Tuesday, June 16

Caning Aftermath

As I recounted on my past post, Husband Caned to Tears, myself, my sister, and a friend got together to give my husband the caning of his life.


In this post I thought I'd discuss the aftermath as I left off the rather long blog post with david still licking his wounds in timeout.

But before reading this, you may also want to make a quick visit over to lil jo's blog, and see his post Tears and Awe. It is his imagining of how the caning would go down after reading that it would happen, but having not read the blow by blow of the event yet. His images are always so delightful!

Welcome back.

Now, a reader left a comment that I thought deserved a post, so let's start there.
Dear Julie, I just want to know if it was also sexually arousing for you (and your friends). I only read "fun" - what does that mean? His butt is so sexy (especially in those pants), that this alone must awake some erotic desires in the women (I hope that, as a man). But is there not the desire in you females to stroke, knead (and even kiss) that sweet ass also? I already asked that.- But afterwards, the sight of his wounded skin: Isn't that a bit cruel? Not sexy anymore! - Tim
We did tell david how "sexy" he was: in his panties, with his cheeks bare, wiggling his bum around after the cane, and so on. But that was more teasing him about his status as a "girl". It's actually not that sexy visually as he looked ridiculous. So, no, not so arousing seeing him. Is his butt "arousing"? Not really. Not in the same way I know that a guy looks at a girl and becomes aroused.

But was the situation arousing? You bet! I had to catch my breath when he came into the living room, so submissively, in front of Sue and Jen. And also when my sister lowered his panties, stripping him bare in front of the three of us. His excitement fully on display. It turns me on sexually to have this control over him. That he does what I say. That I can demonstrate that to other women. Yum!

And yes, there is a desire to stroke and knead (but not kiss), again because it highlights his submission and what we are doing to him.

But his "wounded skin" not sexy? No way! That is incredibly sexy. The marks we left on him, to me anyways, were very powerfully arousing.

I got very aroused as Jen was whipping him with the cane. Her strokes were so remorseless. So completely merciless. And that she absolutely didn't seem to give a shit.


He screamed as her cane hit him. That really aroused me. But only because he wasn't tied up. He had a choice. He could have just let go of his "whipping post" and walked away. He didn't. He held on for dear life and jutted out his ass of his own accord for the next stroke and the next and the next. He was demonstrating his submission. I loved that. That turned me on.

When it was my turn I literally made him cry. He was sobbing as I finished his caning, the tears dripping down his cheeks. But he still stuck his ass out for every stroke. That I had "broken him" in front of my sister and this relative stranger was intoxicating to me. Tears like that must be very humbling for a man.

So, yes, his totally messed up whipped ass cheeks were indeed arousing. Powerfully so.


I had a bit of a debrief with david, and here are some of his reactions.

david tells me that one of the most humiliating moments was when he first came down the stairs in only his pair of panties, and for Jen, a woman he had barely met, to see him like that. He said that was compounded when he was taken across my knee in front of Sue and Jen, and was teased by them as I spanked him like a "little girl" in her panty.

He said he became very aroused as I stood him there in the living room and described how severely he would be caned by us. We actually noticed that physically at the time as well.

He found that Sue pulling down his panties and me poking at his cock with the cane to draw the girls' attention to his erect genitalia was also humiliating to him, but arousing. But this was tempered by the caning he knew was just about to start.

As soon as the caning started there was no longer anything conventionally sexual about it in his mind. It was just pure fiery agony. He confirmed that Jen's strokes completely took his breath away with their unvarnished severity. He was sure she was breaking his skin, but he says he trusted me to keep him safe (the skin was never broken).

The final six from me were the most agonizing of them all, he also confirmed. But he says he wanted them to be the worst. He wanted me to give him the worst of it. He realized after the first stroke that he was actively holding back his tears, so he just let them go. That totally surprised him. He is very hard to make cry. He says he could have made it through without the crying, but he was somehow too exhausted to do so, and it was just an incredible relief to cry through the final strokes.

He was soooo sore right afterwards. He said he almost immediately stiffened up and felt as if he could hardly walk. That more or less stayed with him until bedtime. In the morning he was still a bit stiff, but it was better. Miraculously, most of the marks were gone by then, only a big bruise remained, here where I circled.


