Monday, June 22

Catching Up

Hi guys! Took a little holiday after posting that very emotional blog two weeks ago that I needed to get off my chest,


and the events from the start of the month where my Mom and Dad spanked me, So a roller-coaster June for me so far.

Interactions with my parents have been totally normal, and it's turned into a bit of a running joke about my spankings and how "spank-happy" I am. This is embarrassing to me, but it's only from those I love, and it turns me on and makes me feel loved and accepted. So yes, there have been a few passing comments here and there. When it's just the inner family circle there is not a gathering that goes by in which my spankings are not at least mentioned in passing by somebody (not me). Sometimes it's a subtle as "has she been a good girl this week?" to David, and I blush on cue. They seem disappointed when here is no spanking to report, and tease me when there is. On one such occasion Dad quipped that I "wanted nothing so much as a good spanking," and Mom agreed that was true.

I've asked David to cool it with pushing the issue of spanking me over there. Sue does not 100% approve, and I don't want to force anything uncomfortable with my folks. I'm very grateful that my spankings have been normalized like this. It sets things up in case a spanking needs to be given in future, even one in jest.

It was actually in jest once that Daddy threatened to put me across his knee when I made a face at one of the dishes Mom had cooked (some really disgusting cabbage thing = yuck = running "joke"). The spanking "threat" was said as a joke, but as a result I ate them and told Mommy how yummy they were, which was embarrassing in and of itself, 'cause Daddy has proven he will spank me and everybody knew it and it was in their minds as I swallowed it down and complimented Mom on her vegetable cooking skills. In fact, the very last spanking from my childhood was Mom spanking me for being stubborn and not eating my peas and eventually throwing them all over her and the room when I was way old enough to know better. She got so mad at me that I think that was the catalyst to stop spanking us kids.

I am biding my time, hoping for another spanking. If Mom serves that dish again, I swear I WILL get up the courage to have a temper tantrum and throw them against the wall. They will know I did it to get spanked, but Mom will have served it knowing that also. I think a whipping for a grown daughter throwing veggies against the wall is reasonable. I can imagine myself scrubbing the wall and floor after with a very sore hairbrush-spanked and belt-whipped butt!


David and I have settled into our switch routine. We've decided the households rules are a) either of us can get spanked anytime for any reason, and b) you get punishment spanked if your spouse is annoyed with you for any reason at all, even if you are in the right. Our theory is that the spanking is to get out some frustrations to keep the relationship healthy, and for the person who annoyed the other to do penance, as our goal is to NOT annoy the other and when we do we have failed.

David got punishment spanked by me the other day for something that was not his fault but that legitimately annoyed me. Let me tell you about it.

We are both working from home of course. Sometime soon after noon we check up on each other to see if we have a mutual good slot to share lunch between meetings. I was free 12-2, so I checked in on David at around 12:15. He was on a call, but he said he would be free 12:30 to 1:30 so we agreed on 12:30. I went ahead and prepared two plates for us. At 12:35 he had still not come down. At 12:40 he had still not come down. At 12:45 he came down and apologized, and said that his call was with someone important and it had gone a bit over and then he needed to send a related email immediately after. We ate a pleasant lunch together outside on the patio. Afterwards we jointly brought the plates in. I rinsed them and opened the dishwasher to put them in, and oh crap, the dishwasher was full with clean dishes, so I asked David to help me unload. He said he was really sorry but that a 1pm call had just come up and he needed to get on that, and he left. None of it was really his fault, but obviously I was annoyed!

But you know what? As I toiled at putting the dishes away it made me much less annoyed planning his punishment spanking.

At 6pm he quit and I already had dinner underway. He came down and we ate together. After dinner was over he was very solicitous about the cleaning up.

"You're being a very good girl, cleaning up all the dishes," I told him, observing his fervour. "But you know that's not going to save your ass, I hope?" I asked him.

"I deserve it..." he said. He knew.

"Finish up the dishes then go take a shower, and come down to the living room and put your nose in the corner until I'm ready to deal with you."

"Yes Ma'am," he said.

"Bra and panties," I added as an afterthought.

"Yes Ma'am," he said again.

