Monday, June 21

A Young Spanking Couple

Today I thought I'd share the story of a young man and his successful search for a female spanking partner and wife. Here he is. Poor boy seems to have gotten what he asked for. Ha ha!

If this is not one of the finest photos on the Internet of a man
put into his place by his strict wife, I don't know what is!
Just from the state of his tushy I can hear the begging and
crying while the brush was descending.

I find it absolutely hilarious and soul-lifting that a young man strives and strives and strives to find a partner and then through many trials and tribulations (described below) brings her over, and his reward is that every Sunday morning he's expected to do all the housework wearing only a pair of her lacy panties below the waist with a spanked red tushy!

It reminds me of this clipped article I once saw:

"If you get busy with these...
...I'll get busy with this."

I'll call him Anthony (not his real name). Anthony first contacted me 2 years ago when he was 22. He told me that he had been reading my blog for 8 years or so. This means he was 13 years old???? I scolded him for not obeying the Age Verification. I asked Anthony's permission to share, and he responded this way.

How could I say no to StrictJulieSpanks? If you feel it’s worthy to post go ahead. [...] [Just] let the readers know that this is a real couple in their early twenties. When I was younger and insecure about my kinks it always gave me hope to find my own someone when I read stories of young couples who have spankings in their relationship.

Anthony was concerned that being a submissive spanking fetishist interfered with his romantic relationships. He was having some troubles with his then girlfriend. This is what he wrote:

My name is Anthony and I've been checking in on your blog off and on for around 7-9 years now (which I love by the way). I’m only 22 so needless to say I’ve always had a fascination with spankings. Due to being exposed to internet spanking content early I have spanking needs that make it difficult to find in a girlfriend that’s suitable to administer them strictly. I currently have a girlfriend who I've been dating for 3 years. We are great in all other areas but we’ve been having trouble sexually lately because we both have different expectations. I am a positive and determined person but my spanking fetish always made me feel alone even amongst company when I was a teenager because I knew it wasn’t what many consider "normal". I’ve embraced it as I've gotten older though and am proud I no longer feel insecure about it. Lately the tension between my girlfriend and I has given me a tiny glimpse of that misunderstood alone feeling again. I’m finally reaching out to you because many of your personal qualities I've always looked for in a woman when dating and I'm hoping for some maternal guidance through conversation. I'm a big fan of yours and lately I don't feel there’s anybody around me who can understand the feeling of yearning for spanking discipline. I’d love to open up more and learn from you and David as well. I hope to hear from you.

Isn't that just adorable? Join the club, young man. And hey, did I get blamed there for Anthony's kink? Forget my blog, many of the older spankos will say that having access to a dictionary was sufficient to develop a spanking fetish!

I'm just kidding, sweetheart Anthony, I know what you meant. It gave me a little thrill being turned to for "maternal guidance". Us spankos know what that usually entails.

Here was my advice back to him. I put it here in case others could benefit as well.

Hi Anthony!

My goodness, I'm doing the math, and you must have been around 13-15 years old when you first started reading my blog!!! Did you just flat out ignore the "sensitive content warning???" :-) It feels like you've grown up with me.

Open and honest communications is the only way to go when it comes to relationships. Realize that you are mostly dealing with your girlfriend's insecurities. I once knew a girl in school who was very mean to me. My Mom told me that she acted that way because she was insecure. I guess I was ready for that, because just knowing that totally changed the way I thought about everything she did and said from then on, and I worked on building her up, not knocking her down. We became great friends. Since then, I've noticed that insecurity is at the heart of most conflict, and if you want to get along trouble free you drop your own ego, you drop your own wants and needs, you realize the insecurities your partner has, and then you change the way you behave to build her up. What goes around comes around. Don't ever accuse her of being insecure, of course. Just figure out what makes her insecure, and build her up. Here's a silly example. The first guy who ever went down on me, I was very self-conscious of how I smelled and tasted to him, and was not enjoying it as a result. I think he knew that, because he looked up at me with a wet face and said my scent was intoxicating and I tasted delicious. It's just what I needed to hear right then!

Give her what she needs from you for now. When the relationship is more solid, you can discuss your kinks and she will be more receptive. And then realize that if you play, it won't be at all what you want exactly. Not at first. But just be encouraging of her attempts and lie about it! When things are moving in a positive direction, tell her how great something was, and then say, "you know what would make it even better? If you were to ..."

If you have not already, then when the time is right, be sure to send her to my "Advice for Wives" page. It's for girlfriends also! It may open her eyes to how important your kink is to you.

Does any of this seem sensible to you?


He responded.

Yes I did skip that content warning haha. I think I actually was 13 when I found your lovely blog. So in many ways I really did grow up with your blog. It’s so crazy that I am emailing you because I’ve literally quietly been a fan since I started learning about sexuality. I feel more emboldened to be open about my desires now after keeping them bottled up for so long. I know from relationship like yours that I can find what I need in a relationship it just takes patience.

Your explanation is helpful for me. I’ve only followed that train of thought half way and it’s where I’ve been getting myself stuck with my girlfriend. I am aware of how the problems stem from her insecurities and have stupidly made the mistake of saying that. Now to be fair she is a really good sport and has tried many things I’ve asked.

[...some personal stuff about them breaking up for a bit and getting back together...]

Thankfully that experience changed our relationship for the better and I had much less freedom with her and we were more open. I moved in with her a few months later. I had gotten little spankings but nothing real. When COVID hit and we were home a lot that’s when I began getting real butt beatings and it helped. The problem was I was instigating so that I would get a spanking. I had never gotten one without trying until Sunday this week. It was a moment I won’t forget. She was perfect and I had an overwhelming emotional feeling that I was over my Wife’s lap, it was a beautiful feeling. I think this experience is part of what led to me reaching out to you. We have also tried pegging twice but she doesn’t like how submissive I get. She does like chastity though and does her best to control when I orgasm.

We both love each other a lot and are willing to always work on our relationship. [...] She gets uncomfortable with a bunch of sexual things because she says they’re unnatural to her. [...] I have a high sex drive so it can be demoralizing to be shot down every time I try to make her feel good. [...] We both have worried that we aren’t sexually compatible.

