I recently read an article at Male Feminitity and Gender Role Reversal that quotes Elise Sutton from a Q&A page on forced feminization (Elise Sutton's Guide To Loving Female Authority, Q&A Forum, Forced Feminization). I reproduce the Q&A below, adding in my own kinky commentary featuring the thoughts I had as I read it.
I also had some fun and searched the web for images that go with my thoughts. Unfortunately, there are more images of women being degraded in sexy feminine under-things than men (so wrong and so misguided, I know), so I had to compromise on occasion, and it may be a woman's butt you are seeing, but just imagine it is david's (or your own if you will). I also had some fun with Photoshop, and coloured in some buns I did not feel were sufficiently well beaten. Rest assured, if it were david's bum and me doing the whipping, there would be no need for additional colouring in!
Q. Elise, you have discussed the topic of Forced Feminization from the submissive male point of view as far as why he has these desires. However, why do women like to force feminize a man? I find that I love to force feminize my husband and have my way with him. I have read forums on the Net from other women who like to FF their men as well. Could you give us some insight on why Dominant women like FF?
I also had some fun and searched the web for images that go with my thoughts. Unfortunately, there are more images of women being degraded in sexy feminine under-things than men (so wrong and so misguided, I know), so I had to compromise on occasion, and it may be a woman's butt you are seeing, but just imagine it is david's (or your own if you will). I also had some fun with Photoshop, and coloured in some buns I did not feel were sufficiently well beaten. Rest assured, if it were david's bum and me doing the whipping, there would be no need for additional colouring in!
Q. Elise, you have discussed the topic of Forced Feminization from the submissive male point of view as far as why he has these desires. However, why do women like to force feminize a man? I find that I love to force feminize my husband and have my way with him. I have read forums on the Net from other women who like to FF their men as well. Could you give us some insight on why Dominant women like FF?
I love to force david into feminine attire as well, especially bras, panties, stockings, and garter belts. david does not enjoy me dressing him up like this, but he does crave the humiliation of being made to dress like this.
I do like to "have my way with him" afterwards. I will almost always spank his cute little bottom.
But I especially enjoy belt whipping him when he is dressed like this. I'll lay him face down and pull his panties down to where I can still see them banded around his thighs. The garter belt and stockings frame the target perfectly.
He will get anywhere up to 50 whippings with the belt, hard across both cheeks until his bum is very well whipped indeed!
The very masculine act of belt whipping him adds to his feminization.
I insist on a genuine reaction from david (not stoicism) and so I am rewarded with what I can only call "girlish" gyrations of his whipped cheeks, "girlish" little kicks of his legs, and "girlish" cries and pleas for mercy.
He is not a "man" anymore. He has been reduced to the state of that poor pathetic female in the image above. Boo hoo. I almost get mad at him when he is forced femme and kicks and cries and carries on like a girl. Fine, I guess he's asking for what comes next:
A long hard ass raping from me. I'll give you something to cry about, little girl, when I shove this thick dildo up your ass and fuck you like my two-dollar whore.
Perhaps I am just weird, but it really enhances my feelings if I do this to him in front of another woman, or even several if it can be arranged. They should all see who wears the pants in the family, and who has to dress pretty, who has to bend over for the belt or stick, and who has to bend over for their fucking.
Is the above image not pathetic exemplified? A big strong husband forced into ladies' clothes, and then bent over, bared, and beaten by his wife as her sister or friend looks on. Now what woman would not find such a scene humorous and entertaining? What woman would not be dying to lend a hand in reddening the "little ladie's" bare bum?
A. I think it is because deep inside women love seeing the feminine conqueror the masculine. Feminizing a man is the ultimate symbol of the feminine defeating the masculine. That is a rare feat in our society. We are so used to seeing the masculine having his way with the feminine. That is why it can be such a rush for a woman to feminize a man. It causes a woman's dominant energy to really flow out of her as she does this. She loves to humiliate and degrade her man and she loves the social statement it makes at the same time.
This is so true! How humiliating for a husband to be dressed in his feminine finerie by his wife. "Now pull up your dress and show me your little clitty! What? You don't like your lingerie?" Perhaps an attitude adjustment is in order...
Followed by a nice uncomfortable timeout with a wig and big dangling breast forms to teach you your place. My sister WILL be coming over later to see you like this!
Forced feminization allows a woman to be more aggressive. FF causes a man to become very weak and submissive. His ability to resist and object go by the wayside and he is very vulnerable. Women love this because now they can do whatever they want with their helpless victim. Now the woman can be the aggressor and she can have her way with the man. The man is not threatening to her and she no longer fears his strength or masculinity.
Absolutely. I mean, what is there to fear? A pathetic little "man" on his hands and knees, butt plug firmly in place, doing his housework in lingerie? (and yes, david has very much been in this exact situation - you all know how much I approve of the "balls behind" position!)
"Better keep those little man bits hidden away behind your legs like that. If I catch them dangling in front, you'll be be doing the rest of the housework nude and well-humbled, young man,
and due for a balls out, bare bum whipping right after, and no, I won't be especially careful where the belt lands!"
I'm sure there is a very significant percentage of women who would love to see the men in their lives put in their place in bra, panties, and hose, as for the couple below.
You can just imagine what's going to happen to him next, can't you? I would venture to say that a spanking and a pegging are in his future, not to mention lots and lots of housework looking at the state of that room they are in! Now get cleaning, little missy, because my girlfriends are due over in an hour, and I still have to spank you across my knee and rape your ass silly with my strap-on after the tidying is done, and then you have to change back into your "man clothes." It would be a real pity for you if we were not finished all that before my girlfriends get here because its damned well going to happen whether they are here to see it or not.
Women have told me that they have a very strong desire to take a man very forcefully with a strap-on dildo when he is feminized. The desire to rape the feminized man becomes very real to the aggressive female and the actual act becomes very satisfying to her. Again, it sends such a message to the man and society. It says that the woman is the aggressor and the giver and the man is the weaker sex and the receiver.
