I'm not ashamed to say that when I went looking for a husband, my daddy became my role model. I had a few relationships I'd sooner forget where the guy just didn't measure up. It took me until my late 20's to figure out that the character traits my daddy has is what I wanted in my husband as well.
Ever since I can remember, daddy told me I was smart, and pretty, could do anything I wanted in life, and that he loved me like crazy. Maybe it's corny, but to hear those words every day as you're growing up is so important. He said it so many times that I believed him. Even when I was at my lowest, I had confidence that everything would be all right in the end, and I feel I owe it to those important words.
Daddy can also fix anything. He has tools, and he knows how to use them. So many "meterosexual" men nowadays wouldn't know the business end of a hammer from the butt end! But beyond just being handy, daddy could also fix any problem I had at all. I was sure of it. I remember once having a run in at the school with an unfair teacher. I told daddy about it, and he said he could take care of it for me, or would I prefer to care of it for myself? I decided I would take care of the problem, but bolstered by the confidence that if I screwed it up, I knew my daddy had my back! Didn't need him that time. What do you know about that?
I'm the middle girl of three, and I remember always competing fiercely for my daddy's attention. I would throw myself onto his lap and hug and kiss him, just monopolize him so my sisters couldn't! Was there anything sexual about it? Freud would say yes, and for my part I would agree with him. Even today, I throw myself at him, and sometimes still insist on sitting in his lap. Any daddies out there, please do tell, do you get sexual feelings about your daughters in these situations? I imagine it would be hard not to sometimes.
It's liberating writing anonymously on my blog here, so I will hazard to say that sometimes I deliberately do things I know are sexual. Like wear a short skirt or a low cut blouse, and still play at being daddy's little girl. Or maybe brush against him with my breast. Or walk around in only T-shirt and panties when I'm overnight. I've always done it. It's a little thrill for me. Daddy seems to not notice at all. It drives my sisters crazy, though!
Does my daddy have any sexual thoughts about me? There is certainly no evidence of it. Would I care if he did? No. I sort of, kind of, would want him to, you know? I mean, suppose he and I were marooned, just the two of us, on an isolated island in the South Pacific, for like ten years. In my fantasy, I would offer myself to him. I know. I'm very wicked to have that fantasy and should not write about it like this!
But don't get me wrong. If you're a grown man who takes advantage of an underaged girl sexually, I think you should have your dick cut off and spend the rest of your miserable life in prison. I wanted to set that record straight! However, if you are a grown woman, in her late twenties at least, and calling the shots, you can fantasize about anything you want as far as I'm concerned, and I'd be the last person to get all judgy about it.
Of course, my daddy is a perfect gentleman. He treats us girls and especially my Mom with total respect always. He is so devoted as well. Mom had to unexpectedly spend some scary time in the hospital a while back, and you could not get Daddy away from her side.
On the question of discipline. Daddy never shirked on disciplining me when I needed it. That is very important in a good daddy! I was spanked a few times as a little girl. Never very many spanks from daddy (I once got a worse one from Mom!), just enough to make a point. After about 10 years old, spanking was gone and replaced by something much, much worse.
After 10 years old, if I acted up, daddy would take me to a different room, and explain to me all about the reasons for and importance of good manners, respect for others, and respect for myself. I had heard it all before. Many times! But daddy gave me the same lecture anyway, figuring I needed it.
I remember the worst part was feeling that daddy was disappointed in me, and might not love me anymore. He didn't need to spank me. I would have done anything to win back his approval and love! Thankfully, after the lecture was over, he would always hug me and tell me that he loved me, which I absolutely basked in, like a drink of water for a girl dying of thirst!
Believe me, compared to that, spanking is easy! In these situations, had I imagined that a spanking would have meant instant love and approval afterwards, I would have thrown myself across his lap, pulled down my own panties, and begged for my spanking!
That is why daddy's have such a big responsibility. Their daughters would do anything for that unconditional love. Don't you ever dare abuse that, you men!
