Saturday, July 24

Strict Julie Switches!

As some of you may have noticed, after almost a decade of blogging and more than 12M pageviews, I changed the banner title of my blog from Strict Julie Spanks! to Strict Julie Spanked! Most of my long-time readers will understand why...

My new reality...

Yes, there's no longer any point denying it, I am now more on the receiving end than on the giving end. Here is how my blog, which reflects my kinky life, has shifted over the years:

Back in the day it was the rare post which had a female subby theme, maybe 5%-10%. In 2016 it started ramping up. That was the year I got so excited by having my friend Tracy give me a paddling (Julie in for a Severe Paddling). There had been some mild subby play leading up to that, but that event is where I got really turned on by relinquishing control, and started getting more and more into it, as you can see by the chart which shows a fairly consistent rise up to around 2/3 of the posts with me being subby and 1/3 me being dommy. I think it's likely to stay around there, not by design, just because that's how I am.

I updated my blog and profile blurb to reflect my more subby-first, switchie status. I also, reluctantly, updated my age to early forties, though admitting only to a mental age of 19! Importantly, I also made the definitive statement that while I am a switch at play, I am also a real-life spanked wife at home. Oh, how writing that brings goose bumps to me!

I decided to make these changes after being inspired by PK Corey's life and works as described in The Work of PK Corey. PK is a woman in her mid sixties, a lifelong spanko who came out of the closet to her husband at age 50, and then just stopped caring who knew after she retired from her job as a schoolteacher and became a full-time writer of spanking fiction. She is still spanked by her husband. PK writes what she wants to read. We exchanged emails, and I was just inspired.

I thought about starting a new blog for subie stuff and keeping the old one for dommie stuff, but I'm pretty far down the one blog path already, and I switch very spontaneously, so why not be unique and be one of the only switchie blogs out there? Hence leaving "Strict" in the title along with "Spanked". A switchie title for a switchie blog.

I've noticed that many bloggers shelve their blogs before ten years, and maybe that's because they lose interest as there is just not that much more for them to say about the topic after ten years of blogging. That would have been true for me had I kept it strictly femdom. But the discovery of femsub was an exciting journey of discovery for me, and you all came along on that with me, and that certainly kept it fresh and sexy for me.

I'm not sure what the name change and acknowledgment of the orientation change will do for pageviews. All of us bloggers are at least a little bit pageview whores, and brand confusion is never a good thing. Already took a bit of a hit when I started writing some of my social commentary. Betwixt and between. Oh well! I figure I need to be honest to myself as a first priority, and people who are interested will drop by and be friends with me.

Thank you all for continuing on this journey with me!

Julie


123 comments:

  1. What you will need now is a soft pillow and cold cream. What spanking instrument do you wish to feel the most and the one to feel the least? Jack

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    1. I like his hand the most, and fear anything wooden the most. I also fear the Delrin cane. It is horrible. The strap can be nice or not depending on how hard. I like the flogger.

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    2. What scene did you get the Delrin cane sweetie? On your bare bum?

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    3. Just a sample, but it's enough!

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  2. Excitingest ! This is the absolute right age to take real good spankings. And after, even more.... :-)

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  3. I think the answer to almost any serious question probably should begin with, “It’s complicated…”, because we are, or should be, very complicated people! As an individual, I can “write” the same story for myself over and over again and still be excited by it. But that doesn’t mean any audience would want to hear me repeat myself. Thanks for finding a way to always keep it fresh, interesting, and arousing!
    - david

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    1. I actually don't blog about all our spankings and such, as it becomes repetitive. It bores me to blog it if I've blogged similar several times already, but it never bores me to have it happen.

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    2. Omg is this the first time David had ever commented on your blog?!?!?!!!!

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  4. You're still a bit young (mentally especially) to make a good spanked mother-in-law, but it will happen.
    caring son-in-law

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  5. My only wish this decade is for you to end up diapered by Sue and changed by your mom. Real life, not like in your book which I’ve “enjoyed” on a few separate occasions. That’s what I want for Christmas this year.

