We've been watching a new show on Amazon Prime called "The Power".
"The world of The Power is our world, but for one twist of nature. Suddenly, and without warning, all teenage girls in the world develop the power to electrocute people at will. It's hereditary, it's inbuilt, and it can't be taken away from them. Coming alive to the thrill of pure power: the ability to hurt or even kill by releasing electrical jolts from their fingertips, they rapidly learn they can awaken the Power in older women. Soon enough nearly every woman in the world can do it. And then everything is different."
The show is pretty good, but ultimately does not live up to its potential. What's great about it, though, is the concept.
From a woman's point of view, it's the ultimate empowerment fantasy. An attractive teenage girl describes how she now goes on jogs late at night with her earbuds in. No fear of men. One woman is stopped at the door of a club by a muscular male bouncer. She snaps her fingers and shows him a little spark. "I don't want any trouble," he says. She says "smile for me". He reluctantly smiles a little. With a condescending tone she says, "you look nice when you smile." A group of trafficked women who just got the power (a new girl had it, unnoticed, and passed it on), zap the genitals of their captor until they are fried crispy and then they escape. And so on.
David is watching it with me. He reports that he had a serious awakening of how women must feel all the time. Duh! He says he always knew it intellectually, but that imagining himself in this world hit him emotionally. Awesome!
When I spank him, it's hard for him to imagine having it done to him non-consensually. He knows that he's strong enough to over-power me at any time. Even if he's completely bound, he knows he's allowed himself to be put into that situation, and if I overdo it, there'll be hell to pay.
It's a different experience for me. When I'm across his knee, receiving a punishment spanking, the feeling is that there is NOTHING I can do about it. I know it's all ultimately consensual and I have a safeword, but it's the feeling I'm talking about, that he never truly experiences. Maybe it's why I'd be turned on having a powerful man spank him, and then anally rape him. I want him to experience that abject helplessness I experience every single time.
Ah, if only.
Hello Mistress Strick Julie,
ReplyDeleteThis does sound like an interesting program to watch. The idea of women having the power to change the mental respect and fear that is currently in the world. Yes, many men probably are like David, myself included, that I am able to break free of the woman dominating me. This is why forced feminization never falls as true forced. This maybe why your fantasy and some guys secret fantasy of being taken by a man. I have roll played with a guy. It was almost a I Love Lucy scene. I have been on the receiving end of flogging and canes from a guy. These are all play at a kink party.
Pie pie 4 now
Yes, you understand.
DeleteA writer having a woman threatening a man simply performing his duty and sneeringky telling him "You look nice when you smile" as if that's a massive own against the patriarchy has genuinely never spoken to a man in their life. Men like to be complimented, too. If fact, many men yearn to complimented on their looks. I am 35 and married and can count the number of compliments I've received on my appearance from those who aren't my mother on the fingers of one hand. We have massive insecurity about our bodies too, but we're told to shut up because nobody cares.
ReplyDeleteIf anything, the show as you described seems to assert that women would easily be just as randomly violent as men if they believed they could get away with it, but it's ok because the evil men must have done something bad. Now I'm sure one of the messages is "Well, men do get away with it all the time because of their positions of power." And that is true. But is that a gender thing or is it is a human thing? Powerful women get away with wicked behavior all the time (Hillary?). Not exactly the feminist message I think they were aiming for.
You mistake my message. I'm no feminist. I'm trad if anything.
DeleteImagine you are a woman, and a burly guy comes up to you out of the blue. Some buddies around him. You're not smiling because you're afraid of the situation. Instead of noticing and backing off respectfully, he comes up to you and tells you to smile for him. He pesters you until you do. If you don't, you know he'll yell epithets at you like "bitch", "frigid", if not do worse. There is danger inherent in the situation. You smile for him, hoping that will be it. A little bit of your soul leaves you.
My husband has never felt that fear. He's almost eager to have a fight if properly provoked. He's been training for years.
If things get physical with me, I'm likely raped and in the hospital with a broken face.
Men should understand that fear.
I am not condoning the bad behaviour.
