One of my favourite things is "torturing" hubby by edging him and ruining his orgasm. I'm not sure why I get such giddy delight out of doing it, but there it is.
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My passion for this has been re-kindled based on my newfound interest in the bdsmlr platform that has been replacing tumblr for more kinky/sexual content. I created my own blog there at strictjuliespanks.bdsmlr.com which mainly reposts images and gifs that turn my crank (mostly with an added comment from me). It's not a place that is terribly interactive, but if you're on there, and we follow one another, things will pop up in our mutual feeds so that we each can get an insight into the kinky mind of the other. I also see whenever you like or reblog one of my things to know you approve!
I did post a bit of original content there, mind...
I want all of you to see what I'm dealing with here. |
Which brings us back to the point of this blog post: my husband's penis.
Despite being dominant with me in real life, and dominant with me in play, he is also genuinely very switchy and gets terribly turned on by being dominated by me in play.
When I was on bdsmlr, things popped up in my feed that made me want to edge david and ruin his orgasm. Here are some of the images that inspired me along with my commentary.
1. Awww! She's letting him fuck her fingers as if it was a vagina, or a bum hole. I love that she's checking her phone during it! |
2. I bet if david allowed this to happen to him, he would cum like gangbusters in my hand. |
3. For the boy with the foot fetish |
4. What a naughty boy! Cumming like that during his spanking. I often have my husband in this predicament. |
5. Right into his mouth and down the hatch. |
6. Oh no! Not in his undies! This happened to my premie husband back in high-school when kissing a girl. Don't you love the expression of delight on her face? |
7. This is what a handjob is all about, isn't it? Look at the fun she is having with him. There's nothing sexual about this. It's like playing with a puppy's tail. |
8. It's about the tease. |
9. I call them "tears of desire" |
10. Patience is key. He's lucky she kept her hand on him so I guess it's not completely ruined, right? |
11. I love that he cums from the crop. |
12. I think she promised he could fuck her however he wanted if he could only hold out. But too bad, so sad! |
13. I wish I could lip read. But that's a ruined orgasm and what looks to be a bit of payback to me. |
14. Totally ruined, but he's still a lucky boy to get to cum at all, right? |
15. Love her! I think she's trained him to cum on command. |
16. Love the smirk, the staring at his cock, the quick glance up to his eyes. |
18. "Please! Please! Don't ruin it! Please rub it!" "No" |
19. There'll be a bit of cleanup afterwards. |
20. She'll let go and he'll keep rubbing. I wonder it it will make it feel less ruined for him? |
21. Again, the look on her face. Priceless! |
22. She looks so shy. And there he goes, embarrassing himself like that. Boys are truly pathetic! |
23. A wittle clitty wub? |
Don't you just ADORE those gifs? You can see how a girl with a part-time subby hubby like I have can get a bit worked up and eager to try out a few ideas.
What I did was that I brought him up to the bedroom, I stripped him, and put him face down on the bed. Putting a knee on his lower back to restrain him, I tied his wrists together behind his back. Then I tied his ankles together, and then put a tight belt around his upper thighs. Before rolling him back over onto his back on the bed, I stuffed a vibrating prostate massager up his butt and turned it on.
I then got naked as well, and started toying with his penis with my hands, my tongue, and my mouth. Before long I had him twitching and moaning. I stuck a ball gag into his mouth and tightened it down HARD.
I went back to his cock and continued my ministrations, being super light with him. At a certain point I was barely touching him. From where I was, I could look at his cock and straight into his pleading eyes. A few more little finger touches and then hands completely off as I literally laughed as he moaned into his ball gag and came all over himself.
I removed his ball gag and fed him his own cum. Then I made him go down on me until I had a very satisfying orgasm, not ruined at all, mashing him into my cunt.
Yums!
wow the mindfuck of me stroking a dildo while I'm ruined makes me raise my pelvis in lust and frustrated imagination!
ReplyDeletethat girl you love is so cute
I wish you and her would dom me and make me eat my cum or make me take my first cock while you mock me..
-dreaming of your instruction
Us too!
Deletetime/place/sissy outfit for my first? -doyi
DeleteHa ha! Dream on, doyi
DeleteWell you answered one of my questions. You did laugh at him. Do you also chastise verbally about not holding out as instructed?
