Timeouts

I was talking to a friend at work the other day who is an executive assistant to one of the male execs, and the subject of timeouts (in the context of her child) came up, and that inspired this blog post.

I have gotten to know this lady quite well: we chat almost every day and go out together fairly often for lunch. Her name is Abigail and she's from a Jewish family. She's married and has a one-year-old son and an almost three-year-old daughter. Her Mom looks after the kids during the day. She has a University degree and is pretty, smart, educated, and funny (though is still working on losing some of that baby weight).

Closest I could find of not her!

I often ask about her kids. She's been having trouble with the behavior of the girl lately. Not quite out of the "terrible twos" yet, she tells me. I ventured to her (heart pounding a bit) that when I was a kid I got smacked on the bum and that seemed to have done the trick. She seemed envious and said "if only!" Parents nowadays are not allowed to smack their kids. She says even timeouts are being questioned in favour of "positive parenting" (see Time-Out versus Time-In), but she still would favour timeouts.

Have you noticed that when you're a spanko like us (you readers you), even mentioning the topic of punishments, timeouts, and spankings makes your heart beat a little faster? But vanilla people can routinely talk about such things in regards to child rearing without ascribing any significance beyond face value, bless their little vanilla hearts.

Of course, forget about kids, I do, for real, put my husband in timeouts and smack his bum when he is naughty. We have a "scening FLR" (Female-Led Relationship for any newbies), not a "real FLR"; but I often find real-life excuses to start a scene, and he always submits to me when I start a scene, and I'm always super-realistic in playing the part of the FLR wife; so how different is that from a real FLR?

So while we were talking about the pros and cons of butt smacking versus timeouts versus "positive parenting" I could not help but think of my husband in this context, though I did not "spill the beans" at all to her (at least not yet).

Timeouts in and of themselves seem pretty scary. Here are some quasi-governmental suggestions for Using Time-Outs.

1. Check the behavior and give a warning
2. Tell your child why
   
3. Have your child sit in time-out
   When you get to the time-out space, tell him to sit down. Tell him to stay in the time-out space until you say he can get up. When your child is in time-out:
   • Do NOT let anyone talk with him.
   • Do NOT let him play with anything.
   When you first use time-out, you may have to return your child to time-out several times.
   
   No one should give your child any attention while he is in time-out. Do not look at your child, do not talk to your child, and do not touch your child. Make sure your child’s brothers and sisters are also not giving him attention in time-out.
   
   Time-outs can be given anywhere (the grocery store, the car), but it still needs to be a time-out from anything your child may find fun and entertaining. In public places, your child might face a wall or something boring.
   
   If your child is not cooperating with time-out in a public place, you may take him to a place that is not surrounded by people. For example, you could take your child to a bathroom stall if he will not behave in the store.


4. End time-out
5. Praise the next good thing your child does

I love how this government website, whenever it uses a gendered pronoun, uses "him" exclusively as the example gender for timeouts. A bunch of femdoms in training!

As I read this, I could easily substitute "husband" for "child":

3. Have your husband sit in time-out
   When you get to the time-out space, tell him to sit down. Tell him to stay in the time-out space until you say he can get up. When your husband is in time-out:
   
   • Do NOT let anyone talk with him.
   • Do NOT let him play with anything.
   When you first use time-out, you may have to return your husband to time-out several times.
   
   No one should give your husband any attention while he is in time-out. Do not look at your husband, do not talk to your husband, and do not touch your husband. Make sure your guests and relatives are also not giving him any attention in time-out.
   
   Time-outs can be given anywhere (the grocery store, the car), but it still needs to be a time-out from anything your husband may find fun and entertaining. In public places, your husband might face a wall or something boring.
   
   If your husband is not cooperating with time-out in a public place, you may take him to a place that is not surrounded by people. For example, you could take your husband to a bathroom stall in the ladies' room if he will not behave in the store.

See what I mean? Perfectly translates. I once read somewhere that while certainly not all punishments suitable for a grown man are suitable for a child, all punishments suitable for a child are also suitable for a grown man. Words of wisdom to an FLR-oriented wife.

My husband's timeouts are a little more harsh than would be appropriate for a child. I have him facing a wall in the living room where he is made to hold up a coin with his nose. I make him cross his arms behind his back and I tie something loose around them such as scotch tape. I can then go about my business knowing that he is secure in his timeout. If he moves at all the coin will drop and it is impossible for him to put it back without his arms. If he breaks the light bindings around his arms to help get the coin back, I will know that. I can actually even leave the house with him like that, secure in the knowledge that there is no way for him to not complete his timeout without me finding out. This image by Sardax is more illustrative of the position I am talking about.