I guess the tip of the cane on several strokes must have concentrated there. It's funny. One could not tell the night before that spot in particular would bruise (there were a few other faded bruises as well). By the morning after that, it was hard to tell he had even been caned. He says he still is feeling it today (Tuesday). Not as pain, but more as a lingering reminder.

And this brings us to the wonders of the butt. That place where nature intended wives to punish their husbands. To be able to inflict such pain, and yet have him be completely uninjured, is truly a natural wonder. I guess the nerves are close to the skin, so he gets ALL the pain, but there is all this great padding, fat first then muscle, to dissipate any injury. Hooray for the butt!

Now, let's move on to talk abut his "release".

He says he was mortified to be told he would be receiving "hand relief" from me in front of Sue and Jen especially. He considers this to be a very submissive form of "sex". He has no control at all. He gets excited whether he wants to or not. He is made to cum whether he wants to or not. He can be deprived his orgasm and left quiveringly erect if I so choose as well. As I tease him as he gets close to an orgasm he knows he will beg me for his release. This is all the more humiliating for him when there are female witnesses to his "sexual shaming". He is made into a little tart humping the bed and begging for her orgasm.

All of this humiliates him, and ran through his mind as he was told that would be what he was getting after the caning. Even the fact that Sue and Jen begged off seeing it, but knew it would be happening while they were sipping wine in the living room he says made it somehow all the more humiliating for him.

He had no clue they would show up in the bedroom at all. So when I tied him up and stuffed a cock in his holes, he still had no clue. He genuinely thought I had asked and they had (quite reasonably) left that to me to do in private. So boy was he shocked when they turned up and saw him in his most vulnerable state like that! He was cock out and on the verge of his ejaculation as they barged right in. Their teasing and unexpected manipulations of his dildos were very arousing to him. But at the same time, he said he felt butterflies in his tummy at the situation he was in. As I rubbed his cock the final time to make him spurt he told me he was thinking "no, no, please no!" in his head at the thought of being humiliated like this by losing all bodily control in front of these women.

For me, that part was less sexy than the caning, and more just fun to rub him and make him spurt. This is endlessly fascinating to me! Although what was sexy was seeing his severely cane-marked ass wiggle as he was made to ejaculate down the backs of his legs, and rubbing his own cream into his beaten ass cheeks.

Once the women had left I came right back up to him, relieved him of his dildos, and gave him a big kiss on his cheek. He thanked me profusely for the experience (caning and everything!). I left him bound as I went to draw him his bath.  I added Epsom salts for his no doubt sore ass muscles. When it was ready, I unbound him and helped him into his bath. He had a lot of trouble sitting in the hot water. What a big baby! Once he was in I let him relax there for a half hour. Then I dried him off myself (very gingerly on his bottom) and brought him to bed with me and we just snuggled and talked about the experience.


Mind blowing. I love this kink of ours!

67 comments:

  1. Thank you for sharing david's and your own reactions, Ms. Julie. I vividly remember the first time I could see sexual excitement in my Wife, just from spanking me (early in our FLR)--it was one of the most liberating moments of my life! To be able to release the fears that she was just doing it because I wanted it, or that I had to somehow make up for me enjoying something she didn't, all that extra potential guilt around her experience when the pleasure is already judged "deviant" by so many--it was indescribable. Has david ever spoken about that issue from your early spanking days?

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    1. He has shared similar feelings. He in fact hid this side of himself from me for the first few years of our marriage, worried that I would do it because he asked for it but drift away from him due to my losing respect for his "manliness". Silly boy.

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  2. Ms Julie,
    I've got to run off to work and haven't read your last two posts completely, but I'M COMPLETELY MESMERIZED BY YOU! And wish I was your bitch!

    Congratulations on being such an amazing Woman!

    Respectfully,
    doc

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  3. Every young wife should study these posts as part of her caning 101. Jen could teach and i'm sure she'd use you and Sue as guest lecturers!
    Interesting about the remaining cane mark. I often find my marks fade quickly apart from any down the edge of the thighs around where you've circled.

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    1. The main lessons is: he can take it, just swing with ferocity!

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  4. would let you and your friends give me caning and use can on me and give me good spanking punishment of my life you know i desver one lol

    mike
    madison ohio

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    1. There are women who offer this as a service, mike. Save up your pennies!