Ah, young love and misunderstandings. If only kids knew how common it was. I wrote back.

Well you screwed up royally, Anthony! Glad you got it back on track to the extent you did.

What you describe as "not sexually compatible" I'd describe as perfectly normal. At the ages you are at, your sexual drives will be unequal. When you get into your 40's, she'll be the one wanting it all the time and you'll be the one dragging your feet (I speak from experience!).

You're also learning that women need to be seduced in a way guys do not. Women come at lust by way of feelings of being loved and cared for and closeness. I think it's the other way around for guys.

You have to be careful because she clearly has a picture in her mind of a good mate being a strong, confident man, capable of taking charge, and able to dominate her in the bedroom (when she's in the mood). You need to be that for her, which I am sure you can totally be. So don't let your fetish take over your life. Play out distinct scenes, and keep those separate from your real life and your real relationship. Don't let your fetish dribble into every part of your life with her. When it's time for my husband to kick it into gear like a man, he does that with no hesitation at all. I feel safe and protected. I accept his submissive tendencies, and have a lot of fun with them, without me worrying if I married a wimp.

Anthony wrote back.

Well I definitely need to hear this from you. It resonates much more that way. I understand what you’re saying in regards to knowing when to kick into gear with much needed masculinity and as you mention I am very capable of doing that. I am an overly masculine man in some ways and it seems that the more intense I am in life then the more my submissive nature comes out in the bedroom. I do need to stop letting it dribble into my daily life with her, again I needed to hear that from you because when she says it to me it doesn't quite resonate the same. In many ways I look up to your relationship with your husband. I’ve dreamt of having something of my own very similar. Being an early teenager when being exposed to so many fantasies, from a variety of sources, I’ve had lots of time to build up unrealistic expectations that I now need to correct. She loves me and it shows so I have hope for us to be able to figure out "playtime" that suits us.

What I’m a bit unsure of is how to implement times for "distinct scenes" and get her on board. Since I’ve been way too pushy with my needs I can see her assuming this is just another one of my quick fixes to try to get more and more of what I want without considering her. Which sadly I have done in the past and am doing my best to reconcile.

I just read the entirety of your blog post for wives and girlfriends. I think you express your viewpoints in an approachable way. I am considering showing it to her but the timing would have to be just right. Earlier today she did ask what could make us feel more connected (since we both haven’t been recently). Somehow I can bring back that conversation and lead her to giving this whole post a chance to consider.

Now this part of your email really stuck out to me. "I accept his submissive tendencies, and have a lot of fun with them, without me worrying if I married a wimp." I don’t feel my submissive tendencies are often accepted which causes me to feel uneasy around her. It leads to bottled up feelings of not being able to sexually express myself and experience genuine connection with her. I want to have fun with my kinks and her kinks too but whenever she isn’t in a sexual mood and I show my submissive side in any way she gives me a vibe I’m not fond of (now this is probably because I show it so often since I feel bottled up). I’m no wimp either but sometimes when we are alone and I just want to be coddled by her and get that feeling of being her "good boy" then she almost questions my masculinity and even my sexuality. I’m not homosexual nor am I interested or have a problem with that but it's not my thing. She sometimes seems to interpret my submissiveness in enjoying pegging, spanking or even butt tickles over her lap as a red flag for possible unstable sexuality. Does that make sense? Also other times she will tickle my bare butt over her lap while watching tv or something so she does make an effort. Part of the problem I’m sure is my timing.

Also how do you decide when "playtime" will be?

I answered.

In terms of communicating with her, you just need to be really frank and open. Sit her down and talk. Tell her you have something important that you need to discuss. Acknowledge your mistakes and missteps along the way, of maybe confusing the issue and letting your interest in female domination creep into your lives in too many ways. Acknowledge that it clearly makes her uncomfortable and apologize for pushing it without her buy in. Thank her for what she has done, and say how happy you are with it in so many ways, and that she's already gone above and beyond where most women would.

Tell her you want to be a strong man that she can always rely upon. Tell her that you want to give her whatever she needs emotionally. And, if she wants a more dominant guy in the bedroom, she's got it. But then tell her that you have a fetish, and it won't go away, and that, from time to time you and she need to make time to engage in your fetish. Let's call it playtime. During playtime is when you both can indulge it. But you want to keep that separate from real life.

Then suggest she read my little Advice for Wives blog post. Tell her some of it is "over the top" even for you (good strategy, whether or not it is - people grow into things). But that a lot of it really resonated with you, and that you think she'll be able to understand you better if she reads it. Hopefully she'll agree to it. Thank her for that, and say that you want to talk again after she's read it and had a chance to absorb it. And then that's it for the first conversation. Don't push it. You are taking a first step and nudging her in a certain direction.

As for playtime, just be very explicit about it. Make a date with her, Tuesday at 8pm or whatever, and lay out a little scene that she can carry out.

Some people are really uncomfortable with anything involving acting. So be sensitive to that. At any rate, a first playtime can consist of just her giving you a hand and hairbrush spanking. There doesn't need to be a reason. Tell her you will use the yellow and red safewords, like I suggest in my blog post, and that you might be begging her to please stop but she should ignore that. Her goal is to keep you just under your yellow threshold. So she needs to find it by going harder and harder until you say yellow. If you have a high pain threshold, say yellow sooner than you otherwise would the first few times, and 'train her' to work up to harder spankings while keeping in her comfort zone. DO NOT criticize ANYTHING about it. Focus on what was really good and tell her so. We are building up, remember, and being only positive, never negative.

If she's ok with a bit of acting, next time during playtime have her act out the role of a strict girlfriend punishing you for not doing a chore when you said you would. Hopefully it's an easy role for you both to slip into, and it trains her to think that way, and maybe over time spontaneously "scening you" over something a bit real.

And your commitment to her is to be more sensitive to her needs, and be whoever she wants you to be outside of playtime. You promise not to dribble playtime into real life, but let her know that she is perfectly welcome to do so whenever she gets the urge to spontaneously "scene you".

Just some ideas for you. I don't know your situation of course, so take that into consideration. Let me know how things progress!

About a month later Anthony wrote back.

