Tuesday, January 22

Our Scening FLR Lifestyle

I keep getting more and more new blog viewers. Thank you very much and welcome!  I thought I would take a post to re-introduce myself and my husband, and explain how our "Scening FLR" works.

So, this is me,


Here I'm holding one of my favourite implements: my strap (actually a double-thick, leather, twin-tailed tawse).


This strap can really sizzle my husband's bare buttocks!

I've been married to my beloved and highly accomplished husband david for just over ten years now. Before david I was quite the party girl, and travelled and had a lot of sex. Like many women, I've had some very bad experiences with men (like, horrendous), and, of course, some wonderful ones. As a result of some of my bad experiences, I got very panicky when men tried to dominate me. As a result, I developed  a more "woman on top and in control" mentality towards sex. Clearly this was something that my husband found attractive in me!

About three years into our marriage he got up the gumption to share his lifelong fantasy of being domestically dominated by his wife. This initially came in the form of a casual inquiry regarding spanking, and if I was into it at all. He asked about him spanking me, which at the time was a very hard NO for my part (I've since come ridiculously around on this topic, more on that later). While he was moderately interested in that, he was much more interested in the other way around, but did not know how to broach it. So instead he took a path where he could at least retreat strategically with his manhood intact!

Fortunately, he did not retreat, and he followed this up with the question of whether I might enjoy spanking him? I asked him if that would turn him on and he said it would, and he was just so cute, like a blushing little boy, I could not resist. I did not have any firm feelings about spanking him. It did not turn me on but I was intrigued more about the power exchange, and of course fulfilling his fantasy just because I loved him. And what's the big deal about spanking him anyways (I was already pretty dominant in bed, as I mentioned).

As well, after about 5 years or so of being together, our love life had settled into a bit of a ho-hum rhythm, and I was noticing him masturbating to online porn, which made me question my own sexual worth. So I also saw this as a chance to spice things up by acting out his fantasy of being spanked.

I asked him how he wanted to be spanked and he was quite specific about it. It needed to be over my knee, on his bare bottom, with a hairbrush, and me as an angry wife scolding him for something he had done wrong. He handed me a heavy wooden hairbrush I did no know we even had.

Well, I spanked him, and after getting my rhythm after a few frustrating false starts where we were failing to communicate, I found I quite enjoyed it in an empowering, slightly sadistic, definitely sexual way (a little to my surprise).


And besides the spanking, sex afterwards was great as well!

After that initial experience he opened up to me about how this had been a fantasy of his since he was a young teenager. I also found out that most of his porn viewing was spanking-related videos. I went on the Internet and started doing research, and was surprised by the sheer quantity of stuff and number of men excited by female domestic domination. That got me into a forum, and from there I started posting to this blog. To the best of my knowledge, my husband does not know about this blog, but it would be just like him to know all about it and not tell me!

He was mainly into the Domestic Discipline thing, and his main fantasy was of a Dominant Wife (and me in particular, which is cool). It did not suit either of us, however, to make a "lifestyle" of it. We both value our mature, adult relationship. I married a man, not a child, and he has no desire being my child, and prides himself on taking responsibility for traditionally "manly" things.

As a result, we evolved our play by getting into what I have termed a "Scening Female Led Relationship." Outside of "scenes", we have a perfectly normal, totally vanilla relationship, with pretty much the stereotypical husband and (working) wife roles. Yes, I wind up doing more than my fair share of the housework; but he does the fix-it work, the electronics, most of the outside chores, and takes care of our vehicles and such. We are both FINE with that!

I'm more of a healthy eating and fitness fiend than he, but he regularly gains and then diets to get back to a healthy weight (at which he looks great, by the way!). We both like being active with cycling in the summer and cross-country skiing in the winter. He does his martial arts training, and I am regularly in the gym. We both have personal trainers to whip us into shape (mine is a currently a guy at the gym nearby work, and his a girl who comes by our house). We both have fairly demanding careers. No kids now nor planned (a little late now anyways). No pets.

So yes, a very boring work-obsessed couple, and we like it that way.