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  5. Hi Julie,
    You have touched on two things in your post that have placed a huge role in my spanking experiences. One is sticking your bum out on command for the next cane or ( in my case) paddle stroke. Anyone who hasn't experienced this won't understand how difficult it is to obey stroke after stroke when your bum is on fire and you are desperate for her to stop. Every instinct is to squirm and clench and try to avvoid the next one and so in the beginning sticking it out is an act of pure obedience. .Yet the paradox is to me that hard as it is to do, it is also natural and even becomes automatic when a rhythm has been established. My wife has told me its the sexiest thing that happens during a spanking and for me it induces deepest submission and letting go. I really believe it helps a guy to get through the hardest spanking because sticking it out stops all struggling against what is happening. The other topic you touched on was crying in front of a third party. It is deeply humbling and takes away a part of the male ego that never comes back with the person who caused the crying. It has only happened in front of my wife's sister and it is a close family . I don't know how I would feel if it happened in front of a stranger. I hope you ask David about it and make sure he is OK with it in case you decide to do it another time.Thanks for a great blog. I doubt if there is another woman outside perhaps professional disciplinarians who understand F/m spanking. Along with your writing ability that puts you in a class of one.
    Alan . .

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    1. Yes! The funny thing is that david can be yelling and begging for me to STOP please STOP, and yet at the exact same moment be sticking his ass up for the next stroke. Wondrous indeed. And no fear. My david is a shame artist and enjoyed being made to cry in front of a stranger by me.

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  6. Ms. Julie: Ma'am In response to my comment on the previous post you called me a wimp, and my response to that is I'm a hairless wuss! That's right, I'm a home-maker, house-husband, lady of the house whatever you prefer. My wife is the head of this household (HOH), she wears the pants, works, brings home the bacon, and keeps me in line! Anyhow, she did a random check of my history last night and discovered your post and my comment. She also has seen this post and decided that if I don't have the ... to take 24 with an 8mm in Dia. by 1meter in length wood rod (and maybe more) with both her and my sister present, while with keeping a bar of soap in mouth during the entire thrashing. That it's possible she will decide that I don't really need the useless extra baggage down there. Finally, unlike David, I've been advised that if I choose take the thrashing, I will wear the rod's marks, and will be unable to sit (even on a pile of pillows) for a considerable period of time

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    1. How wonderful! I hope you are brave and get to keep your "manhood" attached. Report back on your thrashing after it's complete.

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    2. Ma'am: Don't know what the hold up is in my caning/rodding. Punishment was set for 6pm yesterday, but has been rescheduled for 6pm Monday 6/22 at 6pm. Think it's just to make me sweat a little longer and ,maybe, for HOH to come with a way to add further indignity to my inevitable fate. Yes, that's right, I've resigned myself to the fact that there is no way out but to take what I've "earned". Will be back with details after it's over.

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    3. Ma'am Punishment administered and I won't be sitting for a while; will also be proudly displaying H's handiwork with the rod on my behind for at least a couple of weeks. Wound up taking 36 with the wood rod that had been soaked in water. Original 24 plus 12 for not being able to hold position. Finally moved during the last 12 and had to suffer the humiliation of being ass raped by H with sisters present!

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    4. Oh you poor dear! It must have been horrible for you ;-)

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  7. You are too much ......................

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  8. Oh dear God. Wow. Such a lucky boy. I only discovered your blog this week and I am addicted and realize that I too need to be used this way.

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    1. Welcome! Where have you been all this time?

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  9. That fascinating thing about having to raise and " offer" your bum for each stroke... it also prevents " clenching" in anticipation; this should always be strictly forbidden and punished strictly.
    It is completely disrespectful to Madame to indicate, in any manner, that you wish to avoid the strokes she is graciously giving you.
    The bum should be eagerly raised and offered for every stroke, and any error in presentation severely punished by extras or restarting over.
    This is what I would expect Madame to do!

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    1. What does Strict Julie say about this??

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  10. Wow Julie! This thrashing was incredible. I thought, almost too much, but after reading the afterstory, I am even more amazed. You are certainly in a class of one, outstanding in many ways.
    My wife recently caned me for the first time and we were also surprised that the marks did not last longer. She is learning that I can take it very hard and she is feeling less guilty about whipping me hard enough to leave marks as she knows I crave having her marks on me.
    I am hopeful (I think) that she will continue to enjoy using the cane. She likes the accuracy that she has with it compared to the belt.
    Once again, thank you so much for taking the time to write about these incredible scenes that you and your boy are enjoying.