Hey Julie,

I took your advice to heart. I stopped letting my fetish dribble into every aspect of life and now I can proudly tell you I’m a spanked fiancé (about to be husband tomorrow).

About 7 days after the last email you sent me I found a big and thick wooden bath brush that looked like a perfect equalizer for my girlfriend so I bought it "for showering". About 2 days later we were getting along well and while in the bathroom I popped a innocent "can I ask for a little favor". I asked if she could give me one spank with the bath brush just so I could know how it feels. She said yes with a smile! I was about to shower so she removed my towel while I stood bent with my hands on my knees and she gave the spank. In that position my butt cheek was a bit loose so the spank landed perfect. She didn’t stop, though, and gave me a full blown spanking for the fun of it. I was almost in tears but the dog came in and was a bit shocked to hear me "owing" and making "begging" noises so we stopped. Poor doggy walked in on mommy spanking daddy lol.

Wasn't that sweet? I know exactly her feeling. Spanking is fun! Making your big strong man jump around and yelp is fun! But the relationship needs to be strong, and she needs to know you will be there for her as a man when needed.

He went on to describe a more punitive spanking soon after.

About 2 weeks later I had been digging myself a bit of a hole for a few days. On thanksgiving morning my girlfriend decided it was enough out of me. She called me out of the kitchen and when I got past the wall I saw her through our bedroom doorframe standing with the brush in one hand, her other hand on her hip and a stern look on her face. She’s so beautiful she takes my breath away.
I sheepishly entered the room with my head and eyes down. I begged a bit but it was no use. I was bent against the bed with my clothes pulled down but still standing so my butt was not flexed or stretched out. Julie this was the best/worst spanking I’ve ever received. 
She started with her right hand and spanked powerfully hard. At one point she rested her left hand on the back my neck while she spanked me. During this spanking she lectured me about everything she expects from me especially because we are getting married. I was informed that I will be a spanked hubby. I felt like a child. I listened to every word with reverence. I took it all to heart and did what she said after. 
By this point she switched to the left arm. I was beginning to really beg and my "ows" were starting to resemble crying. As she spanked unmercifully I turned my head to the left so that we made eye contact. I was so in the moment I didn’t even care that my facial expression was a sorry vulnerable pouty face. I was about to burst into tears. This was the moment I always wanted and hoped for with whomever would end up being "the one" for me. As we maintained eye contact she kept spanking me. Her eyes were stern but also deeply loving. Like her eyes were saying to me "you need this and I love you enough to do it". Looking deep into her eyes removed all my inward walls and I vulnerably started crying.
She was visibly satisfied in a caring way. She encouraged me to cry more. The spanking continued a bit longer and I never felt any embarrassment just intimacy with the love of my life. When she stopped spanking she pulled me close and held me as I cried it out. As she guided my tearful face against her clothed chest she instructed me to be on my best behavior at thanksgiving dinner. What a lovely memory to be thankful for.

Very nice! Relationship established. He sent me a photo of the aftermath of this spanking.

Amongst anything else, Anthony has a very cute 22-year-old man butt. What a bootie! Anthony adds,

This bottom section is just some praise I’d like to say about you and your husband. I am so thankful for your husband and his willingness to let you post the things that he has. If it wasn’t for his cooperation your blog couldn’t be as awesome as it is. He let me know as a teenager that I’m not the only guy out there who has these kinks. That it’s okay to have them and that you can go out into the world and be a successful man and still come home to your wife’s loving discipline. I thank him for that. I thank you for your investment into his kink that has paid off in your relationship and for sharing all about that. You’re both awesome.

Awww! So sweet.

Anthony sent me a note after reading my last post, Spanked for Masturbating - part 2, where I described our "caught masturbating" game.  He recounted a game he and his wife play.

I just read your blog post on masturbating tonight. It sounds like a fun and costly game you two play! I let out a laugh when he said you grazed him with your teeth on purpose and after your own question on if you purposely did it you put a tiny "yes". I saw my own naughty kinky self in that statement. There’s been a bit of time since your last kinky post so I’ve been checking your blog for a new post everyday when I’m laying down and in the mood to “do the deed”. There is a deep part of me that envy’s your position as a woman. Being able to be an elegant woman who is spanked, fucked and put into submission like that is a fantasy I had from the beginning of recognizing my own sexual triggers. It’s such a curious question as to what it’s really like to be the opposite sex. I sometimes fantasize about being able to switch bodies with my wife for a day and being able to experience the female perspective on life and sex.

I think that is a very common fantasy. I want them same, to be a powerful man for a day and to put my husband into a powerless, hyper-sexualized female body. I collaborated on a short story with that theme, Sexcationing. I can certainly see the appeal from the man's point of view. My hubby is like that too.

Anyways, since you posted about this agreement with your husband I wanted to share a fun little agreement my wife and I have made. As a relationship we continue to make progress in all areas and she’s begun to allow me to request "pretend time" when I yearn for it. It’s basically our role play but it’s a big deal to me because it’s opening up a bunch of scenario options. Our most recent and best yet happened a few days ago.

For a while now I’ve been doing house chores while wearing a pair of her panties. It makes me feel cute like a girl while performing domestic duties. So imagine a young 220lbs muscular man in tiny little white laced panties doing chores such as vacuuming and dusting. That was me on Sunday morning. Throughout my chores she would feel up my ass cheeks. Anyways made me in need of submissive attention so I subtly let my wife know I need some "pretend time".

She asked "Okay honey, what did you do?"

I said "Well I really upset my wife. She is so frustrated with my behavior. She is fed up and going to give me what's coming. She said I need to wait in the corner while she gets ready to take all her wrath on my bare tushy" (I hate that word tushy because it embarrasses me and sounds so childish but that’s exactly why it’s such a turn on).

Different words are triggers for different people. "Tushy" is not one of mine, but I respect that it is one of Anthony's, and would happily use it in correspondence with him.

My wife caught the gist and came up with a whole scenario of how I am the stay at home husband whose wife is the authority of the house. Even the kids know I'm spanked. In fact they are going to hear the spanking and lecture I’m about to get!

