Saturday, February 27

Mistress Violet's Long-Distance Domination

I received something soooo sexy in the mail I just had to blog about it! It was regarding how my friend Mistress Violet Mays dominates over long distance a blog pen-pal of mine whom I introduced to her.  Wouldn't you like to be dominated by Violet?

Does this photograph of Mistress Violet make you weak in the knees?
Especially knowing what she is capable of doing to you?

This particular fella, we shall call him "henry" for our purposes, has been a commenter and correspondent of mine for many years. I believe his first comment was back in 2013 and our first email exchange was in 2015. henry divorced, unfortunately, and was trying to self-spank and asked for my advice. I suggested he travel to a big city and visit a Pro Domme as an outlet for his kink. I said if he came to Toronto that I would highly recommend Mistress Violet. He didn't succumb at the time, but it was clearly rolling around in his head, so just this month he finally contacted Violet and asked for a remote D/s relationship.

Mistress Violet is a very sensual being, but due to COVID she was willing to experiment and to get her head around the idea of non-in-person sessions using messaging and video chat. I think it's safe to say that the experiment was a great success to date, because the hotness that developed was off the charts in my opinion.

henry wrote,

Dear Ms. Julie,

Mistress Violet has given me permission to share freely with you, based on how well the two of you know each other, for which I'm very grateful. Having concluded a two-week trial period, she invited me to re-up for another four, which I enthusiastically accepted. Really, it's wonderful – many of the deep thrills and rewards of great vulnerability that I had in the good times of my FLR, and the sense that she is finding rewards in the dynamic too, which is beyond gold to me. And some pretty amazing bruises to go with it all.

I don't wish to burden you or overshare. Please feel free to ask me, or Mistress Violet, anything your interest or curiosity prompts (I have told her I am fine with her sharing anything she wishes with you).

Well that was intriguing to me. Of course I asked henry to elaborate.

Dear Ms. Julie,

So, our most recent stuff: Friday before last she set me the task of trying to sleep overnight in my chastity cage, giving me "outs" if there were too much pain or unable to fall asleep for a certain length of time. I couldn't fall asleep for hours, took it off, and reported the results the next day. She told me it wasn't a failure, it was learning – but I felt like I failed, and tried again the next night, without asking.

When I told her I'd succeeded she was not pleased with my "initiative" – concerned first that I was trying to provoke a spanking, and second (when I'd reassured her that was not the case) that my over-achiever, please-the-teacher hang ups had kept me from understanding the real purpose of the cage, which is to draw the submissive and the keyholder closer.

As punishment, I was to wear the cage 24 hours a day from Sunday evening until our next video session the following Friday evening, then at that session I'd take off the cage and receive a beating. During the week she gave me some tasks, like cleaning the bathroom with a toothbrush and sending her a picture of me licking the toilet seat, to demonstrate its cleanliness. Anxiety over the beating was slowly building for me (since I would have to administer it, of course, and satisfy Mistress Violet with its intensity).

Friday she had me unlock it and explain my understanding of why I had been wrong, and why I still needed to be beaten. Then she had me take a wooden spoon and directed 16 strokes to my right inner thigh, counting and saying "I'm sorry, Mistress," after each (she also would pause me, to give breathing instructions and things like "make each of the next four increase in hardness"). After the right thigh came five to my cock head, same procedure and terribly hard to do, I'd never ever punished my penis that hard before. Then 16 to the left inner thigh, more difficult left-handed. Finally (when I had a faint hope I was done) two more to my cock head, mewling and screeching.

When I was done she had me masturbate (SORE!) for her, describing what I was thinking about (her lovely lacy lingerie strap that was showing, and how beautiful she must look below her neckline), then spread the cum over dinner that evening.

OMG!!! What a masterful dominant is Violet is my only thought. Understanding and capturing in art the true meaning of the Dominant / submissive relationship.

There was henry, so eager to please, like a little puppy, after his failure with the cage. But he really did miss the whole point, didn't he? What he did was some kind of masturbation, really. So astute of Violet to hone in on the heart of the issue as she did. How henry's heart must have drooped at his utter failure. Her punishment was masterful as well. He succeeded in wearing it overnight after failing? Wonderful. Now wear it for a whole five days! What could henry say, really? He knew that he deserved it.


This is literally what poor henry had to endure for five full days on a whim from his Mistress Violet, and what poor henry was required to share with all of us. Yes, that is absolutely him. And of course, every single minute in that cage reminded him of his Mistress Violet and deepened their bond. And do you think that thought might have excited henry? I'll bet it did, which only made it worse as the cage constrained his erection and tightened its pull on his testicles. He no doubt moaned, unable to get his Mistress Violet out of his mind.

The little chores were lovely. We can see that henry did a wonderful job scrubbing his bathroom clean with a toothbrush. He had better have, because he well knew what he had to do to prove it.

henry is clearly a good looking man, and recording himself licking the seat guarantees cleanliness. I wonder if he was required to lick the inside of the bowl as well? I'll have to ask.