See how smoothly it works? He knows when he's annoyed me. I know he really had no choice and I would have done the same in the situation, but we're still going to work it out.

I curled up with my iPad in the living room. He came down and shamefacedly scurried to the corner. He was wearing his red panties and pink bra with the inserts. I let him stand there a bit in anticipation (maybe five minutes).

I left him standing there as I left the room to go upstairs and select an implement. I decided on the little hard rubber paddle. He hates that thing, but it's not injurious and it's very little effort for me to wield effectively.


I went back down to the living room and placed an armless chair in the middle of the room. I sat in it and beckoned David over,

"oh no..." he exclaimed, seeing his instrument of chastisement on my lap.

I picked up the rubber paddle and fondled it in my hands. "Oh Yes," I answered him. He looked very nervous! I think the panties but especially the stuffed bra accentuates the roles we are playing. We both associate the spanker as the more male, Yang sort of role; and the spankee as the more female, Yin sort of role. I was in the jeans and T-shirt. He was in the bra and panties. Don't fight it. Use it.

As he neared me I put my fingers into the waistband of his panties and I pulled then down to his knees. He was erect.

"Do you know why you're being spanked, young lady?" I asked him as I lowered his panties.

"Yes Ma'am," he said. "I annoyed you because I was late for lunch and couldn't help you unloading the dishwasher."

"Yes you did," I agreed with him. "It was extremely annoying, and that means you're getting a good hard spanking. Now get across my knee."

"Yes Ma'am," he said as he draped himself across my knee. I put him right away into the classic "leg lock" position with his right arm bent behind his back and held there, my right leg across the backs of both of his, and his ass hoisted quite high and acutely jacknifed over my left knee. This keeps him in position, opens up his asscheeks that serves up the more tender flesh inside his crack, and makes the backs and insides of his thighs very accessible to me. I could also see his penis and testicles pushing out the back between his legs.

Well, the spanking was memorable, I can say that! I visited all the areas exposed to me. It was a quite extended spanking. I would say fifteen minutes and uncountably many strokes. I varied my intensity but quickly went to a high level and stayed there. He was definitely blubbering, crying out, and begging well before it was anywhere near over.


It felt very cathartic and totally made up for any brief annoyance I felt at lunchtime.

An implement like the one I used is the great equalizer. When David spanks me, his hand is more than sufficient to bring me to the same state I got him into. But my hand only, while hard and practised, can get David nowhere near the level of contrition I expect of him. The evil little rubber paddle is perfect for that. It was not even much effort to swing it to get that result.

I let him up and we hugged and kissed. I told him he could go back upstairs and get changed, as his punishment was over.

Love it!

47 comments:

  1. The essence is there.

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    1. On the one hand,
      The rules, accepted by both parties, seem egalitarian and fair, but their content is subjective and arbitrary: in fact, they will only benefit the winner.
      Rationality is at the service of injustice: the severity of the spanking is inversely proportional to the gravity of the fault.
      On another side,
      imagine now a mother saying, speaking of her son, in front of an audience of guests (us):
      "David got punishment spanked by me the other day for something that was not his fault but that legitimately annoyed me. "
      Do we not imagine this all-powerful and capricious mother, tasting a perverse pleasure in punishing her child under the cover of frivolous rationality.
      And even more, does one not experience some titillation when she begins to tell in detail the punishment.
      Are we not embarrassed to hear her insist on the most humiliating aspects, (a "memorable" spanking, "quite extended" (15 min!), given with this painful instrument that he hates "He hates that thing »
      And finally when it comes to the severity of the spanking "a high level of intensity" and its result "He was definitely blubbering, crying out, and begging well before it was anywhere near over. ", are we not seduced?
      I was talking of this essence, in your post, of "punishment spanking".

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    2. So many thoughts in such a short phrase!

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  2. after so much time together and knowing each others kinks and loving the kinks you both really know how to push each others buttons. I think after David let you down 2x in one day he would have been disappointed if you had not spanked him and even possibably asked for a spanking. I do love the way you get him in panties and bra for spanking and the way he accepts his role as the naughty girl needing spanking. On the home front (your parents home front) I would cool the spanking unless your mom or dad want to spank you. I think throwing food would upset your sister and hurt your relationship where as if your partents find their own reason to spank you it would be more acceptable with her.
    archedone

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    1. Yeah, you're right. It's why I didn't push the issue with the yucky cabbages. It's not something a grown woman would do under any circumstances and would feel unnatural and dishonest. So far everything involving my spankings and my close-in family have been honest and natural and I feel I do need to keep it that way. Looking forward to my birthday, though (it's not until after the summer). I think panties down birthday whacks would not be out of the question?