Who? Me?
FF may become very attractive to a woman who has been abused by a man before. Some women fear men due to being mistreated and abused and feminizing a man causes the man not to be intimidating to her. Now she can have her way with him because he is just a little sissy boy.
What woman has not been mistreated by a man at some point in her life? Many criminally so. Emotionally, there is no threat after you have put your big strong man into lacy red lingerie.
Like so many things about this lifestyle, it is hard to pinpoint for sure why we love to feminize a man but this we do know. There is something inside of a woman that is excited by the thought and activity of making the masculine submit to the feminine through forced feminization.
I agree 100%!
This post is very accurate and certainly describes the enjoyment that my wife and mistress gets from my feminization and humiliation. The addition of other women to watch (on in one case to REALLY enjoy putting my make-up and perfume on me) while my wife dresses me as a women and spanks me to the point of tears. The humiliation I feel while truly crying like a little girl in lipstick and lingerie and hearing other women giggling is difficult to explain. In any case, I truly enjoyed your post and have forwarded it to my wife and her best friend.
ReplyDeleteCurtsy,
sissy jennifer
Thank you for your comment, jennifer. I would love to be one of those women watching your wife dress you up and spank you to tears!
DeleteOMG- I showed your reply to my wife and she laughed while telling me to expect a nice New Years surprise! Again, thank you for your post!
Deletecurtsy,
jennifer
Curious what your surprise will be!
DeleteI adore dressing and being pretty for my man. He has really brought out my feminization. Now, all I want to do is be his loving, sexy wife forever!
DeleteRoxanne
so hot.. thank you
Deletemy wife has feminized me to the point of no return been on hormones for a year now and soon getting my operation which she now says is what I need done
Deletecrystal
Hi Julie,
ReplyDeleteIt's an interesting topic. As a submissive man I also find it very humiliating to wear women's clothes so doing the housework in lingerie and getting spanked & raped sounds like a day in the femdom hell.
But to be honest I don't really understand the reasons why do I and why do the dominant women find it arousing and humiliatingly sexy? I don't think that I could get the whole picture even after reading this post.
In my suspicion, the inner workings of the FF is somehow connected to the trends in the gender issues in modern societies, that is, nowadays women gaining ground even taking over fields which are previously dominated by men.
So the gender roles are changing - and it's a very fast change, men can't really handle this situation, so more and more men will have some level of inferiority complex against women which is a breeding ground for seeking femdom relationship.
But here comes the part which I don't understand: it's clear that in femdom relationships the feminine is the superior, She has the power and the brain to be in charge. Her femininity gives (at least a part of) her power.
When you "feminize" him, you make him what? What is the purpose of making him feminine? Because, following this reasoning, feminizing would mean to make him more:
- smarter
- stronger (both mentally and physically)
- more confident
If femininity is the synonym of dominance, feminizing would help him to enforce his will.
But the effect is exactly the opposite.
We feel deeply humiliated, not proud when we finally have some chance to become more feminine. For example, high heels make a woman powerful, but when weared by a man, it will make him just weak. Why?
I have some tip but I would like to read your opinions about this. :)
I think Elise Sutton has thought about these issues quite a bit. You should read her site (the second link in my blog post).
DeleteFor my part, I think women's clothing is a symbol of female subjugation. the clothing is tight and uncomfortable, and designed by men to excite men. I would much prefer being comfortable in jeans and a shirt, and watch hubby squeeze into his lingerie.
In the hands of a woman, the clothes used to subjugate us can be turned around as a weapon of denial. Men like dressing us like this, but then, so sorry, you can look but don't touch, and when you look you better not be too obvious doing it. The same cannot be said for a man dressed in lingerie!
Hi Julie,
DeleteI will have a look on Elise's site, thanks for the link.
I think I can get your reasoning, sounds very logical although my answer to the same question would be different. :)
My guess would be that, in a relationship which employs female superiority and dominance as its defining characteristics, the "feminization" of a man would be a hopeless effort to be equal: that's because if a man can't subjugate (or even to be equal with) a woman with keeping his normal gender role, his only hope to be equal is to absorb the characteristics of the superior sex, the Female.
Following this reasoning, the feminization is humiliating because our efforts of being feminine is hopeless: women's clothing looks ugly on a man, and even we shave our legs and body we can't change two things: our genitals and our brain.
(The male genitals which make us sex addicts and our brain which makes us submissive)
So the transformation can't be perfect and the result is not a sexy and strong woman, just an ugly and funny man who wanted to be a woman but in the end, he just looks like a whore.
Oh and I wish you a Happy New Year!
Deletemen definitely want power (or think they do) but I don't think they would want it at the expense of having to prance around in skirts and heels!
DeleteI've read through Elise's site which you've linked in the post, the story of the female bodybuilder sounds like a very odd but interesting story.
DeleteBut I liked your comment on women's clothing as a tease & denial weapon better. Sounds more logical.
And something different: nowadays I can see that a lot of young women have ambitious plans and strong willpower to make great progress in their lifes, whether it comes to developing their own career or self-realization, doing sports, staying healthy & fit, etc.
A lot of people (including men and women) lack the willpower to change things in a way which could lead to a better life. But as I see it, women usually have a bit more willpower than men. After I read your comments and Elise's site about the sociological aspects of the feminization fetish,
I just realized that maybe the willpower of those women could be strengthened simply by the women's clothing as well. If you are officially the weaker sex, and if the society has high expectations for you, then you have to be strong and become more masculine in some way.
I believe you are referring to the first link with the bodybuilder, not the second link, which is Ms. Sutton's site?
DeleteI would agree with you that many women seem much more focused and responsible than many men, able to juggle priorities better. However, I think this has likely always been the case. Women evolved to multi-task around the cave, whereas the men went hunting in a sort of single-minded fashion, and then goofed off around the cave.