When his session finally arrived, Mistress Violet allowed him to remove his cage and then, according to henry, "explain my understanding of why I had been wrong, and why I still needed to be beaten." I'm sure it was heartfelt.

henry was no stranger to being beaten. For Valentine's day Mistress Violet requested a beating as her Valentine from him.

You can tell how much henry loves his Mistress by the white centers of his heart-shaped red-assed paddling. That is really an exceptional job for a self-administered paddling.

And here is henry delivering a through-the-legs tawsing to his bottom and sensitive inner cleft.

Really, really, a heartfelt bravo, henry. I am wondering how close the tips of that tawse came to his anal ring. When I deliver a tawsing to that area, you can believe me when I say nothing escapes its sting.

And here we see an aftermath shot after one of henry's Violet-directed beatings. I know Mistress Violet always plays safe and adjusts her demands to what her sub can take (I have had first-hand experience!). So, really, the following is a testament to henry's ability to endure pain for his Mistress. I think it's sweet.


henry must have been going around with a sore bum for several days after that.

On this occasion, however, the punishment was very specific. We read, "Then she had me take a wooden spoon and directed 16 strokes to my right inner thigh, counting and saying "I'm sorry, Mistress," after each (she also would pause me, to give breathing instructions and things like "make each of the next four increase in hardness"). After the right thigh came five to my cock head, same procedure and terribly hard to do, I'd never ever punished my penis that hard before. Then 16 to the left inner thigh, more difficult left-handed. Finally (when I had a faint hope I was done) two more to my cock head, mewling and screeching."

Oh my gosh. As a Domme myself, that description leaves me quite breathless and horny to do the same to my husband.

Here is a photo of henry that morning after his beating. He writes "Attached is the photo I took and sent next morning, as "record" of my apology. It's harder to see the damage done to my cock because of my natural twist direction (and because the head is already pinker than the shaft), but it was substantially bruised too."

Oh yes. That wooden spoon definitely left a mark.

It was after all of that when henry was told to "masturbate (SORE!) for her, describing what I was thinking about (her lovely lacy lingerie strap that was showing, and how beautiful she must look below her neckline), then spread the cum over dinner that evening."

It sounds like poor henry never even got to see below Violet's neckline, but was left to imagine. I can vouch for the fact that Violet is equally fetching above and below the neckline ;-)

henry had to masturbate in full view of Mistress Violet, describing what he was thinking about involving his Mistress (I am sure henry kept it PG-rated). He was ordered to collect his cum, and clean off the remnants with a tissue. Violet then gave henry strict instructions for his dinner that evening.

First, Mistress Violet required henry to retain the cummy tissue, tear it up over his dinner, and eat it all. Here is the intact tissue on his burrito.

And after it is shredded up as an extra "seasoning".

Then for desert, a nice chocolate sundae with "sauce" on top.

yummy, yummy, in the tummy!

I think henry learned his lesson about taking decisions involving his penis "into his own hands" so to speak.

But, just to make sure, there was a little left for breakfast the next morning to drive the lesson home.

So, yes, obviously I've had my fun teasing henry about his recent episode. But the real-life henry, both Violet and I agree, is a real sweetie-pie and we are both so proud of how bravely he submits to his Mistress.

I don't know if Mistress Violet wants more long-distance subs, but it couldn't hurt to ask if you are serious and are willing to pay what is asked of you, both monetarily and in your submissiveness. You can contact her via her website: Mistress Violet Mays.

Let us know your thoughts in the comments. Have you ever had a long-distance D/s relationship like this? Or perhaps you are engaged in one now? Or maybe you would like to be after having read this!

39 comments:

  1. Wow! Very hot indeed. I don't think I could submit the way Henry does. But Mistress Violet seems to have this great "kinky intelligence" and I have no doubt she could dominate me!

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    1. "Kinky intelligence" is a great way of saying it!

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  2. Funny how poor henry was denied a peek below Mistress Violet's neckline, yet your loyal readers have never seen much above it! Strange, which parts of ourselves we share online and which we keep a tight hold on.

    Of course, if the above is the price you need to pay for a glimpse of her visage then I'm happier wondering!

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  3. I tried an arrangement like this once with but it fell flat. There was no real connection that developed. I like how Violet focuses on the connection aspect with Henry. It was what was missing when I tried.

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    1. Agreed! The connection is what it's all about.

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  4. Mistress Violet certainly seems insightful and very much in tune with what henry needed. I have to say that the "sauce" on his dinner would have been a tough one for me.

    roger

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    1. I think Mistress Violet senses intuitively, in addition to conversation, what any particular sub needs.

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  5. I have had the privilege of doing many video spanking sessions online, both as a top and as a bottom. I normally do one-hour sessions. With a first-time partner I usually do a (paid) audio session first to establish what we would like to do. Not sure if you would consider this to be inappropriately commercial, but I can heartily recommend www.cammodeldirectory.com, where I have met and had/have ongoing relationships with a number of wonderful women. I am often astonished at the severity of the spankings I can perform on myself--like, it hurts to sit down for a couple of days afterward--when motivated and encouraged. I would recommend this type of experience to readers who want a personalized session without the complications of meeting with an in-person pro domme or sub.

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    1. Sounds good, but if you want a "sure thing", you know where to look!

