Saturday, June 8

Personal Trainer: third time lucky

So far david has had two in-home personal trainers. The first left town, and the second did not work out. So this time, I took matters into my own hands. This time I wanted to start with somebody who was kinky first, and a professional personal trainer second, rather than take a chance on a vanilla lady getting into it.

Why you ask?

I want david to stay fit, and he has been getting out of shape lately. Don't get me wrong. I don't care at all what he looks like. But I do want him to live a nice long life and be full of energy when we are older, and if he starts slipping now I'm worried about what will happen when he's in his forties or fifties.


I believe you need to get into the habit of being fit when you're young, and then just keep it up as you get older.


I do it, and so should he.

The trick with david is motivation. He has all the knowledge he needs to eat well and exercise well, he just goes into long periods where he doesn't do what he knows he ought to. It's like the old joke: "She's real good at quitting smoking, she's done it five times." Same with david and getting in shape. He's really good at it because he's done it many times now (both before I knew him and after). Enough is enough!

So what motivates david? I think we all know the answer to that: the possibility of spankings from another woman in front of me is a HUGE turn on for him.


When we were working on his previous personal trainers, trying to get them to be a little more kinky, david was really excited and looking forward to each training session. When the second one turned out to be very vanilla, it got very boring for him, he lost patience and interest, and she had to go (she was doing no good, and it was just getting argumentative). She was a real beauty, but beauty without kink is ho-hum for my boy.

No chance of a spanking? Ho hum.

As I've mentioned several times on my blog, david is not submissive to me in real life. He is submissive when I scene him. But he can be stubborn and pig-headed at other times. When he gets like that, I don't want to even reward him with a scening. I believe more in the carrot approach to motivation, not the stick (in david's case, the stick is the carrot, so it's complicated!)


So what he needs to keep him motivated is for his personal training sessions to have the possibility of getting kinky and exciting for him, of fulfilling his fantasies. If the whole fitness thing can be turned into one big "scene", then he will obey and get himself into shape.


There were two approaches possible. Find a personal trainer who we can make kinky, or find a kinky lady who can also do personal training. I tried the former and it did not work out, so I decided I would need to go for the latter to ensure success, but where to start?

Remember the Pro Domme david and I visited? I reached out to her by email and asked  if she knew of anybody in her field who happened also to be a qualified personal trainer? I figure these girls need to stay fit for their jobs, so just maybe she would know of such a person. To my surprise I got an answer back, and a name and a number!

I phoned her up and left a message on her voice mail indicating the general idea of what I wanted her to do:
Hi, my name is Julie. I got your number from Mistress xxx. I am looking for an in-home personal trainer for my husband, but who is also willing to give him the occasional spanking to keep it interesting for him. He's a kinky boy, and this will really help keep him motivated to train hard. If you're interested at all, please give me a call back at xxx-xxx-xxxx. Thank you!
To my immense surprise, I got a call back the next day and I was able to speak with her in person. She said that her friend had asked her about it before she sent on her contact info to me, and she really liked the idea. We agreed to get together for lunch to discuss it at greater length. Naturally, I was keeping david utterly in the dark as this was going on.

She an I met at a discreet downtown lunch spot (my treat, of course). I asked for an out of the way table so we wouldn't be overheard!


I liked her a lot. She is younger than I and very well qualified and experienced on the personal training front. She was also very complimentary about me going out of my way to arrange this for my husband. Apparently I am "one in million". We agreed on a fee, which was a bit pricier than what I had been paying the other trainers, but I thought was still good value for money. It was not anywhere near what we paid for a real pro domme session. She stuck closer to personal training rates, but with a bit extra for the domination aspect.

We discussed my thinking on motivating david. She initially thought that I thought that the spankings would be something he wanted to avoid and so would do as he was told. I told her that was not my intention at all. That he was a kinky boy and anything kinky would be a reward for him, not a punishment. But for it to appeal to his fantasy, we needed to pretend that it was "punishment". A little of that would keep him coming back for more, and if she dommed him, he would do as he was told just because he was being told in a forceful way with the "threat" of a spanking held over him.


