Friday, March 10

Husband's Weight Loss Update

It's now past a month from since I again took charge of my husband's diet. He's struggling. He has lost a total of, drum roll please, 2 whole pounds in a month. fizzle.

He was very close, 3 lbs, to suffering the ultimate indignity of enduring a bra and panty spanking across another man's knee. You think he would have tried harder to avoid this?


I would have loved to have sat with Tracy and seen him upended across John's knee, have his panties lowered, and then spanked to tears. Hand only. No safewords. I would have followed it up with a very public ass fucking for him, right in front of John and Tracy.


Don't think I wouldn't have.

Oh well. Not to be this month. Here's hoping for his sake that he hits his stride.

As it was, he was on the receiving end of four pretty harsh spankings, with another coming soon.

The ritual has been once a week, and starts with a nude weigh-in.


I have him stand there like that while I look at his food app. The problem is obvious. He's having a hard time limiting himself to his set number of calories. He's always just a little bit over. As a result, his progress has been negligable.

And I really don't get it. He has every motivation in the world to do better. He would get fun sex, get to spank me, get a good boy spanking from me with orgasm. But no. Week after week after week it's a harsh spanking from me, a full hour of corner time, another spanking, an hour's worth of lines, and then another spanking. I've standardized on a paddling for the first, a strapping for the second, and a caning or switching for the third.




I've been giving it to him harder and harder each week. And he appears to be scared of his weigh-ins. The full hour of boring corner time he hates. He hates writing lines for me as well.

Next time the paddling will be longer and harder; the corner-time will be butt-plugged; the strapping will be stricter with more strokes; the line writing will be bare-assed on a hard wooden chair sitting on his dildo; and the final punishment will be with my Delrin cane and he will NOT be sitting the next day. I fucking DARE him to not lose a pound a week after that. I DARE him!

After that, I suppose I will start inviting guests to see his weigh-ins.

I WILL motivate him!


110 comments:

  1. Ms Julie I understand your concern for him to lose weight. From the way it sounds the spanking is not doing it. Maybe a weight loss program would work for him. I'm not sure I follow the comment about the bra and pantie spanking from another man and being pegged by you in front of them. Does he have to lose more weight for that to happen or not lose at all? Could it be that is what he desires?
    archedone

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    1. If he GAINS weight over any one month period that's what he gets!

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  2. All your readers were secretly (well not that secretly) hoping for some weight gain and the subsequent humiliating spanking or more from John. Oh well, we'll just have to wait for the inevitable...

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    1. We'll see if he pulls it together.

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  3. Sounds like the perfect set of motivators to work with. I think I could loose weight with that schedule. Good luck and keep motivating, it will work. I wish my wife would use that program, it would get results.

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    1. Yes, I've been stepping it up each week and I think he's starting to avoid it!

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  4. To tears, that's not enough.
    David sounds so rude that he gives up all he could get from you, his so clement and just wife, prefering an other mistress : gluttony !
    Led by you and Tracy, John has to drive david much further than tears. David must give the public spectacle of a baby howling, pleading, promising to do whatever you likes of him. And as they say, it is when he will have reached this state that the real spanking will begin.
    No safe word. At all.

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  5. Dearest Julie, It's time to add the chastity device. If he is getting spanked as you describe and has no way for a release he will start dropping weight. For a male we live for the release and will take it in hand when help not provided. Or another approach since he likes to be spanked and humiliated maybe tell him no more scenes unless he hits his targets.

    John

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    1. Now that would motivate him!

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    2. Not quite there yet. I enjoy playing with him and he's starting to get the message.

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  6. I can tell you from experience that witnesses are a great motivational tool. When I was spanked bare bottom in front of my sister in law I didn't screw up for almost a month.

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    1. Yes, a good dose of shaming does wonders.

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  7. I think last pic of blonde lady can be you warning us no smart ass comment on this post or we going get it hard you know we dont want you mad at us

    i for one not going blame you for david reason screw up i enjoy sitting my butt feel good wouldnt want 2 weeks of spankings by you on bare butt i be unable sit a month

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    1. well i know Your Spankings Hurt bad i need sit for a month so no wisecrack comment from Me Miss Julie rule alway Right

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  8. Just to throw in an opposing view, this reader is relieved he avoided the spanking from John. Not at all interested in interaction between the men. But if Tracy and John end up watching him take a pegging from Julie, that could be amusing.

