Friday, April 27

david's premature ejaculation issue

I have not mentioned it previously in my blog, as it has not been relevant up until now, but I'm afraid I must confess that my husband david has a "little issue". Yes, he is a premature ejaculator.


He would die of embarrassment if he knew I was posting about his little issue (and/or get sooo mad at me!). Honey, if you ever find my blog, well, the truth hurts, baby, and it's time you face up to it.

It's gotten better as he has gotten older, but he has told me stories about when he was a teenager. He was necking with a first-date girlfriend on a sofa, fully dressed, she touched him down there over his pants, and he ejaculated into his undies and she knew it! Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha!


With me, he has always been quick on the trigger, but I did not notice it as being much of a problem as he has developed some coping mechanisms, the chief of which is an excellent tonguing technique which he was always quick to get to and eager to stay on. In the early days, he also had special thick condoms he used. He was still no champ, but I don't cum "in the regular way", from vaginal intercourse, so it's not that important to me. However, like most women, I do enjoy a good hard fucking from time to time, and that is a challenge for him.

Since we've been married he's learnt to control it better even when "bare back". However, what that translates into is him needing to stop thrusting and say his times-tables mid intercourse. With oral, I use a bit of teeth to control him. Very effective! When I hand job him I have to watch for the signs, and stop before he goes too far, or clamp down on the base without moving or saying anything until he subsides. On the plus side, I can get him off with practically only a sexy look and a hint of my breast!

Absolutely nobody (outside his former girlfriends and I, I suppose) knows about his little premie problem. Not even my sister Sue knows. But I think that's about to change...

It's high time he took some responsibility for his problems, and I think an embarrassing and strict training regimen in front of my sister will help him to do that.

I hope Sue agrees with me. I'll keep you posted.

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  1. Julie, rest assured, time will be of great assistance.
    Observing

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    1. Sounds like you comment from experience, o?

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    2. Wham!Bam! Thakyou Ma'am! That was me for may moons. Between 60 and 70 were the absolute best years for both of us as I could no longer cum within minutes. We both had to work at it. i had to work hard and the results were fantesticle (pun intended) for me. Even better for her. Now, in our 80's, it is more work, but still much more enjoyable than in the old days of wham! bam!.

      I am sure that with your great imagination and bent for action, you two will have many years of very enjoyable sexual activity ahead of you.
      Observing

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    3. Good point. You're basically saying that as he grows up, he will start fucking like a real man. I'll be sure to let him know that!

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  2. This is very mean of you to expose him like that, bend over Julie, you need a hard spanking

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    1. Well, sometimes I admit to being bad enough to deserve a spanking... but not this time! I'm the one who has had to put up with his issue for years now. Time he paid the piper.

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  3. Julie,

    And David can file this under, "be careful what you wish for" I suppose. I know he likes to be humiliated in front of others and I hope it goes well.

    Take care,

    josie

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    1. You sound worried, josie. Up to now, his humiliations have been things he has wanted, and while I enjoyed them all, there was a little something missing always: that is real humiliation. I think that because he is so sensitive about his little problem, this time he will get to experience the real deal, and I for one am looking forward to it!

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  4. Besides being a wonderful domme, you are a terrific wife! I haven't had oral or a hand job in years.

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    1. Awwww... I'm sure you've had hand jobs, too bad it's only your own hand. Next time you use your hand, I give you permission to pretend it's mine. Ha Ha! ;-)

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  5. PM Ejaculation is no different then wetting yourself. After all it is about self control. Who wets themselves? Babies. Babies wear diapers. It is time for David to be diapered in front of Sue and Chloe.

    Goddess Gretchen

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    1. That would be a wonderful humiliation for him. If he consistently fails in his new training regimen, I might have to diaper him in front of Sue to drive the point home!

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  6. Are you serious? Don't be a total beeyatch. I'm sure you can think of something better.

    g.

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    1. Touched a nerve there, g? Maybe my husband and you have something in common? Huh? ;-)

      I am surprisingly delighted to be called that name by you. It means what I have set out to do is very powerful, and that turns my crank in a way you cannot even imagine.

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  7. Have Sue over to assist in punishing david. She would be wearing a short skirt, pantyhose (no panties) and 5" CFM heels. david would be nude and on all fours in front of Sue. david would be forced to look up Sue's skirt at her pantyhosed pussy (nothing says "pussy whipped" like a man who has the naughty habit of looking up skirts). Whip david with a riding crop while scolding him for being a "pussy whipped little bitch". Tell him if he cums too soon he'll be humiliated even more. Invariably he will cum too soon so Sue will make him lick his prematurely ejaculated seed off the floor while she whips him.