I see. My apologies for the misinterpretation. I do actually at least somewhat understand the fear you describe, I was a scrawny kid and bullied mercilessly in school. My bullies thankfully were not inclined to sexual attacks (at least to me, I shudder to think of how they treated girls), but that feeling of going along to avoid a beating and dying a little inside is true. The only reason I didn't have broken bones/face was because they didn't want to make it easy to catch them.
DeleteI guess I'm a bit too hypersensitive to assertions that only certain "classes" of people experience fear and that it is a "male" or "female" problem. It is a problem of individuals finding those weaker than them and hurting them to feel good. That is a flaw in the human condition overall, and I resent those who try assigning it to immutable characteristics.
That's an excellent point, and I agree 100%. But it is true that men are genetically way stronger (on average), and more aggressive (blame the testosterone - again, on average). Hence it is more a women's problem than a men's problem (on average). And a lot of guys just don't seem to understand it from a woman's point of view. Glad that you do.
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ReplyDeleteReading righty’s debate feminism hurts my brain
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Hot concept
I think David would accept his spanking and rogering from a man much better
If
he was dressed like a proper young lady
WC:)
I agree. High heels, stockings, garter belt, pink panties, short skirt, pink bra with falsies, white blouse, red lipstick, blush. Spanked like a woman, then fucked like a woman.
DeleteExactly;)
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And that inherent physical "power" over women, might well be one of the reasons that ideas like "you don't hit women", "women and children first" etc. ever took a hold in men, along with the biological instinct to protect "our group".
ReplyDeleteFor the same reason I can be a bit concerned about the current feminist movement, and its apparent desire to convince people that there is no difference between men and women, because I'm not convinced that women REALLY want men to look at and treat them like other men, in all aspects of life. I doubt that all women really want to wave goodbye to all complements on their looks, have men expect them to approach them at least half the time and be the ones to pay for the date half the time. And I seriously doubt that women really want to line up to get a punch in the face, if they push an argument or insult too far. And so on. And pls. don't get me wrong here. I don't approve of misogyny etc., but men and women are innately different, and while we have equal worth as people, we shouldn't be treating each other identically, because we are not identical.
And while I do understand your point here Julie, I really can't say that I see the appeal in the scene with the bouncer you describe, as what we are essentially talking about, is a lady threatening a guy's life, over him doing his job. But again, I do understand the point you try to make, and I don't disagree with you that this disparity in "physical power" exists.
There are obviously many genetic and developmental/hormonal differences between the sexes. These people who deny that are gaslighters.
DeleteI'm not condoning the behaviour re the bouncer, just saying that it was a little scene that helped my husband understand what women go through routinely.
Women should be I have always said, take charge. Women are not respected as they should be. I respect my wife, I also listen to her, and have found to be a male with less stress, respect. FLR have a purpose and with my wife being in charge, as I have said before life could not be better. Jack
ReplyDeleteAnd I enjoy being a spanked wife. To each their own.
DeleteAs you have mentioned before, more women enjoy getting a spanking, the sexual high is so rewarding, and I thank's to you have been informed on all aspects of a spanking. I just happen to be a male who wanted to be spanked and found out that I needed to be spanked.
DeleteI don't know if you addressed this in the past, in this time where dating has evolved to same sex, where marriage is male/male, female/female, and the relationships of the LGBTQX community, I have this question and it deals with spankings. Do females in their relationship with another female wish to be spanked or wish to give a spanking for sexual or other reasons? Jack
DeleteYes! For sure. I think it's always for sexual reasons at the core, even if the participants LARP otherwise (eg my husband and I and my being a "spanked wife"). And I know you for sure get a sexual charge, jack, out of your spankings from Mommy.
DeleteJulie, your topic deserves a lot of thought and nuance, which I’m not sure I’m capable of, but here goes.
