Saturday, February 3

Are Women Just Wired to be Submissive?

It happened and I'm halfway through writing up the babysitter roleplay I wrote about in my last blog Babysitter Roleplay Advice Please! Thank you for all the suggestions, they were super helpful and inspiring and my husband and I had a great session as a result. It's taking longer to write it than I thought as so many things went on. An exciting additional development was that Mistress Violet Mays had a subby reaching out to her referencing that blog entry, and so she and I both did essentially the same roleplay and compared notes! Cool! I learned about it when she left me a comment here.

Anyways, I thought I'd pound out a quick blog entry to hold you over based on some unrelated  recent events, and some of my surprising behaviour.

It started with a comment from one of my readers named Tim (there is more than one tim, but this one I have to capitalize from now on, and he goes by a different handle when he posts - Tim may fill you in if he wishes to in the comments).

Anyways, I have known Tim as being a switch, but with more of an inclination towards topping. We had an email exchange after a comment he posted where he said I was a being a bit short and dismissive with him in my reply. I wrote back giving him what I thought of was a bit of a mild "spanking":
Hi tim,

In my opinion, one has to be careful what one reads into short messages. In the void made by the absence of long, carefully thought out responses, the sentiments read into it can be more a reflection of the reader's thoughts and emotions rather than those of the writer. (We are all guilty of this from time to time). This is surely the case here, because none of the thoughts and emotions you assign to me are in fact anywhere close to what I actually think or feel. Without the nuance of in-person communication, short messages can be easily misinterpreted. I know that you know this, as your email messages are always long and well thought out, and you take pains to convey your true thoughts and emotions accurately. Not so in your blog comments, those can be easily misinterpreted. In answering blog comments, I have to knock each one out quickly, as you can imagine. When a range of possible interpretations present themselves (including some being gentle teasing from a mostly Dominant Woman to submissive men), withold judgement and imagine the nicer end until proven otherwise. Saves grief!

Sincerely,
Julie
There we go. I wrote that feeling a bit smug. I was definitely in the right on this one. I enjoyed giving him his little "lecture". Putting him gently but firmly in his place, making him a better person as a result. With great power comes great responsibility. (I say this tongue in cheek, reflecting back now and feeling a bit foolish...)

He was also upset that I had asked his permission to publish a story he had written for me a while back, yet I had still not gotten around to doing so (months and months later). He withdrew his permission in a pique. But then after the above email he wrote back, restoring permission to his story as a peace offering I supposed.
Hi Julie,

Thanks, I will most certainly remember this when making and reading future comments and replies. I usually put more thought into my primary comments, but I too am guilty of off the cuff comments that could easily be misinterpreted. I shall endeavour to curb my interpretations and grow a thicker skin (lol).

The other thing is my story (I’m probably driving you nuts at this point). If you are still interested and if would still like to share it with your readers I am okay with that regardless of the time frame. It is totally up to you whether you post it today, tomorrow or ten years from now it will not matter to me. The only time I would ever mention it in the future is if and when I ever finish the two sequels.

I know you are busy and that this blog is not your life only a hobby/pastime and that your real life is your husband, friends, family and work. So thank you for taking the time from that to correspond with me. It is greatly appreciated.

Cheers

Tim
Was that not a nice, gentle, gentlemanly reply? Especially so after I realize now how positively and cringe-inducingly condescending my original note was. I have the best readers! I wrote back saying as much,
tim,

What a delightful reply. You took your gentle spanking from me very well. Such a good boy!

The thing is, publishing the story has now turned into a sort of tease and denial thing, your tortured reactions are turning me on a little. One of the perils of corresponding with a Domme...

Julie
Mischievous, aren't I? Pulling my puppy's tail like that. But apparently, puppy liked playing with the Tiger Lady!
julie,

Ha, ha, ha! Is that what that was supposed be?? Here I thought we were just having a nice friendly conversation with each other about misinterpretations. Oh well, if that’s what floats your boat…sure, let’s go with that!

So glad to hear I’ve turned you on! Here’s the thing about tease and denial, and as a domme you should know this, it’s only tease and denial if the person being teased and denied really wants what’s being denied! Not so much in this case it’s more a case of publish it if you want to, don’t publish it if you don’t want to, I don’t care, hence the never bringing it up again in the future. So…sorry no tease and denial here I’m afraid!

Oh wait, my mistake, there is a tease and denial here, you can publish the story, you can’t publish the story, you can publish the story, you….hmmm, this is turning me on!! 😉

Cheers,

Tim
Notice the respective capitalization of our names. And the condescending way he referred to me as a "domme". So little timmy wanted to play power games with me, did he? He didn't know what he was getting himself in for!
Power games is it? Would love to have you tied face down naked on a spanking bench to continue that discussion... ;-)

Julie
There! That will show him! I was expecting a submissive little response saying how much he would just DIE were that to happen to him, his every Strict Julie fantasy fulfilled. This is what I got instead...
Likewise, this "Daddy" would love to have you naked across my knee with your panties dangling around your ankles for the very same discussion!!😉

Tim
So, that was unexpected. Notice how he picked up on my "Daddy" fantasies which started a disturbing little flutter in my nether regions. The idea of being draped naked across his knee, my panties dangling around my ankles, my legs flutter-kicking as he spanked me rosy. Fine, point for him. But the game was not over yet. I shook my head and suppressed any submissive feelings and summoned up my fiercest Dommy Warrior. My reply would melt him into a submissive puddle. It needed to be witty, scathing, devastatingly sexy, make him yearn to even lick my boots. I was contemplating my reply when unexpectedly Tim went in for the kill shot!
julie,

After our last email exchange I decided this would be an apropos cartoon for you!😉

TIM
Notice the EXTREME capitalization of his name, and his continued lower-casing of mine. This is the cartoon he included for me (the filename was even "julie.jpg").