ReplyDeleteAre there other consequences you've imposed?
I believe you enjoy it because it really is quite the ultimate in power. Allowing cum to spurt but yet it really isn't a total orgasm either.
How many times have you gone this route? And does he know it's coming beforehand (no pun intended).
Every couple of weeks I suppose. He's never sure if I will let him cum at all, let him but ruin it, or give him a proper handjob.
DeleteRuined orgasm is so mean and mind-fuckingly cruel! So why do I want it done to me? - DLC
ReplyDeleteThe cries of frustration are the best!
DeleteMy wife likes to ruin my orgasms when I am being diaper punished (which is more frequent than I would like to admit). Usually she will do it when I’m laid down for a change and have a new clean diaper under me. Typically she straddles my face so my hands can’t reach “down there”. Once I helplessly ejaculate into the open diaper she promptly tapes it up and I have to stay in my mess until she decides to change me again, which can be several hours or even overnight. While absolutely humiliating, I think it might be better than having to eat it like David!
ReplyDeleteSix of one, half dozen of another.
DeleteI love pic number 5. Been in this position often and swallowed a ton of my hot cream.
ReplyDeleteGood position!
DeleteThe worst / best part, I think, is at the pinnacle of pain and humiliation… she’s looking in your eyes and LAUGHING at you.
ReplyDeleteYes!
DeleteNumber 9, and 14 through 17, all beautiful and delightful. An experienced wife knows when you are close. The tied up slow edging to eventual ruined orgasm is a must for getting a shy husband talking, and to make him fall deeper in love with her.
DeleteGo 17!
Delete21 yes! What a little pixie beauty and the half eye roll, annoyed expression. I think she would be fixing to deliver a punishment based on her reaction.
ReplyDeleteI also love her annoyance with the male orgasm!
DeleteRuins are so cruel and humiliating. Especially when they are given right before a serious spanking. It takes enough of the edge off to still be almost like a post orgasm spanking. Dear Julie, you still have that creative and cruel streak in you. :)
ReplyDeleteI always assumed the key was just emptying the balls, regardless of how?
DeleteWith a ruin, you recover so quickly wanting to finish the orgasm. It does empty the balls a bit but still leaves the need.
DeleteGood info!
DeleteOh god, 12-17 are almost painful to watch! I love the idea of edging and ruined orgasms but not sure I could bear much of it in reality. That's why I can never understand the modern male's preference for coming over face/tits etc... to me that's practically a ruined orgasm!
ReplyDelete2 is the best though. Having experienced an orgasm with a rubber cock in my ass and a woman's hand on my dick, I can only imagine the intensity if it was a real cock inside me!
I think 17 must be my favourite. Captures so much of that dynamic.
DeleteWow Julie. My wife and I have been getting really into this the past month. She began giving me full time chastity (besides at work because of the nature of my job) a few weeks ago. I’m only allowed to cum when she wants from now on. I was so used to masturbating whenever I wanted since I was 12 so now I’m constantly on edge and not used to being so full of cum. When we have sex she doesn’t let me cum. I make her cum hard from penetration then immediately am put back in my cage. Yesterday she could tell I was way too pent up to focus on anything else and so she lubed me up and gave me a long teasing handjob that literally had me uncontrollably moaning and whimpering/begging. Even she was surprised by her newfound skill. She talks so sexy when she does it and is getting so good at handjobs she knows exactly how to make the most out of it. Those images you posted are amazing. I’m definitely going to show her some for ideas.
ReplyDeleteDid she let you finish? Did she ruin it?
DeleteI was allowed to finish this time. It was a reward for being so obedient with chores and massages while locked. We have been talking about ruins and prostate milking this week. I showed her this post and she was interested in what makes a successful ruined orgasm. She has ruined my orgasms before but now she’s interested in understanding how to do it like a pro.
DeleteGood development. Happy to have been useful.
Deletejulie,
ReplyDelete5,6 and 12 for me. i came exactly that way in no. 5 on saturday afternoon. we've spoken about the males desire for eating cum vanishing upon climax. that position leaves no way to back out.
no. 6 japanese femdom is awesome. i wish it was subtitled cause usually the women are laughing which is something that can make me cum untouched as its so humiliating.
no 12: aside from being adorably cute those knee socks rock. if i were in that picture i'd be right behind her with those feet in my mouth.
great read. sorry i haven't posted in a while
respectfully yours, sgirard
6 is one of my faves as well.