ReplyDeleteI want to think that I understand what it’s like to navigate the world as a woman, but if I do, it is just on the intellectual level, not the emotional. I don’t like to try to dig too deep into the “why” of my sexual proclivities, but maybe part of why I’m submissive is to try to empathize with some of the powerlessness or helplessness that women feel, albeit knowing I can turn it off whenever I want. Even as an unimpressive old man, I still have more strength and power than all but high level women athletes. Would it be helpful to my understanding to be overpowered and raped by a much stronger man? Perhaps. But unless I somehow end up in prison, that would still be me volunteering to have it happen. Despite certain activists’ claims, men can’t be women, women can’t be men, and we will never completely understand what it’s like to be the opposite sex.
Still, there are ways to level the field somewhat. It will never be perfect, but women trained in jiu jitsu and Target Focus Training will have a fighting chance in most physical encounters. Of course, the ultimate equalizer is a gun carried by a trained person. I wonder if the writers of the show understand this is metaphorically what they are talking about. It is a crime that that option is unavailable to most women in the world.
On a hopeful note, even though the bad guys get most of the headlines, the good guys and good women overwhelmingly outnumber them. We need to do a better job being our brother’s and sister’s keeper, loving our neighbors, and watching each others backs. As great Canadian Red Green says, “Remember, I’m pulling for you. We’re all in this together.” - david
Thank you, david. A very thoughtful comment.
DeleteIt's not so much any single incident that characterizes it. Many men have had instances where they no doubt felt powerless and ashamed, victimized by others (mainly men). It's more the fact of constantly swimming in it from puberty on. It's part of the fabric of the world for women. Nothing will change that, but I like this show because it can give men a sense for it.
Your take on spanking is very interesting. You assume that David can overpower you and stop his beating if he wishes. It even extends to when he is restrained. That's your take as the spanker.
ReplyDeleteWhen he spanks you, it's an experience of utter helplessness. You want to feel that you have no control over the situation. Right?
When David is the spanker, do you seriously believe that he considers you helpless and completely under his control? I'm willing to bet that he doesn't. I know that when I had that role, I absolutely believed that my partner had the ability to stop me at any time (remember safewords?).
My point is that being the top in these situations, even disciplinary ones, is a service to the bottom. I doubt that any top feels the sort of power you ascribe to the man you want to see beat and fuck David. I guarantee that he won't feel that sort of power either.
David probably feels helpless when you spank him. The reality is that you are providing him with a safe way to give up control and experience helpless submission to your beating.
This is true with Mrs. Lion and me. She generally straps me down to the spanking bench. There are times during a punishment when I wish I could stop her. I don't. I also know that if I really needed her to stop, I could safeword.
Your fantasy is to be helpless. It's a huge turn on. David provides you with the opportunity to feel that way.
All of that is right, but it's easier for me to emotionally feel that helplessness when I "resist" and he easily strips me and man-handles me across his lap (I can struggle like a wildcat and he can still), and then he easily holds me across his lap despite my struggles and uses only his hand (which feels like a paddle!) at what he would consider a light intensity and make me a sorry little girl...
DeleteThe problem with these 'feelings' is they aren't entirely fair, because they don't represent the main male experience. Most men aren't six feet , muscular super tall Arnold Schwarzenegger types. Most men don't make other men feel intimidated by their mere presence. Women, in this current feminist society can often play it both ways when it comes to violence. This can be seen on many videos on social media or at your local bar if it attracts the younger and drunker. They can often hit men with impunity, knowing that if he hits back often multiple 'White Knights' will rush to her defense, even if she started everything, and often (not always but far more often than you would expect) even if she's obviously already hurt him.
ReplyDeleteAnd now take David. You don't seem like the type to 'start fights' just so he can defend your 'honor'. Thankfully, you've never shown signs of being one of those toxic women. But he IS societally, expected to defend you, no matter what the odds or sizes of the attackers are, and even though you never had kids, so he's not defending mother and child but instead another adult. And once again, regardless of your individual expectations of him, many will look down on him if he neglects to defend you from the slightest insult even if the odds are so stacked against him (I mean he's not a secret Ninja, right? And Canada isn't exactly known for having wonderfully available concealed carry laws) that death or mutilation are real prospects.