I refer to both of them, because the first link is just an excerpt from Ms. Sutton's site.
DeleteI think multi-tasking is another ability of the female brain which has nothing to do with clothing. :)
I just wanted to point out that nowadays a lot of women have the willpower to struggle in life and the courage to compete with men. Any form of subjugation (such as clothing) makes them stronger, because if they want to compete, they have to perform about as good as men, but under more difficult conditions.
In contrast, I think there are more and more men who don't have this courage to fight back in a "professional" manner, to keep the male dominance in their own micromilieu.
We are spoiled and accustomed to laziness by centuries of male domination. This is also reflected by the clothing as you pointed out in one of your previous comments: men's clothing is usually closed and comfortable while women's are tight and uncomfortable, even unhealthy (stiletto heels).
We, men, are born to be the stronger sex, at least the society conditionalize us to feel it so. As it sounds so natural, we usually don't make any special effort to prove that we are really the stronger.
So when we see a woman who invades our "territory" in a successful way and she looks like outperforming us, a lot of men would find it hard to accept that she is better, just because she works harder or she is just smarter or has better abilities than us. (This is where male chauvinism comes in, when we accuse successful women of being a whore, etc.)
Because we are deeply accustomed to laziness on various levels in the society, we don't even know how to fight back, and because of our fear of failures (we don't want to lose against a women), after some time, we will avoid any conflict which could lead to a battle of the sexes, and with this behaviour we slowly blend into the role of submissiveness.
The whole gender-roles stuff is very complex and looks like everything is connected to each other, and clothing is just a little part of this game.
Good points all. Thank you for your comments!
DeleteYou're welcome :) I enjoyed your comments also!
DeleteUnlike Sissy Jennifer, I am certainly not going to show this post to my wife Irene. She already whips me until I thrash and scream and violates my bottom until I whimper and beg for mercy.
ReplyDeleteI am put in humiliating pink panties all the time. But she does not need to get any ideas from the bras, garter belts etc., and especially does not need to see the size of that dildo. Ouch!
Happy new year!
-Rosco
Oh rosco! Hiding information from your wife? Really? If she catches you at that, well my goodness...
DeleteI love your posts, but could not help to notice that you are using a lot of old photos lately, that depicts you are getting a lot lazier, maybe you should get spanked for that Julie.
ReplyDeleteHey! I resemble that comment!
DeleteActually, the only one I consciously re-used from my blog was the animated gif, which was intended to be self-referential.
All the others were pulled from a two hour tromp around google images, and I don't think I've used any of them before, but if you can prove me wrong I will impose some harsh penance on myself...
Well, after I took my time to search through your lovely blog as I would get a spanking myself if I did not find them, I have to say that the 6th pic is from "Husbands who are allowed women" April 23, 2013 , and pic 14th is from "Mustings on david's panties" February 14, 2012, i'm sorry Ms. Julie, your move...
DeleteDarn! You're right. But I re-searched them from google images and did not recall having used them before! I guessed I used the same keywords and the same images came up and I still liked them. Well 2 out of 15 original images is not so bad and can hardly be called lazy even if I did cheat, which I didn't!... but... FINE. Penance for me.
DeleteMy penance will be in the form of allowing david to be a "real man" in the bedroom. Your choice: vigorous oral sex and I have to swallow after, or a pussy pounding from behind (yes, he can grab my hair and call me dirty names - I'll ask him to) until he cums deep inside of me. Victor's choice...
Oh, and while I accept my penance, I also think you need to get a spanking yourself. I have 13 brand new pics so that cannot be called lazy, and it's impolite for you to point any of this out in the first place. So it's sexual penance for me, and a spanking for you. I think that's fair.
DeleteAfter reading your sweet reply Ms. Julie, for your penance, i'm inclined to choose.... number 2, pussy pounding from behind, because "the social message it sends"and I think it would be just a little bit more humilliating and "fair". Talking about being "fair", I agree it was a bit impolite and fun what I did, and I do deserve a hard spanking, how would you like me to receive it?, will you send me to the corner as well?, do you have any other specifications? what a way to start the year.... Kind Regards, Ms. Julie, Happy New Year.
DeleteMiss Julie gets humiliated? lol
DeleteFrom now on, I will also search for mistakes in your posts, Julie. :D
Agreed then. Tonight david gets a rare treat...
DeleteAs to your spanking, have you got a partner or must it be self-administered?
I do have a partner Ms. Julie, and she will be delighted with your ideas...
DeleteWonderful! In that case, I want you totally nude, across her knee, and 100 hard strokes with a wooden implement, no warm up - I want a burning bum for you. And then I want your nose up against the wall, still fully nude, for a 10 minute timeout, hands on head, holding up a coin with your nose. If the coin drops, the paddling and the timeout is repeated until you get it right. If I'm getting a sore pussy you'll be getitng a sore bum and some uncomfortable timeout!
DeleteDear Ms. Julie,
DeleteI'm Andrea, Manny's girlfriend, another big fan of hard spanking his little impolite, smartass, I will delightly, ensure he fullfills accordingly his part of the bargain, putting my wooden hairbrush to good use, as a "bonus" I will also take a page from your blog while dealing with him, i'm gonna have fun having my way with him, that corner time will include a little friend of his, inside him, where the sun doesnt shine, having 2 things to "hold" inside, his tongue and his little "friend",will make him think twice before running his mouth, its gonna be exactly the little bit of kink and humilliation this naughty boy needs.
For "fair" begginings, and male spanked red hot asses.
Cheers,
Andrea
You're cruel.
DeleteHi Andrea,
DeleteVery nice to meet you! I am glad you are taking your mouthy little brat in hand. Give him a few extra hard ones from me, low down on his thighs. And your idea of teaching him to hold things inside of him is just wonderful! And if it pops out, I presume he will be back across your knee for a lesson in holding things in?