Well the kid part isn't exactly what she said but that’s a kinky fantasy that would've caused me to precum and get extra punishment. She did come up with a good wife and husband scenario though. In those vulnerable laced panties I got a good long spanking draped over one of her thighs on the bed. I begged for her to stop. I was vocal just as I imagine a wimpy husband dependent on his strict wife’s income would be. She gave me a real stinger style spanking and I felt the rawness for days. Even days after every time I knelt or sat down my bottom ached. The pictures don’t do it credit but I get a naughty thrill from showing them so oh well.

He says "just imagine it", but no need...

Very nice!

Anthony is now looking for ways to get a spanking from his wife in front of other women.

Will that be Anthony in the near future? Imagine how embarrassed he will be when another woman finds out about his kink and sees him being spanked across his wife's knee on his bare tushy. And from the above it sounds like his wife can spank! I don't imagine he'll be let off her knee until he is bawling like a little baby. Will it then be right into his lacy panties for a good round of housework while the women laugh? Oh I hope so!

Wednesday, June 16

Spanked for Masturbating - part 2

In Spanked for Masturbating - part 1 I spoke about my husband's and my little rule: you can masturbate, but if you get caught red handed you get a spanking. This rule has made the Ménage à Moi so much more exciting! In that first part I recounted a time when I caught him "doing the deed" and made him pay a steep price. In this post, I'll flip the situation and write about my own experiences in this regard.

It comes as no secret to regular readers of my blog that I am a known... masturbator (Blush!). I first uncovered this at length (and with the photos to prove it - oh my!) in my July 2019 blog post Julie's Masturbation Session.

It really was a bit embarrassing to write about it. As I re-read that post I could feel my own embarrassment coming through. Especially that particular session where I made a complete fool of myself and wrote about it, and then published hyper-humiliating photos of myself masturbating as self-punishment. Of course, some commenters thought it was my best post ever. At the conclusion of the post I wondered aloud if I needed a good psychoanalyst. A reader responded:

The account here is stunning. This girl, and I do mean *girl*, doesn't need a psycho-analyst, she needs a disciplinarian. In all the years I've been following this blog, you've never been as shamefully naughty as you've been this week. Your exposure is profound. I read through this very slowly, pausing to picture in my mind everything you were describing in detail. It feels like I was in the room with you, in your mind with you, and your humiliating performance is still palpable. The embarrassment you felt when you posted this must have been intense, and it should warm you for a long time to come. It's a bit of a game-changer here because, though you've exposed your submissive side and experiences in many ways, this to me represents a more personal submission and vulnerability to your readers not like anything you've shared before. As such, it's possibly the most erotic account I've read, and these are the best female masturbation photos on the web. Generic pics of models or porn stars can't touch them.

Oh dear.

Fortunately, on that occasion, I was not caught by my husband doing it, and did not have to suffer any of the humiliating and painful consequences that would have gone along with that.

Yes, a spanking...

I, in fact, masturbate quite a lot. You can probably tell that kinky sex is on my mind quite a bit. When I was writing my second book, Julie's Spankings, I was masturbating constantly. It was part of my writing process. I was not happy with a chapter until I was able to have an orgasm proof-reading it. There's over 60 chapters in that book!!!! That a lot of strummin' the ol' banjo. I hope you'll agree that my "dedication" to my craft comes through to the reader. My orgasm to yours. For real. Doesn't knowing that make it just a little bit of an extra special read?

But, it's our game that when my husband catches me playing with myself, no matter how early or far along I am, I am roughly hauled out of bed, thrown across his knee, and hand-spanked relentlessly to shrieks and tears. If I complain at all about my treatment, or even if he just feels like giving it to me, I will get the belt at the end. I have been a bad girl, and I deserve everything I get.

I first began masturbating as a child, shoving my stuffed doggy between my legs and humping it. A bit like this:

I could get off like that. I lived in fear of somebody walking in on me! I was especially worried that my Daddy would find out I was a masturbator. They were indistinct feelings. My tummy did flip-flops at the masturbatory thought of Daddy walking in and just saying, "oh, Julie...". I wasn't into spanking at the time, and did not fantasize about Daddy fucking me, just discovering me in the act and being "disappointed" in me: "oh Julie...". I could cum to the stuffed doggy and that thought. So confusing.

When I masturbate now, the chance of "Daddy" (my husband daddy that is) walking in on me and catching me in the act is very real. And husband daddy will express his disappointment in his little girl in much stronger terms!

No matter what material I am masturbating to, in the back of my mind, as I get closer and closer, is the thought of being walked in on, stopped, scolded, and given a severe spanking. And while I enjoy malesub porn, I only get off to femsub stuff, so I am already thinking along those lines.

His protocol with me, by my request, is not to play it off as "cute", or "angry", but to play it off as "disappointed" (I wonder where that comes from? Hmmmmm?). "Oh Julie...". And then the scolding: "you know you're not to play with yourself like that." And then my punishment: "I guess I'll just have to teach you that lesson one more time, young lady." Oh gush!

"Please Daddy! No. I won't ever do it again. I promise!" Daddy will not be satisfied with promises. He will only be satisfied with a sniffling red-bummed little girl.

At some point in my spanking we will both morph solidly back into husband and wife roles (we were never anything but, we just use the terms "Daddy" and "little girl" to evoke a certain something). He will scold me for having sex with myself. For "cheating on him" like that. He is perfectly available for sex whenever I feel I need it. Is he not good enough for me (said sarcastically, he knows he is - my most intense orgasms are at his mouth and hands). SPANK SPANK SPANK.

"Please! I'll have sex with you! I'll have sex with you right now!" I cry out. I am very horny. I was likely pretty close to an O when he busted in on me.

He lets me off his lap. My bum is red and stinging. I get on my knees and pull his hard cock out. I take it into my mouth and suck it.

I may still be crying from my spanking at this point. My tears may intensify as he shoves it down my throat. He enjoys my tears lubricating his cock.

If I am a bad girl, or a naughty girl, my front teeth may graze the shaft of his cock. "Argh!" he will say. He's liable to slap my face, pull me up by my hair, and throw me face down onto the bed.

"You fucking bitch. You did that on purpose," he may say as he removes his belt from around his waist. Did I do it on purpose? yes.

He may make me lie across some pillows to elevate my ass. He may turn the top pillow edge on and make me clamp it. The belt will make me uncontrollably hump during my whipping.