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    1. Someone has an over-active imagination. Ha Ha! I think Sue's "pantyhosed pussy" will stay demurely covered, thank you all the same!

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  8. I can identify with David's problem, when I was younger I had the same problem, and I can tell you it is very frustrating. One night with two women I came 7 times, my all time record :) But that means the the first 2 or 3 times it was over way too soon. I think your planned training in front of your sister will gradually help, but it will probably take several sessions, good luck!

    HUGS,
    Dave

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    1. That's so sweet, dave, to empathize with my david like that. I wonder if your empathy will continue as I strap his ass in front of Sue for being a premature ejaculator?

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    2. No I will be jealous and wish it was me getting the strapping!

      HUGS,
      Dave

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    3. Any other implement, maybe, but the strap is my "special" implement. If I get that out, it's always with bad intentions. You may think you might want it, but my reality will trump your fantasy, guaranteed!

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    4. In reality, I am sure you are corrrect Julie.

      HUGS,
      Dave

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  9. This may be worse for him than any spanking you could give him.

    Ron

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    1. We can only hope, ron, we can only hope.
      I am planning on taking him way out of his comfort zone on this one.

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  10. I can also relate. I've been a premature ejaculator all my life. My wife still loves me, but gets that "regular pleasure" at the hands (and with the cock) of another man. It is what it is, and I am learning to accept it.

    David is lucky to have you Julie!

    sissy terri

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    1. I take it Brian has some staying power, then? It's good that Diane is getting what you cannot give her. Having read your latest post, I would say that before Brian takes Diane, he should be taking you across his knee to punish you for your inadequacies in front of her. If I was Diane, it is what I would want.

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  11. Google Emla Numbing cream. It'll numb him out and he can last as long as you want. Of course... He'll get no sensation and it'll be quite frustrating, but hey, it's about you right?

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    1. I prefer to train him to be all the man he can be!

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  12. I hope Sue agrees too. I think you are on the right path here. I've never had the "premie" problem but nobody is perfect. Sometimes (thankfully not always) it takes me too long to achieve the goal and that can be a different kind of buzzkill. Just being honest. Anyway, I hope he can have his issue fixed and that you (and Sue!) will force this to happen.

    Marc

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    1. I'm honestly focused more on the training, which turns me on immensely, mind-fucking him like that for real. I fear there are not too many things david will really, genuinely, deep down be embarrassed about, but this is surely one of them. I wonder how he'll take it, being trained in front of Sue?

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    2. He will both love it and hate it - which is perfect for both of you. There is a tension between the two realities. Tension, I feel is a core principle when it comes to fulfillment in a D/s relationship. Without tension there would be less fun. How can it be fun if there isn't an element of danger, naughtiness, fear, loathing, joy, exhiliration, and so on? The same idea applies when it comes to training or discipline.

      Tension stirs the drink.

      Think of it this way. You love mind-fucking him, right? How can you do this if he doesn't sincerely want something and fear another thing all at the same time. If all you do is prey upon his dislike of something - that is not a mind-fuck - that is pure punishment. If all you do is indulge his desires - that is not a mind-fuck - it is pure fun. Either are good each in its own way. But to truly mind-fuck a person there must be tension between what is desired and what is feared.

      So, yes, being trained in front of Sue should be both incredibly enjoyable for him on a certain primal level AND it will terrify the ever loving crap out of him and another primal level.

      And you (and Sue...and even david too) will enjoy every second of it.

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    3. How insightful, marc.
      Too true!

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  13. Maybe it's an issue of not being "emptied" often enough? I know I'm more sensitive if I've not ejaculated for a while.

    I'm happy that, since the beginnings of my sex life with my wife, I've adapted so that I do not finish before she finishes. My wife and I may be kinksters, but we are also very much into vanilla; she comes from intercourse done the proper way and she's long made it clear that she intends to use my penis often.

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    1. Yeah, I don't cum that way hence his penis is way less useful.

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  14. I have always been a quick cummer. I know that hampers my ability to please a woman. That's probably why I haven't been with many women in my life. Now, in my late 50s, I struggle to get hard sometimes. By not being hard doesn't keep me from spurting. I know my wife has always been very disappointed and that's why she doesn't even allow me to try with her very often now.

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    1. Oh dear, from one dysfunction to another! Poor baby. So far my husband has not moved onto dysfunction 2, but if/when he does, I shall be sure to make fun of him and compare his performance to that of my big strap-on dildo with regards to fucking a hole properly!

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