BUT...

We certainly do have our kinky side! From time-to-time (maybe once a week or two on average) we do a "scene". Sometimes we discuss a scene in advance, but other times I spontaneously "scene him" as a surprise. That is my exclusive prerogative. He does not get to "scene me" as a surprise.

Why this asymmetry? I've never really asked myself until just now. At one level it's fairly simple,


It's also very related to the difficult time I used to have with the notion of a man dominating me. I really needed to be in complete control for this to work. It's also about me not always being in the mood to be dominated (now), but him seemingly ALWAYS ready to have me dominate him. So the rule works for us. We have a general-purpose safeword he can use whenever he feels the need to get out of a scene, even right at the start of one of my spontaneous scenings, though he has never yet used it in all these years, so I guess he likes it (or is afraid I'll stop!).

For these spontaneous scenes, it is always the "strict wife / naughty husband" roleplay. I usually pick up on something that is a tiny bit annoying, but not so important that I want to have a real adult discussion with him about it. Staring at a girl's ass or boobs in the street. Leaving the kitchen a mess. Neglecting a chore. That sort of thing. Also, it's cool that he masturbates to online porn, and I usually can guess when he's at it in his upstairs study, so if I "catch him" red-handed, that's a great scene reason. He once zoomed past a rest stop on the highway that I really needed, and boy did he get epicly scened for that (husband diapered in front of sister)! So sometimes I do use it to cope with things that truly annoy me, like the time I retroactively punished him for continuing to visit massage parlours after we were married by taking him to one, having him well-teased, then spanking him in front of the girl and taking him home hard (Very Public Massage Parlour Spanking!).

And yes, we do involve other women in our scening. I actually found it very empowering to demonstrate my dominance in front of other women, and for him it was, like, an ultimate fantasy come true. So it was a good match.

One of our early co-conspirators was my older sister Sue.


I knew Sue was a bit kinky herself (she worked as a fetish model in SF for a time), and we shared everything with one another, and this was just killing me not to share, so I did. For a time, I teased david about having my sister see him spanked. He was very excited about that (it was the closest to a threesome with my former model sister he would ever get!). She actually broached it with me to come watch and participate (I had been hinting). She was just so totally cool with it that it was very easy for me to spank him in front of her that first time, and to have her spank him.

That first time with Sue was so memorable. For her arrival, I had him dressed in panties and a bra! He was sooo embarrassed to be seen like that, but it was either that or calling it off, so he obeyed. Sue teased him mercilessly over that! I spanked him first over his panties, but Sue asked if he was going to be allowed to keep them up, and so they came down. I pulled them back up before standing him up and putting him over my sister's knee. She asked him if she should lower his panties as I had done, and he said "yes ma'am" to her. Naughty boy! After a good spanking across her knee we ended with a panties off diaper-position spanking on the floor where we could both clearly see all his charms! (see Husband Spanked by my Sister!). How humiliating!

It's so much fun being able to share this thing with my sister, and it emboldened me to do it with other women as well, so david has been spanked in front of many women by now! I confess that I don't understand wives who so vehemently reject this sort of play, as it is highly empowering and the absolute opposite of his "stepping out". He's being shown who's boss in front of other girls!

So I became very comfortable with spanking and related play (such as cross-dressing him, and using a strap-on dildo on him). And the more I did it, the more empowering for me it was.

In fact, somewhere along the way I lost my fear of being dominated. Initially I thought I was ok just with a woman dominating me. After a strange series of events, it wound up by my having a female friend I had the hots for give me a "real" paddling with a paddle a blog fan made for me (a long story - see Julie in for a Severe Paddling!). I had my friend take "before and after" photos of me...


That was the first time I was spanked without me being fully "in control", and I found it incredibly sexy. As you can tell from the "after" photo, It hurt like fucking hell, but I submitted completely to a full paddling: three sets of 24 across her knee, a final set of 24 on my back with my legs held high and back (BLUSH!). I felt so sexy and submissive right then!