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    1. I would LOVE to see him spanked by a man (and then the public pegging!)

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    2. Maybe some day dream come true you get witness him being spanked by man John then Public pegging what you mean by Public

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    3. I agree Ms Julie, a spanking by a man in front of you and another woman is ultimately humiliating!

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    4. Which is why it must happen!

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  9. Really? I think you might need guy be being a little hard on him. He didn't just keep the same weight, he lost two pounds! As you aged your motabolism slow down and everyone says that slow weight lose is much healthier than fast. And food is one of life's great pleasures!


    You've also mentioned before that david is reaching a certain age.i know you're concerned for his health so it mightn't be a bad idea to speak to a health professional about it. Get his fitness level fully checked out as well as all the colestaral, blood pressure, bone density and joint stuff. Then the doc can advise you guys on what would be the most effective form of diet and exercise for his bodies needs. Sadly you sometimes need to change your excise rutain as you're body ages, it would be terrible if he put himself out of commission through a back injury or early arthritis.

    Hopefully you guys are still having some fun, glad you seem to be having no trouble getting back into "strict" mode.

    -Eve

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    1. Right now it's more abut diet than exercise. His reason for not losing weight is painfully clear from his food reports.

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    2. He still lost two pounds

      -Eve

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    3. And it is hard to loose weight through diet alone. Have you guys found a replacement trainer, even if less open to kink?

      -Eve

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    4. He's still exercising. His eating is the problem!

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    5. Is it snacking or meals? Planing the meals for the week ahead and cooking and freezing at the weekend if he and you are too tired to cook after work can help. So can bring a packed lunch too work. If it's eating between meals that's a different problem. Maybe have him keep a small hairbrush with him as a reminder? Or put a picture of a well spanked bottom (either yours or his or both) in the fridge and cookie jar.

      -Eve

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  10. Maybe he needs a bit of positive reinforcement? If kinky sex is being used as your motivator, you two could come up with a kinky workout routine mixing pleasure with muscle toning. Think of all the ways you could adapt. The plank position while getting a hand job, you have to hold it if you wank to keep being jerked off. Strip treadmill. Crunches for kisses. Pull ups and penetration. Working up enough of a swet for a shared shower. And as to consuming too many calories, swapping snacks for oral (69 so everyone wins)

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  11. I believe your first idea, having David spanked by John, with both you and Tracy watching will be very effective. It will certainly be embarrassing, and give your guy the first part of a very serious punishment if he does not focus on his diet. However, I suggest that you will also need describe the next step, if David's weight loss target is not met. And we all know, the next step would be for John to peg your poor husband.

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    1. I might unilaterally change the rules to say he must lose at least 1 pound in a month to avoid his spanking from John.

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  12. well then maybe the contract should be stricter this month with so little progress. The bra and spanking comes if he goes over his calorie limit for 3 weeks in a month or doesn't lose 1-2 pounds a week.

    Perfectly Reasonable.

    Emily

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  13. Hi Julie, I have commented once or twice before, longtime fan,
    I think that you are motivating him to do exactly what he has been doing, I was wondering if this would happen when you first posted the contingencies. I thought that the punishments seemed like what he would think of as rewards,except for the worst one which he would want to avoid because it is crossing his hard limits. So I believe that by underachieving but avoiding the worst, he is getting exactly the kind of domination he wants. I think that if you reverse the stick and the carrot, and offer the kind of strict scenes he most craves and tie that in with success (carrot, not stick, pull motivator not push motivator) then he will lose weight to get what he wants most, the deeper scenes that push his buttons without going to far for his hard limits, And you might try,boredom, or no scenes at all for him as a punishment, so pleasure for you but no scene for him, if he gains weight, As it stands now, there is a greater than - less than scenario, where he avoids the worst of it but gets more or less what he craves plus some corner time he doesnt like, while avoiding the worst of it and he most likely knows exactly what he weighs before you weigh him, try giving him what he craves for success, and no release when he fails, that might be the pull motivator that he craves.
    The pleasure scenes with you that your offering as a reward are an enticement, but not enough to offset the more intense domination he craves plus the additional food he is getting. so maybe try asking him what he would really like and let him earn it by weight loss and take the threats off the table for a while?

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    1. Possibly right. But I have been stepping it up each week and am curious to see if there is a point where he is genuinely motivated to avoid the punishment...