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  3. Ms Julie, I love reading about your dominant side. Not to be presumptuous, but david deserved his long, hard spanking. No submissive should leave their domme waiting. It's great that you're so productive with your blog. I browse through your blog several times a day. And congratulations on reaching 11 million page views! I admire you're insight into human nature, your writing ability, and your willingness to share your adventurous life with your many fans. lars

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    1. He sure did. I love the little rubber paddle. It's a mini-beast!

      I hadn't noticed the 11M until you pointed it out. Yay!

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  4. I thought maybe you hadn't posted for awhile because you had slipped over the border and gone to Tulsa to join all of the other mouth-breathing, inbred cretins to scream support for the orange creature that you love so much. Any normal decent person would have disowned you. You have ruined any enjoyment or interest that people might find in your blog, knowing that such a mean-spirited, attention-seeking trollop such as yourself inhabits "our world". Shame on you. Move to Florida and join the next wave of disease that is sweeping the state.

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    1. Thank you for taking the time to post that. Sorry to hear that, but as my Grandma used to say, "don't let the door hit you on the way out!"

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    2. Julie, All of my political views don't reflect your's. However, one would expect diverging opinions in a democracy. I respect your thoughts and you have every right to them. Your arguments were tactfully delivered and polite. That's how you debate. Not by being cruel and mean spirited. Your loyal fans, your blog boys, will continue to follow you. As for the mean writer above, he doesn't deserve a spanking. Maybe a mouthful of soap. lars

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    3. Julie thank you for what you do on this site every morning I get up your site it the first I visit. As for the extremely tolorent anonymous poster that is blinded by hate . He can take his marbles and go away mad. If the election goes the liberal way this fall free speech will be a thing of the past. Thought police! But back to spanking I hope your Mom decides you need a spanking soon. You 2 are lucky #livingthedream.

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    4. Letting them have their say is the best way to get regular folks to see how ugly their hateful idealogy is.

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  5. So happy to have you back from your much needed time off!! Love you guys and your blog!!

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  6. Sparkling Clean Subby22 June 2020 at 13:13

    Glad to see you've returned to the blog! As a rare sexually curious conservative, I greatly enjoyed your last post! On a different note, I sent you mail last Friday, I just wondered if you had received it?

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  7. I love your statement about why you punish one another. It's exactly what I want for our relationship. I quoted you in my post for Tuesday. You do an excellent job of defining the essence of domestic discipline.

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    1. Ha ha! Glad that resonated. Read your blog entry. It was good!

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  8. It's such an enticing prospect, living in a permanent domestic discipline relationship were you can be spanked at any time for any reason.

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  9. ahhh back into his proper panties and bra. I am sure they missed him. Probably good for him to give his skirts and tops some attention too. and since he is probably still working from home maybe a little tanning in the backyard in a special bikini

    Emily

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    1. I've been liking the diapering as well...

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    2. oooooh, maybe put a little laxative in his morning coffee while the potty is off limits for the day in diapers

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    3. Was he the one who was diapered? Or was it you?

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    4. I'm the one who deserves it more, what with my tiny bladder!

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    5. You certainly do. A day in diapers would do wonders for you.

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  10. Julie, I think your two simple household rules are perfect! Well done. Graham

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  11. I’m so glad that it seems like you have found a good balance between the extremes of the kink. It easy to sometimes desire something so much but then lose the other side as a switch. It’s neat to see the pendulum of your desire move back an forth!

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  12. I’m surprised by comments expressed in various ways about you having a break from your blog. You have done quite the opposite - eight days of reading and responding to an avalanche of comments about your Spank the Leftists post must have been a huge amount of work for you and I am in awe of how astutely you did it.

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    1. Good point! But I've been posting a lot during COVID to keep everyone entertained. Had to actually put my ass on the line to get enough material!