Tracy suggested that her husband John ought to see me being spanked next time. Rather than being panicked by that thought, I actually found it also incredibly sexy. So I had a follow-up where I got a belt whipping in front of him. Before the whipping, Tracy took me shopping for a belt, and while there she bought me a onesy 'cause she thought it was cute on me. So this is how I had to present myself to her husband!!! (blush, blush, blush!)


There was a bit on interaction with her hubby, and it really excited me. (Julie's Belt Licking!)

So we set up another get together where I would receive my spanking from him, maybe followed by a... a... fucking...

We set it up as a "schoolgirl" roleplay, with Tracy and John as my Mommy and my Daddy (I have a "Daddy thing"). This was my outfit.


Cute!

Tracy wanted to take a few pics of me "before", and this is one of the pics she took while her husband John watched!


During the scene, I got an over-the-knee hand spanking from him. A real one! Ouch! Loved it! And then another world-class paddling from her! This is me after my hand spanking from Daddy, waiting with my panties down for my paddling from Mommy.



And then this is me after my paddling!!!


There was still a question at that point if I would allow John to fuck me, but I was such a horny little slut that I really needed it just then, so I suggested it as additional "punishment" from Daddy.

Tracy wasn't going to give me to her husband just like that, so she first gave me a belt licking, including playing the tip of the belt across my pussy, and even whipping my pussy lightly while he watched!

After the spankings I was stripped bare naked, put on my knees and made to give deep oral to him. After that I was stood up, bent over, and fucked by him, hard and long, including a full sperming into my pussy. All that time his wife watched and cheered him on. (Schoolgirl Punishment)

This was all done with my husband's full support and encouragement (though he was not there). I rewarded him by serving him up Tracy for his full pleasure!

The whole episode with Tracy's husband made me realize I no longer was afraid of being dominated by a guy. Since then, I have had my husband dominate me very thoroughly (more thoroughly than Tracy's husband ever dreamed of!) and have been very turned on by it. Odd that it had to happen from a virtual stranger before my own husband. In my mind, I thought I would panic, and did not want to feel that way with my husband. As it turned out, I didn't!

One of my more memorable spankings from my husband was doled out in front of my whole family! I arranged it all, of course, but wound up getting more than the one swat I bargained for, and instead got a full SIX SWATS while EVERYBODY watched! (Julie Spanked in front of Family!)

We played it off as a lark, fun "retribution" for me smacking him in front of them all. In fact, it was my Dad responsible for "commuting" my sentence from one retaliatory smack to six! David asked if I would behave from now on and I told him "No!", so even more blushy he bundled me into my coat and took me right home for a further "discussion", as he called it. Everybody there knew I would be a happily spanked wife that night. I still can't believe we did that!

So, as you can see, we get up to quite a lot of mischief. By now, I'm as comfortable and find it as sexy to spank or be spanked.

Well, I hope that catches you up a bit. There's a lot more I skipped, but you can find it all somewhere in my blog. I hope you enjoyed my little trip through memory lane!

95 comments:

  1. Thank you for another magnificent post. Where else could anyone get that kind of information in such a perfect method of writing?
    I've a presentation subsequent week, and I'm on the look for such info.

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  2. I wanted to thank you for this wonderful read!! I definitely
    enjoyed every bit of it. I've got you saved as a
    favorite to look at new stuff you post…

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  3. Wow, this paragraph is pleasant, my sister is analyzing these things,
    so I am going to convey her.

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  4. Julie, a wonderful remembrance and how you got to where you are today. I've followed you for some time and love to read what you are up to. You have a very special man in David to allow you to experience other men and women, as i'm sure he loved being shared with others.
    archedone o

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  5. Hope this will encourage/motivate some people out there to take the risks and add an an unbelievably level of fulfillment to their relationship. And by "fulfillment" I mean whatever the hot buttons for them are; which could involve something entirely different than what you have shared.

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  6. So you have now been blogging for the majority of your relationship?
    What a wonderful record of the kinky side of your time together. Hopefully one day you can share it with David and then you can look back on it together when you're older (I bet he won't need Viagra after that!)