Well, just gosh... I'll come back to my feelings looking at that, but summing it all up, this was my immediate reaction to Tim: utter defeat.
Ok, well... that made my pussy tingle. You win!
May I publish it and a bit of our banter as background, Sir?
Sir was, of course, extremely gracious with me in his response.
julie,

Your capitulation is graciously accepted! ;-)
Yes, of course you may use it and our email banter if you wish.

Cheers ;-)

TIM
I know when I'm beat. I know when I look at a drawing of my very well spanked bottom and my pussy starts gushing a little between my legs, and I get that tummy churning butterfly feeling in the pit of my stomach, that he had subdued me, dominated me, made me his little submissive. As I read down the captioning and found out that I was in for another spanking just for being (admittedly deliberately) disrespectful with my manner of address, and that he WAS NOT going to let that slide, I gushed even a little more.

After I received Tim's reply, I will even shamefacedly admit that I propped up his cartoon of me on my pillow on my iPad, and masturbated to the thought of me getting that spanking (especially that second spanking) from him. I inserted a dildo in my pussy and used my fingers on my clit, imagining that Tim was doing more than just spanking me! Imagining my sore red ass pushed into the bed as Tim made me His woman.

Please don't get me wrong. I love being Dommy. I love my Dommy roles very, very much, and for the most part I enjoy interacting with others on email in my Dommy role. It is the rare gentleman who even attempts to top me, and rarer still those who succeed. So don't get any ideas, 'fellas. You better be up to the task if you expect to Dom me.

In this case, I think it was the creativity of sending me the cartoon, and the careful captioning. His topping instincts. His unwillingness to disengage. The captivating (not rude) and consistently gentlemanly way he continued. The time taken. And then his politeness and graciousness after I "capitulated". It just sort of melted me into a puddle of submissive goo. Geeze I'm easy!

Is this a woman/man sort of thing? His unrelenting drive to "win" and "dominate" (so gently, or he would not have "won"). My being sexually susceptible to his suggestions: a weak woman melting like butter to His Dominance.

I'm going to go have a cold shower now and get back to topping!

103 comments:

  1. Hi Julie. I don't know whether it's a woman thing, or just a function of being attracted to power. I'm not sure that being a Domme means you are immune to the aphrodisiac properties of power when another human being is displaying it. I'm a pretty dominant guy in "real life," but power is sexy.

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    1. Good point. I guess it is. But I'm wondering if women are wired to be more sexually attracted to power than men. I think surely so?

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    2. Honestly Speaking Julie, your not totally submissive unless it's to a dominant female as in the case of your sister & a Mistress. However you've given a x co-worker the authority to not only Paddle but also got her hubby to Spank you! Just admit the fact your a switch, you love Spanking your hubby but if you see an opportunity to get Spanked by a dominant female you go for it!

      Please keep it up with your great writing skills!

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    3. I gladly admit it! Women definitely turn my crank, but lately I've been feeling it with men as well.

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    4. That's going to make many of your male readers very happy to know! I honestly hope your very careful unless this part of you is just exploring right now the possibilities of this change with in you. Please do keep us readers updated on any & all things! We've emailed a lot & my address always opened for you to bounce ideas off of if needed.

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    5. I don't know... I'm confused! The thought of a bare male hand spanking me to tears is for some STUPID reason turning me on just now...

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    6. Wow all this shortly after you got a Spanking from your older Sister! Is it just being given a Spanking by a male turn you on or is it the possibility of a forced orgasm happening?

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    7. I don't care about my orgasm. I want the submission more than anything...

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    8. Sounds like you wanna be like a Naughty school girl again to visit John but actually think Tracy will wanna be there just in case! Unless you wanna ask or confess everything again to your Hubby?

      Just so you know, it's in the 80's during the day with 60's at night here in southwest Fl

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    9. Actually, not craving John at all. I scratched that itch. He's very handsome and well built, but overly tentative as a Dom. I don't think he "gets it". Not sure if it came across in my description of our scenes, as I did try to keep it entertaining and positive, but his lack of a true Dom instinct was the worst part of the experience (his wife was also a bit tentative, but showed potential. Alas, they are wannabe swingers and we're not into that).

      My husband, on the other hand, was great! His supportive confidence is a massive turn on. When I asked him to Dom me, there was nothing tentative about it! He DEFINITELY "gets it"! And we returned to our preferred roles smoothly.

      When I think about asking for a r/l punishment spanking from a man, my heart melts at the thought of my sweet husband doing it to me!

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    10. Well you've answered your own question! Maybe you should make arrangements with hubby to switch roles every month or so. Explain to him that you need to be reminded on what it feels like because you can't get your sister to do it.

      Just so you know I did catch that about John & I do think you wrote it in your blog "Mommy, Daddy spanks like a girl!"

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    11. Oh ya. Quite right. david and I have a planned switch coming up. It will be very, ahem, interesting in a bit of a public way if he agrees...

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    12. Really, think you'll give up any of the details before so your many readers can give you their opinions or alternative ideas?

      Does sound like you've given it some thought since you did mention it!

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  2. I've never been a dominant type, and my wife has a strong and healthy aversion to anyone trying to control her or to exert authority in any way she sees as manipulative or threatening. So I was surprised to find out soon after our relationship became intimate that she was turned on the most when I assumed a dominant sexual role. It started as spanking, because that was my big turn on since I was a child, but then she wanted to try a wide variety of kinks that put her in a submissive position.