He may get a dildo from the bedside drawer and insert it into my mouth. "You practice keeping your lips wrapped around that cock. Show me, show me," he'll say as he fucks my mouth with it. I keep my mouth and lips in the perfect girlish "O".

He'll then stand beside me and whip my ass with his belt until I am frantic.

Unlike the girl pictured above, who is getting off easy, I will be naked, draped over two pillows with a third edgewise into my cunt, and a dildo stuffed in my mouth.

As he whips me he may say, "go on, finish what you started." My hands will dive to my pussy and I will desperately rub as I hump and am whipped. I will cum that way. He will know as it happens. He'll throw the belt aside, get behind me, and fuck me from behind. He likes fucking my pussy after I have cum. He knows I am sooooo sensitive there right after, and he enjoys feeling me squirm desperately under him as he fucks me. It "excites" him, the cad. He will only end my fucking with a thrusting bare cock sperming deep inside of me. I never feel more like a "wife" then after a whipping and a sperming.

Sometime he will not allow me to clean up afterwards. He'll insist I put my panties directly on and redress myself. His sperm will come seeping out of me as I move about over the next hour, staining my panties. Like that girl I reported on a few blog posts ago, he may like seeing me with my hair and makeup disheveled, knowing my panties too are stained: a properly trained and fucked wife.

Is this a fantasy of mine? Why yes it is. Does this play out in real life? Indeed so. It's one of the games we play...

Monday, June 7

Gender, Attitude, and IQ Differences

I was perusing our local woke lefty national newspaper, the Globe & Mail, and came across a really, really dumb article in a series of really, really dumb articles.

Locked Out Of The Ivory Tower

 It was written by these two:

Chen Wang
Robyn Doolittle

Chen seems to be an earnest intern of sorts. Robyn is an experienced award-winning investigative journalist.

Their premise is that while more and more women are being hired into academia (administrative, professorial, and teaching positions), they are supposedly "locked out of" the higher echelons.

Using only employees from the Ontario "Sunshine List" (people making over $100,000 in 1999, and then inflation adjusted up to $147,537 in 2019), they show how at one point, in 1999, when women only made up 12% of the workforce, they on average made the same money as men. This was because they were evenly balanced throughout the pay grades. However, as more and more women were hired, they tended to concentrate into the lower-level positions and pay grades, and thus the average compensation of all women was 5% less than all men.

The article posits without proof that this is because there are barriers to women achieving the higher ranks based entirely on their gender, and not at all on other factors that may be different between men and women (e.g., hard work, dedication, talent, interest, IQ, job choice, ...)

I call bullshit.

This is how you spot the "fake news". Look for any complex issue that involves tons of variables, and if you see it reported as being only a single variable, without any proof of that, or consideration of other potential factors, you know you're being lied to.

I can think of many other potential reasons. Another explanation could be that back in 1999 there was still true equality of opportunity, and women of equal quality to men were hired, and they were hence compensated the same. But in 2019, there are so many forced "diversity hires" that these people do less well, and are thus less well-payed. Another one could be that there have been more and more "gender and race studies" professors hired, of which applicants are a dime a dozen and the bar is low, so thus pay is low, and those are filled by women? Here are some other potential factors (by no means an exhaustive list).

  • Women choose to work fewer hours, valuing family and free time more heavily than men do.
  • Women are not as aggressive in asking for raises as men.
  • Women take time off their careers for childbirth and childcare, and so are slower to advance.
  • Women concentrate more into artsy fields (women studies, sociology, ehtnic studies, ...) that pay less well than fields such as engineering or computer science.
  • At the very top end of the IQ range, women are less well-represented than men.

We'll look at these last two in more detail. I know that last one is the most controversial, so let me dig into that one first.

The results of IQ tests are on agglomeration of many different talents and abilities, innate and learned. They all try to get at an elusive "g" factor that is the "innate intelligence" driver.

I think we all intuitively recognize "g" when we see it: in a young child, or a genius high-schooler who gets 100% in all their math subjects, or the brilliant computer programmer, or the chess master. Yes, environment has played a role, but there is also a certain innate intelligence spark in some individuals that cannot be denied (and the opposite in some others, though they may be absolutely delightful people!).

Psychometrists try to design the tests to get as close a true representation of "g" as they can (though never perfectly). Often an important part of IQ tests are sequences such as this one:

You're expected to answer "E", another triangle. 70% of people who took this online test got that answer. To my mind, the most dominant pattern was that the decrease in the number of sides from top row to middle row was the same as from middle row to bottom row, and "D" was stupid, so "E".

If you're good at answering dumb questions like this, you're good at seeing patterns in things, and you are therefore likely to have a high "g".

Having high "g" means you will likely do well at academics, get a decent job, and make more money. It's no guarantee either way, but that's how it sort of lines up. Obviously does not apply to sports and arts, just to the more academic stuff, such as lawyers, doctors, engineers, accountants, and University professors for sure.

There have been many studies comparing men and women IQ scores. My reading of the literature seems to indicate there are biological sex-based differences. IQ is measured on a Bell Curve with an average score of 100 by definition.

Men are about 4-6 points higher than women on average, and with a more spread out distribution. There is controversy around this and much gnashing at teeth that goes beyond the scientific, but the data looks to be pretty solid to me.

H. Nyborg
Department of Psychology, Research Unit for Differential Psychology, University of Aarhus,
Personality and Individual Differences 39 (2005) 497–509

We see adult males shifted to the right and with a broader/flatter distribution. This leads, at the extreme right to a sizable discrepancy in the expected number of males and females at a high IQ level. At a "g"=3 corresponding to an IQ of 145 ("profoundly gifted") there is an 8:1 ratio of males to females. And "profoundly gifted" is where we want our University Professors to be on the IQ range.

Why is this at all important? Why raise it at all? Isn't this one of those "hate facts" about men and women?

I don't think any facts like this should be used for policy making. If you make a policy, e.g., that there's no sense in training or hiring women to top IQ jobs, it would be terribly unfair to those very special women that are way up there. And if what we are striving for is a meritocracy anyways, then the good ones will float to the top. It is the very essence of the policy of "equality of opportunity" to allow for all folks to be equally well educated and trained and to compete for these jobs.