I remember when I was around thirteen and we had a family visiting over at our summer cottage on the lake. They had a daughter my age with whom I got along quite well. She was acting up at the dinner table, and her father raised his voice and said "if you don't stop that, I'll... I'll take you to the parking lot and lock you in the car!" I remember she just looked at him and then literally laughed in his face. He was not going to lock her in the car. He ignored her bad behaviour after that. Even at that age my predominant emotion was what a pathetic father she had. I felt proud and lucky that my daddy would not have put up with any nonsense like that from me! I would have been removed from the table, given a lecturing during which I would have cried, and then been told I was well-loved and returned to the table. A repeat that night would have earned me another lecture, more tears, and a long timeout alone in my room. Though I must say that I wasn't that far removed from spanking-age to wonder if punishment might not include a well-deserved trip over my daddy's knee during timeout for the repeat offence; or even more fancifully imagine some very painful and publicly humiliating consequences had I dared to laugh in my father's face in front of everyone as she had done!
Daddy is a good provider. He is responsible and has always worked at important jobs. At one time he had the corner office and two secretaries! What do I think about a guy who can't get or hold a job? Who lets his lady bring home the bacon? Pathetic. If you're a guy like that, go get a job! Any job. You don't need to make more money than your lady, but you do need to do something. I would have total respect even if you worked at McDonalds as a janitor, I wouldn't care. Just be responsible!
And daddy can be dangerous! I was sixteen and just learning to drive. It was a busy highway in a complicated part. I got confused about what lane to be in, and inadvertently must have cut off this man. The traffic was at a dead stop and suddenly he gets out of his car, really angry, starts shouting at me in Italian and walking towards my car door. He didn't see daddy sitting in the back seat (Mom was beside me). Daddy rolled down the window, stuck his arm out, and yelled "Cretino!" in a deep basso voice. Well that man literally turned on his heels and scampered back to his car without saying another word! Ha Ha! Talk about feeling safe when my daddy is around!
My husband has many of the same characteristics as my daddy. He is also kind and nurturing, strong and courageous, handy around the house, respectful of women. Ok, and he likes to be put into panties and spanked.
What if I found out something like that about my daddy? What if he and Mom have a secret, and one day Mom were to tell me that daddy needs to be put into panties and spanked regularly for the sake of his mental health? Would I think less of him? Not a chance! What if Mom were to ask me to witness one of his spankings? Would I do that? Hells yes! In a heartbeat. In fact, I would even tell Mom that I am not unfamiliar with how to administer a sound spanking myself, and volunteer to lend a knee and do the deed myself. I would not lose even one ounce of respect for my daddy in the process.
I know what you're thinking. All made up. Right?
For my part, I choose not to judge others' blogs like that. I take them at face value, if nothing else then for the entertainment value, and who knows what is true and what is not in cyberspace anyways? I know that my own situation is unbelievable as well. I would not have believed it a few months ago! But I know that I work hard at crafting my situations, in part because I get a thrill out of blogging about them. Yes, many are artificially manufactured, and what you read in my blog is not reflective of the fullness of my life with my husband, but just a slice of it, exaggerated in importance on this blog because I don't write about much else.
But for you doubting Thomases out there, Marc has sent me some photographic evidence of his exploits, and asked me to keep the pictures private to respect his wife's privacy. But the result is that I can vouch for at least some of what he says! So go on over and have a read and leave Marc a comment or two. You will all enjoy it. And remind yourself that some things are just too weird to be made up!
So does this imply you want your developing sissy better exposed to the family? Or maybe giving yourself to daddy?
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No. Just musing.
DeleteHi
ReplyDeleteSorry been on vacation and business trip. I love the introspective comments about growing up and your dad and mom, thanks for sharing. You are an amzingly bright lady.
As for the pics, well good for him sending you nudes, not my style but hey it is what it is.
Amazing blog, thanks
Thank you! I like being called amazing and bright! I am beaming right now.
DeleteJust the truth ma'am, you should beam, you are amazing!
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DeleteAs a father of a daughter I can say that sexual feelings have never crossed my mind toward her. She is an adult now but I feel that admiration you have for your dad is a bond or trust in him that is natural for a daughter. In my opinion having those feelings towards her would break that bond or trust. I can't speak for her nor do I judge you in any way in how you feel. I, like David would like to be put in panties and spanked by my wife if she would but unfortunately she doesn't see things the way I do. So we all have our little desires or kinks or whatever you want to call them, but I feel that is just one part of life and doesn't define who you are as a person in itself. A few post ago you called me out as a sissy and crosdresser because of my thoughts towards panties and spanking. That was my first time to respond to a post and I responded as anonymous. Now you gave me courage to venture out and put a name to the post. But like David that isn't the whole makeup in my life it's just fantasy play when the mood strikes me, not something I want to do full time or base my whole life around. I am very happy being a man and being handy around the house and fixing things. But when I screw up or the stress is to much why not have a nuturing woman put me back in line. So thanks for helping me to feel better about my feelings by creating this blog and realize that there are women who understand and embrace our sissy feelings. Keep up the good work and happy spanking!!!!
