Our Scening FLR Lifestyle

I keep getting more and more new blog viewers. Thank you very much and welcome!  I thought I would take a post to re-introduce myself and my husband, and explain how our "Scening FLR" works.

So, this is me,

Here I'm holding one of my favourite implements: my strap (actually a double-thick, leather, twin-tailed tawse).

This strap can really sizzle my husband's bare buttocks!

I've been married to my beloved and highly accomplished husband david for just over ten years now. Before david I was quite the party girl, and travelled and had a lot of sex. Like many women, I've had some very bad experiences with men (like, horrendous), and, of course, some wonderful ones. As a result of some of my bad experiences, I got very panicky when men tried to dominate me. As a result, I developed  a more "woman on top and in control" mentality towards sex. Clearly this was something that my husband found attractive in me!

About three years into our marriage he got up the gumption to share his lifelong fantasy of being domestically dominated by his wife. This initially came in the form of a casual inquiry regarding spanking, and if I was into it at all. He asked about him spanking me, which at the time was a very hard NO for my part (I've since come ridiculously around on this topic, more on that later). While he was moderately interested in that, he was much more interested in the other way around, but did not know how to broach it. So instead he took a path where he could at least retreat strategically with his manhood intact!

Fortunately, he did not retreat, and he followed this up with the question of whether I might enjoy spanking him? I asked him if that would turn him on and he said it would, and he was just so cute, like a blushing little boy, I could not resist. I did not have any firm feelings about spanking him. It did not turn me on but I was intrigued more about the power exchange, and of course fulfilling his fantasy just because I loved him. And what's the big deal about spanking him anyways (I was already pretty dominant in bed, as I mentioned).

As well, after about 5 years or so of being together, our love life had settled into a bit of a ho-hum rhythm, and I was noticing him masturbating to online porn, which made me question my own sexual worth. So I also saw this as a chance to spice things up by acting out his fantasy of being spanked.

I asked him how he wanted to be spanked and he was quite specific about it. It needed to be over my knee, on his bare bottom, with a hairbrush, and me as an angry wife scolding him for something he had done wrong. He handed me a heavy wooden hairbrush I did no know we even had.

Well, I spanked him, and after getting my rhythm after a few frustrating false starts where we were failing to communicate, I found I quite enjoyed it in an empowering, slightly sadistic, definitely sexual way (a little to my surprise).

And besides the spanking, sex afterwards was great as well!

After that initial experience he opened up to me about how this had been a fantasy of his since he was a young teenager. I also found out that most of his porn viewing was spanking-related videos. I went on the Internet and started doing research, and was surprised by the sheer quantity of stuff and number of men excited by female domestic domination. That got me into a forum, and from there I started posting to this blog. To the best of my knowledge, my husband does not know about this blog, but it would be just like him to know all about it and not tell me!

He was mainly into the Domestic Discipline thing, and his main fantasy was of a Dominant Wife (and me in particular, which is cool). It did not suit either of us, however, to make a "lifestyle" of it. We both value our mature, adult relationship. I married a man, not a child, and he has no desire being my child, and prides himself on taking responsibility for traditionally "manly" things.

As a result, we evolved our play by getting into what I have termed a "Scening Female Led Relationship." Outside of "scenes", we have a perfectly normal, totally vanilla relationship, with pretty much the stereotypical husband and (working) wife roles. Yes, I wind up doing more than my fair share of the housework; but he does the fix-it work, the electronics, most of the outside chores, and takes care of our vehicles and such. We are both FINE with that!

I'm more of a healthy eating and fitness fiend than he, but he regularly gains and then diets to get back to a healthy weight (at which he looks great, by the way!). We both like being active with cycling in the summer and cross-country skiing in the winter. He does his martial arts training, and I am regularly in the gym. We both have personal trainers to whip us into shape (mine is a currently a guy at the gym nearby work, and his a girl who comes by our house). We both have fairly demanding careers. No kids now nor planned (a little late now anyways). No pets.

So yes, a very boring work-obsessed couple, and we like it that way.

BUT...

We certainly do have our kinky side! From time-to-time (maybe once a week or two on average) we do a "scene". Sometimes we discuss a scene in advance, but other times I spontaneously "scene him" as a surprise. That is my exclusive prerogative. He does not get to "scene me" as a surprise.

Why this asymmetry? I've never really asked myself until just now. At one level it's fairly simple,

It's also very related to the difficult time I used to have with the notion of a man dominating me. I really needed to be in complete control for this to work. It's also about me not always being in the mood to be dominated (now), but him seemingly ALWAYS ready to have me dominate him. So the rule works for us. We have a general-purpose safeword he can use whenever he feels the need to get out of a scene, even right at the start of one of my spontaneous scenings, though he has never yet used it in all these years, so I guess he likes it (or is afraid I'll stop!).

For these spontaneous scenes, it is always the "strict wife / naughty husband" roleplay. I usually pick up on something that is a tiny bit annoying, but not so important that I want to have a real adult discussion with him about it. Staring at a girl's ass or boobs in the street. Leaving the kitchen a mess. Neglecting a chore. That sort of thing. Also, it's cool that he masturbates to online porn, and I usually can guess when he's at it in his upstairs study, so if I "catch him" red-handed, that's a great scene reason. He once zoomed past a rest stop on the highway that I really needed, and boy did he get epicly scened for that (husband diapered in front of sister)! So sometimes I do use it to cope with things that truly annoy me, like the time I retroactively punished him for continuing to visit massage parlours after we were married by taking him to one, having him well-teased, then spanking him in front of the girl and taking him home hard (Very Public Massage Parlour Spanking!).