A different policy might be if you were, say, the Russians building a world-class chess capability. They might determine that there are only so many slots for training young talent, and given an IQ analysis like the one above, reserve all the slots for boys in order to best use scarce resources. That is emphatically NOT a policy of "equality of opportunity", and I would therefore never endorse such a thing, despite the fact that it would use scarce resources better. I think fairness in opportunity is way more important.

So if using these facts is not important for making policy, why bring it up at all?

The reason it is important is because there are vast and increasing number of people who value "equality of outcome". Unless women make up 50% of the academic ranks and are paid exactly the same as men, "equality" has not yet been achieved.

In the Globe&Mail article they say,
In 2000, the federal government created the Canada Research Chairs Program to stop a feared brain drain to the United States. The goal was to create 2,000 new research positions and dole out hundreds of millions in funding. But three years later, eight women scholars took the CRCP to the Canadian Human Rights Tribunal alleging discrimination. Only 15 per cent of the chair positions had gone to women, even though women accounted for 26 per cent of professors. In a landmark settlement in 2006, the CRCP agreed to set targets to ensure that women, Indigenous people, other visible minorities and people with disabilities were being properly represented.

But little changed.

In 2016, the Canadian Human Rights Commission took the extraordinary step of asking the Federal Court to enforce the settlement, as most universities were still missing the targets. (In the CRCP system, schools nominate candidates, which the program then evaluates.) Earlier this year, universities were warned that if they fail to hit equity targets by December, 2029, they’ll lose some research chair positions. (A spokesperson for the CRCP said that as of May, 2021, 85 per cent of institutions were meeting equity targets.)

So the way I read this is that the government successfully forced the Universities to hand out research dollars to women less qualified than men. So we all lose.

This is specifically NOT "equality of opportunity". This is the men being shafted. Equality of outcome can only be achieved by sacrificing equality of opportunity. So don't aim for it!

My point is that gender bias is not the only reason there was a difference in the granting of these chairs. It likely played a part, but innate IQ difference could have played a sufficiently large role as to be able to completely explain the unequal outcome all by itself, even with perfect equality of opportunity.

Another factor that can explain pay gap differences is the choice of career. Some careers are simply more valued than others in today's world, and thus pay more. This is the law of supply and demand, not some patriarchy imposing it. If there is a lot of work for plumbers, and few plumbers, the wages for plumbers will go up.

In the case of academics, a STEM-field professor makes a lot more money than a women's studies professor. It is because the STEM-fields are in higher demand in the workforce than women's studies are. They command a higher wage, and Universities must keep up with that or lose all their talent to industry.

But why do women avoid STEM fields? Why do men avoid nursing? There are innate sex differences where boys and men value things more, and girls and women value people more. And this is not cultural. In cultures that are the most gender equal, where girls and boys are most brought up to believe they can be and do anything, where there are the fewest barriers to girls and young women going into STEM, you see the difference maximized.

G. Stoet, University of Essex, D.C. Geary, University of Missouri
Psychological Science - February 2018, pp.581-593
The Gender-Equality Paradox in STEM Education

The vertical axis is the Global Gender Gap Index (GGGI) which assess the extent to which economic, educational, health, and political opportunities are equal for women and men. Higher means more equal. We see countries such as Iceland, Norway, Finland, and Sweden right up near the top, as you would expect, and countries such as Jordan, Turkey, Algeria, UAE, Qatar, down near the bottom.

Chart A on the left correlates this with the gap in STEM scores relative to reading scores for men over women (it does not speak to raw scores in STEM). The gap was largest in the most equal countries. In other words, in Finland the boys do way better in STEM than in reading. And while girls may do well in STEM (as well as the boys), they do better in reading than they do in STEM. Because of this intra-personal talent difference, it is posited that more boys choose STEM than girls.

When correlated with % women amongst STEM graduates, chart B on the right, we see the lowest percentages in those most equal countries such as Finland, and the highest percentage in the least equal, such as UAE, because of this "interest gap", it is posited.

When you allow men and women to choose for themselves, without cultural bias, men choose STEM and women don't.

Both these effects, interest in STEM, and inherent differences in IQ, can well explain any disparity in numbers and pay, something this shoddy Globe & Mail article completely fails to mention, because they are pushing a "social justice" point, and damned any result other than the one they are after.


We will return to our regularly scheduled spanking content next post!

Saturday, June 5

Daddy Issues

Lion from Male Chastity Journal did not seem to approve of my Internet viewing habits on my last post, Sexual Assault, or not really? He commented:

I'm more surprised that you bothered to watch this stuff than I am by the content.

Hey, I resemble that remark..

On the theme of brain-rotting interwebz habitz, I thought I'd talk about a couple of podcasts I enjoy.

I used to enjoy the "Call Her Daddy" Podcast on barstool sports.

Call Her Daddy

A lot of very open and very crazy-fun hot young thing sex talk. The girl on the right is Sofia Franklyn and the one on the left is Alexandra Cooper. The guy on the left is Dave Portnoy, "El Presidente" of Barstool Sports, who made their podcast famous. It broke up in a soap-opera worthy crash and burn. Long and short is that Alex stayed on and Sofia left, and it's just not the same anymore...

Sofia has emerged with a new podcast, "Sofia with an F".

Sofia with an F

I like it. Sofia is fun, and she spills the T.

In a promotion for her new podcast, Sofia appeared on Violet Benson's "Too Tired to be Crazy" podcast.

Too Tired to be Crazy

Violet's website and brand is Daddy Issues. Their podcast together was titled Sex, Daddy Issues & Fetishes w/ Sofia Franklyn. They are both late-twenties now.

at around the 20 minute mark they have the following exchange.

Violet: Like I am looking for a man that's older than me, like I think 5 to 10, 12 years. I don't care. Like, I like that. It's sexy 'cause I can finally feel like a little girl... like I feel like a lot of times I feel I want to be the baby and then sometimes I date guys who are younger than me so then I feel like I'm their mother. So now I do want older men.

Sofia: I've, like, only dated older.     So you can act up???

Violet: Yes. I can sometimes be like "I don't want to do this!" and then...