    I don't know if it's a female thing to be submissive, but it seems to be common. It fits with traditional ideas of femininity. Some women are so fundamentally attracted to dominant men that they're not as discriminating, will even tolerate some amount of abuse. Others are not really submissive personalities but will submit to the right person because, when it feels right, it's a turn on. The dynamic is basically sexual expression where the dom(me) gives or acts, and the sub is passive and gets acted upon. Is it better to give or to receive? I'm not sure. Either can be satisfying, and I think it's natural, despite cultural pressures, to enjoy both.

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  3. Ok... guys... what? no teasing for me? Come on!

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    1. Dear Switch Julie,

      Be careful for what you ask for. There are those who think you should make a photo matching the wonderful cartoon of your redden rear end. I am one. Then there are those that think you are being unfaithful to david with Tim. Most of us know that you and david/David are good and accept certain play back and forth. Needless to say how many times in the past year or so have you been bent over and receiving a good butt blistering. Yes those of us readers know that the "Daddy" use is one to get you melting in hopes of any of your fantasies.

      Now that david is back you, can go back to be a dom, but that is until a certian mistress leaves a post or "Daddy" sends a new paddle or you try to top your sister. You are lucky that some of us have had computer trouble and not sending our evil ideas to be done by your or to you.

      pie pie 4 now
      pieclown

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    2. My wife Irene has been very clear she has no interest in any sort of submission, and I can’t even imagine any role reversal with her.

      But with a trollop like you, Julie, I can easily see how to put you in your place and have fun doing it. You complained once to many times that I haven’t licked your pussy lately even though you know how busy I’ve been.

      Finally I am freed up but you are just a little too bitchy and demanding. I put my mouth down between your legs but you start to give me instructions like I’m sort of rookie when it comes to these things. So I pull pack, sit up and put you over my knee and spank you nice and hard. Not fast, but hard. Your bottom gets hotter and hotter and you wonder if I’m ever going to stop.

      Finally, I let you up and send you to the corner. I go to the kitchen, get a glass of water, then return and takes my clothes off and lie on the bed.

      I instruct you to come sit on my face in a reverse cowgirl position and tell you I’ll finish licking your pussy if you’ll keep your mouth shut.

      But I lied - at least a little bit. I lick and suck and gently caress your most vulnerable parts with my lips and tongue until you start to really like it, the I push you forward off my face.

      I order you to stay still with your hot bottom in the air and your wet pussy staring back at me. Then I start to spank you again in that position.

      After your bottom is sufficiently reheated I instruct to to sit back. I put my tongue all the way inside, pull it out and caress your clitoris with my lips. But your time to come has not yet come.

      I push you forward, and spank you again, scolding you for being such a wanton selfish hussy.

      The process is repeated so many times you can’t count. Finally, finally, I grab your luscious bottom with both hands and aggressively bury my face between your legs. It doesn’t take long.

      When you catch your breath, I ask you very gently to admit you liked every second of it.

      -Rosco

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    3. Gulp... gush... now that's more like it...

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  4. julie, You are becoming too easy to dominate (cartoon). The more you drift into the sub role the harder it will be to switch back. Might need to come up with a new title for your blog: "Julie Strictly Spanked" HaHa

    John

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    1. A "sister" blog perhaps? No, I enjoy confusing and surprising you guys with my 80-20 mix (is it that? Any fans care to do the math for the past 2 years, say?). Heck I enjoy confusing myself!

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    2. It's being more like 55-45, and the 45 don't stop growing...

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    3. Did you actually count blog entries? PLEASE do the count. I'm curious. Come on subies, chop chop.

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    4. Yes Ma'am! By my count
      - out of 339 blogs since 2011, 47 are subby, for an overall total of 14%
      - From 2011 to 2015, out of 223 there were 3 subby ones, so 1%
      - From 2016 to the present, out of 116 there were 44 subby ones, so 38%.
      - 2016 was 32%
      - 2017 was 48%
      - 2018 so far is 25%

      you do SEEM to be getting subbier by a fair margin...

      -D

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  5. julie - as always, an exceptionally entertaining and well-written piece. Nicely done!

    I have two issues with the behaviors you disclosed in this post, young lady, both related to TIM, who - by your own admission - successfully and completely Dom'd you.

    FIRST, you pleasured yourself using TIM's very creative cartoon without (a) "getting into character" by spanking your own bottom until it was red and smarting as in the cartoon, giving yourself 30 minutes of corner time, and spanking yourself again for using "Tim" instead of the appropriate "SIR", all as depicted in the cartoon, and (b) applying "Julie's Rule" to yourself, just as you require of david, cleaning up whatever had gushed from you with your fingers and swallowing it, being sure to lick your fingers completely clean.

    SECOND, you capitulated to TIM without ever promising him that you WOULD publish his story, which was how you got yourself in this mess to begin with.

    SO, at the risk of stepping on TIM's toes, I am imposing the following punishments in an attempt to correct your behaviors:

    1 - As punishment for your FIRST set of offenses, you will REPEAT your little self-pleasuring, with two key differences - you WILL "get into character" as contemplated by TIM's cartoon, and you WILL apply "Julie's Rule" to yourself at the end. Be sure to spank your misbehaving bottom well - let's say 50 smacks with a hairbrush to EACH side of your bottom for the first spanking and 75 smacks of the hairbrush to EACH side for the second spanking. Be sure to distribute the smacks widely, while ending both sets of self-spankings with 10 consecutive HARD smacks to EACH sit spot. After that, you will write about this experience and post it to your blog for ALL your readers to see, by Mon, Feb 19, 2018, 3:00 am Toronto time. (I chose 3:00 am, since you are a night owl.) This is two weeks from today, so this should give you ample time to carry out this punishment and post your writeup of this experience to your blog.

