Thursday, April 30

Giving my Husband just what he "Needs"

Here's the thing about my husband. He says he "needs" these spankings. But when I give it to him good and proper; nice and hard; then while it's going on he says he doesn't want it. But then sure enough, a few days later, there's "Mr Needy" again, back for more. I tell him it will be as hard or harder than last time. Still he "needs it". Weird, huh?

Sometimes he likes his spankings. I mean, what subbie would not like a "good boy spanking" where I fondle him between whacks and then lube up my thighs and his cock and balls and spank him until he cums from grinding into my lap. I can see that.

Sometimes I take him across my knee and spank him with my hand. His ass gets red. But he says he enjoys it even while it is going on. I can accept that. That's fun too.

If I get out a strap, a paddle, a hairbrush, a cane, a switch, or a belt, the situation changes dramatically. These are the kinds of spankings that he fears. They leave him well marked and sore. As soon as one of these starts in earnest, he immediately wants it to stop. But so sorry, spanky boy. If I stop as soon as you want me to, then who would be the bitch? What he "needs" is to know that I am in charge: that I wear the pants in the family and he is MY bitch. One of the things that does that is an intense spanking. It doesn't work unless he wants it to stop. Is begging for it to stop in fact. And then it doesn't stop, but keeps going and going until he resigns himself to it. Only then might it stop.

Sometimes he can get what he "needs" without such a hard spanking. For example if he is made to stand nude in the corner of the living room showing off some recently hand-spanked rosy cheeks. And then my sister "just happens" to drop by. Ha Ha!

And, yes, he may well "need" to be turned around, face my sister with his hands pinned to his sides, and with his penis and testicles fully on display be made to apologize to her for the misbehaviour that caused her to have to see him in that spanked, cornered, and undressed state. I have come to call it "birthday suit punishment" when there are other women there to witness his fully nude shaming.

Or not even a spanking or nudity need be involved. He can get what he "needs" by being made to put on knee socks, a pair of panties, a short plaid skirt, a bra with big breast forms, and a blouse. I have made him clean all the bathrooms dressed like this: scrubbing away on his hands an knees. It makes it even more delicious to make him do this the day before our cleaning lady comes. I tell him if he doesn't do a good job I'll make him stay home from work, dress like that again, and will let our cleaning lady instruct and supervise. A full report to me afterwards with public discipline applied across my knee to his bare bottom as his supervisor watches.

Just kidding. Our cleaning lady isn't "in on it". Not completely anyways.

And there's another way that david gets what he "needs". Our cleaning lady does do our laundry, and she has figured out all on her own that the 2XL panties go right into david's underwear drawer. I must confess I'm also pretty careless with our toys. For example, one evening I left my strap and cane out beside the bed after a vigorous punishment session. Next morning david saw them and was keen to put them away as it was cleaning lady day. I told him to leave them where they lay. He back-talked me. Big mistake. We went to the computer and found an image of a man being spanked across a woman's knee, and another image of a man being fucked with a strap-on dildo. I made him print them out, and told him to place them on the floor near the implements. Before this, there was at least a plausible case that david might have used the implements on me. With the printed photos, there would be no doubt who was the bitch (if there ever was). When we returned after work. The photos were neatly piled on the bedside table, and the strap and crop were laid out neatly in perfect parallel on the floor next to the bed. Yes, david had been "owned" by the cleaning lady, and got what he "needed" as a result.

She is an educated Filipina lady in her early forties. She used to be a nurse back home. Now when she greets "Mr David" she always has a little twinkle in her eye and a little closed-mouth grin, or so david tells me.


Giving him what he "needs" can be a great pleasure for me. For example, he "needs" to be told to get between my legs and lick. He needs that I should kneel over his face and "force him" to clean out my asshole with his tongue while I get myself off with my Hitachi. He then "needs" to have mittens duct-taped onto his hands and be put to bed with a good hard cock.

And, of course, he "needs" to be flipped over, have his pants removed, and be fucked like a woman. Quite regularly in fact.

And I think that he will very soon be "needing" me to take him down to the gym, bend him bare ass across the exercise ball, whip him with the belt, and then take him hard with my strap-on while his pretty young trainer stands there, watches, and takes note. I definitely think he "needs" that.