And let's not forget that men are , by and large by far the victims of violent crimes. And it doesn't matter if the perps are mostly other men the point is simply that men are at far greater risk of being attacked and maimed/killed than a woman is. Men are also as kids far more often physically bullied than women. Women tend to do group shaming and other psychological tactics (which of course can be devastating but hurt fees aren't broken or mangled limbs) when they bully as adults or children. Men do not, esp in bad neighborhoods 'walk the streets' without fear. I live in Baltimore. Twice, in the past 15 years I was randomly sucker punched by groups of kids. Gang initiation? The "knockout" game? Whatever, they were much younger and faster than me and always in a group, so what am I going to do? Gangs and criminals often have codes as to who is ok to be openly violent towards and its almost always men and sometimes even boys that fall into the potential victim class. I expect part of this is because you don't usually want to mess up a female's face if you rape her , but the point is she will survive the rape (unless its one of the rather rare ones that involves significant physical violence) I might not survive the beatdown, esp as I get older and sadly, the 'code of the street' has degenerated to such an extent that its perfectly fine to kick and stomp the head and face of someone who is already passed out.
Lastly, while the fear of physical force between the average wife and husband might be innate (there's always exceptions: a female mma fighter with a nerd , or "Big Bertha"and "Tiny Tim") the tools you have to use the enforcement arm of the state to basically 'geld' your husband are tremendous. I mean crap, from your own admissions here on your blog you could probably get a restraining order because you 'felt fear' of him and have him removed from the home. No violence, or even explicit threats required. And all based on fear, not rationality in any way, and (as a bonus) usually enforced selectively and sexistly as well.
Agree with everything you say, but the key distinction is that women must always be in their guard, 24x7x52, and that's a bit... wearing.
DeleteEven when there is no man around? I find it hard to believe that Kindergarten teachers or most public school teachers (at least in the Elementary grades before any boys go into puberty) live in terror.
DeleteI was exaggerating. I just meant that it feels like a constant. I'm not complaining. It is what it is.
DeleteYou know Julie, this is one of those things that I have a hard time wrapping my head around. I get that a person can be on edge around particular types of people. I feel on edge, if I'm traveling south of the Mediterainean, or if I'm surrounded by individuals who I feel are liable to be more aggressive than myself. But I can't follow the idea of feeling like that around (almost all or most) males? If you've been raped or assaulted, I can imagine that being the cause. But this still isn't the majority of women, and the men doing such things certainly aren't in the majority. So why does it seem to be a growing notion amongst average women, and apparently feminists in particular, that men must be feared at all times? I don't get it. Or did the next generation or two after me (I just turned 45) somehow become much more violent and disrespectful of women, geaving justified rise to such latent fear of all men?
DeleteI think women are genetically programmed that way, to be both scared of and (sexually) thrilled by men's power. Almost any male has the power to rape me. Imagine if law and order breaks down and I had no male protector. Many men would become rapists because it feels good for them. They would justify it saying it feels good for us too, or we "deserve it". I would have to use all my wiles to find the strongest male around and give myself to him completely hoping he would protect me. Was that not the situation of women throughout millions of years of evolution?
DeleteP.s. also I believe that while this trait is stronger in women, as these sex-linked traits develop we genetically pass a bit of it to male children as well, and vice-versa. Hence the yin/yang in all of us, and why some men can get a thrill by being cucked.
DeleteSituations of anarchy tend to lead to far more male deaths than female ones, as well. And there's been plenty of examples you can find in world history of periods of momentary anarchy. Surprisingly, the 'average man' doesn't turn into a rapist even then. It might surprise you to know Julie that the reason (if I knew exactly where you lived)that you would not be raped has nothing to do with fear of David (even though he could undoubtedly beat me hand to hand I'd probably take him out with a sniper rifle if I was that type of evil person) nor has it anything to do with your looks: I've seen enough of your body and even parts of your face to know you are a sexy woman, despite approaching middle age. It has to do with the fact I've never even had a sexual fantasy of forcing my attentions on an unwilling partner, that my own mother was violently raped when I was a child (before DNA so they never caught him), that I know what its like to be bullied and that causing mental or physical pain to others PURELY for my own selfish pleasure is wrong. I don't even watch and have never had interest in 'rape fantasy' porn. I like to know I'm 'wanted'.