    2 - As punishment for your SECOND offense, you WILL publish TIM's story to your blog by Mon, Mar 5, 2018, 3:00 am Toronto time. This is four weeks from today, which seems generous for you to COLLABORATIVELY edit, illustrate, and publish TIM's story to your blog. This punishment ASSUMES that TIM gives you PERMISSION to publish his story. If TIM decides to NOT let you publish, then your ALTERNATE punishment is to contact Tracy and setup a punishment spanking with her - you MUST stress to her (a) it will be JUST the two of you, with neither spouse even present in the home where it occurs, (b) there will be NO sexual activity - or even hints or undertones of this - between you two, (c) she needs to spank you until, in her judgement, it hurts for you to sit on a wooden chair or stool, and then for her to spank you some more, just in case you're acting, (d) she needs to take pictures of your bottom at key times throughout your spanking, and (e) you must blog a blog entry - with at least 3 photos - about your discipline at Tracy's hand by Mon, Mar 5, 2018, 3:00 am Toronto time.

    (concluded in a second reply - hit character limit. -T.)

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    1. (conclusion of overall reply - T.)

      I cannot ensure you actually go through with your punishments - still, your blog readers now know that Mistress Violet Mays does monitor your blog. Since she, like Tracy and Sue, owns your ass, I hope Mistress Violet contacts you and requires you to setup a punishment session with her, if you haven't completed BOTH punishments by the dates and times specified.

      Of course, if TIM wants to punish you himself for your very NAUGHTY and DISRESPECTFUL behaviors towards him, then I withdraw this punishment and defer to him.

      julie, I'm sure your other blog readers will agree with me - you could have done MUCH better in responding to TIM. I'm hoping these punishments will help you see your mistakes and improve your behaviors, little missy, especially when you admit you were Topped by TIM and thus SHOULD have FULLY capitulated to him!

      Disappointed,
      -T.

      PS - just remember, you did "egg on" your readers for responses!

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    2. Ho hum... Sorry T, your attempt at domming is nowhere near the calibre of Tim's, sorry Sir's, Domming. He used subtlety and magic, not blatant command. You'll simply have to do better to get this girl's attention. :-)

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  6. Women can play both sides of the fence, trouble is the guy has trouble knowing which side. I dated a girl who played that game, I respect women, I will not do anything otherwise, the latest news on treatment of women make me sick. This girl I dated was a tease and liked to be in charge. What it came down to was at the apartments, by the pool I had enough. Like a typical male, reacted before thinking, I just took her over my lap and warmed her bottom, I did not pull down the bottoms. She of course ran back to the apartment. How dare you she yelled at me, that is it I said, game time is over, I then bared her bottom, able to get her hairbrush, talk about a spanking, talk about a woman afterwards acting like a little girl. We went back to the pool, yes her bottom was showing some red, she layed on her stomach, the only comments made were from old women, long over due, the males just looked and smiled. I don't know how you would take it, I don't know how other women would take it, I just know her, and I do not believe is disrespecting women, this case I admit I reacted, my only line of defense is she needed it. She might have done it on purpose, I do not know, as I said I will never understand the female mind, nor try.

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    1. That's sexy. If you know your girl, you can get away with it. Otherwise, you goof, you wind up in jail!

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  7. You need so much a spanking. When do you publish the story of your most recent master with your full apology ?

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    1. He SAID he didn't care, so I'm not sure... sometimes I suppose...

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    2. Tim ! What can be done with that girl !

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  8. Just bought H&M classic crossed leather slippers with thin but very dense rubber soles. Ideal for spanking, you are welcome subbie Julie, I promise you will be sobbing just after the first dozen

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    1. Mmmmm... (squirming in my seat)

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    2. After there is bastinado with the cane then corner time then bastinado again till your feet are marked with cane welts, you will sleep on you stomach Julie as you won't be able to sit or stand after the spanking and bastinado.

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    3. I like the idea of having to sleep on my tummy after a spanking, but the feet thing? Don't get that. Just ouch!

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    4. You will have sore welted feet, you won't be able to walk properly as well. I am not into whipping but if you need one I will take a bull whip to your back Julie.

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  9. I suppose you might just be attracted to power when you are in a receptive mood.......so much so that you're willing to overlook poor spelling (and a wanton disregard for punctuation) in the process. I don't think I could take a power play seriously where the prospective Top used "your" in place of "you're". (I guess you ARE easy.) I've actually had this problem in the past. It's hard to bow to the 'superiority' of another when they express their worthiness with questionable proficiency. ;-)

    And I will agree that a subtle touch is best. I've NEVER gotten along with Toppy Tops who think merely declaring themselves as "Dominants" should be enough to make me cave. In fact, if a Top goes into "challenge mode" I just go back at them. It has made for several humorously disastrous exchanges! LOL

    But........I don't need a Top to be "superior". In fact, a flawed Top who is just confident in who she is, but also appreciates the concession of submission from someone who could easily resist, is sufficient for me.

    As for Topping you? Well, I think if you were in that incestuous Daddy's-naughty-girl mindset you are prone to, you wouldn't be disappointed. And I think you know that. Conversely, I fully admit that things could just as easily go the other way.......provided you didn't feel the need to assert your dominance through some silly contest. What a waste of precious time that would be. ;-)

    All the best, my dear!

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    1. Yes, I noticed the typos. In fact there was another, a missing "you" that I was able to photoshop in (2nd line of 2nd bubble on right). The "your" was not as easy to fix. But hey, writing so much ourselves, we can be a little forgiving of typos, I hope (assuming the "your" was a typo and not a grammar error, in which case I TOTALLY agree with you ;-)

      The thing is, like you, it's impossible to beat me in a head to head confrontation. Especially so when it's on "my turf". Tim beat me fair and square by making my pussy react, so I had to acknowledge that 'cause honesty is more important than "winning". And he was also gracious and polite as he did so, so disarming. He attacked my flanks!

      I would DEFINITELY put you in tha same category kd, as someone who has the capacity to make my pussy tingle in a subby way...