And yes, we do involve other women in our scening. I actually found it very empowering to demonstrate my dominance in front of other women, and for him it was, like, an ultimate fantasy come true. So it was a good match.

One of our early co-conspirators was my older sister Sue.

I knew Sue was a bit kinky herself (she worked as a fetish model in SF for a time), and we shared everything with one another, and this was just killing me not to share, so I did. For a time, I teased david about having my sister see him spanked. He was very excited about that (it was the closest to a threesome with my former model sister he would ever get!). She actually broached it with me to come watch and participate (I had been hinting). She was just so totally cool with it that it was very easy for me to spank him in front of her that first time, and to have her spank him.

That first time with Sue was so memorable. For her arrival, I had him dressed in panties and a bra! He was sooo embarrassed to be seen like that, but it was either that or calling it off, so he obeyed. Sue teased him mercilessly over that! I spanked him first over his panties, but Sue asked if he was going to be allowed to keep them up, and so they came down. I pulled them back up before standing him up and putting him over my sister's knee. She asked him if she should lower his panties as I had done, and he said "yes ma'am" to her. Naughty boy! After a good spanking across her knee we ended with a panties off diaper-position spanking on the floor where we could both clearly see all his charms! (see Husband Spanked by my Sister!). How humiliating!

It's so much fun being able to share this thing with my sister, and it emboldened me to do it with other women as well, so david has been spanked in front of many women by now! I confess that I don't understand wives who so vehemently reject this sort of play, as it is highly empowering and the absolute opposite of his "stepping out". He's being shown who's boss in front of other girls!

So I became very comfortable with spanking and related play (such as cross-dressing him, and using a strap-on dildo on him). And the more I did it, the more empowering for me it was.

In fact, somewhere along the way I lost my fear of being dominated. Initially I thought I was ok just with a woman dominating me. After a strange series of events, it wound up by my having a female friend I had the hots for give me a "real" paddling with a paddle a blog fan made for me (a long story - see Julie in for a Severe Paddling!). I had my friend take "before and after" photos of me...

That was the first time I was spanked without me being fully "in control", and I found it incredibly sexy. As you can tell from the "after" photo, It hurt like fucking hell, but I submitted completely to a full paddling: three sets of 24 across her knee, a final set of 24 on my back with my legs held high and back (BLUSH!). I felt so sexy and submissive right then!

Tracy suggested that her husband John ought to see me being spanked next time. Rather than being panicked by that thought, I actually found it also incredibly sexy. So I had a follow-up where I got a belt whipping in front of him. Before the whipping, Tracy took me shopping for a belt, and while there she bought me a onesy 'cause she thought it was cute on me. So this is how I had to present myself to her husband!!! (blush, blush, blush!)

There was a bit on interaction with her hubby, and it really excited me. (Julie's Belt Licking!)

So we set up another get together where I would receive my spanking from him, maybe followed by a... a... fucking...

We set it up as a "schoolgirl" roleplay, with Tracy and John as my Mommy and my Daddy (I have a "Daddy thing"). This was my outfit.

Cute!

Tracy wanted to take a few pics of me "before", and this is one of the pics she took while her husband John watched!

During the scene, I got an over-the-knee hand spanking from him. A real one! Ouch! Loved it! And then another world-class paddling from her! This is me after my hand spanking from Daddy, waiting with my panties down for my paddling from Mommy.

And then this is me after my paddling!!!

There was still a question at that point if I would allow John to fuck me, but I was such a horny little slut that I really needed it just then, so I suggested it as additional "punishment" from Daddy.

Tracy wasn't going to give me to her husband just like that, so she first gave me a belt licking, including playing the tip of the belt across my pussy, and even whipping my pussy lightly while he watched!

After the spankings I was stripped bare naked, put on my knees and made to give deep oral to him. After that I was stood up, bent over, and fucked by him, hard and long, including a full sperming into my pussy. All that time his wife watched and cheered him on. (Schoolgirl Punishment)

This was all done with my husband's full support and encouragement (though he was not there). I rewarded him by serving him up Tracy for his full pleasure!

The whole episode with Tracy's husband made me realize I no longer was afraid of being dominated by a guy. Since then, I have had my husband dominate me very thoroughly (more thoroughly than Tracy's husband ever dreamed of!) and have been very turned on by it. Odd that it had to happen from a virtual stranger before my own husband. In my mind, I thought I would panic, and did not want to feel that way with my husband. As it turned out, I didn't!

One of my more memorable spankings from my husband was doled out in front of my whole family! I arranged it all, of course, but wound up getting more than the one swat I bargained for, and instead got a full SIX SWATS while EVERYBODY watched! (Julie Spanked in front of Family!)

We played it off as a lark, fun "retribution" for me smacking him in front of them all. In fact, it was my Dad responsible for "commuting" my sentence from one retaliatory smack to six! David asked if I would behave from now on and I told him "No!", so even more blushy he bundled me into my coat and took me right home for a further "discussion", as he called it. Everybody there knew I would be a happily spanked wife that night. I still can't believe we did that!

So, as you can see, we get up to quite a lot of mischief. By now, I'm as comfortable and find it as sexy to spank or be spanked.

Well, I hope that catches you up a bit. There's a lot more I skipped, but you can find it all somewhere in my blog. I hope you enjoyed my little trip through memory lane!