Sofia: I guess... you... oh my God! It's our Daddy issues! Like we kind of want a little bit of a Daddy! We do!

Violet: Oh My God! I want a Dad!

Sofia: We kind of do. If you really think about it. I'm the same way. I'm like, I need someone to babysit me, not the other way around.
Violet: Yeah I think that's what deeply I've always yearned for and I just never admitted that, I guess, until right now. Oh My God. Wow. Ok. So that is what I'm looking for. My Dad.

Sofia: I have never admitted it publicly, but I guess here we are, both of us. But yeah, I agree.

I loved that exchange. It's not something women actually talk about with one another, so it's nice to hear an honest conversation. The words they used, "little girl", "baby", "act up", "Daddy", "babysit me", "yearned for". Those girls don't just want an older man, they want to be infantilised and made to behave by a Daddy figure. I thought it came a millimetre away from spanking as a topic, just after the "and then..." which was cut off.

Violet wants to feel like a little girl, like a baby. Sofia asks her if she wants to "act up?" Violet agrees that she sometimes wants to stomp her foot and say "I don't want to do this!", so that then Daddy can discipline her in some way. Am I reading too much into that exchange?

But how would this discipline proceed? What does a young woman who thinks it's sexy to be made to feel like a little girl expect for her discipline? I think on this blog, we all know the answer to that. Yes, she would be put across Daddy's knee and given a spanking. Of course.

I want a Daddy sometimes. I want Daddy to spank me when I act up.  Make me kick and cry across his knee and make me promise to be a good girl. Put me in the corner afterwards.

😭 😭😭 😭

And if it so happens that my spanking has to be at a time or place where others are there to see it?


Well so be it. I am not ashamed I need a good old fashioned spanking every now and then. Yes I am ashamed of what I did to earn my spanking. And I am embarrassed and ashamed during my spanking, of course. A bare-bottomed spanking across your Daddy's knee is supposed to make you feel embarrassed. It's part of your punishment.

And if you've been very naughty, especially in front of others, it should be a spanking on the spot.


And it doesn't matter what you're showing off in the process. You've been a bad little girl and you deserve the shaming. Of course, the most embarrassing part is the kicking and the crying and the apologizing and the promising to be good and to obey, if only the spanking would stop, please stop! All the girls witnessing would dampen themselves knowing that's what they so often need and deserve as well. Some of the boys too...

Yes, it's humbling to get a spanking from Daddy, or from your loving husband when he needs to assume his role as your Daddy, but it's good to be humbled every now and then.

Wednesday, June 2

Sexual Assault, or not really?

I was surfing the youtube earlier today with my morning covfefe and came across this young woman complaining of a sexual assault.

Her name is Justine Paradise and she's a 24-year-old social media influencer. She is very hot if you ask me! Here's some pics from her insta.

Cute as a button!

Likes to play!

Naked contemplation

Take me to bed, baby!

Schoolgirl vibe!

Rocking the sexy sundress

Peace Out!

Ah to be young again! I'm a total simp for her (am I using that word right?).

Justine's complaint is against another youtuber named Jake Paul. Looks like a total douche to me.

The youtube-chain started with me watching a video from lawyers Viva Frei and Robert Barnes discussing Dershowitz's lawsuit against CNN.

Dershowitz WINS BIGLY Against CNN

For some reason the youtube algo next threw me a video from freelance reporter Alison Morrow. OMG I love Alison's look!

Famous YouTuber Cries Censorship After Demanding It For Others

Alison was discussing a video put out by another youtuber, Philip Defranco, who previously said that social media platforms should censor anybody who posts the opinion that the election was at all rigged, and then later on posted another video where he was complaining that his video that covered Justine being sexually assaulted by Jake got shadow-banned. He claimed that it was obvious that in the first case it was clearly disinformation, but in the second case it was absolute truth. Alison called him out on his contradiction ("who determines what is true and what is false? You want youtube doing that???").

So I went to see the Philip Defranco shadow-banned video, of course.

These DISGUSTING Jake Paul Allegations

Defranco gives a fairy balanced conclusion, withholding final judgment, but does amplify Justine's accusations considerably, without raising the obvious doubts, and without covering Jake's side at all because Jake would not comment, which I can well imagine why, his lawyers probably advising him against it. You can tell by the title where his bias lies.

So I went to see Justine's video accusing Jake Paul to decide for myself.

Jake Paul Sexually Assaulted Me

I absolutely believe her story, she is very earnest and she is very credible. She's a bit dumb. She has low self-esteem despite her good looks. What I'm not so sure of is if it is "sexual assault". You be the judge. I'll rehash what she says in the video and add some of my own comments in red.

She was referring to events that happened in June/July 2019. She did not report on them until recently though the incident was bothering her literally every day.

One June 1 she decided with a mutual friend to "hang out with some cute boys". She went with a girlfriend and a guyfriend to the "Team 10 house" which is a mansion owned in part by Jake Paul. She says she knew of Jake Paul. All visitors were required to sign an NDA on the way in, which she did. [Ok, is that normal?]

She was looking for a bathroom and bumped into Jake Paul and a bunch of other people in the kitchen. Jake said he liked her hair and pointed her to the bathroom. She spent the rest of the party hanging out with her two friends. Jake came up to her midway and asked for her phone number which she gave him. After that he started messaging her from across the room, which she thought was awkward. She produced the conversation.

They texted and saw each other about 6 times between June 1 and July 20. Each time she came by the house there were a bunch of other people there. Jake would acknowledge her but not speak directly to her, instead just txt her when she was in his house, and even when they were in the same room. She says it reminded her of middle school. She assumed he had really bad social skills. She also observed him going up into his bedroom multiple times with all sorts of different girls where she presumed they had sex. [I presume he was deliberately treating her like trash, negging her (?), and she was into it, because she kept coming back for more. Pretty low self-esteem.]

One day Jake approached her and pulled her into a little corner area and started kissing her. She says she was fine with that. She did think he was cute. She did want to kiss him. She thought it was weird, though, because the place where he kissed her was in front of everyone. She thought he was showing off to his friends that he was making out with her, and it was awkward because she had her guyfriend there as well, "but it was fun" she said. [She clearly enjoyed the little bit of attention from him, and being his "property" like that. Also she seemed to be getting off on cucking her guyfriend a bit.]