My side of the penance was performed last night. I will write a post about it... sigh!
DeleteJulie, just wanted to thank you for all the time and effort you put into your posts. I wonder how many husbands out there would love to be in davids position. You truly mirror my wishes as to how I would like my wife to treat me. I leave your posts open for her to read and sometimes she does use your writings and have her way with me, I only wish it was as often as it seems to be in your household! Really, thank you again for your efforts. Hope you and david have a great New Year and have many more stories to share.
ReplyDeleteIt takes a lot of energy to keep up with a subby boy's lusts which is why I eat right and stay in good shape including exercises to improve the explosiveness in my arm swing... tennis anyone?
DeleteYes, I would have to agree, being put in panties would relegate any man to a state of weakness. And being spanked in front of other women...would probably bring tears of humiliation.
ReplyDeleteQuestion: is David allowed to choose what panties he is to wear? or is that your job?.
He is always with me when we go lingerie shopping, and he is welcome to have input, but he rarely has anything to say as the salesgirl and I decide what he will be wearing. It is hard to have any say when he is blushing to his roots and studying the tips of his shoes.
DeleteGreat post Julie! I recently started feminizing my diaper sissy. We purchased breast forms and lovely pink ruffle butt panties to go over her now pink cloth diapers! Along with garters and stockings. Tonight we are going to a kinky New Year's Eve party where sissy will be dressed as the New Years baby girl. Can't wait to emasculate him in front of others!
ReplyDeleteGoddess Gretchen
Oh what fun!
DeleteHopefully Goddess creates a blog for her own little new diaper sissy
DeleteEmily
I second that!
DeleteA lovely post as always Ma'am,
ReplyDeleteI like both the idea of being humiliated in front of other ladies and the idea of an intimate, one on one feminization.
I would love to be feminized and humiliated in front of multiple ladies who are pointing and giggling. Or perhaps I would be in a corner being ignored to make the point that a sissy subby in a corner with a red ass is nothing special since this is a natural situation for a sissy.
At the same time, an intimate feminization such as you describe with david would make it crystal clear who is in charge and who has the submissive role. And who must please one person first and foremost. Namely his Mistress, Ms Julie.
lill (Ms Julie's punished sketch slut) jo
I like the "ignoring one" best. First a LOT of attention, as you are the center of attention when you're put across my knee, get your panties lowered, and then get your bum reddened in front of all those ladies, and then off to your corner for the rest of the evening.
DeleteYes Ma'am
DeletePerhaps the ladies would adjourn to the dining room after a while, leaving me seemingly forgotten in the corner. I could probably hear them chatting and laughing in the other room. I'd wonder are they laughing at me?.
I might start to get restless and move out of position or rub my sore ass thinking no one could see me, only to be grabbed by the ear and marched into the other room with my panties still around my ankles.
More scolding would surely follow and perhaps a turn over each lady's lap. Then I'd be put back in the corner sniffing and sobbing...
lill (Ms Julie's punished sketch slut) jo
Looking at the size of that dildo, I can only assume you are not a proponent of using the same size as your subbie. Unless of course he is hung like a Clydesdale.
ReplyDeleteI can just see the smirk on your face as the plunging of that monster brings about most certain moans of discomfort. Curious the actual dimensions of your tool of choice.
My punishment dildo is the Tantus Adam O2. Diameter 1.5", length 7". david never looks forward to a training session with Adam. Ha Ha!
DeleteI think the website is incorrect, 1.5 inches is like the diameter of a fountain pen.
ReplyDeleteI think it's more like 5". "Adam" does not look as big as the pictures you posted (the girls on the guy on the floor) the "Hoss" looks scary, I'm sure David would not look forward to that.
1.5 inches across is bigger than my david, and it's way bigger than his bumhole usually is. I've never seen a fountain pen that thick!
DeleteYes, "across", Diameter is measuring all the way around like with a cloth tape measure. That would be about 3-4 times bigger than 1.5" . Average size dildo is 5.5" diameter by 8-9" long. (guess David's getting off easy)
ReplyDeleteSorry, but if you measure around, it's called circumference. Diameter is the measure from edge to edge intersecting the center, or in other words, across.
DeleteYes indeed. We can see that someone paid attention in maths class.
DeleteIf I were your maths teacher, anony, you would be brought to the front of the class and in front of all the children (boys and girls) have your pants and underpants lowered, and then be put across my knee for a very strict spanking. You would then face the class (yes, pants still down, hands at your sides young man!) and apologize to all of them for not paying attention. I would then allow the other pupils to measure around (the "circumference") and across (the "diameter") of your no doubt erect penis, and divide the two to see what the ratio actually is.
Yes, it appears I was wrong. (and no, I didn't pay attention in math, still hate it) My apology for correcting you. As for being my teacher...I can't think of anything worse than that! If I didn't die from the humiliating spanking, the measurements probably would (was hung like a field mouse, erect or not) You are no one to be trifled with. Thanks, for the "lessons".
DeleteMy pleasure!
DeleteI dream about wearing and being spanked in female undies either boyshorts or other panties she can make me wear one of her or make me buy my own or shop with me and pick out one she want me wear and to have on when she spank me
ReplyDeletemike
Madison ohio
I think she should definitely take you shopping, as I did for david!
DeleteDear Ms. Julie,
ReplyDeleteI don't think re-using pics is a punishable offence for you, and I am glad that manny got his come-uppance. And you can use the 15th image (the animated one) in every post, as far as I am concerned! I also remembered that - I think it was the post about the song "my boyfriend's back." I have wet-dreamed about that one often!
ds
ds,
Deletethe 15th pic, its from "Spanked by Sister for drinking" January 20, 2013, and Julie didn't get punished because she was re-using the pic, she was punished because she was very cocky to say that if I could prove she was re-using pics, she would get a harsh penance on herself, which I successfully proved, even thou Andy is much more strict than ever with me right now, It was fun scoring a moral victory over Ms. Julie.
