Saturday, February 18

Professional Attention

Based on reading Ms. Clara's blog (who is a professional dominatrix), I thought it would be fun to take david to visit a local pro domme. So I set david to the task of finding somebody suitable and setting things up. He did a little research on the 'net, and found some likely candidates. So hard to tell from the photos and descriptions, though, and I don't have the time or inclination to screen pro dommes (work keeps me rather busy).

However, I thought david would rather enjoy the "screening" task, so I told him that he could go and have sessions with a few and find one he thinks would be a good fit for us.


Crazy of me, you say? Maybe...

I have some ground rules for him. No sex at all. I don't even want him jerking off and ejaculating. No anal penetration for him. She must stay dressed at all times. He must tell her he is doing this with his wife's consent and permission. Their "fantasy" must be that he is being sent by his wife to a professional to receive some sound discipline. And, he has to tell me ALL about it afterwards. Every little detail.

The thing I realised is that he loves me for me. He also loves his little fetish. That I cater to his fetish is definitely a positive. But if somebody else also caters to his fetish, it is not that he loves me any less. And it is not that he will fall in love with any woman who spanks him - he's in love with the spanking itself. That has become more and more clear to me over time.

So wish us luck on this new adventure... Gulp!

47 comments:

  1. Julie,
    I think most men who have the need to be spanked by a Lady would love to experience a spanking from other women, I definitely would and have. Your requirement to not participate in anything sexual should be expected and followed. After all our fetish is being spanked by a woman for discipline, and not erotic like it might be in a marriage, at times. I hope it works out well for both of you, it definitely shows your love and understanding for him, YOU ROCK!!
    Dave

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    1. Thank you, dave!
      It's funny, I used to be jealous about other women, but sending him for a spanking does not trigger that in me at all anymore. I feel it is is the right thing to do.
      Thank you for the support!

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  2. Ms. Julie-
    You never cease to amaze me in your creativity and adventuress soul. What an amazing wife you are to david. I am sure this will come out just fine and that however it ends up you will be getting as much out of it as david.

    But wouldn't it be interesting to actually connect up with Ms. Clara herself (and perhaps her mum, too)?

    Ken

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    1. I would love to conenct with Clara. If I'm ever "across the pond" with david I certainly will!

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  3. Good luck in your search Julie, we'd love to hear David's detailed descriptions from the blog if you would permit.

    Emily

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    1. Hi Emily!

      I'll be sure to pass on everything he relates. I am looking forward to it as well!

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  4. maybe send him locked in a CB. That way you can be for sure.

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    1. Ha Ha! That would be humiliating for him!
      But I trust him that he will not violate my rules.

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  5. Hi Julie,
    After reading your previous post I put sissy in panties only, no diapers. We went shopping and guess what happened? He wet himself! He says that his bladder has weakened because of his growing dependance on diapers. What is a good punishment? Also have you put david in diapers?

    Goddess Gretchem

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    1. You really love those diapers, Getchen.
      Good for you!

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  6. Good luck to you and david on this new and exciting adventure. We certainly want to hear david's detailed report!

    But I bet his experience won't some close to what he felt when you and Susan spanked him, or when he was spanked in front of his trainer. At least form my point of view, being spanked in front of (or by--BLUSH!) a woman I know and must see in regular life makes the professional pale by comparison.

    Ken2

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    1. I am looking forward to him finding a nice pro we can play with. It's too nerve-wracking with my sister, and there are certain boundaries I don't think I should be crossing with her that I am eager to cross. With a pro, look out, 'cause anything goes when I'm in the room!

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  7. I'd like nothing more than to discipline David, Heaven knows - unfortunately, the distance between us makes it more or less impossible! Maybe one day I'll take a little trip...in the meantime, I'd advise you to find someone who replies to your queries courteously and promptly, and takes the trouble to find out the nature of your limits and requirements before the session: asks about your previous experience, preference as to role-play, implements, positions, dress and so forth.

    I agree with Ken2, though - I bet it won't compare to what you and Susan dish out!

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    1. I would love if it was you, Clara! In fact, you are the whole reason I am doing it. You are a pro who clearly loves her work, and that is what I want to find as well. I am letting david do the exploration. Let him have a couple of miserable experiences before he finds somebody suitable for us to play with. Ha Ha!

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  8. What a wise woman you are. Of course sending him to a Prodomme will only increase his love, admiration, worship pf. and service to, you. You're giving him the "double-joy" of submitting to a Lady capable of accepting his submission - which is a treat in and of itself - while giving him a unique opportunity to be more submissive to you since you're the one responsible for allowing it.