38 comments:

  1. sissies and subs can be such 'needful' things. You are wonderful in your attitude towards him? her? it?

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    1. He's a "him", though he gets called "her" when being punished en femme!

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  2. Sounds wonderful and frighteneing at the same time. A good boy spanking is always nice as you say, Julie, but punishment is just that and you are correct to lay it on as needed. Were I your target for punishment, I would lose respect if you stopped just because I said so. If I earned it, so be it.

    The cleaning lady gambit would humiliate me, but she probably had it figured out already. Might the next step be for the cleaning lady to "handle david" if she finds something that he should have taken care of? Perhaps dirty dishes, unfolded laundry, whatever he is responsible for and does not do?

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    1. Yes, I've started thinking of other subtle ways to humiliate him in front of her. Maybe tell him, in front of her, that his clothes are either put away, or in the laundry hamper. Ask her to leave any of his clothes she finds left out in a heap in the middle of the bed, and then I'll have a "discussion" with him about it after we are home.

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    2. oooooooooo, yes, Miss Julie. I would be mortified!

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  3. Perhaps you might leave a frilly apron hanging in the kitchen or a nightie on the bed? Perhaps, when the cleaning lady is there, have David go out to run an errand carrying a girly purse.

    I have had to answer the door in a frilly apron or with my hair up in curlers when we order pizza.

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    1. Lovely. The little humiliations...

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  4. Your posts always ge my needy-juices flowing Ms Julie. I wish I could 'tag in' for david sometimes. I want to love it and hate it, yearn for it and dread it, as a him/her. All that bonkers stuff!

    Crazy lill (Ms Julie's punished sketch slut) josephine

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    1. I believe you'd be the perfect subbie subject, josephine. You could be spanked and humiliated to our heart's content (including inviting the boys around for some fun with you)...

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    2. Boys, Girls,
      Anything, as long as you're the conductor of the orchestra Ms Julie.
      lill (Ms Julie's punished sketch slut) josephine

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  5. Julie Ma'am you have such wonderful ways to keep your subby slut in line. No spanking should stop until the spanker wants it to stop. As a sub once a spanking starts I also want it to end but it will go on usually until I'm a limp rag across her lap. He is so lucky that you peg him that is what our sissy holes are for a good long hard pegging.
    archedone

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    1. as I mentioned, I don't always spank him like that. Sometimes I let him enjoy his spankings. But I personally enjoy the ones where he suffers the most!

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  6. Another wonderful entry Ms Julie! While i know that this is mostly "sceneing", i do think that the D/s dynamic between You and david is becoming more and more a flat out reality! he is lucky to have such a caring, creative, dominant, and deviant Lady to keep him in line! Now to fulfill the requirements of reading and being satisfied by Your blog!
    Respectfully,
    doc

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    1. Yes indeed: down that hatch. Every last drop!

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    2. Ugh, yes Ms Julie! I know the rules!

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  7. A submissive man's dream come true!

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  8. Dear Miss Julie,

    Is there a thrill of excitement for you when you realize that you can let another person in on your "other life" with david? My wife was dear friends with Dorothy, one of her grade school teachers. She was retired and would house sit when we were out of town. My wife made me take everything to a storage locker until one day over tea Dorothy called for me and asked me to refill her cup. My wife said that she would never forget the thrill of seeing "the look" in Dorothy's eye that let her know. From that point forward, my wife would leave things for Dorothy to discover while we were away.

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    1. It's definitely a thrill for me to let other women in on our "little secret". I think women love to show off how devoted our men are to us. This is the kinky parallel to that. Also, were I to be let in on such a secret, even thinking back to before i started spanking david, I would have laughed and loved it!

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  9. Thank you very much for this post, Ms. Julie.

    After reading your past couple of posts I began to believe that although David is clearly your sub, in a strange kind of way he actually was getting more from the relationship than you were. In essence, his desires were more paramount, and, you were the one making the accommodations. More so, as I reflected, I could see that been the case in most FLRs.

    However, this posting changes my misconceptions. I now see much more clearly how there's a line that determines the 'bitch' of the relationship. And while David may very well enjoy certain aspects of it, it is YOU that controls it.