Manny
Yes, manny is right on about that. I had absolutely no recollection of using those pics and then was cocky about the reuse question, as manny points out. He proved me wrong fair and square on that one!
DeleteWOW ....... is all I`m thinking ! I can`t wait to read it again !!!
ReplyDeletewell wish I had a SHE to take me shopping like you did for david think it impossible for you take me shopping
ReplyDeletehope I can find a female to do that maybe have me try them on in store and tell female sale person how she going spank me in my new panties etc.. and ask sale person if she want join in and what she think
Mike
Madison ohio
Yes, that would be terribly humiliating for you, mike, but so much fun for the ladies!
DeleteI would love to be put in panties and be spanked and taken like that.....so hot
ReplyDeleteAlways
Ron
Such a great New Years Eve post and I must say I agree with you completely on the subject of feminized men. Peharps it is because I am a crossdresser with a deep unrequited need for feminization but I think this would be a better world if more women had the courage to step up and push feminization on thier husbands. Though I am not into pain and don't think I would need to be physially restrained for such spankings I certainly can see the benefit of having such attitude adjustments. If only I had a spouse who was into forced feminzation.
ReplyDeletePart of the "forcing" of forced feminization is the spanking, I feel. The male is "reluctant" and needs to be "convinced" via a good hard strapping (restrained and ball-gagged as needed)
DeleteDear Ms. Juliesp,
ReplyDeleteI find your blog on spaning and male feminization to be quite interesting. By birth I consider myself a transexual but by nature I am a natural submissive. As a rule I have always allowed others to make decisions starting with my mother and progressing on through my wife. Though I have never actually given my consent I suppose you would call the spankings my wife administers as consensual since I seem incapable of mounting any real resistance.
As a youth transsexualism was an enigma and many of my spankings were a result of my getting caught trying on my sisters clothing. Afterwards my mother would be sure to dress me as a girl complete with makeup and curled hair. This was her way of trying to embarass me by driving home a point and though the spankings could be brutal I secretly liked be dressed. When I was dressed as a girl that is how mom would treat me and I became her little helper apron and all.
I thought I had grown out of this and eventually married but when my world became stressful so did my crossdressing until eventually my wife caught me. I thought our marriage was over but surprisingly enough after a phone call to my mother she called me into our room where she had been crying and started to undress me by unzipping my trousers. To my surprise and dismay I was shocked when she yanked me over her knee and started to spank me with my own belt. I should have resisted and don't know why I didn't but I recieved the spanking of my life. Next she dressed me in one of her dresses and told me that that is how I would remain that night. I felt like I was 15 years old again and just accepted it as part of life. Since that period I have recieved numerous spankings from my wife and don't even attempt to resist and the feminization goes one step further. I suppose some men (and I use that term lightly) are just submissive in nature. That being said I am greatful to have such a strong loving wife to make decisions in life for me.
How lucky you are indeed. I am glad your wife has mixed in the belt lickings with the feminization. Sounds as if you need them both, and definitely the former!
DeleteThank you for your propmt and curtious supply. I shared this post with my wife who was both pleased and furious. Pleased that I had been so honest but furious that I hadn't shared it with her and asked her permission to publish it. That night I recieved a fair but brutal spanking that literally brought tears to my eyes and had me begging, let's just say got the point. When she read your reply she was pleased and told me to be sure to write a follow up reply to thank you. So Thank You for your reply, thank you for taking the time to moderate this sight and thank you for your wisdom.
ReplyDeleteForever Grateful
Maggie
Hi maggie,
DeleteSo sorry you had to receive a spanking because of my blog. My blog does tend to make the gurls misbehave...
Please, don't feel bad I accept total responibily for my needing to be spanked. There is no excuse I was surfing the web looking for solice and sumpathy from others living similar life styles to mine when I came across your site when I commented. I was in one of those moods where instead of embracing the total love and positive attributes of my marriage I was instead wallowing my my own self pity feeling sorry for myself. A attitude adjustment was way over due and posting my response before discussing it was my wife was just the straw that broke the camels back. This spanking was a positive thing as most of my spankings are in helping to ground me and bring me out of my pity party. Though I am always on edge and dread the thought of knowing I am to be spanked and the pain that will follow somehow as the spanking ends I always feel a bit of warmth and love and somehow closer to my wife.
DeleteMy reply was meant to be read dripping with sarcasm, maggie. In fact, I am emphatically NOT sorry you were spanked, and quite delighted by the thought of you howling across your wife's knee suffering through a long hard application of the strap!
DeleteI enjoy having my wife harshly apply her strap across my panty-clad bottom.
DeleteAs you deserve, no doubt!
DeleteAccidentally broke one of my wifes favorite vases this weekend and immediately broke into tears. I was rushing around trying to get the vaccumming done when I pulled back and the vacuum handle knocked into the vase propelling it onto the tile floor. It was unreal and I panicked and as it shattered I almost immediately fell to tears. Though my wife was quite emphathetic kissing my tears away, later that evening I recieved a thorough and emphatic spanking for rushing around and breaking her vase and again found myself with uncontrollable tears filling my eyes. Afterwards she told me that she hoped I had learned a lesson from this and that I needed to learn to slow down. With that our plans to go out that evening were canceled and I found grounded in my bedroom in my teddy with a wet set while she invited a girl friend over to watch a movie. It was nice having her set my hair and I love the dresses so this ws not a punishment in itself so much as was being called out for a moment so here girlfriend could take a look at what at her pathetic husband. Apparantly she had been sharing with her girlfriend who was curious and though quite embarrassing knew from experience that I had better not resist. IAt this juncture I am almost always in femme mold though I thougth that there were only a few people who knew mainly my sisters and the girls at the salon. Now I am a bit curious as to just how many of her friends she has shared our lives.