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    1. All this positive feedback. Wow! I thought lots of people might be down on my idea, but I am so happy that is not the case. I am feeling better and better about my decision.

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  9. Hi Julie,
    I am not sure how will you allow your husband to play with another woman without you being around, this is unbelievable,

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    1. Well, nine out of ten isn't bad! It's not "another woman", it's a pro domme. Read Clara's blog. A pro doesn't want a relationship with my man, she wants to spank him (and be paid for her time and expertise, thank you very much!).
      I am not feeling threatened in the very least by my decision.

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    2. A few wives send their men to me to be punished. It's quite good fun, particularly if I start a correspondence with the wife about her husband's misdemeanours, and how severely she wants him humiliated and disciplined. While I enjoy my job, it is a job, not play, and I never overstep certain, carefully defined boundaries. Or my husband would take a crop to me, and not in a loving way, either!

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  10. Julie
    I think you are very open to send David off to be spanked by a pro domme. Many women would be threatened by the prospect. Well done.

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    1. I'm a catch, and I know it, and so does he!
      ;-)

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  11. Hi Julie,
    Be careful that he does not intentionally prolong the search & trial as a man can never have enough of exploration if he has the opportunity.
    If you feel this is the case, I suggest you have a discussion with him the same way my mother used to discuss with her children that is seated with him over your knee with the slipper (or in your case hairbrush) in your hand. Very convincing person my Mom is.
    Maria

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    1. I took your advice, Maria, as you'll see from my last post!

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  12. I have been following your blog for only a short time now; but have read all from the beginning. You present a great deal for guys like me(us) to be vey excited over. And at times, I think "WOW! She is way too much for me!" And then i read on and realize just how insiteful and very understanding you really are. Your sense of humor would carry the day in any situation. You are truly one in a million and your man is most fortunate. He is fortunate in that you actually realize and understand how fortunate he is.

    WOW!
    Observing

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    1. Thank you so much for the big WOW!
      I would not have gone so far with david except that each time I up the ante, he says he loves it. Where will it all end...?

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  13. Hi,
    I told my wife about the new scheme of you & David.
    I also asked if we can do the same, she said no & remindede of earlier punishment she gave me for going to Prodom during my London business trip, then gave me a reminder falaka.
    She also thinks you should get falaka to get you from exposing your marriage to such high risk, she bets she can convince any one within a few minutes using her own way.
    Turkish sub

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    1. Hi Julie,
      If you want to proceed with the prodom issue, I suggest you avoid seeing the Turkish sub wife because if my mother's slipper is convincing one fold, the bastinado is convincing 10 folds.
      I bet in less than 5 minutes she will get you out of the whole idea

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  14. Ma'am,

    Besides being incredible and awesome this is just hot. I do hope you go and watch.

    Most pro doms, the real ones will not allow sex of any nature, just long hot hard spankings.

    Ron

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    1. After david picks a good one, I am definitely going to watch, and double-team him in fact! I am dreaming of a dildo in his mouth, and another up his ass, then... switch! I believe it's called a "Spit Roast"? This is my entire motivation for going to a pro as this is off limits for Sue and I do not want to push. But I am getting hot and bothered imagining doing that to him!

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  15. WE have done this before and I found it so much fun. There was something about being a spectator that I found very exciting. I also feel no matter how long you have been involved you always have so much to learn. We saw our "pro" before I turned hubbette into a sissy and I thik if we do this again it would be fun to surprise him with a second sissy there and watch the girls have fun.

    BTW, I sent you an e mail, did you ever get it?

    QG

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    1. Glad you had a good experience. This is very encouraging. david has his first session tomorrow after work. I am having dinner out with my sister and plan on getting the full, no holds barred, debrief from him with Sue there. That should colour up his face nicely! Ha Ha!

      Your email wound up in my Spam folder. I rescued you and will respond soonest!

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  16. What my wife did, under virtually the same circumstances, was to have me tell the Domme that i was o be blindfolded the whole time and could not set eyes on her. The Domme loved it. I brought a black nylon hood and put it on at the door and the Domme then came out and led me into the session.

    leigh

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    1. That's a good way of solving the problem of the hotter domme! Ha Ha!

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  17. Two other points I forgot. My wife did make me wear my cb6000 and the Domme also got a huge kick out of it. My wife also sent me with a note telling the Domme what I needed to be disciplined for.

    leigh

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  18. Hi Julie,

    OMG this blog is incredible. Great writing and very sexy content. Skirted and Face-fucked got me off a few times :) I can't wait for more installments. I echo others who say your writing is great and your mind is absolutely first class. I'm not that much into spanking (although never had one by someone who could make it so sexy as you seem to do) but into humiliation big time and what you do to David is soooo hot!

