We've been watching a new show on Amazon Prime called "The Power".
"The world of The Power is our world, but for one twist of nature. Suddenly, and without warning, all teenage girls in the world develop the power to electrocute people at will. It's hereditary, it's inbuilt, and it can't be taken away from them. Coming alive to the thrill of pure power: the ability to hurt or even kill by releasing electrical jolts from their fingertips, they rapidly learn they can awaken the Power in older women. Soon enough nearly every woman in the world can do it. And then everything is different."
The show is pretty good, but ultimately does not live up to its potential. What's great about it, though, is the concept.
From a woman's point of view, it's the ultimate empowerment fantasy. An attractive teenage girl describes how she now goes on jogs late at night with her earbuds in. No fear of men. One woman is stopped at the door of a club by a muscular male bouncer. She snaps her fingers and shows him a little spark. "I don't want any trouble," he says. She says "smile for me". He reluctantly smiles a little. With a condescending tone she says, "you look nice when you smile." A group of trafficked women who just got the power (a new girl had it, unnoticed, and passed it on), zap the genitals of their captor until they are fried crispy and then they escape. And so on.
David is watching it with me. He reports that he had a serious awakening of how women must feel all the time. Duh! He says he always knew it intellectually, but that imagining himself in this world hit him emotionally. Awesome!
When I spank him, it's hard for him to imagine having it done to him non-consensually. He knows that he's strong enough to over-power me at any time. Even if he's completely bound, he knows he's allowed himself to be put into that situation, and if I overdo it, there'll be hell to pay.
It's a different experience for me. When I'm across his knee, receiving a punishment spanking, the feeling is that there is NOTHING I can do about it. I know it's all ultimately consensual and I have a safeword, but it's the feeling I'm talking about, that he never truly experiences. Maybe it's why I'd be turned on having a powerful man spank him, and then anally rape him. I want him to experience that abject helplessness I experience every single time.
Ah, if only.
Hello Mistress Strick Julie,
ReplyDeleteThis does sound like an interesting program to watch. The idea of women having the power to change the mental respect and fear that is currently in the world. Yes, many men probably are like David, myself included, that I am able to break free of the woman dominating me. This is why forced feminization never falls as true forced. This maybe why your fantasy and some guys secret fantasy of being taken by a man. I have roll played with a guy. It was almost a I Love Lucy scene. I have been on the receiving end of flogging and canes from a guy. These are all play at a kink party.
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Yes, you understand.
DeleteA writer having a woman threatening a man simply performing his duty and sneeringky telling him "You look nice when you smile" as if that's a massive own against the patriarchy has genuinely never spoken to a man in their life. Men like to be complimented, too. If fact, many men yearn to complimented on their looks. I am 35 and married and can count the number of compliments I've received on my appearance from those who aren't my mother on the fingers of one hand. We have massive insecurity about our bodies too, but we're told to shut up because nobody cares.
ReplyDeleteIf anything, the show as you described seems to assert that women would easily be just as randomly violent as men if they believed they could get away with it, but it's ok because the evil men must have done something bad. Now I'm sure one of the messages is "Well, men do get away with it all the time because of their positions of power." And that is true. But is that a gender thing or is it is a human thing? Powerful women get away with wicked behavior all the time (Hillary?). Not exactly the feminist message I think they were aiming for.
You mistake my message. I'm no feminist. I'm trad if anything.
DeleteImagine you are a woman, and a burly guy comes up to you out of the blue. Some buddies around him. You're not smiling because you're afraid of the situation. Instead of noticing and backing off respectfully, he comes up to you and tells you to smile for him. He pesters you until you do. If you don't, you know he'll yell epithets at you like "bitch", "frigid", if not do worse. There is danger inherent in the situation. You smile for him, hoping that will be it. A little bit of your soul leaves you.
My husband has never felt that fear. He's almost eager to have a fight if properly provoked. He's been training for years.
If things get physical with me, I'm likely raped and in the hospital with a broken face.
Men should understand that fear.
I am not condoning the bad behaviour.