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    2. Thanks, dear. The feeling is mutual. In fact I think it could be downright amusing to see the way we two could slip back and forth between roles given how alike we are. It's like we have 'switch' switches that, while usually in a preferred position (Top for you/sub for me) are so damned easy to flip with the lightest touch. ;-)

      As for Tim 'attacking your flanks'? I think that is EXACTLY what he had in mind all along, but perhaps in a more literal fashion. ;-)

      All the best!

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    3. Yes... it was a double entendre intended.

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  10. Oh wow Julie. I will do my best not to post volumes of text.

    When you say are women "wired" to be submissive that can mean a) is it in their DNA? b) are there societal cues that make them think that way? c) a little of both?

    When you watch old movies from the 1930s and even through the 1960s, women are often displayed as weak-willed and faint-of-heart. Whether it be the John Wayne-type character or someone of his ilk, they were there to "protect" the (allegedly weaker) woman. And certainly movies are in the public's eye, so that's what people saw when they watched them. Can that contribute to the way someone is "wired?"

    You're a switch. You know you are one. You gravitate towards both being "controlled" and the feeling of strength but also dishing out discipline and controlling a scene.

    I seem to recall the post about the 3-way you had with the friend and her husband (without david) and how you were enthralled by his physical strength. How he seemed "powerful." Where did that come from and why was it alluring to you?

    Without making this drone on; sometimes things are the way they are and we never really know why. But better to know some things about ourselves than to not.

    bfp

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    1. I think it's genetic! But I also think genetics is confused, and boys seem to get some of it as well (and vice-versa for the "masculine" traits).

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    2. But to the degree it is genetics and the degree it is our environment? Who knows. Why do we even refer to certain traits as "masculine?" Who told us a certain trait should be labeled as "masculine?"

      bfp

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    3. I heard they measure these tendencies in societies where they have really gone over the top in minimizing these cultural programs, and yet the male/female differences persist. Neat.

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  11. If you think about it, if women did not submit to being penetrated by men, humanity would die off very quickly. Sex, and specifically intercourse, is by its' nature an act of power. The man is penetrating the very body of the woman, who in a standard healthy relationship is willfully submitting to being invaded and, to use an old-fashioned erotic term, "conquered" by her lover.

    Of course, there are always exceptions when we talk in broad terms, but from what I've observed, it is a immense turn on for a lot of women to be sexually desired and claimed by the man she loves. I recall something I heard in high school : "The only thing a wife loves more than a good kiss from her hubby is an occasional firm, possessive smack on the ass." Those little gestures of protective dominance turn a lot of women into tingling piles of goo. It's a turn on to be wanted to that point where her man proclaims his claim and desire like that. Of course, these situations only apply in established relationships. Don't do this with strangers, lol.

    And vice versa, it is a turn for a man to have his woman talk him up or kiss him deeply or in any way show her desire for him. And yes, in some relationships this include smacking him on the ads. Every couple is unique and has their own chemistry. But on the balance I would bet the majority "normal" relationships would be considered "femsub" in terms of their general sexual/physical structure.

    Even in your relationship, your journey as a Domme began because you submitted to David's will when he asked you to sexually dominate him. Or at least that's what your header says, lol. So it actually makes some sense that being sexually submissive would also appeal to you. Despite your usual dominant persona in sexual situations, that feminine urge to be sexually claimed still exists. And with you being you, there is no going halfway. If you're gonna "play the female" for lack of a better phrase, then you're gonna be across your man's lap getting your bottom torched and then submitting to invasion from his cock in the hole of his choosing.

    At the end of the day, all of this is part of the never ending give and take of human sexuality. If the relationship is to flourish and blossom, this must take place. The man and the woman (or the dom and the sub) must both yield to the needs and desires of the other. Otherwise the union will capsize and sink.

    Always a pleasure,
    Edwin

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    1. Wow! Amazing comment. My readers are so fk'ing smart!!!

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    2. Edwin: I have to agree with Julie. This was one of the most lucid comments I have seen in a while. (You should visit 'Collected Submissions'. You'd fit right in!)

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    3. "...if women did not submit to being penetrated by men, humanity would die off very quickly."

      Had a discussion some time ago with the girl I was dating along the lines of, "how did it feel to be penetrated and fucked?"

      She came back and said she didn't feel "penetrated" or that SHE was being fucked; she thought of it more that she "enveloping" me!

      She got me with that one. A completely different perspective!

      A.J.

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    4. Hah ha, yes, perfect! I can switch back and forth between those two states depending on if feeling subby or dommy.

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  12. Hi julie,

    As you know I would normally post a comment under the handle of “Hattrick”. However, given the occasion for this blog post I am commenting under the name of TIM!

    Yes Strict julie fans I am the TIM of this blog post,.. Hi!

    julie, another very well written post! I commend you on how well you accepted your “virtual spanking” from me, and as a “properly spanked young lady” asked me for permission to share it with your loyal readers. Such a good girl!! I hope they have enjoyed the cartoon as much as I enjoyed making it. My apologies to your readers for the typos (yes I do know the grammatical difference between you’re and your).

    There have been a couple of comments regarding “the story”. I gave my word to not bring up the subject again, with one lone exception, and a gentleman does not go back on his word. julie, you are of course free to, and have my permission to discuss it if you wish. ;-)

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    1. Thank you for your comment, Sir.
      I am well chastised!
      I think my email to you must have crossed paths with this comment from you. Just as well. You can ignore that email if you want Sir. No need to make it public at all as I indicated... please!

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    2. Dear Sir,
      We know your magnanimity. We urge you not to reveal the mail certainly very compromising of this little brat, because you are a gentleman and she begs you.
      However, did you give any word whatsoever not to make it public? Not yet ? Hurry! publish it! We absolutely want to know what it is especially if it's very humiliating for her!