DeleteI'm sure it's occurred to you that we actually enjoy this as much as you ladies do Julie ?
ReplyDeleteI was counting on it, despite the frustration of the moment.
DeleteA still enjoyable form of frustration.Something is happening and you can do nothing to stop it....kind of like going over a waterfall in a canoe !
DeleteI like making him lose control of his bodily function.
Delete#10 is completely ruined and then there's #23. She's using too many fingers and I wonder if she's getting serviced at the same time. Seems so, but it's not showing on her face.
ReplyDelete#15 -- I have the woman in question on one of my ruined orgasm videos, but with (I think) a different backdrop. Commendable skills, nevertheless.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, I certainly enjoy a ruined orgasm.
Writer & Editor
Thanks for the info. Where might I find said video?
DeleteAlas, I misremembered. It is the same backdrop -- the cropped perspective fooled me. So I guess you'll already have it...?
DeleteApologies.
W&E
I don't have the video. All I have is the gif.
DeleteI will happily provide it. I'll send you a link, as I can't send you the downloaded video. Unless you can suggest some clever way that I might be able to do so?
DeleteW&E
Here you go...
Deletehttps://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph6064f859907d0
W&E
Thanks! I agree she's the best in the video.
DeleteWC here
ReplyDeleteI like your bdsmlr blog
Check out chastity beach bdsmlr
You guys need to go a naked sex resort in Mexico or Jamaica
With one of both of you in very public chastity
I think a month without a orgasm would really get your creative juices flowing
I think lots of orgasms is better for creativity!
DeleteWC here
DeleteFunny!
I agree actually
All I’m saying is that having David in a cock cage and a bright red bare bottom getting you drinks from the bar, etc.
Might be something that you two might enjoy
Not to mention the cuckolding that would probably ensue:)
Sounds good to me!
DeleteWC here
DeleteI’ll bet it does
What’s not to like:)
Total sub space……
Try Desires in Rivera Maya
we've done this quite a lot. Sometimes my wife likes to just edge me rather than a full intercourse session. She gets really into spanking my butt while she does it (I kneel on the bed and she uses her left hand on my penis and spanks with her right). Spanking the bottom side of my penis as I get close seems to work well too. She lets me orgasm after a few close edges.
ReplyDeleteNice! Lucky boy.
Delete#12 happened to me just the other night. Just as we were about to get into position for sex, I went over the edge. Can be very frustrating!
ReplyDeleteAnd embarrassing!
Deletesounds delightful! Fun to be kinky, and not in charge of the activity.
ReplyDeletebottoms up
Red
Yes! He was in my hands.
DeleteMake certain you live all of your fantasies, like what you just posted on BDSMLR
DeleteRed
Julie, you revealed things I don't recall learning about previously.
ReplyDeleteI had always considered you more of a "spanko" hence the name of the blog. But with this post, you mentioned (for what I believe is the first time) more of an interest in edging and ruined play.
Also you described a bondage scene with the tying of wrists and a tightly strapped-in ball gag. Never noticed usage of that before.
Questions: 1) Do items like that get used more than you typically describe? 2) Are they also used on you? (You often describe floggers, paddles, etc but fewer restraint items.) 3) Have you ever dabbled in some cock bondage? 4) And what are your thoughts on that sort of bondage/restraint/leash?
We do that stuff from time to time. Pretty sure I've blogged about it before.
Delete1) yes, we play with our toys more than I blog
2) not much, I still get a bit panicked in bondage and gags, but am working on it.
3) yes a little, but nothing expert level
4) it's sexy
I understand what you mean regarding response 2. It all entails creating a certain aura or vibe. 50 swats and you are immediately in sub-mode. Restraints kind of aren't necessary to get you into that mindset. And if there's some inherent panic, it can and should be used sparingly and carefully.
DeleteMen tend to be physically larger and some form of restraint often creates the sub mindset that I think can't always be achieved the same way without such restraints.
Regarding #3, one doesn't need to be on an "expert" level for it to be effective. A tight binding, will cause quite the bulging, probably making it look even larger. But within a few minutes, there is also a "numbing" sensation which really plays with a guy's head. Because he can see it is erect but not necessarily FEEL any pleasure or sensation from it. Obviously care needs to be exercised and I'd take it off before it has been tied TOO long.