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    1. THAT might be a trick. Sue, possibly. My Mom? Nah.

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  6. I think you are finally ready for the ultimate humiliation, being a spanked cuckquean. As I previously commented on your blog, my husband cuckqueans me with my much prettier sister. When she is coming over I must be in an extremely small French maid dress and have her favorite drink waiting. I must remove her high heels and massage her feet as she and my husband sit on the couch kissing and fondling. Then as a warmup for sex that is better than with me, they bend me over the couch and take turns spanking me with my own hairbrush. They head to our bedroom and I must stand outside the door, listening to them, tears running down my face and my neglected sex on fire. I see something like this in your future. Timmie Jo.

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    1. My much prettier sister is a confirmed lesbian, so phew!
      But sounds like fun to have your tears dripping down your face like that.

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    2. Oh, but you have TWO sisters Julie! Just saying ...

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    3. One is not the playful type!

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  7. I want a post of all YOUR well spanked bottom pics and let the readers choose the best one !

    Paddle a Daddy

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    1. Hmmmm... Freudian slip in the signature?

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    2. Lolololol. Yep !

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    3. Lololololol. Yeeepp

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    4. As much as i would like to turn your bottom a lovely shade of red . I am not above being over that lovely lap either

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  8. As I understand it, you and Davif are now both officially switches?
    So you will still enjoy the best of both worlds whatever you call your blog.

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  9. I think that after a blogger has been here for a while, readers come to read what you have to say - spanker or spankee, I don't think they care that much. I think many get caught up in our story. As our story changes as we charge through life, the blog is bound to change too. Mine has been almost an online diary of my time involved in TTWD.

    "All of us bloggers are at least a little bit pageview whores..." You're right here, but we still have to blog for ourselves or it's just not fun anymore. So just go for it! Top or bottom share your story and we'll come along for the ride.

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    1. Yes I guess so, and they say honesty is important to writing. You can't write what you don't know, or feel. Thank you so much for renewed inspiration!

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  10. I will still go to your page first when I sign on. You have given me so much pleasure for the last decade I feel I owe it to you. I owe you for all the fluids I've lost too.

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    1. That's sweet, thank you! And sooooo much sperm!

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  11. As I fellow switch I would say it's certainly the best of both worlds! True to form I enjoy both your dommy and subby posts ;)

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  12. Welcome to the club, Julie. I do hope you enjoy your stay!

    -Kasey

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    1. I figured I'd apprenticed long enough.

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    2. Give it another 10 years and the switch board will convene to see if we will grant you tenure. ;)

      -Kasey

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    3. Looking forward to the initiation ceremony!

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  13. Welcome to the club! I've been a switch most of my adult life. I only converted to bottom-only with Mrs. Lion. It was the right decision. As long as you get aroused by spanking David, you are in no danger of being exclusively a bottom.

    Like you, I care about my visitor count. I'm less invested in pageviews. Your bottom tendencies are no secret. They leak out over the years. It's true that most bloggers never make it to five years, much less ten. I love reading your blog and look for new posts every day.

    Our blog is more of a journal. It records a lot of changes in our lives. I'm sure that costs us readers. Oh well. It's just an ego thing to care about that. We don't make any money from our blog. It's an expense.

    I look forward to sharing your adventures! Good luck!

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  14. Rogering here. Would always read your blog Julie, as your a fine emotionally intelligent writer. Just glad you came to terms with your actual age, as I was beginning to wonder were you becoming a real female Button like figure.Happy spankings and rogering in whatever hole David chooses.

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    1. But I want to be a cute and precocious 19 year old, early twenties at the most! Waaaaah!

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  15. Can't stop thinking of Sue spanking you and David together.