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    3. Tim: no problem on the typos. We all make them on occasion. I think my bringing them up and teasing about them was more of a 'guy thing' than critique. Good job on turning the tables on Julie.......though I get the feeling that our Ms. Julie 'turns' only when she wants to. ;-)

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    4. I am lead to it by my pussy which seems to have its own independent decision making process! (Sound familiar, 'fellas?)

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    5. Yes it certainly seems that they did pass each other! Part of the trials and tribulations of it having been Super bowl Sunday I guess?

      However, I found reading your reply to my comment a little disturbing. In particular the statement “I am well chastised!” I don’t believe that you are in a position to make that decision, nor are you in a position to decide or even suggest that there is no need to share any emails you send me with your blog. Especially given the nature of the one just received that you so ashamedly tried to stop! Those are now my decisions to make and mine alone! Am I making myself perfectly clear on this?

      You are certainly now in dire need of that spanking I’ve suggested in my cartoon and I will get back to that in a little bit.

      I will not share all of the content of the email you sent with your readers, but I will definitely share this.

      Dear “sub julie spanked” readers (no this is not a typo as you will soon see). Our blog hostess, having been so erotically carried away with the cartoon, has asked me what I would do with her if I could do anything I wanted to. How absolutely submissive is that? On top of that she asked me to please make it as filthy and as Dommy as I want. This is what she was trying to hide, from you all, and why she did not want me to make the email public.

      So being the magnanimous person I am, the following is exactly what she asked for;

      You may consider yourself lucky that our physical proximity is not closer for if it was this is what would be happening to you right now; you would be made to stand directly in front of me, with your hands clasped behind your back, while I briefly lecture you (and I do mean briefly I prefer to let my hand do the talking). Following your lecture I would have you strip right down to your panties. If there was any hesitation what so ever, in removing any article of clothing, well let’s just say I remember how a certain naughty girl hates getting their thighs slapped! I would then place you in your naughty corner for a little pre spanking time out, hands behind head, elbows to the wall, bottom out and legs apart, just to get the anxiety level up. Of course Sir would periodically come and check that little julie is maintaining her position. Giving your bottom a few light smacks and rubs, as a precursor of what is yet to come, and running my fingers between your legs just to check the wetness level! When I feel you’ve had enough corner time it’s over to the spanking chair and across my lap in one fell swoop! Your spanking would start in earnest, no warm ups, right in to it; good solid hand smacks as you know only a man can deliver no need for any implements here.

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      There will be no set number of swats or time limit the initial spanking will stop when I decide to stop. It’s then back to your naughty corner while I limber up for round two. When it’s time, it’s back over my lap for more, this time with your panties down to your knees. You will be required to keep your panties at knee level and to this you will need to keep your legs apart. I know this will humiliate and embarrass you, but you need to learn your place. You would be told that if your panties fall below your knees you will be required to perform a four hole penance. Again your spanking would start in earnest! Shortly into round two you notice that the hand smacks are harder and more intense than they were the first time. This is when you realize that the first spanking was a warm up for me, not you! Make no mistake this spanking will make you squirm, kick your legs and yes the tears will come. Your bottom will be blistered from the tops of your cheeks down to the middle and insides of your thighs and, it is very likely, I would have you separate your bum cheeks for a few swats there as well. It is about this time that you will lose your concentration, close your legs and your panties will fall.

      As soon as you’ve realized what has happened you will plead for forgiveness, but it will be too late! You are instructed to get off my lap and take a kneeling position in front of me. I tell you how disappointed I am that you could not do a simply thing like keep your panties in place. Now you will have to pay the price with your mouth, pussy, and asshole for a good old fashioned ass sperming, and ending with well you’ll find out soon enough. You are instructed to undo my belt and zipper and help remove my pants and shorts so that you may have unfettered access to my cock. After I am naked from the waist down you are told to place your hands behind your back and open your mouth. I instruct you to take my cock in your mouth and to face fuck yourself on it until I tell you to stop. This I let you do for a good five minutes, or so, telling you to make sure that you get it deep and good and wet as that is the only lube you will be getting. Once I’m done with your mouth you will be expected to thank me for letting you suck my cock. From there I have you stand and bend over the spanking chair, so that your hands are resting on the seat, with your legs spread, good and wide, for your pussy penance. I slowly move in behind you rubbing my now very wet cock over your freshly spanked bottom and feeling the heat emanating from your very red cheeks.

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      I place the head of my cock against your pussy lips and place my hands on your hips. The first couple of thrusts are slow and easy but after that the thrusts are hard and fast and you quickly realize that you are getting a punishment fucking. You hope that I will come so that you won’t get your ass fucking penance, but when you feel me pulling out of your pussy you succumb to the inevitable. You realize I am waiting for something and then remember how you needed to thank me for sucking my cock and quickly thank me for the pussy fucking. You feel my fingers on your pussy and then on your bottom hole as I generously try to give you some extra lube. I place my cock against your bottom hole and proceed to enter your tight bum hole. It is difficult at first but Sir prevails and your anal penance is completed when I give you a nice warm sperming in your ass. Again you realize I am waiting, but by the time you remember it is too late and feel a hard hand smack on each cheek. You are asked if you have something to say and quickly thank Sir for your ass penance fucking. I make you kneel again in front of the spanking chair. While I stand in front of you with my back turned and take your place, bent over the chair. You are then told to spread my ass cheeks, place your face between them, and perform your final penance until I am satisfied that you have done well. I take you to the bathroom, my well spanked and chastised little slut, and help you to wash up and clean yourself. Then and only then are you allowed to dress and leave, your punishment completed.