Is it something you want to get better at? What have you used for binding it? Let me know if you have some interest there.
Cock bondage is not something I really lust after, or David either. I do like tying him up. He does not experience any panic, though perhaps he should!
DeleteDavid has a cute little wee wee. I love the way you slap it
ReplyDeleteNot so little when it's going into my bum!
DeleteOh yes indeed it looks nice and full for penetrating a sexy behind.
ReplyDeleteHave you ever shaved him down there. My wife shaves me when she’s really displeased with my childish behavior. She says act like an immature brat you will look like an immature brat complete with red hiney and no pubic hair.
Yes, he's often shaved. I like him shaved better
DeleteIs (2.) edging, though? She could stop, and HE could continue, and it would be called hand-free.... something ;)
ReplyDeleteAlso, if you don't mind, what the *closest* David had experienced towards that end? Other than having his spanking witnessed by another man, I think that was it, right?
Even worse than ruined, me bringing him to the point where a man's cock alone takes him over the edge!
DeleteHe's been handjobbed by a guy once. That is the closest.
Did he cum?
DeleteHe did.
DeleteI get edged almost every night. Sometimes for two or three weeks at a time. Eventually, it will just cum out. If the timing is just right it is "ruined" but I almost (not quite) feel bad if allowed an orgasm of any kind. When I do get to cum it is always like in photo 6.....and I also thought photo 2 was very hot and something I would love to try....this was a great posting. Thanks
ReplyDeleteBut 6 is so humiliating!
Deletehttps://spankbang.com/5uj9p/video/lovely+miss+denise+slippering
ReplyDeleteI love how the little skirt flips up during the slippering!
DeletePoor number 23.
ReplyDeleteHis wife is telling him that, because his peepee could not get bigger or harder, there would be no more penetrative sex. They could still stay married as a lesbian couple as long as he was the femme partner.
He wanted to protest but his mouth was otherwise occupied and the twitching of his peepee was betraying him. When she told him that, if he wanted to have heterosex, she would find him a man to do him. His no was totally muffled as she came and a little spurt came out of his peepee. She knew him better than he knew himself.
I think that's exactly what happened too!
DeleteGot to be number two 👍
ReplyDeleteVery humiliating to be used by a stud while your wife looks on.
But which is the better option a ruined orgasm, or being denied?
I’m usually denied and stood in the corner while the stud and wife enjoy themselves. She makes sure to make plenty of noise so I’m aware of how good a lover he is, then when he’s finished it’s cleanup duty for me. Then on goes the cage.
👍
DeleteHey Julie. Nice post. In your bdsmlr, there are s lot of chastity pics. Did you play that game anymore? T&D in chastity is quite cruel :)
ReplyDeleteWe have a cock cage that we play with in scenes. So we basically roleplay chastity, but neither have a desire for full time.
DeleteI wished I had not shown this blog to my wife, and then again I'm glad I did, hiding nothing. I'm still spanked as punishment, but we went to the mountains, rented a cabin, and she shocked me. I was outside, enjoying the sights and she came out naked, I looked at her smiled and then she said I'm being a naughty wife, I said no a naughty little girl and she smiled. I walked up to her, hugged her, kissed her and said you need a spanking, she just smiled. There were chairs on the deck and I soon had her over my lap and I gave her a very sound spanking. Oh she kicked, squirm, said not so hard, and I spanked harder. when she stood up, rubbing her bare bottom, I took off my clothes, erection hard and straight and she smiled. We had a great time outdoors, the next morning she said that was great, being a naughty little girl, getting a spanking, thank Julie she said. Oh your still getting punishment spankings, but you'll know when I'm being a naughty little girl, wanting a spanking and all the wonders that come with it. Jack
ReplyDeleteGreat Julie! I like ruined orgasm also. It' very frustrating but the amusement of the female Is priceless. I would like having more, but as I already said, in this period not so much sex for me (pregnancy).
ReplyDeleteSe also do this(done yesterday): I lay down on the bed, belly down and ass up, penis on behind. She then put the vibe on the frenulum, After not so long I can't hold and I ejaculate. Is not conpletely ruined, is not completely satisfing. Is different! Try It! Maybe with the prostate massager can be fantastic!