DeleteAnd I suspect the vast majority of men are the same way. We have females in our lives (usually mom unless she was VERY abusive or neglectful) that we care for, and we don't want them to suffer esp something as potentially "soul" destroying as a violent rape.
Then there's the fact that rape is a sex crime despite all the howling by feminists that its all about 'power' . By and large it's young women of almost legal age up until the age of 35 or so...say 15 to 35, with most rapists having victims in the 20 to 28 range. Actual statutory (let alone violent) rapes of prepubescent girls are very rare as are rapes at age 40 or above. Even though you can find exceptions, I do find Thornhill's evolutionary hypothesis the most useful for describing most rapes. Rape is not a crime of mostly 'power' or the easiest victims (little girls and old, frail women) would be the primary victims, instead they pretty much aren't victimized at all. But that also indicates that the 'fear of rape' should age out of women, as I believe by and large it does.
I'm tempted to agree with Clarence here Julie. For the most part, rape of women is (to my knowledge) typically motivated by sex, whereas rape of men by other men, are more often motivated by power and dominance. Your average guy just aren't all that likely to physically force himself sexually on a woman. Yes, he might come on hard, and he might take no for an answer initially, and he might get pissed of at a rejection, and he might use some nasty words in the end. But it's a pretty big step from there and onto full on rape. And most men aren't ready to deliberately cross that distance.
DeleteSure, predators exist, and you get "grey-zone" cases where persistent and aggressive behaviour is "rewarded" with the girl going along with things, because she doesn't dare to maintain her initial "no". But again, most men really aren't all that likely to try and knowingly commit rape.
We can then discuss where the line is supposed to be drawn between rape and "unentheusiastic participation", but that strays into another topic, I think.
I don't hold with calling it rape unless it is legitimately forced.
DeleteI think you underestimate the number of girls and women who are raped (most go unreported, like mine). It leaves a scar.
Genuinely sorry to hear that you got raped at some point Julie :-( Completely agree that that shit leaves a scar. I have an ex who ended up getting raped twice in her youth. So yea. I have an idea about what you mean.
DeleteThere's no question that unreported rapes happen. The question is how many? And as "dark" rapes don't get reported, we have to rely on guesswork and more or less reliable studies, and more or less reliable interpretations of the results *sigh*
I'll still question how many men are actually willing and able to commit full on forced rape, but there's no question that it happens, and there is no question that there are the tragic grey zone situations where two parties agree on what happened, but disagree on whether the sex was rape or consensual :-(
The problem is, on college campuses (and yes, I know not all women are on campuses but MOST go for at least 4 years of their young lives) have anonymous rape and sexual assault report lines and these largely go seldom used even though information about them is everywhere and part of the curriculum. The ones who don't report rapes are probably the ones least bothered by them. Maybe they really WERE raped when passed out unconscious or maybe they really didn't give consent to the drunken frat boy last night, but they can't be sure and so figure it's not worth it worry about it. I really don't believe there are many VIOLENT unreported rapes, esp as those would be the easiest not only to find evidence against the defendant, but also the easiest to prosecute and the hardest to turn into "she was asking for it/she deserved it".
DeleteIn my case I was young, drunk, and stupid, and felt ashamed. I did not know him at all. I invited him up. But there was no ambiguity involved. Dude pulled a knife. I literally thought I was going to die. This was pre kink for me, so no "mixed roleplay signals" involved. I felt even more ashamed (and still do) that I didn't have the guts to report it to the police and he might have done it again to others. In my fantasy book, "Julie's Spankings", David saves me from the guy. He actually did save me, emotionally, so it's kind of true.
DeleteBut I recognize that mine is an anecdote that makes it really hard for me to be objective. I intellectually understand your argument and don't know if violent rape is overblown.