ReplyDeleteWell, maggie, haste makes waste, as your post demonstrates in more ways than one.
DeleteI find it so ironic that your note here is so filled with small typos. I suspect you were rushing through it and didn't take the time to properly proofread it? Good little subbie commenters compose their reply in a decent text editor, and then cut and paste into the comment box if they are incapable of doing it properly otherwise.
I think you need to show your poorly composed comment and my reply to your wife. I wonder what she will have to say about it?
Dear Julie,
DeleteThank you for taking the time to respond to my blog. First allow me to apologize for exposing you and everyone concerned to such a poorly written blog. My wife and I read your reply together and as you might have suspected she was appalled and quite furious. She made it very clear that she expects more from me in the future and for the time being she personally wants to review all of my blogs before they are submitted. We discussed this at length and in her opinion this was more than just nine spelling errors and a few grammar errors but indicative of a deeper problem. Not only had my rushing result in this poorly written blog but it had also caused me to break a valuable heirloom vase but it was causing the quality of my cleaning and cooking to suffer. All in all I needed to learn to slow down and think before acting.
She took this quite seriously and was determined to take what she considered appropriate action. She felt that apparently the spanking I had received after I broke the base had been ineffective and that I had obviously not learned my lesson. Later that evening after I had finished washing the dinner dishes she called me into the den where she had been watching television at which point I received an over the knee spanking.
When she told me to take off my apron and remove my pants I panicked and started to back away but this was ill thought out and a major error in judgment on my part. I ended up receiving ten strokes from the back of her wooden hairbrush for each of my spelling errors and I was given an additional fifteen strokes for my poor grammar. The spanking was one of the more painful ones I had received and before it was over I was kicking and screaming and reduced to tears and uncontrollable sobbing. Finally I was allowed to stand up only to be pushed over the back of the sofa where I received ten swift strokes from her cane for resisting and an additional ten stokes on general principals.
It sounds like a very harsh punishment, and very well deserved I can add!
DeleteYes Ma’am it was very harsh and well deserved and a long time coming. As a follow up I am extremely sore at the moment and walking is a bit painful when I move wrong, but at the same time I know I have no one but myself to blame. My sister in law noticed my awkward movements and inquired and at my wife’s bequest I found myself pulling my skirt up and bending over so that she could admire my newly marked posterior. Exposing my self was quite embarrassing but I must admit that being forced to prostrate myself this way was secretly a bit exciting at the same time. It is somewhat ironic that though I am a man who primarily dresses and lives as a female I still worry about what my sister in law or anyone else for that matter might think about my being spanked.
ReplyDeleteOn the positive side I am now more committed than ever to be more spontaneous and obedient to my wife and in sync to serving her and her needs. Without her I am nothing and I am sorry that I put her in a position where she is constantly forced to discipline me.
My wife enlisted her mom to help in my chastity. Now she visits while wife is at work to make sure I'm behaving. Mom places me on kitchen island and slaps my a hole with a wooden spatula until she is satisfied. My only hope is she goes too far and I get a release from the hot wood.
ReplyDeleteSo many comments on feminization be it forced or not. My wife does not force me to wear my panties or bras. I wear them because I like wearing panties and bras. And since I only have feminine lingerie to wear it is easy for me. I have skirts and blouses as well as dresses to wear when I work at home. For casual west I have nice caparison and Jean jeggings. And I always wear heels if I can. I am shaved smooth almost 9 months of the year. My wife like me smooth. Stockings look so much better on smooth legs and they slide on easier too. 33 years of marriage to a Femdom wife has trained me to be a very obedient Sissy. She keeps me punished too.
ReplyDeleteIndeed. And I might add there is video online of leighanne tied to her bed, in her frillies, with a butt plug in her bottom, and being quite severely spanked. A personal favourite... When is that next one coming out?
DeleteOMG my typos. I hate that tablet I use. So hard to type and have correct spelling. I meant to type "For casual wear I have nice Capri's and Jean Jeggings." The Capri's and Jeans Jeggings look great with shaved legs. And yes that is me getting the strap and paddle. My wife loves to redden my ass. I do need a new video. Soon Julie! And thank you for exposing me as the sissy I am.
ReplyDeleteThanks Julie for your blog. Dan, my partner & master, found it recently & we both read it, often together (& we made our first post the other day, about soapings). We've been developing a dom/sub relationship for five months now & Dan tells me you're blog is giving him great ideas - should I be pleased or worried? Anyway, this thread inspired him to try feminizing me - an interesting idea for a gay couple! What does that mean?
ReplyDeleteHe announced this out of the blue while we were out shopping by leading me by the hand into our local branch of Ann Summers (a big UK lingerie chain). Two guys buying lingerie must be an unusual sight and by holding items up to me to check sizing and discussing quite loudly how I would look in this or that, Dan made it obvious that we were buying for me. I had the job of paying and, as she checked items through the bar code reader & put them in the bag, the sales girl made various comments (with a big smile) like "You'll look pretty in these panties", "Make sure you have your seams straight" & "Good choice. This will suit you". I could have died. I felt my face going bright red. I'm not too sure exactly what I said to her but it was nothing beyond feeble stammerings. I was so embarrassed.
Dan was standing a little way off, watching, & as I joined him to leave the shop he said "That was fun" and gave me a lovely kiss. I was well into sub space by this point. The whole thing had taken about 20 minutes. I had been seriously embarrassed from start to finish & by now was deep into subby space. Dan is brilliant at finding ways to demonstrate his authority over me. Unzipping the top of my fleece to make my sub's collar very visible, I replied "Thank you, sir" & hugged him.
Who knows what you've started, Julie?
Thank you.
Simon
That's amazing! I'm so glad I could be your muse!
DeleteWho knows what you've started, Julie? I wrote.