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  14. Wow, with all that motivation, it IS shocking he isn't doing better!
    Are you sure you're not leaving Girl Scout cookies out near his bedside to test his willpower? :) ~sara

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  15. Sounds like he is doing this on purpose as he really likes his punishments. What other than corner time and lines does he truly dislike? Perhaps add some mouth soaping or diaper punishment/ humiliation? Really motivate him.

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    1. I'll just keep stepping up the severity. There is a point where it's too much and he will know what to do to avoid it.

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    2. Speaking of diaper punishment, didn't you say something about planning on diapering him in front of Tracy? Or was that just wishful thinking on my part?!

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    3. If you want him to do the max to avoid punishment, try bastinado using your cane.

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    4. Youch!
      But a diapering is a good idea...

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  16. "I would have loved to have sat with Tracy and seen him upended across John's knee, have his panties lowered, and then spanked to tears. Hand only. No safewords. I would have followed it up with a very public ass fucking for him, right in front of John and Tracy."

    No safeword? Jesus Christ. That's hideous.

    On top if it, you want to see him fail and massively humiliated: "I would LOVE to see him spanked by a man (and then the public pegging!)"

    My sympathies to David.

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    1. I don't normally agree with James, but safe words are a must especially when playing with someone new. John is both new to this kink of play and he and David don't know each other or how to read each other. Safe words are like life jackets, you really hope you won't need one but if things go wrong you'll be glad to have it.

      -Eve

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    2. Totally disagree. Julie knows david's limits well, and would prevent any real harm to him.

      And there's nothing wrong with wanting to see him massivelt humiliated - I'm sure it's one of the things he loves about her.

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    3. Julie herself said David RELUCTANTLY agreed to this after she "put her foot down." To deny him a safeword, especially under those circumstances, is uncaring and reckless.

      James

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    4. Ah my very own troll, little james, back again! Missed you sweetie. Would you like a spanking like that? I have a theory that you only comment on those things that you crave done to you "against your will" ;-)

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  17. Hi Julie. My wife, Cindy, and I are each faithful readers of your blog. I have to confess that I love your creativity and kinkiness. However, your severity sometimes scares me. I can only hope that Cindy picks up on the former and not the latter :-).

    You and David seem to have a wonderful relationship like Cindy and I. Thank you for being willing to share so much. You provide inspiration to me as I try to blog about our relationship.

    Larry

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    1. Severity must be matched to the sub. One sub's mild spanking me get be another's boundary pushing limit!

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  18. You are turning into one of those women that do no5 respect the submissive limits... having Tracy's husband spank him is crowwong the line and benefits no one but you. It won't help your husband lose weight it will just show him that humiliating is more important to you than his actual well being.

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    1. Don't listen to these people, Miss Julie.

      I'd kill to be in your husband's place.

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    2. Yes, and I always take good care of him!

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  19. kinky scenes are something you both inwardly enjoy. As a kinky reader, so many other possibilities exist when adding a second man to your spanking and sexual activities. If David has not been losing enough weight, then maybe we should add my spanking you for not providing the proper motivation.
    bottoms up
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  20. You David John and Tracy should do a kinky bracket humiliation challenge, If David loses the bracket challenge he still has to endure shopping with Tracy and an additional spanking. Along with doing Tracy's nails.

    Sarah

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    1. What's a bracket challenge?

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    2. March Madnes NCAA basketball championships for US College Basketball.

      Sarah

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  21. Oh Ms Julie, If only all of our wives saw fit to motivate us the way you do with David. We would all be so much more successful and happy:-) Best of luck to you on this latest endeavor. I’m thinking that as some one earlier commented the best way to change David’s behavior may to to stop all scenes completely. This would be punishing you as well though since I know you enjoy them. It would also be punishing us your loyal readers. So I hope and pray that upping the intensity works to motivate David. We would hate missing your exciting posts.

    Bob Bell

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  22. Ms. Julie, I would definitely be motivated if you were my instructor. I am on a weight loss journey myself, but not where I want to be yet. That hour of corner time and writing lines sound so incredibly boring. You are doing good work for david.

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  23. Really bad punishment spanking is done after ejaculating so no pleasure is there just pure beating. Also without any physical contact (no otk, hand spanking, rubbing, etc..
    It is done with stick or cord (not slipper or hair brush or belt .i.e not linked to woman's body in any way or erotic as corps for example(.
    Also blind folded without talking (not seeing or hearing the female spanker i.e. no source of sexual pleasure.
    So it is just pure punishment.