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  7. Julie, Not surprised the number of fans following you are growing. You are a one of kind sexy, kinky and kind woman, who does care for her boys. It’s been great following you and sharing secrets over the years. I also love playing your play Daddy who is always have to correct his nasty little girl.

    Daddy John

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  8. Good morning Ms. Julie: I loved reading your recap of your life with David. It brought me back to my FLR with my late wife. She would also surprise me with new situations. I especially remember one Saturday morning when she told me to get in the car, that we were going for a ride. after about a half hour drive, we pulled up to a driveway in a remote area, at the end of the driveway sat a house and adjacent cottage.
    My wife then explained that this morning she wanted to watch me get a serious dose of the strap, so she had arranged for a man to whip me in her presence. She told me that I was to get out of the car, strip naked and walk the 300 feet to the cottage door and knock and wait to be admitted. I was surprised at this but it was so exciting, there was no way I wasn't going to do it, the thought of such public humiliation was overwhelming. I undressed and walked to the door and knocked.
    It was opened by an older man I had never seen before, he took me in blindfolded me,gagged me with a penis gag and secured me to a spanking bench.
    At that point my wife came in and sat down. He announced that the timer was set as she requested for 45 minutes and that he would strap my bare bottom until buzzer rang, there were no safe words, only he would decide when my whipping was over. My wife agreed, no one asked me, He then started and beat my poor ass until the buzzer rang. My wife got up and thanked him and left. A few minutes later he undid the restraints and without a word pushed me out the door. I made the return walk of shame, crying and with a very sore behind, but also very excited, I got dressed and she took me home. What a morning. Female domination, severe punishment and public humiliation. I certainly miss serving that Woman.

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    1. This description got my heart pounding and imagination into high gear. The fear and excitement are over the top erotic. I would hate and love for my wife to do this to (for) me.
      Raul…

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  9. You have such a pretty bottom! Pink makes it even sexier!

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  10. A very nice recap Miss Julie. I’m sure your devoted fans, myself included, find this far better than any reality TV could ever offer.
    If we judge a society by the manner in which it entertains itself...look what we have to work with. Heartbreak and sorrow staged and captured for an audience of millions. Tales of abuse, substance abuse and far worse, being told to some loud-mouthed American with a studio audience of clapping seals; broadcast for all to see.
    You’ve given your fans something real and entertaining, but based upon love and devotion and enjoying the life you have with the people who share it with you.
    Keep up the good work, always.
    A devoted fan xoxo

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    1. If only there was a TV reality show like this!

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  11. Still miles behind David and you, miss Julie, but Lindsay and I are on a small kinky voyage ourselves too.

    Kind regards,

    Marco (from Lindsay).

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  12. The sub has no say. But Sue or David have no voice and mistress Violet is you. When are we going to hear the one who is gonna dominate you? But does she or he exists?
    I always prefer the voice of the one who enjoys dominating.

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  13. This is my first time go to see at here and i am genuinely
    pleassant to read all at single place.

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  14. Those are some unforgettable scenes, highlights from more than 7 years - 387 posts. I'd encourage new readers to check them out.

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  15. Rogering here. Your a class act Julie, with a world class bottom that really needs more regular attention from David and family...anyway keep up the good work in 2019.

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    1. “World Class” 😊😊😊

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  16. As david surfs for spanking related porn and is obviously into female domination, it would be a safe bet that he has discovered your blog. It's obvious that he hasn't revealed it to you because he respects your desire to keep it a secret. It is a credit to his devotion to you.

    Many of us subby husbands enjoy your interactions and would love to experience a similar relationship. Your blog illuminates a path that can be easily followed. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. Yes, I had considered that...

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    2. So maybe he knows and you know he knows and now he knows that you know that he knows.

      Hi David!

      Best,

      Rosco

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  17. Excellent blog you have here but I was wondering if you knew of any
    community forums that cover the same topics discussed here?
    I'd really love to be a part of group where I can get responses from other knowledgeable people
    that share the same interest. If you have any recommendations, please let me know.
    Many thanks!