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P.S. And yes I'm the same Bob that put the comment about diapering on his premie training post.
Wonderful! There's nothing wrong with needing a woman to spank you every now and then. You are no less of a man "in the real world" as a result of that. Though you do become our little bitches in the bedroom! Ha Ha!
DeleteI would disagree with your point that "having those feelings towards her would break that bond or trust". You can't control feelings, but you can control behaviour. Having such feelings and acting upon them in some way (even making an inappropriate comment) breaks the bond. Having those feelings but acting in a way consistent with not having them is the mark of a true man, if you ask me. I wouldn't feel any the less of daddy if he wanted me, especially as I act the tease, because he never gives even the smallest clue, so I don't actually know!
ABSOLUTELY fascinating! I appreciate knowing something of the bloggers' background ( as you have provided). It is so wonderful knowing that you have had such a GREAT relationship with your father. You are a fine writer, and I appreciate that you take the time to share this journey of your hubby and yourself. ( It would be "nice" if your hubby would "squeak up" from time to time. LOL!)
ReplyDeleteLove your blog. Thanks.
Oh, david does not even know about my blog! Don't tell him!
DeleteMMMMMMMMMMMmmmmmmmmmmmmm believe me Miss Julie, sometimes you cannot make up. I have been inform by my Mistress Beth and Her cohorts that I will be serving a young 18 year old woman this summer as She uses me as practice since She will be a professional dominatrix on the side to help pay for college at a professional dungeon.
ReplyDeleteAnd my ass if it wasn't already spoken would be pulled wide open for your strapon and have you violate me whatever/whenever/however you want. Perhaps I can speak to Miss Beth and see if you can join Her sometime!
Cheers!
Mr. Beth
Sucks! Some girls get all the luck! I would have wanted an S&M slave when I was 18! ;-)
DeleteLOL! I think deep down I am the lucky one. It's going to be a lot of work (and a lot of pain obviously) but deep down I am just one lucky submissive husband whose Wife is truly a Goddess for giving the honor of helping with this young woman.
DeleteI might be starting my own blog (if it doesn't interfere with my duties/chores/activities) so if I do, I'll make sure to post on it and let you know!
Cheers!
Mr. Beth
Miss Julie, here is a link to my new blog. If You give me the honor of reading it and perhaps even posting it, it truly mean everything to me!
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Cheers!
Mr. Beth
wonderful start! I will read it always and add a link as soon as I m back to my big computer!
DeleteThank You Miss Julie! It seems the world to me that you like the site so far. I hope you continue to read and enjoy, please any comments and questions would be most helpful.
DeleteAnd posting a link to my site would be the ultimate honor! I am almost ashamed for someone as awesome and powerful as you Miss Julie to think so much of me!
Cheers!
Mr. Beth
Any of Miss Julie's readers are more then welcome to comment and ask questions on my blog as well!
I love how candid you are. Your husband married a real gem.
ReplyDeleteThank you! If you can't be candid when you are totally anonymous, where can you be? Ha Ha.
DeleteInteresting post and one that certainly took me by surprise but nice to see a different perspective on things for a change. Us guys don't get to hear what really turns a woman's crank a lot of the time.
ReplyDeleteAs for that picture, I'd say that guy has nothing to be ashamed.
Definitely would love to hear about David getting pegged in front of Sue.
Sandy
I think a nice public pegging is not out of the question given where we are now!
DeleteJust in front of Sue!!? Make sure you have him ask for it, not just made to accept his fate! Can't wait to hear that story, then the one where Sue does him!!
DeleteSubmissive Husband
I love the making him beg for it part!