She understood all this, and was a bit relieved as this way she could keep it lighter and more fun, and concentrate on the training aspects throwing in just enough "punishment" to have him coming back for more. Perfect.


She wanted to discuss limits and boundaries with me, and basically we agreed that smacks to the ass and legs were fine, clothed or unclothed, implements or not. I also told her that if she wanted to use his nudity or feminine clothes to humiliate him during  the training, that would be fine also. I basically told her there was to be no nudity or sex on her part (she wholeheartedly agreed!), and that I was reserving his cock, balls, and up inside his asshole for me, but she could have the run of anything else.  I think that she was impressed that I knew my mind so well and spoke it!

She also asked about how experienced he was and how much he could take. I described one of my more epic beatings and she seemed impressed. Ha Ha!


Most importantly, I told her we would be playing it "straight". I would be introducing her as david's new personal trainer to replace the last one, and we would not talk about anything of this with david. She and I agreed we would have some glorious fun with him. We ended on a more serious note, talking about his exercise and eating habits. She was pretty appalled with what I told her!

After this was all arranged, that evening I told david that I had found him a new in-home personal trainer, and that he was GOING TO do it and he was GOING TO get into shape! He agreed (he knew it was coming: only a matter of time until I found him a new girl).

"Any chance she's kinky at all?" he asked me. Ha!

"I have no earthly idea," I fibbed to him, "but she is an experienced trainer who comes highly recommended, and that should be good enough for you."

He looked very crestfallen at that.

"But," I went on, "she and I did talk about your diet, and she used the word 'childish' to sum it up."

I sat down next to him on the couch and put my hand on the crotch of his pants. He had stiffened slightly. "You want to be treated like a child by her, don't you?"

"Yes Ma'am" he said, stiffening more.

"Go bring me your hairbrush." I whispered in his ear.


61 comments:

  1. yumm! she's right, Julie - you are one in a million (but then, you only need one...)

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    1. It's all fun for me. I enjoy lying!

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  2. To be continued...(i hope!)

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    1. Definitely. We have our first session together the three of us under our belts already. Just needing to blog it. Next session is Wednesday.

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  3. Just don't wear him out, OK?
    I just love inertia.
    zzzz . . .

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    1. Ha!
      I will definitely have him worn out!

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  4. Sounds as though you're going to have one fit boy there. Secret seems to be always extending training limits and shortening times. Don't have her neglect flexibility though for more advanced positions and endurance. Perhaps her spankings etc should focus on diet , then the physical follows. Hope you have a gym horse for her to bend him over.

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    1. Nice idea! Perhaps I can mention how I want him to be more flexible, for, you know... ... sex...

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    2. I've never have thought of that .. never crossed my mind ... but now you mention it reverse push ups have their uses

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  5. The kinky boy ... he should have to wear diapers for his sessions when purposely acting childish in hope to get a spanking ....

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    1. Unfortunately, it's not on purpose!

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  6. Exciting. I'm eagerly looking forward to the next installment. Is that red ass shot your handiwork on David?
    BTW, just want to say again that this is a tremendous blog!!!

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    1. Thank you gary!

      Already met with her the three of us. Went well.

      That is not his ass, unfortunately, but an image I found a while back on the Internet which acted as my "target end state" Ha Ha!

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  7. He is in a WIN-WIN situation!! YOU are fantastic!!!!!

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    1. I like the win-win, it's the only way to go!

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  8. Want a little suggestion?

    You said you reserve "up inside his asshole for me". I fully understand why you want to be the only one pegging her, but I suggest you to relax this reservation so as to allow temperature taking.

    This is not more than what nurses, mothers and other relatives do to little children that look out of form and possibly sick.

    If David says he's tired, for instance, it would be entirely fair to check that he's not running a fever.