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  24. David is not taking you seriously, despite your obvious concern for his health and well being. If he does not show tangible improvement, you should give him an enema in the presence of Tracy and John and make him hold it and dance while you spank him. Let him know you won't take s--t from him any more.

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    1. Good idea! He's been enema'd in front of other women before. Maybe another dose of that, along with standing bare ass facing the toilet for 5 minutes holding it.

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    2. Yes, but this time John will also witness the scene!

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  25. I have to chime in with the folks who suggested eliminating play until a reasonable goal is met. Since you have Tracy and John to play with, you need not miss out on any fun. Severity is a tricky thing. Alone it may not be enough of a deterrent to someone who has repeatedly demonstrated enjoyment over the most severe punishments....whether from you or Mags, or whomever.

    D/s is just like personnel management or parenting; the one thing authority figures soon learn is that different people require different tactics in order to get the most from them.

    All the best!----KDP

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    1. Then he'd miss out on the fun. I like motivating with fun!

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  26. what about after his panty and bra spanking from john, he has to watch you give him a blow job. the most intense humiliation ever is having to watch your wife give someone a blow job. especially if she looks over at you, makes eye contact while shes putting his cock in her mouth, smiles, winks, laughs....

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    1. I think you speak from experience!

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  27. Will david ever give us a post or two about what it's like being spanked and dommed by his
    wife? Or does he still not know about the blog? Might be time to tell him if he still doesn't know.

    -eve

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    1. If you are serious about David losing weight, go low carb. I lost 34 pounds.

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    2. She doesn't let him post.

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    3. But does he read it? Could he be one of the commenters?!

      -Eve

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    4. He has never mentioned it, but it would be just like him not to. Perhaps the occasional comment comes from him? Who knows. Love you sweetie!

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    5. But he knows you write about the two of you?

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    6. Not that he has ever let on. I have not told him.

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    7. Um, are you going to? Kinda seems like something he should know about

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  28. I just lost a few pounds reading this...I would sign up for your training anytime and no way I want a bare bottom over the knee from another dude. No thank you. But wow.
    Always
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  29. Every time I go to see if there is anything new on your site, I come across the photo taken from reluctantyoungmen. It is particularly well chosen. The man who receives the spanking from another man is in an extremely ridiculous position. Almost naked, a red buttock, big balls dangling between his hairy legs...
    I wonder what both of you will find to incite John to spank david with enough vigor. John does not seem to be the kind of man who takes pleasure in humiliating. And on the sexual level, he does not look like a man waiting for sexual pleasure from another man.
    I saw a man spank another and it was on the naked ass. He who spanked wanted to impose his law on the one he was spanking. It was a kind of challenge between men. He spanked him the strongest and as long as possible until he fell apart and could no longer bear the pain, he begged to stop and he recognized his defeat. When the latter recognized his defeat, the other stopped, but that did not stop the spanked from suddenly crying because he had really waited for the extreme limit before acknowledging his defeat. He was rather a young man a little presumptuous than a man (which is not the case of david)
    Once the tears began to flow he really cried, he could not help himself. The girls who were present were embarrassed to witness his shame and one or two laughed to give themselves a face.

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  30. Dear Miss Julie,
    What I really find exhilarating about your blog is how you discuss david's course of discipline with members of this blog without david having any say in the matter. How patronizing to david, he's been totally reduced to a little boy who's mature better discusses his upringing with other adults. It's beautiful how you've totally reduced him to an object of your (and your friend's) entertainment. I love it! as I'm sure he does too. By pimping him out and deciding for him such weighty questions as to which orfice he'll need to present to whom and for what, you are in fact providing him with an incredible sense of security as he trusts that "Mummy knows best what little boys need"
    I totally agree with a previous writer that he should be put into a chastity device. The logic behind it is that sex is a tremendously weighty matter that children don't have the maturity levels to handle. It's for that reason that we wait till adulthood before engaging in it. Superior females reach the required maturity level long before sub males. It's therefore no surprise that a 16 year old dominant female might well be more mentally developed than a 65 year old male. As such she should be given responsibility for the sexual activity of the developmentally backward male no matter his age. Age isn't important, it's maturity that counts. david needs to be gently explained that all his masturbatiory habits are self abusive and the younger but mentally older female (you) needs to take charge and lock up his little willy.