The depicted timeout also includes gagging, feminization, a fully bared bottom, a female witness, and the imminent threat of a bare bottomed hairbrush spanking from his wife in front of the other woman (his mother-in-law perhaps?). These are all elements I have included in my husband's timeouts.

Length of timeout varies depends on his behaviour and my mood. We have done anywhere from five minutes to well over an hour. Even five minutes can seem like a long time to him when he's in timeout. Anything longer than that adds a greater element of physical punishment as well, as it is a stress position. An hour in timeout like this is a pretty severe punishment that he very genuinely would not want repeated.

I have an iron clad rule that if he breaks timeout, he restarts it from the beginning. If he is even a minute away from completing a thirty minute timeout, and the coin drops, he repeats the full thirty minutes (sometimes after a short sharp correction, but more on that later). The only acceptable conclusion for a timeout is me going to him, asking him if he is learning his lesson, getting a yes and an apology for the behaviour, and then me taking the coin from the wall myself, thus releasing him. I have applied this rule on multiple occasions, and am very serious about it, and he knows it absolutely. And believe me, after having done 29 minutes of a 30 minute timeout, the last thing he wants to do is drop that coin and have to start from the beginning again but with a freshly paddled or belt-strapped bottom.

While he knows how long his timeout will be during his "sentencing", he does not have a time reference during timeout, except sometimes I will let him know how far along he is if I am feeling nice: "only ten more minutes".

Even a timeout all by itself is an utter humiliation for a husband being sentenced to it by his wife. Of course, it is my husband's kink to be humiliated by me in this fashion, but it makes it no less humiliating for him. Elements of forced feminization are often present in my husband's case, from panties, to bras, to schoolgirl skirts, stockings and garters, and even dresses. A number of other women have been present while my husband was in just such embarrassing timeout, even some vanilla women.

Unlike for how the government recommends that parents deal with children, there is no prohibition against spanking husbands when they are naughty. So timeout is almost always either preceded by, or followed by (or both), some form of corporal punishment as well.

Most commonly, he is invited over my knee for a quite strict hairbrush spanking.

By the time I am done with him his bottom will be deep red and he will be madly kicking his legs, writhing across my lap, apologizing profusely for his behaviour, promising he will never do it again, and begging me to stop.

Of course, from my point of view, a spanking doesn't really start until after he is begging for me to stop, and he will be spending many more frantic minutes across my knee after he has reached that point. For an example of "my style", I refer you to the video I made with my husband (Strict Julie Spanks).

The spanking may take place in front of witnesses, and is in fact recommended wherever it can be managed.

The image immediately above shows a misbehaving husband in the 1980s being very publicly corrected by his wife in front of her two girlfriends she happened to have invited over for a drink that day. The infraction was a speeding ticket that he did not tell her about that she noticed immediately before the photograph was taken. Unfortunately for him, justice delayed is justice denied in this household, and so he was further embarrassed by having his wife's friends present to witness his embarrassing bare-bottomed punishment (to tears) and the one hour of sniffly-nosed pants-down timeout that ensued.

Spankings combined with timeouts have a long history between dominant females and submissive males.

Here, for example, we see a photograph from the 1950's of a mother who has just gotten done paddling her son's caboose in the front room. He was then required to stand in timeout facing the corner with his pajama bottoms puddled around his ankles and his hands on his head until bedtime. The choice of the front room was not accidental. Any siblings, relatives, or visitors will see the boy's timeout, the humiliation of which deliberately adds to his punishment. The state of his bared bottom also clearly signals that his Mother has taken very seriously the misbehavior that prompted his punishment, and paddled him strictly beforehand. This is of course incredibly embarrassing to have that known and displayed so vividly and in such a public location for a boy of his age. Moreover, he may well be waiting for his father to come home and apply a healthy dose of strap oil to that naughty bottom before he is sent to bed without supper, crying his eyes out like a six-year-old child. As a "Strict Wife", I derive considerable inspiration in how to deal with my husband from images such as these.

Some wives insist on full nudity during timeout, and in embarrassing locations in the house.

This one was stripped and switched and then
placed in fully nude timeout ("birthday suit punishment")
in front of a window with the shades open for viewing.
See him cowering in his corner hoping to avoid the gaze
of his neighbors in his present state?

Others are subject to embarrassing forced feminization treatments during timeout.

This one was put in white stockings and garter belt
prior to his spanking, and then made to do
timeout dressed "like a girl"

Extra "womanly" chores can be assigned while being "panty trained", ideally with other women there to witness it.

This husband was fairly severely whipped in his birthday suit and
then "panty trained" by his wife during kitchen chores immediately after.
His mother-in-law was allowed to stay and watch the whole thing.
In fact, she took this photo to show to her friends the severity of
the whipping her daughter delivers and how her son-in-law is
"panty trained" afterwards, a new and amusing concept for her.