P.s.: don't forget to put something under his penis to collect the cum, someone is going to lick It all up later!!
Oh yes, tried it already!
DeleteDid you enjoyed?
DeleteWe both did.
DeleteI could swear that #21 is a mainstream actress. If not, she should be, that look of annoyance is perfectly executed.
ReplyDeletePossibly!
Delete#2 is amazing <3
ReplyDeleteAlex
Yup!
DeleteDo you have a link to #5 and #7 ? The nipple play on 5 gets me off and the cuteness of the girl with the curls stiffens me.
ReplyDeleteChris
I'm afraid not, just random things reblogged on bdsmlr.
DeleteYes, #7 is such a joyful cutie girl next door.
understood, you rock !!!
DeleteChris
Some really great GIF's! Takes a real dirty mind to find those. Thanks!!!
ReplyDeleteA.J.
Thank you!
DeleteIt's nice to be appreciated.
Yeah, I get spanked to orgasm by my wife.
ReplyDeleteNice! I get spanked to orgasm also.
DeleteFor us it is very funny, I am 6 feet 210 pounds, my wife is 5 feet 100 pounds, with a smaller than usual feet and hands (she wears the last size of kids shoes). She doesn't like to use implements much so she hand spanks till her hand tingles abd seeing me still has much room to receive spanking she uses the thick electic cord to finish me up quickly though she says she doesn't enjoy it much but no other alternative and she ends the spanking with foot fucking me benefiting from her small feet size, but reading your blog she liked the idea of the equalizer, so this summer when buying her foot wear she was selecting the slippers and sandals based on the sole material and weight.
DeleteBoy, her jelly slippers are from hell, they hurt a lot, also the leather sandals.
The equalizer indeed!
Delete"Indeed, given the opportunity, Ms. Julie will indeed find herself completely stripped and carefully inspected, including bending over and spreading her legs for a full latex-gloved cavity search. Full depth. After that she will be spanked. Very thoroughly spanked I can assure you."
ReplyDeleteMr. Stevens
"I would say Julie ought to be made to expose herself to you. It is one thing to bend over and spread your legs, it's another thing entirely to then have to reach back to spread your cheeks wide open... It's one thing to lay on your back legs splayed open, your slit exposed to your senior, it's another thing entirely to then have to reach down and spread yourself open for him...
You understand where I'm coming from, Mr Stevens?"
-Kasey
Already happened! Blogging it now... There was deep cavity exploration....
DeleteWon’t you be in trouble for your comment on picture 2? You went there again about David taking cock when he’s been such a spoil sport about it.
ReplyDeleteAll good. There were two very specific things I got spanked for, well deserved, neither of them were just for expressing my desire, which he says I am free to do until the cows come home.
DeleteI just have to say that I think it’s awesome that you shared a gif of your hubbies erect penis. I’m comfortably hetero but it’s a nice penis. I appreciate you stretching the bounds of what you’re comfortable posting of real life images. Did he know and give you permission? If not I’d hate (love) for you to get spanked for it- with visuals of course! Maybe a gif of him taking down your panties… your readers can only hope!
ReplyDeleteYes, I previously had permission, and my understanding is that I do not have re-seek permission each time I re-post.
DeleteIf you want to see him ripping my panties down, there's video of that out there (although I am over his knee, not "full frontal" as he is here :-)
Well dang… I hope I’ve at least planted the seed of a turnabout-is-fair-play-full-frontal-panty-ripping idea in your head for the near future. ;-)
DeleteWC here
ReplyDeleteCheck out Josie Fair bdsmlr blog
Nice find!
DeleteAnd Tedsville bdsmlr
ReplyDeleteOh Jeez #4. I am literally squiming
ReplyDeleteMiss Julie, I thought #5 is particularly cruel. I had missed it on the first round. There is one that I don't see here that is the worst though (I think). The guy is sitting and she squats down on his hard cock and rides him right until he is ready to cum. She lifts up and turn to see him ruin.
ReplyDeleteMy disciplinarian would like to know what your opinion is about what should happen to bad boys who get drunk and make disrespectful comments to women. She thinks your input would be quite helpful for a discipline session planned for me.
I'm the Queen of tease.... I love this sooooooo much.
ReplyDeleteLove your blog
Miss Angelina
Me too! Love these images.
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