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  13. Great Julie. You know, I'm from Italy where it seems Covid's emergency is going away (it seems, I don't think so) but however we are not in lockdown anymore, and reading your blog give me a feeling of foreign country life. Yes, a very small piece, but it's what I like and I want. Your last comment "I've been posting a lot during Covid to keep everyone entertained" explain you have a big heart also, I think you are a great woman.
    But, we are here becouse you posted that you would like to be spanked completely naked by your dad. I understand your feeeling becouse I like to be exposed to a woman very much. In my fantasy, I would like to be spanked not so much for the spanking itself but for the exposition. You know what CFNM is.
    For a male, being naked deal with size, for a female yes but not only, I think that baring a breast have to deal with more thing and not only its size. So, what do you feel thinking about baring your chest in front of your dad? You are young so I don't think you have "signs of time", maybe you wanna show him how grown you are? Or else?
    Martin

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    1. It's more the embarrassment aspects. Since before I even had breasts I've been conditioned that showing them is somehow shameful and dirty. Having them bared not for admiration, but as part of the embarrassment of punishment (especially by my Dad OMG!) is the draw for me.

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  14. Hi Julie – This is Kate

    I did not want to interrupt your political stuff but I was dying to let you know that Tommy got his spanking. We set it up so that he got it in front of the couple next store to my mother’s house. He was so embarrassed he actually started crying.
    It was a setup. Ed and Clare, Mom’s neighbors and our good friends, were over after dinner the Saturday before his scheduled Sunday spanking. Mom started talking about it. Poor Tommy was beet red when Ed said (on cue) we would love to watch. He begged her not to but Mom grabbed him by the wrist and brought him over to the couch. No ceremony. Just pants down so he was in his pink panties. Over her knee he went for a dozen hard swats. He thought it was over but then Mom proceeded to pull his panties down and that is when the tears began to flow.
    He had to stand in the corner showing his red bottom until he stopped his crying. After a few minutes, I brought him upstairs, gave him a big hug and had him put on his baby dolls – top only. After a few gentle kisses, I told him he had to go back downstairs and apologize to Ed and Clare for ruining the evening. He looked at me plaintively but did not dare to say no again. He was a good girl and did as he was told.
    Later that night, he curled up between my legs and thanked me properly.
    Mom is going to be a bigger part of his life from now on.
    Thanks for setting all this in motion. You made three people very happy.

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  15. Very happy to see it’s “ panties AND BRA now for David!
    I have one of those Silicone Flexy paddles ( mine is blue) and I argue your statement that they are “not injurious”.
    After a few hundred using the flat side, flipping it over to the studded side really rips up the poor bum!!

    Also: cooling it in the fridge for a bit, then soak just the handle in hot water just prior to using it, makes it even more effective to swing.

    Charles.

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  16. I hope David gives you a good hard hand spanking with corner time soon as payback
    But he should do it in front of your parents and Sue
    Give him attitude this Sunday dinner in front of everyone
    Sass him ,roll your eyes
    He will stand up, pull you up ,and take you to the nearest armless chair pull down your pants and panties and put you over his knee and spank you until you're begging him to stop , promising to be a good little girl,

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  17. "Conflict? Resolution!" Of all that things that appeal to me about being in a disciplinary relationship, that tops the list for me. I love accountability and, especially, harmony. I love the idea that conflict can be dealt with and then forgiveness can be extended. I know the difference between fantasy and reality, my wife tried it briefly and saw no value in it. The few spankings I did get, made a difference for me but once I realized she was not committed for our marriage/relationship's sake, it took all of the potential out of it. I am so glad for you and your husband. I loved the seriousness of it but also longed for some bit of playfulness in it too. Sorry for such a downer comment. I smiled more than once when I read your post and wanted to put it in context. It's a pretty darn amazing thing you do for us, sharing all this! Lc

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    1. My pleasure. It's great when you have a kink matches a partner.

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  18. So you removed posts critical of your bullshit, what a wimp. And you call yourself Mistress.

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    1. No, I literally ran out of space so I culled most of the comments that were just ranty and ravey and rude and did not make any sense at all. Like zero. Not MY fault those were all lefties!

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