      That’s what would happen to you if we were in closer proximity and I could do whatever I wanted! Has that got my naughty little girl nice and horny and wet?

      Now back to that spanking you’ve got coming to you. It is obviously not possible for me to do it personally but I do believe that I can assign a surrogate to do it for me. My first choice would be your sister Sue. Based on the spanking she has already given you I think she is the person you would most fear a spanking from. However, I feel your wanton disregard, for thinking that you can still make decisions and choices where I am concerned, requires that the spanking comes from a man.

      So here is your sentence which I fully expect to be carried out. You will show David the cartoon and tell him how you have been fantasizing about it. I will provide you with the raw cartoon without captions. You may then use your own captions or come up with a story of your own, as long as it about a woman trying to be dommy and the tables being turned on her. You will then have David give you your spanking, a timeout, and a reason for a second spanking. You will also offer David one of the penances described above. It will be up to you as to which one is proffered, but the more challenging you make it; the more Sir will be pleased. I fully expect that you will share the experience with your readers upon completion of this task.

      I think a reasonable time frame for this task to be completed, would be four weeks from today, however I am reasonable and would be willing to negotiate a different date if need be. ;-)

      TIM

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    8. Oh no... I made myself wet reading this, Sir.

      As soon as I sent the email, and then saw your first comment and realized that actually you already commented and I could have gotten away without the above, I suddenly regretted my email in that funny, very humiliating way, that simultaneously wanted you to and didn't want you to post such a comment as the one above.

      It's because due to these circumstances especially, I am required to be truthful, so rather that lying and saying, "Ewww, you disgusting pervert!" or trying to turn the tables saying I would do something along those lines to you, I am compelled to admit the truth: that what you wrote essentially turns me on fiercely. Every last humiliating part of it.

      Four weeks is very reasonable Sir, and I promise to carry it out as indicated. There is only one small request. You said I should pick one of the four penances described above. May I be permitted to pick all four, Sir? Please!? The first two may have to be foreshortened to allow for my husband's excitement. And, if allowed, may I do the fourth penance (the tonguing of his anus) before the third to insure his member is fully rigid for the anal penetration and sperming?

      Oh dear...

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    9. julie… shame on you for allowing yourself to get wet. When David gives you that spanking be sure that it is a good one!!

      You have asked for permission to perform all four penances I described. I do not usually reverse myself when I have given an underling a task to perform. However, as you are so politely asking to do all four of them permission is cheerfully granted. As is the permission to perform them in whichever order will work best for David!

      I certainly hope you are appreciative of this as I was considering assigning a token belt whipping (10 straps) in exchange for allowing you to do all the penances. However I feel you have enough activities to perform for one session.

      TIM

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    10. Oh gosh, Thank you very very much, Sir!

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    11. Hatty !! (Can I call you Hatty?)
      Such a carefull manoeuvring, such an ambitious strategy ! And, at the last battle, you lose everything in one fatal blow...
      Ô strenght of cunning and vice together ! :"There is only one small request. Sir ? Please ?"
      And you, cheated father since the beginning of Times ! : " I do not usually reverse myself..."
      Why did not you stop there!
      No ! You have fallen into the trap like an old fool ! : " However, as you are so politely asking..."
      Game, set and match ! Impudence had the last word and won.

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  13. I don't know the answer but I have watched my wife, who dominates me so easily, slip into a submissive role lots of times.....but I always felt that she was a dominant indulging a submissive fantasy....not that she was becoming submissive!
    I am a subby all the time and she likes to play as one but I don't think she is one or could ever really be one!!!
    Love
    Kaaren

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    1. Potatoes / po-tat-os (hard to spell that phrase!)

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  14. I like to tease my boyfriends, my room mate she told me it will catch up with me. It did but not with a date it was her. We doubled dated, I was having fun and my date was perplexed. Arriving back to our apartment little was said, in the morning while having coffee a knock on the door and it was the person I was teasing last night. Morning he said, forgot to say something last night, before I knew it I was over lap, my room mate handed him my hairbrush and then she pulled my panties down and off. He soundly spanked my bottom, it was stinging and very warm when he stood me up. Felt good he said with a smile, gave the brush to my room mate and left. I looked at her and said you set me up. Smiling she said yes, cold water should ease the pain. I stood in the shower letting the water cool my spanked botttom, drying off my roommate said this should help and applied cream to my bottom.

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    1. Awwwww! Sweet friend, getting you what you wanted and needed!

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  15. A woman can be what ever she want to be up to her she may need try every thing least once or twice dom, sub or switch find which one really is her calling you seem be all 3 now but your more powerful trait is dom you seem know already learn fast what do to david and why how to give him spankings now you had taste of sub to Tracy and Sue you enjoy being sub as mention you switch as well to me iam not sure i be comfortable a women who dom me spank me etc also get same treatment from some one else i dont think i can do same to her. guess for now i need a strict dom female to punish me etc

    as for question if women are wired be submissive i will say yes she can be same reason a male or man can be sub to there partner wife/gf lot mens not ashame say their wife/gf spank them or get spankings from them and the female wife/gf not ashame either of their role either in realtinship so go both way i guess sorry couldn't answer your questions

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    1. Yes mike, insightful. There are depths to you!

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    2. Thanks you miss Julie bend or kiss your feet i didn't know i had depths to me? what kind are they?

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  16. According to the way our sexual fantasies work, my wife is wired TOP and me, well, I aim to please.

    Marco & Lindsay

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    1. That's what I thought as well, until one day when a subby thought got me aroused...

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    2. Hello Miss Julie, that may be as it is, but you never met my loving wife. And, for that matter, I love pleasing and serving.