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    1. Each implement has its virtues and i enjoy pushing his limits with all of them!

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  11. I think one of the most deliciously humiliating things is to be punished not for anything you've done wrong, but just for Madame's pleasure-- and being told so!
    To be simply told "go upstairs and strip, and lie over the pillows and cuff your hands in front. I will be up shortly to cane you until I am wet: at which point I will cane you even harder!"

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  12. Oh sorry: this is your normal of course!
    I would very much like to be your eSubbie!

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    1. please write me by email. I'll assign you a "task"! Ha ha ha!

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  13. I get 6 of the best every night before bed. My but is always marked. She just makes sure every part gets spanked only the nice a week. She is accurate.

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    1. Interesting concept. A constantly sore butt! Love it!

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  14. first cane aftermath look to been job well done for you and david bet he treasure and cherish this. for long time knowing wont be last time

    something tell me sister Sue already knew people who spank etc or had intrested in it before you did. wonder if david ever wanted be spanked by sue before asked you i know you said he ask you to spank him but wonder if had other he wanted asked to punush him

    mike
    madison ohio

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    1. I think my david wanted anything in a skirt to spank him!

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  15. Both of my canings occured with me dressed very prettily. Skirt and petticoat up over my back. After my canings I had to curtsey, kiss the cane and kiss Miss Liz's hand.

    Miss Liz was so turned on I spent a lot of time worshipping, in order, her feet, between her legs and her bottom. I am pretty sure she had three shattering orgasms.

    My wife told me today that I will be caned again by Miss Liz tomorrow. I will be in my pink, ruffled ball gown with a mega full crinoline under it. I am told both Miss Liz and my wife will take me with strapons after my caning. Miss Liz I will service orally while my wife mounts me and ravishes me like the girl I am.

    My last two canings I was in tears by the third stroke. That means my mascara will run tomorrow as I accept my latest caning.

    We all love your blog!

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    1. The thought of what you just described happening to you sends joy to my heart! Did it happen?

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    2. Yes it happened. Thanks for asking. It was a special combination of fun, pain and erotic femininity. Liz told me that next time she wants me to experience the first day of my period while she watches before I get caned. That thought is both scary and deeply sensual.

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    3. Oh no! Tampaxed in front of company! Every girl's nightmare...

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  16. After reading your spanking blog about requiring David to wear an anal tampon, I went out and bought a box of Kotex Super Plus ( I looked for the extra-large " Security" size but no luck).

    Upon returning home I read the instructions and in it went.

    On my second one now, I might be hooked!

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    1. Just keep it in for a week per month. Show a little empathy.

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  17. Ms Julie,

    Sorry for the late acknowledgement of your mention of my little post above Ma'am . I feel a bit like the boi in class who was staring out the window instead of paying attention to the teacher. Only to get called up to the front of the class and ...

    Sorry Ma'am. See? short attention span. I'm drifting off again.

    You are like petrol on my imagination fire Ma'am.

    lill (Ms Julie's punished sketch slut) jo

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    1. Well I love your stuff, and am looking forward to your next assignment!

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    2. Yes Ma'am. A Very botanical one: roses, pansies and a ratan cane.

      lill (Ms Julie's punished skitch slut) jo

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  18. Julie,

    All of your posts are enticing, but the last two have hit me (pun) especially hard. I have never experienced a full bore caning, and yearn to do so perhaps foolishly. It would have to be administered or coordinated by someone I knew I could trust such as you do with david. The prospect of being presented to several women as david was truly excites me as does the humiliation. My mind's eye shows much of what david experienced and you wrote about in this post. Thanks for the vicarious experience of being so caned. Who knows, perhaps one of these days I can share a real life experience with you.

    My best!
    Mitch

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    1. You know, with a boy like you mitch, saying what you want so clearly, I would have no second thoughts about tieing you up, gagging you, and then giving you that caning: no choice. Though trust is super important. You need a woman who put you through hell while keeping you safe... Yummmm!

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    2. ummmmmm, errrr, y....y......y.....yes, Miss Julie.

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    3. good... now stick that ass up for your next stroke, boy!