I see. My apologies for the misinterpretation. I do actually at least somewhat understand the fear you describe, I was a scrawny kid and bullied mercilessly in school. My bullies thankfully were not inclined to sexual attacks (at least to me, I shudder to think of how they treated girls), but that feeling of going along to avoid a beating and dying a little inside is true. The only reason I didn't have broken bones/face was because they didn't want to make it easy to catch them.
DeleteI guess I'm a bit too hypersensitive to assertions that only certain "classes" of people experience fear and that it is a "male" or "female" problem. It is a problem of individuals finding those weaker than them and hurting them to feel good. That is a flaw in the human condition overall, and I resent those who try assigning it to immutable characteristics.
That's an excellent point, and I agree 100%. But it is true that men are genetically way stronger (on average), and more aggressive (blame the testosterone - again, on average). Hence it is more a women's problem than a men's problem (on average). And a lot of guys just don't seem to understand it from a woman's point of view. Glad that you do.
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ReplyDeleteReading righty’s debate feminism hurts my brain
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Hot concept
I think David would accept his spanking and rogering from a man much better
If
he was dressed like a proper young lady
WC:)
I agree. High heels, stockings, garter belt, pink panties, short skirt, pink bra with falsies, white blouse, red lipstick, blush. Spanked like a woman, then fucked like a woman.
DeleteExactly;)
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And that inherent physical "power" over women, might well be one of the reasons that ideas like "you don't hit women", "women and children first" etc. ever took a hold in men, along with the biological instinct to protect "our group".
ReplyDeleteFor the same reason I can be a bit concerned about the current feminist movement, and its apparent desire to convince people that there is no difference between men and women, because I'm not convinced that women REALLY want men to look at and treat them like other men, in all aspects of life. I doubt that all women really want to wave goodbye to all complements on their looks, have men expect them to approach them at least half the time and be the ones to pay for the date half the time. And I seriously doubt that women really want to line up to get a punch in the face, if they push an argument or insult too far. And so on. And pls. don't get me wrong here. I don't approve of misogyny etc., but men and women are innately different, and while we have equal worth as people, we shouldn't be treating each other identically, because we are not identical.
And while I do understand your point here Julie, I really can't say that I see the appeal in the scene with the bouncer you describe, as what we are essentially talking about, is a lady threatening a guy's life, over him doing his job. But again, I do understand the point you try to make, and I don't disagree with you that this disparity in "physical power" exists.
There are obviously many genetic and developmental/hormonal differences between the sexes. These people who deny that are gaslighters.
DeleteI'm not condoning the behaviour re the bouncer, just saying that it was a little scene that helped my husband understand what women go through routinely.
Women should be I have always said, take charge. Women are not respected as they should be. I respect my wife, I also listen to her, and have found to be a male with less stress, respect. FLR have a purpose and with my wife being in charge, as I have said before life could not be better. Jack
ReplyDeleteAnd I enjoy being a spanked wife. To each their own.
DeleteAs you have mentioned before, more women enjoy getting a spanking, the sexual high is so rewarding, and I thank's to you have been informed on all aspects of a spanking. I just happen to be a male who wanted to be spanked and found out that I needed to be spanked.
DeleteI don't know if you addressed this in the past, in this time where dating has evolved to same sex, where marriage is male/male, female/female, and the relationships of the LGBTQX community, I have this question and it deals with spankings. Do females in their relationship with another female wish to be spanked or wish to give a spanking for sexual or other reasons? Jack
DeleteYes! For sure. I think it's always for sexual reasons at the core, even if the participants LARP otherwise (eg my husband and I and my being a "spanked wife"). And I know you for sure get a sexual charge, jack, out of your spankings from Mommy.
DeleteJulie, your topic deserves a lot of thought and nuance, which I’m not sure I’m capable of, but here goes.