Later on, similar situation, Jake grabs her hand and starts walking with her to his bedroom. She thought it was cute. [Cute to be owned - I agree!]

She then says people have brought her to their room before and they literally just wanted to show her their room, or sometimes they try to do something sexual but if she doesn't want to she just says no and they respect that.

In his cool bedroom with a big fishtank they were talking and he was clearly seducing her. They were then dancing in his room, and kissing, and then he took it to his bed which she was happy with. [Is she, like, 12, what did she think that was leading up to? Especially given the train of girls she had observed going to his bedroom and having sex with him. Maybe she is just really dumb-naive? I honestly think she is.]

She says she thought it was fine if she went into his room, thought it would be fine if she wanted to kiss him, because she thought he would stop if she didn't want to do something.

She says that every time he put his hands on her, or guided her hands to him, she "would just kind of move it away and say, like, no, and then like, just back to kissing." [Mixed messages all day long. I get it, she just wanted to kiss, but rather than just stating that clearly, as in, "no Jake, I'm not comfortable going further than just kissing today" she seemingly plays "hard to get".]

At some point he becomes frustrated and says "if nothing is going to happen, then what's the point?" [Finally, some honest douchebag communications - he was making it clear he did not want to continue with just kissing. This was her chance to put a stop to it.]

According to her, at that point he stood up, undid his pants, "grabbed my face, and started fucking my face". [Colour me skeptical. Is that a thing? At no point did she say she feared a physical assault from him. She was not terrified. She was not at knifepoint. She literally opened her mouth and let him stick it in. Maybe she was just in the process of opening wide to say "Noooo" when it just sort of slipped in? And once in, she must have carefully kept her lips over her teeth. With guys I've known, slip up and let even a little bit of teeth out and he is pulling out fast! Don't need to bite it off, just let him try to get off scraping against your front teeth.]

She then goes on to say that she has only given oral sex to 2 or 3 people before then because it was so special, even more so than penis-vagina sex to her. She says because "when it's going in your mouth that's touch, that's taste, that's smell, that's, like, it's all in your face." She illustrates it with her hands in the video.

"it's like, all in your face and everything!"

[Very sexy description. At this point I'm getting suspicious. Is this a little fame play for her? Tell a titillating story in a sexy way, get a lot of attention? Maybe even get a nice payout from Jake?]

What was she supposed to do, she asks. She was still laying on the bed, he was on top of her, he was holding her head, like, into him, like she couldn't even tell him not to. He didn't ask for consent or anything. He knew she didn't want to do anything with him because he had said "if nothing is going to happen, then what's the point?", and then he just shoved himself into her. That's not ok, she says.

[So much wrong here! But the visual of her getting her cutey-pie 22-year-old face stuffed with cock while she struggles to both keep her lips in a big "O" for him and tell him "noooo" at the same time is kinda sexy I am very embarrassed to admit. So insensitive, I know. Where do I hand in my "girl card"?]

[She takes his statement as evidence that he knows she doesn't want it? No, that's evidence he told her what he expected and then she gave it to him like a good little girl. I'm sorry, I am just going from bad to worse here. How about letting his cock scrape against your teeth and then saying NO like you mean it?]

She goes on to say, "It didn't last that long, though, because he... finished... he came... in my mouth... and, honestly, it was less than 30 seconds, so it didn't last that long, there was maybe 20 seconds, if that. 

[Ooooh! Impugning the douche's manhood. Love it!]

I couldn't go anywhere because he was literally grabbing my head and shoving himself into me, At that point i was really confused... so I just kind of rolled over on his bed, and then he like cuddled me for 0.2 seconds, he literally put his arm around me and got back up, and then walked back to his door and said 'let's go back to the stu'" ('stu' is the music studio in the house where everyone was hanging out).

[I guess she swallowed? That was really above and beyond.]

"And I was just like, ok let me just fix my hair and makeup first because it was all messed up and i went to his bathroom that was connected to his room, and I was trying to, and he was NO, LET'S GO!

And he was, No, Let's Go!

"I mean why would you sexually assault me and then not even let me fix my hair and makeup?"

[Ok, is this a parody at this point? Am I being trolled??]

"I don't want to leave your room looking like this. I didn't want to be looking like that at all. Like, that's embarrassing, to have, like, my makekup all like going down and my hair all messed up because it's obvious sexual things happened. So I'm like no, I'm going to fix this, so I like fixed my hair and makeup as fast as I could."

[I don't think her makeup was the only thing that went down? Yes - sorry - just shoot me now.] 

[Power move from douchebag Jake, making her go downstairs with her hair and makeup all messed up having just swallowed a mouthful of cum and her, like, breath smelling of Jake Paul's cum? She's such a perfect little sub.]

"He grabs my phone..."

[And at this point she goes off on a 5 minute tangent about her phone]

"I used to have a pretty old phone so when people are putting their numbers in my phone and stuff and and they're like - oh it's so tiny -  I was really judged on not updating my phone. Basically everyone there would make fun of my phone."

This was the size of phones then,
but this one was my phone,
and as you can see it's pretty tiny.

 [I am laughing in tears by now. I know I shouldn't be...]

"He picks up my phone. He was 'come on, let's leave, get your dinosaur phone and let's go' and I was just like wait a second, because up until this point he had been nice to me, he had been sweet to me... So this complete 180, being... sexually assaulting me... being just like straight up rude, like who cares? Who cares if someone updates their phone?"

[What she's defining as 'sexual assault' seems, in her mind, kind of on par with hair and makeup and being teased about her old phone??? Wat-da-heck?]

After this she explains that she kept trying to get back in touch with him but that he ghosted her, and that's basically the whole story.


Here's my take. She had sex with him. He was pushy. She sent mixed messages and did not say no clearly. He was a power-tripping douchebag. She has low self-esteem and is attracted to power-tripping douchebags. She regretted the sex afterwards. That's her definition of "sexual assault". She's kind of dumb. She likely needs a legal guardian.

It does kind of cheapen the concept for women who were violently sexually assaulted and genuinely feared for their lives.

Well, whatever, it was entertaining anyways.