DeleteBack from the shops, I asked if I should try everything on. Dan surprised me by replying “Let’s see what comes along.” When he says that he means “Don’t ask. You’ll find out.”
I’m starting to. Sunday after lunch, Dan said casually “How about you put on your Ann Summers?” I asked which. “You choose but with stockings.” That gave several possibilities. I hesitated. This wasn’t my idea & I’m not a tv.
Dan took over. I fumbled (a bra is really difficult!) but made it. There I was, a guy in a dress, a totally see-through lace dress, backless with a skirt that didn’t cover my bum. Underneath, showing through of course, was a bra, suspender belt & thong. The undies (blue & black) may have contrasted well with the dress (red) but I felt stupid. Dan wolf-whistled, but no explanation. I was so out of my depth.
Looking back, I think he saw he could use my confusion to break me in. Flattering comments encouraged me, as did his hands. I relaxed. Then his tone changed. “You’ve forgotten what?” Trying to think rapidly, I said “Do you like what you see sir?” Wrong. “Stockings!”
“No slut dresses for her man without stockings. Get with this!”
Dan is good at shifting the ground to confuse me. He knows it pushes me into sub space. Right then, that’s just where he wanted me.
Flustered, I apologised but had difficulty getting the packet open. “Hopeless”, he shouted, grabbing it from me, tearing it open & throwing the contents at me. With more apologies, I sat down to put them on & was soon in difficulty.
Again, Dan was on me. “You’re clueless”, he barked almost in my face. Agitated, I couldn’t get the stockings to fix. The clips wouldn’t stay closed. “You’re not trying.” Dan was working me. The more I got flustered, the more I failed.
“Over my knee ungrateful slut”. His voice made clear a punishment spanking was on its way. I adopted an all too familiar position and, as Dan requires, thanked him for each slap and asked for another.
“There, there.” Dan shifted to a gentle voice when he was done with my ass. Caressing my stinging bum, he said softly “You’ve got to make more effort sweetie. You see that, don’t you?”
By now I desperately wanted to please him. “I’m really sorry, sir. I’ll practice hard & wear the lingerie whenever you want.” Bingo! Dan had check mated me.
“That’s better. Now be a good slut. Turn on the game and fetch your man a cold beer.” Returning with two beers, I started to snuggle - my next mistake & I reckon one Dan knew I’d make. “Did I say you’re having beer & watching? While your master watches a game, your place is here, sucking me off.”
Hoping to make up for an afternoon that wasn’t going well, I knelt at his altar to give him the best of blowjobs. Again, things didn’t go as I hoped. Dan likes it when I hold eye contact but he never looked down. Grabbing my head, he was aggressive. I can deep throat but was soon gagging. He pulled out & shot in my face.
I was stunned. He’d never done that. Before I’d caught my breath he pushed me back. “Get cleaned up & bring me a snack. Then start your practice.”
Looking back, Dan never let me find firm ground. Everything came from nowhere. I was helpless before him.
Meekly, I made his favourite sandwiches and put them on the coffee table. Still dazed, all I could say was “Here you are, sir.”
“Quiet! The game’s important.” That I knew. We’re both fans. This was South Africa v Wales, a World Cup quarter final. I had assumed we’d be watching together - so that didn’t turn out as expected either.
“You’ve got skills to perfect!”
So Simon didn’t watch the match. Practicing with lingerie was what came along for him. Dan did watch the match & reinforced his ownership in a powerful way.
Later, Dan got me to talk through how I felt at each point (an idea you inspired Julie). Dan was learning from my reactions & he knows one big thing now: I hated it & loved it. I’m hooked.
Thanks Julie!
Very hot for me to read about you being dominated like that by your man!
DeleteThanks Julie. You are the one who inspired Dan. We’ve now read quite a lot of your blog - truly amazing. Little comments Dan makes tell me (not always subtly) that you continue to inspire him, & by getting me to talk through each post subject he’s delving further into my subby mind. This is scary (& exciting). What am I letting myself in for? Don’t be surprised when I tell you that I identify closely with your David. He’s one lucky guy &, given you don’t exactly learn how to be a sub from your parents or at school, he’s fast becoming my role model.
DeleteDan continues to keep his thinking to himself on this feminisation play, but I can see he’s having real fun with it. So, good sub that I hope to be, I’m as enthusiastic as possible (not so easy when I feel a complete dork; I dislike the clothes but love the dynamic they represent). He also continues to use it to play with my head space. He has me wearing one of the thongs or panties to work most days & at some point usually sends a text telling me to send a photo of “Simon in his lingerie” within the next 5 minutes – a powerful way to keep me thinking of him & his authority over me.
Yesterday over breakfast, Dan told me casually that a pair of stilettos is in the mail. “You’ve got to have the shoes, sweetie.”
OMG. How am I going to cope???
Well if you LIKED being femmed up, what would the fun of that be?
DeleteYou are right, Julie.
DeleteThe shoes are a nightmare. The heels are “only” 3 inches, Dan assures me but, despite quite a lot of practice, they’re just so impossible to walk in. Like the lingerie, they feel all wrong. But that’s the point. I love it because I hate it (if you see what I mean).
Getting through a day at work wearing stockings and suspenders is hard because I’m just not comfortable – but that discomfort makes me think of my Dan and I can’t help but tingle. On days when Dan says “no socks”, I convince myself that somebody must have noticed.
I have to confess I’m finding it difficult. I’m really worried he’ll send me to work wearing a bra under my shirt. He’s already had me go to the supermarket with a black lace bra under a thin white T-shirt. If nobody else spotted anything, the checkout girl on the till certainly did! I almost died of embarrassment.
I honestly think I'm good at being Dan’s devoted sub – I certainly try very hard - but I recognise that I have my moments. Dan does too and, inspired by your blog Julie, he is tightening things up in our relationship, taking me to task more often with sharp, short punishments, sometimes unannounced, sometimes notified well in advance.