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  17. No doubt things are different here than in the original years of this blog. These days, sometimes I think it should be called Sub Julie Gets Spanked! There are Tops who like the feeling of being spanked, but they remain in control. IOWs, they don't submit. The Top directs what they want done to them, and that tends to be well within their own comfort zone. We can't say that here. When you get spanked now, you are controlled and have good reason to be embarrassed and feel the sharp sting of humiliation. The reality of that is what makes you wet. Your arousal makes you submit. You're trapped, but you like it. Welcome to subby world.

    Remember the Sisterly Spanking Aftermath post. In case readers forgot, Julie had been waiting anxiously in tingling anticipation of her scheduled appointment with her strict sister Sue, and she had asked for my input because she knew I understood what her punishment spanking was going to be like. We corresponded in a new way. No "Strict Julie" here. Close as I can describe it, I felt brotherly, like we were siblings commiserating together under the blanket of our shared position as helpless children. Aw, my poor little sister! Like the pampered baby of the family, never before for her bratting had she faced THESE consequences. She had taken much pleasure in teasing me before, but now this was all about her little bottom. Wasn't quite so amusing for you then, was it, Julie? You were in deep trouble for disrespecting Sue, and I was loving OUR anticipation of YOUR long overdue painful and humiliating comeuppance.

    We all know what eventually happened to you. Not only did Sue give you a totally authentic punishment spanking to tears over her knee, you then had to climb the stairs with your red hot throbbing bottom to suffer that final shocking indignity. You submitted your little bottom hole to david to avoid more spanking from your big sister. So we saw you owned by your big sister. Through that episode, it became even more apparent that you are deeply submissive, actually quite helpless, when it comes to other strong, dominant females. Through your writing, one can almost hear the servile tone of those "Yes, Ma'ams." Is it a "Mommy" thing? Is that what Sue represents as your authority figure now? However, it didn't end there. It continues here in this thread, except your submission is no longer restricted to other females, and it IS a "Daddy" thing. You thought you were in a position of superiority, condescended, and found yourself over the knee for a little virtual Daddy spanking. That drawing helped you visualize it, to bring it to life. You did submit.

    Will it ever be brought into the realm of reality, where you fully submit to a real punishment spanking from "Daddy"? It's exactly what you need, young lady.

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    1. Oh dear. It feels like I'm being gang banged on this blog entry. The disturbing part is how much it excites me to be treated thus!

      Yes, Sir, I will submit as TIM above has requested. I will be asking for a no holds barred hand spanking from my husband in two installments, with corner time between, and sexual penance afterwards, including a humiliating anal reaming of his bottom hole with my tongue, a literal first for me... oh blush!

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  18. I need to get off this submissive loop! Fortunately my babysitter roleplay post is almost ready. One more proofread! Can't be soon enough!!!

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    1. A trip over my knee will motivate you to finish quickly.

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    2. Ms Julie - brings new meaning to that academic phrase, "Publish or perish," wouldn't you agree? ;-)

      -t.

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    3. Phew! Published!
      Hoping the comment activity will die down here...

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  19. You cannot get off this "submissive loop". You have always been on it, always submissive ever since as a young girl you sat on daddy's lap with your short hemline rising. Stop fighting this losing battle and embrace your natural, dark submissive side. Daddy has missed you.

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    1. Fuck... never thought of it as being submissive. Thought I was the tease, controlling the man with my sexuality. But you're right, of course. I was an instant away from being turned across his knee, asking for it, DESERVING it. Fuck...

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    2. Btw I see your daddy submission as a positive. Flirtatious, scantily clad, cockteasing daughters should be careful what they wish for. In the interest of family harmony, Daddy will have to act. Sue, as a victim of your selfish behaviour, will assist.

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    3. Quite right. Just realizing that IN SPADES now. Daddy (r/l that is!!) might see me spanked! Stay tuned!

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    4. Spanked AND bound and fucked by r/l daddy. Sue to have the honour of guiding the insertion of r/l daddy's member into whichever of your holes she chooses.

      This is fair punishment and a deterrent for a wicked daughter who wears tight t shirts and little panties to tease daddy, an aunt who wears cheeky cut bikinis to show off her tight butt and give her young nephews erections and a sister who, despite agreed boundaries, makes her sister spread cum all over her naked breasts.

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    5. But she' 'gonna choose the ass! For some reason it's always the ass...
      But yes, that's a fair punishment for a little cockteaser like me...

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    6. It's so sexy. I can't help but to send you the french translation :
      "Mais elle va choisir le cul! Pour une raison quelconque, c'est toujours le cul ...Mais vous avez raison, c'est une punition juste pour une petite agaceuse de bite comme moi ..."

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    7. French is a wonderful language!

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  20. Here's what you wrote on the subject of daddy some years ago;

    "I'm the middle girl of 3 and I remember always competing fiercely for my daddy's attention. I would throw myself into his lap and hug and kiss him, just monopolise him so my sisters couldn't."

    "Sometimes I deliberately do things I know are sexual like wear a short skirt or a low cut blouse and still play at being daddy's little girl."

    "Would I care if [daddy had sexual thoughts about me]? Suppose he and I were marooned, just the two of us, on an island in the South Pacific. In my fantasy, I would offer myself to him."

    Sounds pretty submissive.

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  21. In general I don't put a lot of stock on biological hard-wiring. That said cultural and social conditioning that goes back millennia possibly has a lot to do with women being more prone to having submissive tendencies.

    Interestingly, I find that women who are aggressive, dominant, powerful and independent in their social and professional lives often, though obviously not always, secretly or not so secretly crave to be "put in their place" by a dominant man in the safety of their home.

    Which works very well for me :)

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    1. I am those things and like that thought also. Makes me tingle down there. This time perhaps not quite "in the safety of my home" if my pervertedly evil plan works out... Oh Dear, I'm surely crazy, but am driven seek out these humiliating thrills. So strange!

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