DeleteVery good Julie except the parts of having sexual feelings about you Dad and intentionally wearing revealing clothes in front of him, in fact while reading these parts my slipper was itching in my feet to give you a very very hard spanking for thinking like that of your great Dad
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You're right, Sonia. I deserve that slipper! You'd probably even make my daddy watch you give it to me. Strip me all bare naked. Put me across your knee. My slim legs leave nothing to the imagination when I am bent over. daddy would see my hot wet shame as you spanked me! Sorry... I have to go now...
DeleteYou are very naughty Julie, but I think your daddy may spank both you & Sonia in this instance.
DeleteThis depends, if Julie really did as she said & chose her husband based on him being similar to her dad's traits, then Sonia would end up spanking both father & daughter.
DeleteWas your dad spanked by your mom?
DeleteI mean same as you & Sonia and all other ladies spank their husbands
I don't think so, but who knows for sure?
Deletealways nice to hear more about you and your own thoughts and feelings...
ReplyDeleteI hope your dad is on your mind because it's his birthday, or just because he always is, and not because he's sick or anything...
J
How sweet, john! thank you for your caring feelings.
DeleteNo, fortunately what brought my daddy to mind was marc's post about his grown up daughters watching their daddy get spanked by Mom. I was trying to process my feelings about how I would react to that and this post came tumbling out as a result.
Julie,
ReplyDeleteThis is Marc. First off, thank you for writing about our blog. It came out of the blue, but a delightful surprise nonetheless. I agree with you that to some people what we write of, and what you write of, seems to be total BS. A little more than a year ago I never have dreamed of the lifestyle we now have, so I get that. But real life truly is stranger than fiction, and far more interesting.
I have a few thoughts on the whole Daddy topic. What a surprise, huh? Some of my thoughts are in general and others apply to me alone.
I have to say I am astounded at your honesty in this post. I believe that the kind of pseudo-sexual tension you describe here between daughter/father (and by extension son/mother) is more common that many people will admit even to themselves. That doesn't make it right or wrong, it is merely a matter of fact within human nature. Nor does it mean that these kinds of urges or temptations should be acted upon. I understand you kinda sorta act upon them to the degree of teasing, but that is not quite the same thing as having a sexual encounter. Whether that is right or wrong is somewhat subjective, but it isn't the road I would want either of my daughters to do down when it comes to me. But, again, I have to admire your honesty in the area and don't judge you for what you really feel inside.
Yes, the bond between a father and his daughter(s) can be, and should be, special. Same thing between a son and his mother. The truth is that the bonds between me and my daughters and also my mother are very deep and transcendent. It touched me to read how much you love your father and what a good father he is. He is a great role model in a time when role models like that are sorely lacking in our society.
It was with great trepidation we as a family decided (for various reasons as explained in our blog) in favor of my forced nudity in our home about a year ago. Again, as a family, we recently decided in favor of public spanking for disciplinary reasons (not kinky, sensual, or sexual - that's a different category and will remain private). We have our reasons for this decision and a lot of thought and discussion went into it. Everything has been with full consent of each family member.
But the overall point here is that I find myself in a situation that involves daily nudity and an occasional spanking in full view of my adult daughters. So it only begs the very question you raise in this post. Is there any kind of sexual tension within the family as a result of this? Here I can only speak for myself but in reality there is none whatsoever. I do not feel toward my daughters the kind of temptation you describe about you and your father. I just don't. As for them, they have never given me the slightest evidence of sexual desire for me even though they have seen me naked a jillion times in the last year and spanked in their presence recently. So, for now, it's all good. My biggest worry was if they would lose respect for me as a father watching me being spanked. It seems my daughters think like you in that regard and, actually, have even more respect for me.
Now, would I willingly submit to a discplinary (non-sexual) spanking by my daughters or my mother or sister or any other important woman in my life (I am the sole male in the family)? Yes.
I agree that disappointing a parent (mother or father) is in some ways worse than a spanking. As for me, when I was spanked as a child I suffered from their disappointment and also the pain of the spanking. When the spanking stopped at the age of 10 all I had to deal with was the disappointment, which was easier for me than dealing with both. It was easier for me at the time, but not necessarily what was better for me. But that's me.
Thanks for a thought provoking post.
Marc
Well I'm going to call a little bit of politically correct BS on your take on things, marc. I would suggest that your submitting to being dominated by your wife and daughters has its roots in your sexuality.