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  16. You might just name your blog: "Strict Julie". I think that covers it. And thanks for the corner time photos. That was a nice collection, and I'm sorry I didn't get to them sooner.

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    1. "!" is part of my personality

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    2. You're right. It should be "Strict Julie!" Of course.

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  17. A public belting of your 15yo ass is needed to celebrate!

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    1. Your both hands frantically rub your burning ass cheeks.

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    2. it is not enough to agree, miss "I crave a belting", your husband still has to have the idea of taking his belt off and put the smack-down on you.

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    3. Up to him! I will submit...

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    1. Believe in our conversations in the past I could see this in you

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  19. Have you and David ever been punished together? Am thinking someone from outside the family - an attractive young woman perhaps. Another personal trainer but dealing with you both could be a hot sccenario!

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    1. Yes we have, described somewhere in the blog. A couple of pros (including Violet) and Sue, and Tracy a bit.

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  20. Quite a transformation, Julie. All my best for continued success with the blog. I know the "new spanked you" will be equally if not more successful than the "spanking you."

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    1. I hope to keep both personas alive and well!

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    2. We all look forward to our continued acquaintance with both. :)

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  21. Good luck with the new name, it is only reflecting the reality of the situation. Just as long as you don't suggest to my partner that she should become "strict girlfriend spanked". I wouldn't sit down for a week!
    Gordon

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  22. I love your openness and honesty, and how else are guys going to get such an unobstructed glimpse into the female brain. Thank you for keeping on writing. I think my wife wants me to be more dom than submissive with her, so I may be able to learn and adapt.

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    1. My experience is that excitement for the one easily translates into excitement for the other, but YMMV,

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  23. It will be great to have Sue's summer sandals roast your ass Julie.

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    1. She's more interested in spanking her girlfriends and my husband!

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  24. We never tire of looking at this photo where we see the real finger of your real husband showing us your real red ass that has just really been given a spanking, the exhibited ass of the "spanked wife" that you have become. This new reality is dizzyingly (or simply?) real.
    That you chose, by showing this photo, to humiliate yourself, only increases this humiliation. Imagine your shame when you meet the eyes of someone who has seen this photo (and therefore your real "face").

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  25. How humiliating for a subbie. There is no lower status than to be dominated by a real-life "spanked wife".
    Besides, she can always threaten to call her husband for help!
    e-sub

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  26. Ms. Julie

    Interesting transformation.

    My first experience was as a spanker at a very tender age and my first sexual encounter of any type. It was wildly erotic, followed by other kinds of touching, and confusing for me, and I think for Martha - but I never saw her again (one of those beach vacation things).

    The next two attempts, years later, were unsuccessful and embarrassing for me to have shown interest.

    When I met Irene, I mentioned my interest. She told me she would be fine with spanking me but would never be on the receiving end. (Like you, she’d had been a victim of, in her words, being “essentially raped”.

    40 plus years later, Irene is quite the enthusiastic dominatrix. I’ve lost any interest in the top end, but maybe with another woman it would have been different.

    Best,

    Rosco

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    1. Keep an open mind. Irene, like me, might just discover that her distaste for being dominated by a man has vanished thanks to being so empowered from spanking you over the years.

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    2. I will keep an open mind but won't hold my breath.

      To the extent I engage in dominant fantasies, I imagine alternately spanking a bratty woman and licking her pussy - but not to the point of orgasm. Then I would make her get dressed, putting on a shortish skirt or dress sans panties and we'd go out to a party or on the town.

      She'd be hot and bothered to the point where she was scarcely able to engage socially. When we got home, I'd finish with the pussy licking and fuck her silly.

      Rosco

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    3. Sounds like what happened to be during my last spanking. I got soooo horny!

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  27. I have updated my blogroll with your new name.
    Try a martinet...
    I had explained how to build one with a comment box.
    B ;)

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  28. interesting, but how come you turned from this really dominant wife that kept her husband strict and spanked to this submissive?