ReplyDeleteI want to think that I understand what it’s like to navigate the world as a woman, but if I do, it is just on the intellectual level, not the emotional. I don’t like to try to dig too deep into the “why” of my sexual proclivities, but maybe part of why I’m submissive is to try to empathize with some of the powerlessness or helplessness that women feel, albeit knowing I can turn it off whenever I want. Even as an unimpressive old man, I still have more strength and power than all but high level women athletes. Would it be helpful to my understanding to be overpowered and raped by a much stronger man? Perhaps. But unless I somehow end up in prison, that would still be me volunteering to have it happen. Despite certain activists’ claims, men can’t be women, women can’t be men, and we will never completely understand what it’s like to be the opposite sex.
Still, there are ways to level the field somewhat. It will never be perfect, but women trained in jiu jitsu and Target Focus Training will have a fighting chance in most physical encounters. Of course, the ultimate equalizer is a gun carried by a trained person. I wonder if the writers of the show understand this is metaphorically what they are talking about. It is a crime that that option is unavailable to most women in the world.
On a hopeful note, even though the bad guys get most of the headlines, the good guys and good women overwhelmingly outnumber them. We need to do a better job being our brother’s and sister’s keeper, loving our neighbors, and watching each others backs. As great Canadian Red Green says, “Remember, I’m pulling for you. We’re all in this together.” - david
Thank you, david. A very thoughtful comment.
DeleteIt's not so much any single incident that characterizes it. Many men have had instances where they no doubt felt powerless and ashamed, victimized by others (mainly men). It's more the fact of constantly swimming in it from puberty on. It's part of the fabric of the world for women. Nothing will change that, but I like this show because it can give men a sense for it.
Your take on spanking is very interesting. You assume that David can overpower you and stop his beating if he wishes. It even extends to when he is restrained. That's your take as the spanker.
ReplyDeleteWhen he spanks you, it's an experience of utter helplessness. You want to feel that you have no control over the situation. Right?
When David is the spanker, do you seriously believe that he considers you helpless and completely under his control? I'm willing to bet that he doesn't. I know that when I had that role, I absolutely believed that my partner had the ability to stop me at any time (remember safewords?).
My point is that being the top in these situations, even disciplinary ones, is a service to the bottom. I doubt that any top feels the sort of power you ascribe to the man you want to see beat and fuck David. I guarantee that he won't feel that sort of power either.
David probably feels helpless when you spank him. The reality is that you are providing him with a safe way to give up control and experience helpless submission to your beating.
This is true with Mrs. Lion and me. She generally straps me down to the spanking bench. There are times during a punishment when I wish I could stop her. I don't. I also know that if I really needed her to stop, I could safeword.
Your fantasy is to be helpless. It's a huge turn on. David provides you with the opportunity to feel that way.
All of that is right, but it's easier for me to emotionally feel that helplessness when I "resist" and he easily strips me and man-handles me across his lap (I can struggle like a wildcat and he can still), and then he easily holds me across his lap despite my struggles and uses only his hand (which feels like a paddle!) at what he would consider a light intensity and make me a sorry little girl...
DeleteAgree with everything you say, but the key distinction is that women must always be in their guard, 24x7x52, and that's a bit... wearing.
ReplyDeleteI was exaggerating. I just meant that it feels like a constant. I'm not complaining. It is what it is.
ReplyDeleteMy never-ending porn search has led me to 'giantesses' several times due to exactly this. I found literally ONE wrestling video where it seemed that the guy truely lost to the woman. There's this woman goes by the name of VeVe Lane whose videos are extremely realistic in terms of tying someone who really doesn't want to (they still do :P) .. everything else (99% of it) is fake af.
ReplyDeleteWith guys, it's even harder ... so this invoked a lot of truth .. and good to know that you acknowledge his need for it.
There's one scenario you could do if he's into it. If he's sensitive enough for it, Post-orgasm torture. Tie him up REAL good with something super heavy, no safeword for this (as he genuinely cannot get hurt with it) .. edge him, but then don't stop for a long time.
I feel like that's a low-hanging fruit (pun intended) men can consensually experience non-consent.
We've done tied down post orgasm torture. Delish!