DeleteFor my part, I get flushed and sexually excited spanking david. While I have no experience, I am quite sure I would feel the same sexual excitement spanking any other likeable male. But after getting hot and bothered doing that, I would run to my husband to have him lick my pussy out but good! I would have no desire to have sex with the man I just whipped, though I would get hot and bothered whipping him.
So if you find your daughters going out on more dates now that spanking has become a witnessed affair, don't be surprised!
Fair enough considering the context and qualifications you listed.
Delete...What if he and Mom have a secret, and one day Mom were to tell me that daddy needs to be put into panties and spanked regularly for the sake of his mental health? Would I think less of him? Not a chance! What if Mom were to ask me to witness one of his spankings? Would I do that?...
ReplyDeleteWhat if the opposite were true - what if you knew Dad spanked Mom regularly? Would you think less of her? Him? If he asked you to witness your Mom being spanked, would you?
hmmm... thought never actually crossed my mind. Mom tends to be the more in control person in the household. But if it was Mom getting the spankings, I would certainly not think any less of her, but I don't think it would be appropriate for her daughter to witness that!
DeleteWhy not? If it is appropriate for my daughters to watch me being spanked, why can't you watch your mom being spanked? I have to admit, it is an interesting question and I realize that all families are different so there can be different answers to the question given the context.
DeleteI don't know...
DeleteNone of my business, I guess.
If it was daddy getting the spanking, I feel I could help out and lend a hand!
Hi Julie,
ReplyDeleteMy wife wants to know your shoe size because she will give me falaqa (10 for each one) as she can not reach you to give it to you for thinking sexually of your good father
Turkish sub
Please Miss Julie, my wife gave me a very heavy falaqa session (over 400 strokes during 2 hours) & she will continue giving me one every day till you tell your shoe size so that she can give the falaqa she had in mind
DeleteTurkIsh Sub
Make sure you convert to European sizes so he gets his full share
DeleteMy feet are on fire after 3 days heavy falaqa, eventually my wife decided that I should not read the blog any more, so this is my last post
DeleteTurkish Sub
Actually, the reason it's taken me so long to answer is that I have a bit of a complex over my shoe size. While I am a very slim and attractive lady otherwise, my shoe size has been a constant source of embarrassment. They are like clown's feet, unfortunately, size 53. The shame!
DeleteHi Julie,
DeleteWhat is your shoe size in American sizes, I could not find 53 in European ones (max is 47 equivalent to 13).
Jim
Now I know how much you love David, a slipper so big could be worse than many implements
DeletePaul
jim, how cruel of you! It is 53 in American size. I told you, Clown's feet. so embarrassing.
DeleteHi Julie,
ReplyDeleteVery interesting that Turkish sub will get strokes based on your shoe size, perhaps you could post a photo of your feet & let them guess
At least the bigger a person's feet are the bigger the penis is, or so I've been told. Oh wait...nevermind...that doesn't apply in this case.
DeleteI pity you Julie, I mean with such non-standard size you will have tI tailor all your shoes & you will not be able to find a Nike or reebok that fits you as size 53 is bigger than micheal Jordons and all basketball players
DeleteJack
Come on guys, sure Julie is joking, size 53 Come on be lOgical & accept a good joke
DeleteYou caught me! It was just a joke. I don't really have clowns' feet!
DeleteDoes miss Sonia have a blog like Miss Julie?
ReplyDeleteNo time to create & maintain a blog, my time is between work, the house, and using my slipper on deserving bottoms.
DeleteI have little time to surf the net.
Sonia
well we enjoy your comments right here!
DeleteSize 53, come on Julie do not be so wicked, poor Turkish sub will have grilled feet.
ReplyDeleteWhat is your real Nike or Reebok shoes
Sonia
I am enjoying all this obsession with my shoe size!
DeleteJulie, so in between you great major engineered events of submission has there been a change in the dynamic between your husband and you? While we all wait for the next big thing, I'm sure we would like to hear about the small changes. craig
ReplyDeleteNot really, I was always bossy!
DeleteJulie,
ReplyDeletetood down the Julie Spanked segment?
It's still there, to my infinite shame!
DeleteWow , very touched by your open-heart "confidence". I think that we always see our kids as little ones and the other way around too , feel like daddy's little girl . Never received a spanking , was a very docile child , but still do get a lecture once in a while , must deserve those I guess .
ReplyDeleteYes, it warms me up to be treated as daddy's little girl.
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