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    1. Well, all my "restrictions" are only temporary anyway. I don't want to give away the farm in the first six months. But I like the idea of clarifying that restriction in the way you mention. I wonder if she does enemas...

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    2. While you've reserved "up inside his asshole for [you]", that does leave the outside...as in anus spankings should his dietary/fitness behaviors not live up to her expectations.

      Spread 'em, david...

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    3. Well that's what I would do given her restrictions, but let's see if she'll push the boundaries like that! I hope so, since she's a pro, but I'm starting to think that as a talented amateur I might be a handful for any pro!

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    4. For enemas (I suppose you mean the larger ones given by bag, not Fleet-like ones), I'd advise making sure she really knows how to give them beforehand, so as not to risk cause harm.

      In addition to rectal temperatures, I'd advise to also allow suppository insertion; e.g. in case he complains of constipation or hemorrhoids.

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    5. She's a pro, I'm sure she can teach me a thing or two!

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  9. epic Julie.

    I cant believe it ended there. feels like game of thrones and waiting for next season.

    grrr.

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    1. You'll get it as fast as it unfolds (though I am one episode ahead of you!)

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  10. Where can I sign up to join him or to meet this trainer and go get the hairbrush.....I love it.
    Always
    Ron

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    1. She's a Toronto lass. You'll have to get your ass up here. I'm sure she'll be happy to spank you for money!

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    2. Ms Julie,

      Good to know, Toronto here I come!!!
      Nice one,
      Always
      Ron

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  11. David is a lucky man in that you use Your power for good instead of evil. Well, not too much evil anyway. You are making sure that he will...........


    Live long and prosper

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    1. Ha Ha!
      I actually called it "my evil plan" when I described it to her!

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  12. Dear Julie,

    How did it make you feel to reach out to the trainer? Was it exciting to meet with the trainer and discuss the situation in such a public place? A lot of work goes into setting up david for these sessions. Is it a chore or something you get to enjoy as well?

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    1. It's not that much work. You know the old saying: If you want something done fast, ask a busy person! It's all you procrastinators out there who don't get to things that make it seem like a lot of work. Total work so far: 1.5 hours and most of that was lunch!

      But it's definitely not a chore. I consider david's sexual fulfilment and good health to be both my responsibility, and I enjoy fulfilling my responsibilities in creative ways.

      And yes it was exciting. I had butterflies in my tummy, as I do whenever I engage in "public play". I wouldn't say it was so much a sexual thrill, rather an adrenalin rush which is good because it lets you know you're alive!

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  13. All good workouts involve a dedicated "stretching" routine... Just sayin'

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    1. Yes, I think I'll ask her to do the "ankles over head" stretch on him!

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    2. I gather david isn't 'porn star' hung, so chances of his self-fellating are slim...but one should always have a goal, no?

      At the very least, david's jaw flexibility and "aim" should improve as he is jacked off into his own mouth...

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    3. I was thinking more that I like to have his ankles over his head when I'm banging him with my strap-on.

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    4. Ohhhh... You mean something like this?

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  14. Dear Julie,

    i've never been more inspired to dust off (but first, clear off the pile of laundry) from the exercise bike in my room. Also, i shall tie up my laces securely and go for a walk...on the road to a better self.

    Thank You for always exercising my mind with Your wonderful blog.
    All the best,:)
    pete

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    1. Excellent! Out you go and watch what you eat, young man!

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    2. Unfortunately i gave into temptation with a quesadilla and a few beers this afternoon. :( i can't help myself and fear that i've become much too stagnant.

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    3. Clearly you need a good woman to discipline you when you fall off the wagon, pete.

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    4. Yes, i suppose... :( Today - onion rings and a few beers. What am i thinking? Or better yet, why am i not thinking? What's Michelle's contact info? lol

      Best,
      pete

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  15. Good luck, I think in addition to smacks, also ass kicking will be great, and if she is really fit perhaps she can even do face slaps with her hands and also feet!

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    1. That is kind of humiliating: bend over, I'm going to kick you in the ass...