But I've heard from way too many pretty girlfriends that they had some sort of coerced incest situation going on when they were a kid, and way too many girls like me that were drunk and loose that had something forced happen. But like me, they blamed it on themselves and just wanted the whole thing to go away.
I think if you're a decent guy it's hard to imagine. I get that.
Since you shared details of your rape (and it must have been tough on you) I will share (for the first time) details of my mother's rape. She's dead now, so I'm no longer concerned with her privacy as I was the few times I mentioned this on the net (and I usually didn't even say it was my mother, I'd say 'someone close' to me)before. I can only tell you about it through my own eyes. I was 6 or 7 at the time (this was the 70's). I don't remember ever asking for the details from 'her side' but from what she did say, she was attacked on her way home. My only memories are my somewhat bloody mother with torn clothes crying and shaking on the floor of our house. Crying hysterically. I know my father was there when I saw her,but for the life of me I can't remember whether he was sad or mad or how he might have been feeling. I just know she went away to the hospital for 2 or maybe 3 days, because of minor , yet real injuries (I don't recall her ever saying anything was broken but she was bruised up on significant parts of her body) that together added up to a downright 'beatdown'. The only other two things I know are that she was walking home when it happened and that they never caught the perp even though we of course had called the police. My only experience (personally) of sexual assault was an uncle (one of my fathers like 8 brothers, I've never met all of them) who was gay. I was sleeping over at his house (which I had done dozens , maybe even a hundred times over the prior 5 or 6 years) in his guest room when I woke up. Maybe it was the smell of alcohol, whatever it was he was playing with my penis with his fingers. Now understand something: Even in the 80's we had 'good touch and bad touch' training as kids, there were a few places that could be called for help/counseling and we were also trained that we could and should get the other adults in our lives or a trusted teacher or clergy member to help us if we were being abused. I knew what to do. I told him to back off. That I'd tell his mother if he ever did anything like that again. He was very very apologetic. Anyway, long story short, he never did anything like that again (and as he had kids and I've followed up with them over the years it seems he never did anything like that with any other teen). I really do believe it was a combination of him still being relatively 'young' (he was maybe 40 when this happened, maybe 35 or so) me finally developing 'down there' and most importantly of all him being DRUNK something I had never seen him be before nor since before he went away to another state and out of my life entirely about five years later. I could have ruined his life and I really was willing to if I had found in the intervening years any indication at all that he had done similar esp to his own kids (Yes, my gay uncle ended up marrying a woman and having kids. Not sure if he was doing that out of social pressure due to both my mom and dads families being very religious or n ot, or he was a bit bisexual and not just gay as I thought or whatever). Instead, I've never told anyone who knows me or knows me and esp him, not my own mother, not my brothers, only I know that I was ever sexually assaulted. I'm kind of proud of myself though: it seems at 13 I had a better education in 'setting boundaries' than many adults.
DeleteSorry about your mom 😢.
DeleteYou seemed to have handled the diddling very well, Clarence. Congrats.
My never-ending porn search has led me to 'giantesses' several times due to exactly this. I found literally ONE wrestling video where it seemed that the guy truely lost to the woman. There's this woman goes by the name of VeVe Lane whose videos are extremely realistic in terms of tying someone who really doesn't want to (they still do :P) .. everything else (99% of it) is fake af.
ReplyDeleteWith guys, it's even harder ... so this invoked a lot of truth .. and good to know that you acknowledge his need for it.
There's one scenario you could do if he's into it. If he's sensitive enough for it, Post-orgasm torture. Tie him up REAL good with something super heavy, no safeword for this (as he genuinely cannot get hurt with it) .. edge him, but then don't stop for a long time.
I feel like that's a low-hanging fruit (pun intended) men can consensually experience non-consent.
We've done tied down post orgasm torture. Delish!
Deletehttps://www.fandom.com/articles/the-power-episode-6-ending-spoilers
ReplyDeleteBleh. This just reiterates the power of the current Orwellian News regime. Once again, constantly rewriting the history of Gamergate.