DeleteYou know Julie, this is one of those things that I have a hard time wrapping my head around. I get that a person can be on edge around particular types of people. I feel on edge, if I'm traveling south of the Mediterainean, or if I'm surrounded by individuals who I feel are liable to be more aggressive than myself. But I can't follow the idea of feeling like that around (almost all or most) males? If you've been raped or assaulted, I can imagine that being the cause. But this still isn't the majority of women, and the men doing such things certainly aren't in the majority. So why does it seem to be a growing notion amongst average women, and apparently feminists in particular, that men must be feared at all times? I don't get it. Or did the next generation or two after me (I just turned 45) somehow become much more violent and disrespectful of women, geaving justified rise to such latent fear of all men?
ReplyDeleteI think women are genetically programmed that way, to be both scared of and (sexually) thrilled by men's power. Almost any male has the power to rape me. Imagine if law and order breaks down and I had no male protector. Many men would become rapists because it feels good for them. They would justify it saying it feels good for us too, or we "deserve it". I would have to use all my wiles to find the strongest male around and give myself to him completely hoping he would protect me. Was that not the situation of women throughout millions of years of evolution?
ReplyDeleteP.s. also I believe that while this trait is stronger in women, as these sex-linked traits develop we genetically pass a bit of it to male children as well, and vice-versa. Hence the yin/yang in all of us, and why some men can get a thrill by being cucked.
ReplyDeleteI'm tempted to agree with Clarence here Julie. For the most part, rape of women is (to my knowledge) typically motivated by sex, whereas rape of men by other men, are more often motivated by power and dominance. Your average guy just aren't all that likely to physically force himself sexually on a woman. Yes, he might come on hard, and he might take no for an answer initially, and he might get pissed of at a rejection, and he might use some nasty words in the end. But it's a pretty big step from there and onto full on rape. And most men aren't ready to deliberately cross that distance.
ReplyDeleteSure, predators exist, and you get "grey-zone" cases where persistent and aggressive behaviour is "rewarded" with the girl going along with things, because she doesn't dare to maintain her initial "no". But again, most men really aren't all that likely to try and knowingly commit rape.
We can then discuss where the line is supposed to be drawn between rape and "unentheusiastic participation", but that strays into another topic, I think.
I don't hold with calling it rape unless it is legitimately forced.
ReplyDeleteI think you underestimate the number of girls and women who are raped (most go unreported, like mine). It leaves a scar.
Genuinely sorry to hear that you got raped at some point Julie :-( Completely agree that that shit leaves a scar. I have an ex who ended up getting raped twice in her youth. So yea. I have an idea about what you mean.
ReplyDeleteThere's no question that unreported rapes happen. The question is how many? And as "dark" rapes don't get reported, we have to rely on guesswork and more or less reliable studies, and more or less reliable interpretations of the results *sigh*
I'll still question how many men are actually willing and able to commit full on forced rape, but there's no question that it happens, and there is no question that there are the tragic grey zone situations where two parties agree on what happened, but disagree on whether the sex was rape or consensual :-(
In my case I was young, drunk, and stupid, and felt ashamed. I did not know him at all. I invited him up. But there was no ambiguity involved. Dude pulled a knife. I literally thought I was going to die. This was pre kink for me, so no "mixed roleplay signals" involved. I felt even more ashamed (and still do) that I didn't have the guts to report it to the police and he might have done it again to others. In my fantasy book, "Julie's Spankings", David saves me from the guy. He actually did save me, emotionally, so it's kind of true.
ReplyDeleteBut I recognize that mine is an anecdote that makes it really hard for me to be objective. I intellectually understand your argument and don't know if violent rape is overblown.
But I've heard from way too many pretty girlfriends that they had some sort of coerced incest situation going on when they were a kid, and way too many girls like me that were drunk and loose that had something forced happen. But like me, they blamed it on themselves and just wanted the whole thing to go away.
I think if you're a decent guy it's hard to imagine. I get that.
Sorry about your mom 😢.
ReplyDeleteYou seemed to have handled the diddling very well, Clarence. Congrats.