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  31. Very hot, Ms. Julie! You mentioned women's clothes and chores as a consequence of not meeting his goals, has your little maid amused you cleaning house in falsies, skirt, and panties after his spankings?

    I think a firm milking before being spanked would be a good escalation, and even more so in front of witnesses. Maybe on hands and knees like a fat cow? Or with his cock pulled back between his legs and knees belted together. Perhaps John would hold him across his knees like that while you milked him. A few spanks from John's hand would serve as a warning of what he might be in for if he gains weight.

    As an object lesson, after his spankings, corner time, and lines, he could wait on the three of you while dressed as a maid, and you could make him watch while you gave John a blow job so he could see the reward he was missing out on.

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    1. Bra and panties, butt plug, chores (toilet cleaning - can always use one more), corner time, lines, and, of course, a very red bottom so far. He's skirting dangerously close to the ultimate humiliation, though...

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  32. We have done this a few years ago, and my man friend lost about 30 lbs. He said it is not about the spanking, which he enjoys although it really hurts, it is about ceding control. He gives over to me the decision and I decide he does not eat cake and he does not want to do nervous snacking. I reinforced it with using the implements he never wants. Also making him shave body hair or sleep naked so I can wake him with the paddle etc.

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    1. Precisely. It's not all about punishment. It's about surrender to a higher authority.

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  33. Hairbrush to ass by John. That will motivate him to tears.

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    1. Not to mention how wet it makes me imagining him in his bra and panties, taken across John;s knee, panties down, paddled bright red, kicking and screaming while a real man has his way with him. Mmmmmm...

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  34. Hey Julie, great article loved this one, I haven't read all your post since there are so many though I am trying, I just have a question since David is your husband and he asked for this life style and willingly goes along with it, has there ever been a time David did not like or want anything you planned for him? I mean like a time he just stood his ground and got upset about anything? I'm just asking out of curiosity.

    Second question is your husband bi sexual? I know he is obviously submissive and a good one at that, but does it ever bother you in some way that he submits to others, one of your last post you said you felt bad for havin another man spank you before your husband and you let David spank you. I'm sure you are both always okay with the other doing something that the other wants but is there ever something that you Julie get not upset but jealous or feel left out if your husband does something with someone else besides you? Or do you two always communicate and okay before hand with the other on what's okay and what you feel is to much or without the others consent or checking in on how they feel and there feelings about certain activitys?

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    1. Oh yes, david and I have negotiated many times. He has always drawn the line at anything involving another man. He has been upset with me a time or two when he thought I went too far. But, you can't learn to swim without getting wet...

      I would be VERY bothered if he interacted sexually with another woman without my knowledge and permission!

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    2. Hello Mistress Julie, with David's hard limit on no men. It is odd that he agreed to this. Maybe he is testing the waters. Either way it sounds like a great adventure.

      I could see this weight gain happen in two ways. The four of you go out to eat and John goats David into over eating. Or you change David's work out. A regiment of strength training will add muscle and muscle weighs more than fat. So it it possible to gain weight by changing fat to muscle.


      Pie pie 4 now
      Pieclown

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    3. No, I think he genuinely wanted to lose the weight and so agreed to the John thing to legit motivate himself!

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  35. Maybe threat him will good spanking by you or Tracy or both of you outside on front porch if both have one then tell him John will then spank him after you sweet ladies down make it public one where somebody can watch or see

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    1. Maybe in the summer time and at the cottage!

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    2. Summer time at cottage good idea forgot you have cottage hope nobody get wrong idea when witness it i mean neighbor outside public people

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  36. Kinda wishing I could get something similar set up to help me with my weight loss

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    1. Use your imagination and some self-spanking. Set a target, weigh-in, if not reaching the target, hard paddle spanks x100 per pound short should motivate you! Send me pics!

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  37. Hi Julie, my wife spanks me usually with her hand and when really deserving she fetches the hair brush or belt. Until last summer during our holiday in Brazil that she saw ladies using flip flops in spanking. She bought beach haviannas and tried them. They are made of rubber and sting alot. Ever since i never get a hand spanking it is always these slippers taken off her feet and applied to my bottom (no more fetching an implement,they are always there handy at her feet.

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    1. And i think you might have a little foot/slipper fetish! Lucky boy.

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    2. Yes, after all it is a sex play.

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    3. It was foot fetish but after trying slipper spanking a bit of slipper fetish as well.

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