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  19. i think i agree on comment your david wanting anything with skirt spanking him least he getting what he want and need a good spanking from female in skirt/jeans or short or binki

    my birthday in few week i am going ask for my bday spanking from female in skirt lol or casusal clothes lol i know the lovely sweet Miss Julie would love have a HAND INTO MY BIRTHDAY SPANKING

    mike
    madison ohio

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    1. Lucky lady is some young girl in dounut shop i got into almost all time ask if she be there when my birthday come monday july 6th she said have check see when have go back school (college)

      seem happy and excited about my birthday and me visting her on that day dont know about spanking or birthday spanking yet

      mike

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    2. Well you be respectful, mike, that's all I ask.

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  20. Julie if I wear an anal tampon for a week, which I will, how often should I change it?
    In a day, how many should I use?
    Right now I put one in at work 8:30, change it at 1:00, then wear the second one home till 6:00. So only two a day.

    Also: do you do online spanking " mentoring" i.e. issue spanking instructions to be self-performed and proven by pics?

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    1. How about night time???

      and yes i do, but you better come through with the goods!

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  21. Thank you I just realized I can use my name: I am Charles: as in the egg, the Humbler, the tampon posts etc.
    Oh I definitely bring home the goods! Hard to find a consitent Mentor though. Charles

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    1. Alright then. We'll have to see...

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  22. Yes I can get away with night-time!
    Just wear it all night 8 hours is ok? I'm a little new to it lol! Charles

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    1. Good. Let's keep the ass plugged!

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  23. Hi Julie,
    I got recently married, my wife is not into spanking.
    I have trying, she thought I like spanking her, I had to do that to get the idea in her head. eventually she started hand spanking me but will not go beyond that. She is totally against subbie treatment and does that only to please me, but she wants the spanking to be playful only without any implement.
    Any ideas how to get her to move forward?

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    1. Suggest a classic role play scenario and have some fun with it. Strict teacher and naughty boy who stares down teacher's top for example. Tell her thanks for the spanking but you are a fairly strong man, and her spanks are more like tickles to you. Tell her you enjoy the sensation of something harder hitting your butt so you can feel it and really enjoy those sensations. Let her know you have no intent whatsoever of spanking her the same way!

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    2. You are a genius Julie, it worked and today I got my first hairbrush spanking. It seems she was worried of me spanking her the same way she spanks me.

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  24. http://serpent13.tumblr.com/
    Check this out

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  25. My Mistress spanks me on average about twice a week or more if I've been bad. She uses her hands or a leather paddle. She's reluctant to use a cane or belt because she does not want to leave any permanent marks on her property.
    Could you please give us some advice on canning and belting without leaving permanent markings.
    PS - thank you so much Ms. Julie for your blog which provides my Mistress and me with endless ideas and sexual excitement.

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    1. I've never seen "permanent". Just several days. tell her she is free to go as hard as she wants without drawing blood and sticking to the fleshy lower bottom cheeks and she will be fine!

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  26. My submissive feelings are such a mixed up jumble of emotions and desires! The more I think about it, the less sense it makes. No matter. It is a part of who I am.

    All fantasizing and posturing aside, I must admit I am NOT a pain slut. But oh yes, the image of three beautiful women caning me to tears brings quick and strong arousal! I am not like your david. I can take nowhere near the amount of ass agony he regularly endures. To come anywhere close, I would need to be gagged and restrained and not have a safe word.

    What I definitely am is a humiliation slut. Being dressed in women's lingerie, being made to do humiliating things in public or private, giving up control, it's all a part of it. And that's where spanking and other painful disciplines come back in to the picture. Just as I don't "enjoy" cross dressing because I look and feel ridiculous, taking pain for a woman is another part of giving up control.

    The best time periods of my life were when a dominant woman was in complete control of my erotic life. When and how I was allowed to cum, or not, what feminine undergarments I would be required to wear, how much pain I would be required to endure, all these choices were taken from me. They need to be taken from me, because I just won't do these things I need on my own.

    Admitting I am not capable and having someone choose for me is the heart of the humiliating life I need.

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    1. Ah yes, but when Mistress chooses to beat your ass, well, that's what happens, doesn't it? Whether you "like it" or not!

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    2. Wow, what an amazing dynamic. Hot :))

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