    I think one of my favorite fantasies is being humiliated in front of other women and the posts about your sister, Rebecca and sales people in the stores is a dream come true. I'm sure David knows how lucky he is - and if he doesn't give him a couple of hundred whacks for me and a couple of slaps on the back of his head (either one :)

    You are so thoughtful and adventurous in your play with him and such a devilish mind - you are truly one in a million.

    I look forward to more posts and continue to push the humiliation I'm sure he is enjoying it immensely.

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    1. To my mind, getting pulled over my knees (especially in front of another woman) and receiving a bare bottom spanking (just like a bad little boy) certainly qualifies as "humiliation" don't you think?

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  19. Have you considered sending David to a Stripper to learn how to dance like one? Imagine him wearing only panties and heels for his lesson while you watch and enjoy his embarrassment!

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    1. What a fiendish idea!
      There are those pole dancing classes I've heard about. Perhaps he and I should take one together?
      "Ah... we don't usually have men here..."

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  20. Julie,

    This post struck a chord for me for a few reasons. The idea of sending David off to get spanked by another is really hot (Pro-domme or otherwise).

    I would love it if Cleo did that to me. Who knows? Either of us might not like it that much but that's the breaks sometimes. Depends of her skills and other variables.

    As for the two of you eventually playing with a Pro-domme we have some experience in that area. Just like you, we are newbies (or semi-newbies). As really weird luck would have it, I have a distant relative who has always been "different" from the rest of us. But Cleo and I always liked her. She was kinky and confided that to us for many years (long before we became kinky). At that time we had little interest in the topic but we still liked and accepted her. Long story short, it turned out that she is a Pro-domme. When I confessed to her a few months ago that we had become kinky too and were exploring a D/s lifestyle...well...she was very happy for us and invited us to her well-equipped "studio" (read: dungeon). Being curious, we accepted. Wow. What an evening.

    Up until that night we had done little more than spanking. That night we did TONS of different things we never considered before. After I was stripped naked that woman did all kinds of things we never expected. Cleo remained clothed the whole time but sat there with eyes wide as saucers - LOL. It was VERY playful and erotic, but instructive. Cleo learned much that night. That night she introduced us to things like fire-play, electro-stim play, needle-play, sounding (a MIND BLOWING experience), various bondage techniques, a few CBT things (also mind blowing), and a few things that a Magic Wand can do to a man's dick. She also demonstrated a few impact weapons on my ass and taught her a few spanking techniques. All in all it was a very enjoyable evening for us. Cleo had mixed emotions about watching another woman play with my dick, but put that aside and soaked it all in.

    My point here is that a Pro-domme has a wealth of experience to draw from and if you find one you like, it might be worthwhile to set up additional sessions to learn a few things beyond traditional spanking. And even if some of those things do not necessarily involve pain, they can still be fun and still be something you can, as a Domme, incorporate into your scenes.

    Just a suggestion - take advantage of the opportunity to glean knowledge from an experienced Domme. And oh, by the way, you still will get to have a hubby with a very sore and red butt.

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    1. Great suggestions. I had no idea there was such a wealth of things to try! Half the things you mention I have never even heard of. They should have a University credit course on this stuff.

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  21. Ms. Julie........this post obviously resonated with me because I keep coming back to it as ideas come to the fore.

    When my wife and I were first (for her) beginning this journey into an FLR with heavy D/s elements, we went together to two different sessions, one in SF and one in NYC.

    This was wonderfully empowering for her and she has never looked back.

    Respectfully,

    leigh

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    1. I am very happy it worked out well for you, because that gives me confidence as well. If you'll read my latest post, perhaps I am feeling a little "threatened" and over-compensated a tad?

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  22. Julie,

    Love your idea of having david debrief you and Sue at dinner. He should have four red cheeks then!!

    Glad to see that you are beginning to recognize the significance of the embarrassment aspect of david's need. That's why the spanking by Sue and the one in front of his trainer were so significant for him. And it will allow you to intensify his experience without necessarily involving others just by mentioning the possibility of doing so. (When spanking him you can say that Sue had suggested that you bring your mother or other sister in on these sessions, and ask him if he thinks that's a good idea--even with no intention on your part of doing so!)

    Have you considered requiring david to start his own blog (under a fictitious name of course) to report on his experiences and feelings? It might give you even more insight into his thoughts and desires.

    Looking forward to your report on the latest adventure.

    Ken2

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    1. Oh yes, david's favourite bedroom talk is involving practically any and every woman he knows from everyday life in his little shame.

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