      Ha Ha!

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  16. Julie,
    What a great post. You put so much work into them. I love the Artwork/pictures high-lighting your writing.

    I know how much you Love David and it's nice hear that "you" don't care what he looks like, Butt he should ! I mean after looking at the pictures you posted of yourself...If I were David, I'd want to look good as well. I'd want to do it for you and at the same time get my Butt in shape. I mean you are such an Amazing Women...who seems to try and please him all the time.

    I think a Spanking that He won't enjoy should be in his future if he slacks off...just my 2 cents.

    Oh...I loved the " Go get your HairBrush" in his ear...That was HOT, and I'm sure His Bottom was later !

    HotBottominnj

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    1. The thing about diet and exercise is that you can always do better, so he'll be getting those spanking he won't enjoy no matter what!

      I actually don't get sexually turned on by a hot bod on a guy. Sure, it's pretty to look at, but I associate all those muscles with him being arrogant and dominant, which is a total turn off for me. I would much prefer a pudgy guy who worships my every step and gets slapped around like my bitch. Ha Ha!

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  17. Hi Ms Julie,
    I can't get the thought out of my head to add some sort of electrical prod as a motivator in david's sessions, maybe if/when spanking isn't doing the trick. I would have thought application of a small shock to an already red ass would be an attention focusser.
    lill (Ms Julie's sketch bitch) jo

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    1. That does sound nice... Where can I get me one that won't kill him but will get the point across? I'd also want to use it on his cock and balls I imagine?

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    2. Ms Julie,
      Sorry, I can't help with a suitable deivice. Perhaps your other followers have one they can recommend? My most recent experience of the application of 'wires' was slightly different as you know :)
      lill (Ms Julie's sketch bitch) jo

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    3. Here ya go...shocking developments to follow! david's fitness gains to be positively electric!!

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    4. There might be a problem with you rolling around on the floor laughing when you zap david by the sounds of it?

      lill (Ms Julie's sketch bitch) jo

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    5. can anyone vouch for this gizmo anony links to?

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    6. There's a video here:
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4nh2Kq6MKCY
      Hm... it looks a little tame in the video. but i think its adjustable? Yeah, thinking we need someone who's used this sort of thing?

      lill (Ms Julie's sketch bitch) jo

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    7. Hi Ms Julie,

      Maybe Mistress Scarlet could give some advice in the electrical area?
      http://msscarletuk.wordpress.com/2013/07/20/update-and-control-through-electricity/#comment-2801
      Ouch!

      lill (Ms Julie's punished sketch slut) jo

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  18. i been dreaming of finding my own personal female trainer who would whip and spank my ass into shape lord know i need get into shape iam too far out of shape and need female personal trainer who love to give me spankings keep me in line and in shape do u you think i need one or female like that

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    1. I think all subby males would benefit from such a trainer, especially you, mike!

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  19. i agree miss julie i could and would benfeit i actually look up couple gym near me see if they had female personal trainer i could go and talk to see if they be intrested in spanking and would spank me if i dont meet goals bet i would have sore butt during and after workout

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    1. Yes, you should do that, mike. Who knows, you might get lucky (or, you might get your face slapped!) Ha Ha!

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    2. just might take your advice and do that i hope i get lucky and my face not only thing that get slap if she give me the look i will just yank down my shorts bend over for paddling or bend over her lap for long hard ass spanking from her sound like fun to me

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  20. It almost sounds as if david's submissiveness is seeping more and more into daily reality and not only centered around your scenes. Further development along those lines would be good for both of you!

    Would you want that responsibility on a more permanent basis Ms Julie?

    Respectfully,
    j

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    1. Well, I kind of have the ultimate trump card in that I say when scenes happen and what happens in them. But if I don't ultimately keep them exciting for david it won't be fulfilling for him (or for me), and that's the whole point of this.

      And no, I want a husband who is an equal partner in real life, but a submissive little slut in scenes and in bed!

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