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  18. And we wonder why Western culture, our civilization, its values and traditions are crumbling around us and that the barbarians stand poised at our gates.

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    1. ??? Am I missing something? Is our wonderful talented lady about to be ravaged by barbarians?
      vic

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    2. Oh I hope so!
      I think this is comment spam, but it was sufficiently entertaining to pass my scrutiny!

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  19. Ahaa, its pleasant dialogue regarding this post at this place at this web site, I
    have read all that, so at this time me also commenting here.

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  20. Julie,

    Thanks for sharing this perspective. I’ve been following since the very beginning and I am pretty sure I’ve read all your posts (some several times!), so I know how things have evolved over 7+ years.

    My experiences with Irene started the same way as yours with David - I introduced the subject, she said she’d try it but only if she did the spanking, and she grew to love it fairly quickly though not immediately.

    We have, however, never involved anybody else (if only she had a sister like Sue!), and she has never shown any interest in the submissive role. We’ve also been doing this longer, and I think she’d agree that our sex life has gotten even more wonderful and intense since our youngest left for college 10 years ago. When we started there was no internet to learn about these things - only tawdry magazines found in certain stores, and I had to pretend I had a horse when I went to buy a riding crop.

    But what intrigued me about your post was your comment about bad experiences leading to your (initial) disinclination to being submissive. I wonder if Irene’s predilection for dominance is a result of these experiences (e.g. she says she was “essentially raped” on a date once - she went along with having sex with the guy, but didn’t feel she had much choice). Interesting food for thought, but I don’t think it’s anything she wants to discuss.

    It’s always great to read your blog. Thanks so much.

    - Rosco

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    1. Yes, much as I dislike what #metoo has become, it is an unfortunately common experience for women, which is something men can never fully understand.

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    2. Irene agrees re #metoo, but she does not feel particularly scarred by the bad experiences. I’m in no position to tell people they should get over certain things, but I worry society telling people that they are scarred for life can be a self fulfilling prophecy.

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    3. It’s not what society says, it’s how you feel inside. But no reason not to soldier on!

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  21. That's not what I wonder, Anonymous. I wonder how people like you get such paranoid bullshit about the "crumbling" of "Western civilization" and "barbarians...at the gates" into their heads when they find out that there is great diversity in people's sex lives. Their loving, playful, consensual sex lives, like the one Julie describes, I might add. Oh, and even greater diversity in people's fantasies.

    Hey, maybe if we're lucky the "barbarians at the gates" include some Amazonian warrior women who will enslave some of guys and keep us as feminized sex toys in their harems. Oh no, the pillars of civilization are collapsing! LOL.

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  22. Julie, I love your idea of a "Scening FLR." My wife and I have a straightforward FLR, in which she is the boss and I am expected to obey 24/7. The result is that domestic servitude is a much bigger part of our FLR and we don't have the elaborate role playing "scenes" that you and David have. (Alas!) Deep down, however, I think that all FLR's and "domestic discipline" arrangements are really "scening FLR's". My wife and I both know that the whole thing is one big, elaborate scene that we can turn on and off depending on our emotional needs at any given moment. I know that some people insist that "domestic discipline" is "real", meaning that it is purely disciplinary and not erotic, but I am skeptical. As I see it, pretending that it isn't an erotic game is a psychological technique to make the game more exciting.
    Darryl

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    1. I suspect so as well. Why do it without the sexual thrill?

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    2. I agree with you guys. I can't speak for anyone else, but there may be people who enjoy the scene but really never even want to imagine that it's not a scene. I'm the opposite. When I fantasize about it, the authority being wielded is always real, the reason for wielding is always legitimate discipline and not for the purpose of sex. The erotic power is fueled by the belief that it's not a scene. As a consenting adult, it has to be a scene, so it's all in how I might find ways to closely approach the fantasy.

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  23. Excellent article. FLR scening is a great way to describe what out male chastity/flr lifestyle has evolved in to. Thank you. We do have a business and real life. But our time is when we can best live out our lifestyle.