    You must be an immensely secure person to be able to handle aspects of the relationship without the usual baggage of jealousy and other emotions that are much more subtle.

    Thank you for your insights and your candor.

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    1. I do enjoy it myself, but I started doing it, and i would say I primarily keep doing it, for him. This is what he needs to stay healthy sexually and psychologically.But what he needs is true dominant control from me. He knows that the ultimate punishment awaits if her were to try to top from the bottom: no more scenings at all, because, I mean, what would be the point?

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  10. Ha ha... Ms. Julie, love how you have discretely (heh) had the maid know the LARGE panties go in david's drawer... and the strap and picture left out, omg! I'd be mortified... but helpless to stop it! sara e

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    1. Yes, it's such a funny dynamic that she knows it all but we never talk about it. I wonder if she shares with her Filipina friends? I'm sure she does.

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    2. Oh, I'm sure they talk and gossip like crazy! I wonder if it's in English or what, Tagalong? Either language, I'm sure they giggle and laugh like crazy!! sara

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    3. Wouldn't it be fun if i could leave her and her friends in charge of some of his discipline? I wonder how cruel a gang of Philippina house keepers and nannies could be to a "rich white dude" who's his wife's bitch?

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  11. Maybe you should have her train him to be an understudy. Paid extra of course

    Emily

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    1. I don't think she'd be that bold, but maybe... She was a nurse after all.

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  12. I will never forget when my wife's friend Liz first saw me doing housework in my maid's uniform. The sense of humiliation was a whole different level.

    Today? Liz enjoys having me as a maid. And Liz is far more into corporal punishment than my wife. Liz has caned me twice. She swings hard and leaves serious welts. Liz is also multi orgasmic. Foot massages, foot worship, oral - both front and back - provide Liz with deep orgasms.

    I do Liz's hand laundry every week. She wears the frilliest panties, sexy bras, more stockings than pantyhose.

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    1. I can only imagine your humiliation. Big macho man reduced to wearing women's clothing and doing women's work. Serves you right for being a "man".

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  13. If you ever decide to start diapering David, I imagine it would be quite humiliating if he knew that his underwear drawer was filled with "Pampers". And if the maid had to go into his drawer to put away laundry... So be it!

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  14. Miss Julie: I love being a girl. I love being a housewife. My housework is perfect. I find providing my wife with manicures, pedicures, foot and body massages deeply satisfying. I am currently enrolled in cosmetology classes to improve my skills and to learn to do her hair and makeup professionally.

    I give but never get oral. I get but never give penetration. When I am feeling frisky I throb in anticipation off being mounted and taken like a girl. I have several outfits we both enjoy for strap on play.

    I have taken cooking, massage and sewing classes. I take ballet classes at the intermediate level for fitness.

    I love to shop - especially for dresses. We have found a salon that is wonderfully accepting and we go there several times a year for professional salon services. Mine always includes Brazilian waxing.

    One of our indulgences is a beautiful human hair wig. I have learned to set it in curlers and every Friday and Saturday night I sleep in curlers.

    We have been married for 25 years and have evolved a loving, caring relationship with me in the girl and wife role.

    I get my period every month, cramps, bloating, tampons and pads.
    My wife's friend, Liz, is more dominant, more into corporal punishment.

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    1. That sounds like a very happy and contented situation you are in (other that those strict canings from Liz, that is ;-)

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  15. i will admit i need and crave punishment spanking everyday from strict female like yourself or other mean strict one iam sure my butt will get all attention it need i will learn proper lesson of why need behave

    mike

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  16. "Needs". This is SO spot on! As a sub, I go through such a vicious, delicious circle of CRAVING a spanking...until it starts to REALLY hurt. Then I ask myself why I wanted this, I want it to be over, then...barely 24 hours pass, my ass is still tender...and I begin to NEED it again! The same for humiliation. It is so arousing in fantasy to be forced to cross dress, but then the crushing, embarrassing reality stares at me in the mirror or is reflected in the laughing or disgusted eyes of the saleswoman assisting me with lingerie. The strapon. A woman looks so erotically powerful with a cock that dwarfs mine protruding from her hips. Then comes the pain of insertion. Please, stop! No more! Oh, yes, please FUCK ME!

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