s something that we all have to navigate. THe fantasy and illusion of control are powerful incentives along with the psychologically charged physical experiences make for quite an addictive experience.

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    7. But why am I craving so much for my parents to have a role? The most powerful image is me with my panties down, across their knees, getting a blistering spanking, crying and promising to be good, so good, and how sorry I am. That is sexually exciting for me. And I don't understand why.

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    8. Same anonymous .Somehow you have a powerful memory from your youth, or an unresolved trauma ;and that image you have chosen represents nurture, There is a powerful word, but it is a word specific to you, If you look at your peak erotic experiences, the 10 out of 10 experiences you have had that are the sexiest most erotically fulfilling and you look at what those experiences have in common, a word. a thematic word will suggest itself, a sort of a creepy, Maslow hierarchy of needs/ psych development/actualization word, it will most likely make you shudder when you realize it -and most likely it will NOT be a sexy moment, and then when you realize that word, it sort of lets you laugh at the whole thing a bit and not it take it quite so seriously while at the same time realizing it for what it is
      this word will explain the thematic reasons for your different fantasies. It will most likely be a word like, Safety Security,belonging, protection shelter, some sort of basic human need kind of word -but it will present itself to you you neednt pick one from a list.
      Then after that it doesn't necessarily become easier to navigate but the erotic equation presents itself and you can be more aware and flexible about the variables. One book that describes this is THe Erotic Mind by Jack Moran Ph.D -not an erotic book, not fun at all blech, but, it provides an insight.

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  16. Hello miss,
    Why does julie need to add her parents to her husband to feel truly punished (loved)?
    At the same time, why are her brother and sisters ejected from this new family mini-cocoon?

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    1. Good question. I think that if it's just David and I it feels a bit artificial? With my parents involved it gets very real, very quickly! It notches up the embarrassment level hugely. My older sister is involved, and I think she will play along (she already has) and add to it. My younger sister would not approve at all, and we never see her without her children. My younger brother lives in a far away city, and I'm much older than he.

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    2. In « Raped by the sister », you said speaking of you and David :
      « We don't generally think of our real siblings during such roleplay, only abstractions of them! »
      In this new project with your parents, you are not talking about roleplay or scening but about the real thing.
      If the abstraction allowed an intense sexual pleasure, will it be necessary that the punishment which your father will inflict to you is really real in order to better conceal any sexual aspect and thus allow a genital pleasure, in the presence of the other participants?

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    3. Hi Julie,
      "if it's just David and I it feels a bit artificial? With my parents involved it gets very real, very quickly! It notches up the embarrassment level hugely" You have just explained in a few words why being spanked in front of a witness ( one or more) is so powerful. It moves the entire experience closer to the reality the fantasy imagines. It makes it "real". To me it is announcing to the world in a safe way ( with close friends or family) that I am a spanked husband, that it actually happens, and this is what happens.
      Alan

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    4. And sterny: yes I think a very real spanking would be best all around.

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    5. What seemed impossible is less and less impossible. I'm curious to know what will be revealed to your father (and therefore you) in the heat of the moment (imagine him taking sadistic pleasure in hurting you!)

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    6. I'm pretty sure Mom will convey my request to Dad and discuss if it's appropriate or not... yikes again.

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  17. I was expecting tea to turn into your mom taking our the wooden spoon and putting you over her knee. And her - knowing you don’t have mommy issues - giving you a long, hard, sound spanking with our any sexual overtones. Her making it clear that you little public display of addiction with David are cute. And that she is really happy that you to still share “the magic” after all these years. However, if you misbehave in her house there will be real consequences.

    Not fake consequences to fuel your fantasies. She makes it clear that if you want to Brat in her house to entice David into Play and to tease your Dad, you will face her wrath. And her Wrath will be unpleasant. You will not enjoy - on any level - the spanking she is going to give you. And it won’t be in front of david or dad (she knows That idea thrills you). It will be just her, you and the wooden spoon. She is going to make sure you think long and hard about every interfering the family Sunday dinner with politics.

    That is where I imagined where tea would have went with your mom.

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  18. So what is the end game here? What is your nirvana? Standing naked in a corner in front of parents / sister / husband with a backside well-spanked by your dad?

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    1. Maybe when the social distancing ends you should attend a spanking party. You might need to let your sub flag fly a little bit!

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    2. Somehow the spanking party does not turn my subby crank. I would enjoy it as a Domme though.

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    3. And you would have many submissives who would enjoy being on the receiving end of your hand, paddle, belt, tawse, cane, switch, whatever spanking implement you chose to employ. I can only fantasize now, but, if I learned of a spanking party with you as a Domme, I'd consider the long drive to Toronto. lars

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    4. I'll be sure to let you know if I do!

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  19. Mistress Julie, I have been delighted at your productivity. I was concerned, earlier this year, that you were losing interest in your blog. And I had only discovered it this past December! I read all of your previous posts (and a few more than once) as I waited, somewhat anxiously, for a new posting from you. And you came through for your many fans, your loyal blog boys. On top of that. we came to see a different side of you. I never would have suspected you had a submissive side, given some of the delicious punishments david endured. It goes to show that you can understand and appreciate both sides of the D/s experience. Thank you, again, Mistress Julie, for giving us frustrated spankos something vivid to fantasize about. lars

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  20. Ayy are you excited for Sunday dinner ? After the "tea" conversation? I wonder what might happen
    I have high hopes

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    1. I am nervous, in a good way. Mom seemed so supportive.

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  21. So probably gonna be over your dad's knee tonight? Haha you wish

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  22. So What happened ? At the inrwmous Sunday dinner

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  23. The more I think about it the more I tell myself that the only solution is a game where you challenge your father to be able to spank you to make you cry. You tell him you don't think he will get there. He is happy to oblige...

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    1. Maybe I'll have a bit of a bratty attitude to egg him on!

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  24. These political views in a liberal family deserve a role play. I’d like to see this mask shaming, individual rights over health, Russian loving, tax cuts for the rich fascist bitch be stripped bare and put on trial for her politics. She should be strapped to a nice shade of socialist red and made to stand hands on head and watch Anderson Cooper while wearing a mask. Like Winston in 1984 she’ll eventually proclaim ‘I love Sleepy Joe’.

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