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  24. An excellent post! I'd have a hard time summing up years of posts into one concise description but you definitely pulled it off. I've been reading your blog for quite a while and I'm looking forward to reading about more of your experiences in the future. You two live the life so many of us envy.

    (formerly "NC Sub")

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  25. Nice recap! It really would effectively explain your situation to a newcomer succinctly.

    But as a 'veteran'.......I liked it for its nostalgia. (And the pictures of your naked butt.);-)

    {Now I'm going to put on my chainmail and armor and start rigging defenses against the barbarians at the gate.}

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  26. Hi Julie
    The two of you are truly leading an amazing life. Thank you for sharing your scenes. I am a recent entrant to your long list of followers. I find that at times your scenes involve events that David may not enjoy given a choice. I think it is a reflection of the true love both of you have, that he always follows your lead.
    There are scenes involving you both dominating and being dominated by men and women. In David's case it always includes only women. Have you ever thought of getting David spanked,blowing or being taken by another man? Or is this a red line for either of you?
    Love
    Natasha

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    1. I would LOVE to do that to him and see that being done and direct it. I’m directing it be done to an e-subbie now, in fact. But it is a red line for my husband.

      As to things I do put him through, he loves it all despite what he may be feeling in the moment. It’s why I do it.

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  27. Hi Julie, A little off topic but I wasn't sure how to contact you otherwise. Based on your endorsement I am going to see Mistress Violet this Friday...so excited. If you are so inclined perhaps you could send her a note along with some instructions. Something like " this first spank is from Strict Julie " etc. I'll let you know how it goes.

    Chris

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    1. Hi chris, my email is top right. I’ll drop Violet a note!

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  28. A very good article and some very good comments! It is interesting that David first suggested that he spank you. I actually did spank my partner a few times before she turned the tables. When she spanked me, she found that she enjoyed it a lot more than being spanked, and she announced that henceforward she would be doing the spanking in our relationship.

    Like Darryl, I am also skeptical about spanking being purely disciplinary and not erotic. Some people on other websites seem to be really fanatical about it. "Of course domestic discipline is real, death to the unbelievers!"

    I really liked the comment from anonymous about Amazon warrior women. I can imagine a parallel world where the Roman Empire was overthrown not by the Goths and Vandals but by Scythian warrior women from the steppes. (It seems they really existed according to archeologists.) It might have been fun to have been a Roman in that case. I imagine being captured by a tall Scythian woman with long blonde hair, who is dressed in a short kilt. She strips me, ties me hand and foot, throws me across her knee and gives me a sound spanking with the flat of her sword. And that is just the beginning!

    Best wishes for your marriage and for the blog.

    Brian.

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    1. I wonder if there is an illustration of that somewhere? Would be fun.

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    2. A number of Sorenutz drawings illustrate this theme

      like this one, (not one of the best)
      http://www.sorenutz.eroticillusions.com/preview/slave_auction_sorenutz.jpg

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  29. Miss Julie Mrs Julie

    i just want say thanks you for job well done every post & Sharing your & husband spanking life you make me get hard and cum even make me know learn lesson at same time keep me behaving

    what you do to husband and reason why for spanking make me fear having you come after my ass and know you do same to me how i should behave or some female can will do same to me

    you are one gorgeous beautiful young woman with amazing booty butt very talented and kinky sexy personality keep up good work

    keep on making us naughty boys kinky boys behave and on straight narrow or a Strict Julie harsh SPANKINGS in our FUTURE

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  30. FLR I have always wanted, there are drawbacks, but overall works quite well. I thought this would be a family secret, but have learned that my wife has that look that she is in charge. She has a tone in her voice that tells me I have gone too far. Her mother, a couple of her best friends know. Going to church after a spanking is the worse, those damn pews are hard. I use to protest, beg, plead, not anymore. When she bares my bottom that is the worse spankings. I don't mind standing naked waiting for the spanking, I just hope no one sees me, have been seen. Always over her lap, she feels that is the most effective way to give a spanking. So I wanted this life, I got this life, and my wife enjoys even more being in charge, and trust me the spankings are true punishment spankings. Jack