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  6. I'll just say that Henry is apparently a good deal more flexible than I am, and leave it at that...

    C

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  7. You may have said what brought you this sexual desire to be spanked or give spankings, but could you briefly tell why again. Jack

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    1. My husband asked me to and I enjoyed the empowerment. Later it seemed natural to switch and I enjoyed that as well.

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    2. I told my wife I ask, and showed her the response. She smiled and said the empowerment is what she liked. She reminder me that I'm a slow learner. She did say you were allowed to spank me once, that is all. She enjoys seeing a grown man react to a spanking like a child. Jack

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  8. A very lucky guy, I think! I hope he realizes his good fortune.

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  9. Eh...kinda boring in my opinion to self punish without the touch, smell, energy and feel of a partner.

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    1. The "energy" is there! To me the experiment is if the sight, touch, written word, and energy can get you mostly there or not. Seems like it can for the right personalities.

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    2. Yeah I guess to each his own. But I mean she is a sex worker. She is probably taking a dump or brushing her teeth and texting this guy something that she has done 100s of times before while he pays a 100s of dollars every hour. This online domme stuff is just hilarious. Sorry am so cynical haha.

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    3. Wow, you are ignorant. First of all, the core of it is video chat, and many providers are branching out into online because of COVID restrictions. Also I don't like the negative connotation you attach to "sex worker". Yes, Violet is paid for her time, and at the same time I know for a 100% true fact that she VERY MUCH enjoys her work. She's sufficiently successful (because she is good) that she would not waste her time on anything that bores her. I think your comment says more about yourself than anything.

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    4. I am not saying she isnt a good domme or that she doesnt enjoy her work when she is actually meeting clients. I have seen her twitter profile, and while she does some extreme stuff, and I personally dont feel submissive if sex isnt involved, and therefore will never book her, I know she is VERY skilled - she has to be if she is able to do all that. You dont have to sell her skills to me.

      However I am quite cynical of this online domme stuff. I hardly think it is sincere. I wouldn't be surprised if like I said she was just engaging him with no emotion at all just as a service she is providing for money she is paid. If its a video chat, well okay, better. But regardless of that, not buying this whole energy thing over skype. But it looks like the guy enjoyed himself, so I guess its good?

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    5. Nothing said above couldn’t be said about an in person session as well. Fine, it’s not your thing, but don’t act like it couldn’t be other people’s. Also, you forgot to say “Get off my lawn!”

      roger

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    6. I get that the online domme thing's not your bag, it's not mine either, but it's kind of insulting to assume that there's no energy/emotion/connection in the relationship just because you wouldn't feel it - obviously it's working for henry, the evidence is right there! People need to connect with each other and sometimes, such as during a global pandemic, online is better than nothing.

      If you don't believe you can engage emotionally with strangers online then why have you posted three comments on a stranger's blog rather than sharing your opinions with a woman IRL?

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    7. I am not here to engage with anyone emotionally. I am here to just read fun stories, share my opinions on whatever topic and maybe take some inspiration to use in my private life. I did say, to each his own and if it works for henry, then its good?

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    8. Ok, but don't accuse folks of being insincere if you don't know they are. Violet was very unsure if she wanted to continue the arrangement with Henry, but did because of the kinky connection. Assuming you are the same anonymous as above!

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  10. Wow! I'm a long-time self spanker and have rarely if ever achieved those much sought-after powder whites on my bottom! Good on him and to Mistress Violet for getting him there. I wonder how many strokes (or perhaps it was a timed spanking) she ordered him to give himself to get those marks? TL

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  11. Isn’t it about time for you to be Ms Violet’s spanked slut again julie? You’re way overdue for a service.

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  12. Mistress Voilet May seem like perfect young woman experience know what she doing has she ewer ask you or wanted give you another spanking or hubby david one in another session

    I wish had some one i could do this with or be able experince this with her or go more then once to a Mistress like her or you

    just wish had women in my life i could have her dominate me spank me or give me spankings anytime i am still jealous of you or women like Mistress Voliet or guys who get see her or be able get spanking punishment all time or when needed being on fixed income is hard cant afford them

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    1. Fortunately, we have our imaginations, and that is where all the kinkiest things play out!

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  13. I know Henry well and count him as a friend. I am glad that he has found Ms Violet to serve. I think serving at a distance can work. Submission is still real. Those marks and discomforts and humiliations are still real.

    lill (MJpss) jo

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    1. Nice to hear from you jo jo. Yes indeed, it is the real deal he and Violet have going on.

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    2. You too Ms Julie (i wasnt sure if i should use my full previous title now). Thanks for your past 'distance dominations' they certainly helped me explore and vent some parts of me that needed that. Sill do really.

      All my best wishes

      jo

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    3. 'jo' is fine, it's a new chapter.
      Send me an email bringing me up to date when you have a moment.

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  14. I had a long term online relationship with a dominant woman via instant message and email. I spent many an evening dressed in feminine clothes, a plug in my ass, clamps on my nipples and being instructed on edging over and over again. I was given tasks such as going shopping for feminine items or writing on my body. I lived for these moments. It’s been many years since I’ve done that, but I still have those emails saved!

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