Sometimes rather than being treated as females, husbands are treated like babies as part of their punishment.

One of the more humiliating and exposed positions for a spanking,
called the "diaper position" for obvious reasons.
His penis, testicles, and bottom hole are fully displayed and available
for whipping if the offense warrants it.
A diapering is often not far behind.

Another variant of the "diaper position".

Made more humiliating when assisted by a friend or relation, such as a sister.

Here we can more easily see the full extent of the husband's exposure.
When other women are present, this level of exposure is only used
when a point must truly be driven home and the husband put firmly in his place.
His heretofore private parts will be fully displayed to
all woman watching this husband's chastisement,
with absolutely nothing left to the imagination,
a level of exposure usually reserved only for his wife or doctor.

And as alluded to in some of the captions above, sometime husbands are even diapered by their wives for punishment. I have done this to my husband in front of other women.

He is then required to drink a liter of water and stand in timeout until he publicly pees his diaper and then very vocally and politely requests that his diaper be changed, which I will happily oblige even while my guests look on.

Some punishments, however, are best meted out in private.

This punishment is really the ultimate in terms of forced feminization that cause him to fully embrace his submissive side. To be honest, there is one step further which involves recruiting a muscular, well-endowed male who will take the husband across his lap for a long hard spanking, and then have sex with the husband as if he were a woman (oral and anal included - to completion). This is called forced-bi, and is a powerful weapon in a Strict Wife's arsenal that her heterosexual husband will fear above almost all other things.

A muscular recruit delivering "forced-bi" to this husband as punishment
under the direction of the wife. The gentleman is encouraged to leave a copious
"sperm deposit" deep up her husband's bumhole. During subsequent naked timeout,
the sperm will dribble embarrassingly down the backs of the punished husband's legs.

Before I close with a question for you regarding Abigail, I leave you with some miscellaneous photographs along the lines of this blog article that I collected and captioned for you while doing my photo search.

This is a spanking for masturbation.
Look at the very large hairbrush on the table in front of her
and the dirty magazine illicitly purchased by him that she is surveying.
His underpants will remain where they are before and during his spanking,
and afterwards during timeout as well. A week in diapers as an impromptu
"chastity device" is a possibility after such an offense.

Quite "mainstream" at one time!

A very serious looking FLR spanking!

So true!

A very sore bum for a feminized hubby.

Bare bottomed timeout.
Pre-spanking (I hope!)

An embarrassing little hand spanking that can be delivered
in the ladies' room or a change room in a store as a quick
"attitude adjustment" that can be reinforced once home again.
If other women walk in during this husband's chastisement,
it certainly would not bother me for them to stay and watch
in order to help drive the lesson home. Very many would.

An "extra" hard spanking for this husband.
His wife is making her displeasure known
in no uncertain terms.

A severe spanking in the relative privacy of the bedroom,
though the sounds of the scolding, of wood on bare flesh, and of his frantic cries
will be heard throughout the house, and especially by his wife's aunt
and cousins who are staying the weekend. He will be warned that if he
continues being unpleasant towards them, further spankings
and subsequent timeouts will by no means be as private.
A full apology to them will be expected, along with a dropping of
his trousers to show them all the full extent of his punishment.
He will then turn to deliver a bare penis apology.

Timeout with glowing red bum on display.
He knows that in ten minutes time he will be required to turn
and face his wife and her sister, hands at his sides,
and apologize for his atrocious behaviour.

A classic "heads down" spanking in the bathroom
allowing the legs to flutter kick freely.
[From a Kelly Payne video "The Internet Thief"
featuring blog reader NaturalSub
whose blog is A man getting spanked]

A typical spanking in an FLR household.
Corner time to follow.

This husband failed to perform his household chores for Thanksgiving weekend,
leaving it to his wife and her sisters to get them done. His wife is pissed!
As punishment, she has taken the unusual step of stripping him down to his
birthday suit in full view of her two younger sisters, and then handing him
off to their tender mercies for his spanking. They both deliver enthusiastic
punishments to his naked rear end, causing him to apologize repeatedly
and earnestly (if not frantically) to the sisters for his misbehaviour.
After the guests have left, his wife will take him on a long cold naked walk
by his ear to the woodshed for a strapping he will not soon forget.

And isn't that what it's all about?

Ahh! Letting the imagination run wild. I hope you enjoyed it!

Coming back down to earth...

I plan on taking Abigail out for lunch next week for her birthday. I wonder if I will get the opportunity to make a somewhat innocuous but slightly embarrassing comment about how I deal with my husband when he is naughty? We are good friends. I trust her and could swear her to secrecy. Thinking on it now, I would pretend we had a "for real" FLR which would set david up for an embarrassing evening at the company Christmas party where we will for sure spend some time with her. Thoughts? Inadvisable? Go for it? Let me know!