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  31. Hi Miss Julie. I just love your blog which is very well written. You have a lovely spankable bum and I do love a well spanked ladies bum and have had the pleasure of spanking several ladies in my time. However a fantasy of mine is to be spanked hard on my bare bottom by a beautiful strict mistress in front of a female audience so I love the stories where David is spanked by and in front of other women such as your sister. Really turns me on and makes me quite envious of David. My own fantasy is to be spanked by a hot female boss or the lady of the house, riding school mistress etc. Don't go for the school boy being spanked by the head mistress as prefer adult spanking scenes. Some of the other stuff isnt my scene either but you can't beat, (pardon the pun) a good hard witnessed spanking/caning/strapping etc. Yes ma'am. Richard.

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    1. There's something about a posh strict woman isn't there? Especially in jodhpurs.

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    2. Yes, I just love a posh strict woman dressed in equestrian attire administering a sound cropping to my bare buttocks to both punish me and entertain her lady friends at the same time. I suspect this is a common fantasy. Richard.

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    3. Oh my! All those young ladies taking their riding lessons. Do you think they know?

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    4. Maybe not at first but they soon realise the effect they can have I am sure. One memory this brings back is going to a riding stable to collect my cousin when I was about 19. Very curvy/full figured blonde lady aged about mid 30s said to her friend "jodhpurs make my arse look fat". Her husband/partner looked across to say something and she tapped her riding crop against her (rather plump) thigh and said "I wouldn't say anything if I were you!"

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    5. I had to laugh when I was driving behind a horse box with the caption, 'Caution! Women with whips' on the back. I remember wondering what I would need to do to get a good whipping!! Lol!!! Richard.

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    6. I hear in some, like, Mennonite communities or something, that if a man, say, drank liquor, he could expect to be taken outside and given a whipping by his women...

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    7. Blimey! Some guys get to have all the fun, lol!! Better hit the bottle then! Funnily enough, given the general thread, I am out with a female friend who rides later in the week, just a mate from way back. She would probably be mortified and quite shocked at my femdom spanking fantasies. Such is life. Great blog anyway, Richard.

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  32. Sometimes the threat of a scene that will not happen can be incredibly hot. Last week my girlfriend had me doing a naked workout in front of a full length mirror to incentivise me to lose some of my excess weight. As usual she was mocking and teasing me wobbling around and then she said "I'm going to invite Melissa round to witness this if you don't lose weight". Melissa being her very attractive friend. We both know she won't actually do this but I was so turned on by the fantasy of the two gorgeous women teasing and spanking me. She knows how to push my buttons!.

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    1. I agree that the threat of a scene can be really hot, even if it is impossible. For example, we might be in a public place and if I argue with her she might say, “Do I have to take your pants down and spank you right here? Don’t think I won’t do it.” She couldn’t actually do it because we would both be arrested. But the threat is really hot, and I play the game by submitting instantly to her authority, imagining that I narrowly averted a bare bottomed spanking in public
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    2. Threatening means she’s considering it. I would not be so cocky about it I were you! Best to shed those pounds as quickly as possible as there’s no telling when Melissa might pop around.

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    3. I wouldn't put it past her! She's absolutely loving her new role as my personal trainer. She gets to be bossy and strict, ordering me around whenever she wants and get me into shape as well.

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    4. It's something i would for sure do in a heartbeat. "Hi Melissa, it's Julie. Yeah, so you know how I'm trying to get my husband in shape? I tried to motivate him by having him do his exercises naked in front of a full-length mirror and teasing him about his chub. No, trust me, he's sort of "into" the embarrassment. I threatened him that if he doesn't lose weight fast enough, I'll have you round to see that and tease him alongside me. It freaked him out! But he thinks its an empty threat, that I would never do that, and that you would never agree to it... Oh yeah? You would? Cool! We'll give him another two weeks to get his act in gear, and if he doesn't, we'll set up a time for you to come by. Do you mind if I spank him in front of you while I'm at it? No? Great! Thanks a lot, this will REALLY help motivate him!"