These aren’t play dates. I’ve goofed up in some way, or said something sarky and Dan punishes me for it. He’s quite right. Dan is teaching me & I willingly take the consequences for my behaviour (my ass may disagree because it’s certainly not fun at the time, especially when he uses the rubber strap). What is comforting, though, is holding Dan’s ankle when I’m over his knee. You mentioned Julie that your David does that and I’ve copied him.
We’re realising much more the inherent imbalance of daily life in a dom/sub domestic discipline relationship. I defer to Dan 24/7. In part, this is because he pushes my buttons: “Who owns you?” … “Good twink, suck my cock like a slut!” (& now sometimes, “Good girl. Suck my cock like a whore!”) … the look that says “Because I said so”.
Primarily, however, I defer because I want to. I want to obey. Our relationship is evolving and I’m in heaven. Dan is my happy place. The tension is exquisite and Dan’s “aftercare” is so loving. He cuddles me. He nuzzles and brushes my hair. If I’m lucky, he bathes me and washes my hair.
This feminisation play is bonding us more deeply. I love him for it.
How I hate those shoes. Corner time is a nightmare in stilettos, even for 15-20 minutes. Dan knows I can't manage it, so why do I love him for it?
DeleteExactly, Julie. You understand.
DeleteSimon
I used to dress up in my sisters clothes make up wig and all then lay on the floor in front of a full length mirror to look at myself. This gave me totally thrilling overwhelming erections which throbbed ached oozed and spurted tremendously. As I got older my body developed with muscle body hair beard and the like which ruined my fun. I just look too ridiculous. I really miss my girly days.
ReplyDeleteAll that nasty hair can be shaved off, you know, and I find it fun to dress my husband up, speak to him as if he was a girl, and tease him relentlessly about how pretty he looks!
DeleteThank you... that makes me hard... I wish.
DeleteSimon writes great story! Julie is sensational muse!
ReplyDeleteI let my husband become my girlfriend before we were married. He has remained celibate as well up to the present day... except for our wedding night. He had a real gusher of an orgasm while I barely felt his little prick. From that day forward I allow his release thru dildo penetration but he has never done more than leak... never a pulsing stream like other men. Now that our daughter has discovered her dads predicament she has begun to participate in his treatment. This morning I put hubby on the kitchen island in the diaper position all dressed up lubed up and ready to be a girl when in walked our daughter sporting a new foot long rubber cock. You should have seen the look on his face. Total shock shame humiliation. I was so proud of how our daughter slammed his ass and to my utter shock he came like a fire hose. What a load... he all but passed out. I took my turn and fucked him til he was erect again and stopped. We'll see where this goes but so far its been fun for everyone.
ReplyDeleteMy wife of 34 years (this May) enjoys when I cross dress for her. She has recently started to require that I dress at home daily to do my housework and work at home as a Sissy. I love being dressed every day and willingly get up early and put on my lingerie dress and heels like I am going to the office or a maid uniform if I have housework to do. She recently bought us a penis chastity so I can learn to be locked and not be able to get a full erection. I wish you could chat with her Julie because you two are very much alike. Leighanne
ReplyDeleteI would love to. Perhaps we can exchange ideas. have her drop me an email.
DeleteMy what an embarrassing situation. My soon to be wife exerts her dominance on me by throwing away all my boxers and replacing them with panties. I now am forced to wear women's panties all the time. This unfortunately means I wear panties to work which is horribly emasculating. I will even have to wear a green sheer bikini panties with the word "wifey" bedazzled on the front under my pants for the wedding.
ReplyDeleteOn our wedding night I dressed my husband up in my wedding gown did his make up and completely reversed our roles of husband and wife. I then took him over my knee lifting his dress up and proceeded to lower his panties and gave him a sharp spank with a trusty hairbrush. Holding him snuggly I spanked him somewhat mildly as I informed him how I would be wearing the pants in the future and I expected him to be the wife in our relationship. By now he was bawling like a true spoiled young bride learning her lesson of how things would be in the future. I then laid him face down on the bed and consummated our marriage by pegging him till he climaxed. He is now the perfect little housewife. Jan
ReplyDeleteOh, the places that you will go...
Deleteninety one. I'll love you for the remainder of MY life.
ReplyDeleteWhen I married my wife 15 years ago she made it plain who would be wearing the pants in our marriage. Before our wedding night I'd already been spanked with an hairbrush. As well as a belt. But only when I deserved it. I knew I was to be the wife in our relationship. At home I have to wear dresses, panties and stockings. She always puts my makeup on for. It was also on our wedding night that she started pegging me. She's trained me well to be the perfect housewife. I've never been happier. I love my wife, my mistress, my bestfriend.
ReplyDeleteI agree, panties, nighties,discipline/punishment at will, all work on me. As said earlier in the comments, i am no longer a man, but well on becoming the girl in the relationship. Her girl, to do with as She pleases.
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ReplyDeleteI have been discussing feminization of my husband with my gynecologist. I have gotten her to agree to put him on estrogenic hormones so he can fill out the cups of his bras better. Dhr has agreed to do so after hiving him a FULL exam. I informed her that we have a FLR relationship that includes full cross-dressing, spanking discipline, and strap-on pegging. She was most willingly interested. I now have him trained to ejaculate from pegging with no manual penile stimulation. He has now learned to enjoy living as a woman and is now much more sexually satisfied as am I.
ReplyDeleteAll is well that ends well!
DeleteNow my feminized husband not only wants to wear a bra, he NEEDS to wear one for support, which was my intent. He is still allowed to ejaculate but ONLY during intercourse with my strapon lady-cock inside his sissy rectum. Often after orgasm he is given a spanking with my leather strap for behaving in an un-ladylike manner.
DeleteBegs the question of how does a man maintain ladylike decorum when being fucked up the ass by a giant dildo. Ha ha!
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