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    5. Oh my god! A prospect that both massively turns me on and also scares the hell out of me. I really wouldn't want this to happen in reality even though the idea of it is a fantasy. Imagine if she told people about it! Another reason to make sure I work hard on shifting the blubber.

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  33. Reading what everyone writes is great, your response is proper and straight forward. My wife from our dating days knew I wanted to be spanked and she knew I needed to be spanked. Her need far out weighted my want want. The one dream I have that I cannot shake is this; dating a girl in college, her mother very strict and she must obey her mom rules since she is living at home. I learned that her mother spanks her, at this age. I somehow find myself witnessing such a spanking, the mother looks up, this is what happens when my daughter breaks the rules of the home young man. I freeze, saying nothing, and then she states your next. She gives me that stern mother look and tells me off with the pants. Her daughter is being spanked on the bare bottom and her bottom is very red. I then find myself standing of front of this woman, she pulls down my underpants and soon I'm squirming and kicking. The last scene is both of us standing side by side, bare bottom on display, similar to the picture seen very often of female and male facing the wall naked with red bottoms. This has stuck with me for as long as I can remember. The only conclusion I have it is that Motherly Look, the Stern Tone of the voice, and the traditional over the lap spanking. Many times I wished it had come true. Jack

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    1. Hi jack, I really like it when you share your fantasies like this, and identify them as such! That turns me on!

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    2. It turns me on also and when my wife is shopping I masturbate slowly it is such a desire and dream. As I said that "Motherly Look" and Stern Voice women have, just something about those two that this males will do as told and quickly. Jack

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    3. Naughty boy, playing with yourself while Mommy is out shopping!

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  34. "Sometimes the threat of a scene that will not happen can be incredibly hot." Yes, definitely! A few years ago my girlfriend and I took a trip by train. We had been talking about spanking while waiting for the train to arrive and the conversation had really turned her on. The train was fairly crowded and we had to walk along the aisle looking for empty seats. She could not resist swatting my bottom a couple of times and when we sat down she said: "I'd like to put you across my knee and give you a good spanking on your bare bottom right now." I don't know what the other passengers made of it!

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    1. If I had overheard, I’d have been over in a shot making friends!

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    2. It's a pity you weren't! At the time I was embarrassed and I avoided looking at the other passengers. In hindsight I think it would have been interesting to see how they reacted, especially the women.

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    3. Can you imagine had I come over to tease you?

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  35. Julie
    Thanks for sharing. A scene can be fun. I remember being quite embarrassed when I shared my fantasy with my wife about her being in charge and later buying a male chastity. She learned I liked a little humiliation and one day on vacation she actually suggested a scene with me as the submissive husband shopping with his dominant wife. My wife is taller than me, and taller in heels. So we did it and it was awesome. I walked slightly behind my pretty wife carrying all the packages and bags. She looked much taller because I wore flat sneakers. I stood out dressed in white shorts, a white thin pullover shirt, and with a bald head glistening from all sunblock my wife put on it before we left the hotel. A few people really looked at us, especially women, and I was humiliated;-) We don’t know what they thought but it didn’t harm anyone.

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    1. Had anyone? Big smiles all around I’ll bet!

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    2. Yes, were some big smiles from some of the women that looked our way. My wife told me back at the hotel that I looked like a puppy dog the way I was following her. She rubbed it in about my appearance by saying my “coworkers and friends would be so impressed.” That’s another thing; when we go to the beach or on a cruise she loves to load the sunblock on my head. She is always thinking of my wellbeing.

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    3. My wife likes how I look bald, so showing she cares is the least she could do.

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  36. Excellent Julie, lucky David, I did a similar introduction for my wife, she has same reaction, no for being spanked, ok to spank me. But she does it only to Please me and get me horny to fuck her, she is not much I to spanking enjoyment. Any way she spanks well and in return gets longer sex because she says spanking make me better at sex.

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    1. I find spanking makes men especially better at oral sex!

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    2. julie - interesting statement! Any thoughts on why this is true?

      -T.

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