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    1. With being on top it was always roleplay for us (though often realistic roleplay, playing ourselves and in our real-life day-to-day situations. I coined the phrase "Scening FLR" to describe it. IN rela-life, we were always more equal, with him often taking the lead on things and me liking it that way. He repressed his urge to spank me for many years, and redirected to the bottom. However, it slowly grew in me this desire to play on the bottom. The graph shows it well! Now I find what really turns me on is adding the element of a real-life spanked wife to the mix.

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  29. The ironic thing is you seem to be a more 'mean ' (in a good way!) and effective Domme when you do it then you were even just 2 or 3 years ago.Perhaps its the revived libido from discovering this part of yourself, perhaps a desire from some (mostly play but I'm sure he goofs up sometimes as a top and needs a takedown) revenge, perhaps a bit of gratitude at David for helping you along the way, maybe you want to give him the same delicious pain and pleasure sensations you are feeling or maybe a mixture of all 4 but it is always nice to see you two happy. So many of these blogs about kinky relationships never even get to the 'happy and pleased' with things stage, at least for both partners. You both seem enthusiastic. Anyway, it's ironic, but I fear you (in the good shivery way I like) as a Domme more than ever so you'll always be Strict Julie to me even when your sexy butt is shaking and wobbling and all welted in a corner because naughty little Julie came out and had too much fun :)


    Clarence

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    1. Yes. I'm much more sure of myself now as a top. Flip that switch on me (which I greatly enjoy) and look out!

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  30. I suggest inverting the graph to reflect your fall from Queen Bee Julie, Alpha Domme, to David's submissive little bitch!

    But seriously folks, really like it! 'Strict' reflects your past, your brand, your switchy side, 'Spanked' definitely indicates where you usually are now!

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    1. Yes, that would have been more appropriate!
      And thank you.

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  31. I for one look forward to a slightly new direction. It will certainly keep things fresh on the blog after such a long run. My big wish after following you for several years is to see “strict Julie diapered!” That seems to be one thing that just hasn’t happened yet but hopefully one day…!

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    1. Not so much a new direction as a realization that is my direction!

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  32. What would you estimate your spanking ratio is nowadays? We know you don't blog about every spanking given. But is it close to your subby-to-dommy post ratio (roughly 65% Julie spanked vs. 35% David spanked)?

    But in any event it has been a joy watching you evolve from one of the spankosphere's most prolific dommes to a spanked subbie wife. Thanks for sharing with us and allowing some of us repressed folk to live out some of our fantasies at least vicariously.

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    1. Good question. I think it's more 50-50, really.

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  33. Still have a fan & blog reader in me since i love everything about spanking fact you one getting spanking now it still ok with mw

    since even so you started spanking husband David cause he ask you too was good start but i remember you wrote even so he wanted asked be spanked you mention you secertly wanted the spanking instead

    Now you can get all spoankings wanted need and desver we can read about that see picture of your red sore spanked cute booty i know you get the real spanking type punishment one kind you like and you only did role play spanking with husband. correct me if iam wrong seem like you had no desire to give david real life type spankings just as in role play david never wanted to be given real spanking fopr real life stuff

    well now your life be much better with you going over the knee bent over over getting punished maybe really confirm it have Sue & david gfive you good spanking or Maybe Have Tracy come give you a spanking as well lol

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    1. Thank you mike - You have been a long time and loyal blog reader!

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  34. I booked off strictjuliespanked.blogspot.com, just in case you're interested ... and before someone did it for money or otherwise gain. Let me know if you want it and have some kind of redirect to this one.

    Always a fan.

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    1. Very clever of you! I am glad the domain was captured for good rather than evil!

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    2. You may have switched, but for many years I have read the kind of punishment you can dish out if I showed designs to be evil with the domain *shudders* :p

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  35. Appreciate your sharing of your journey and change in your power dynamic.

    Does this mean sissies you helped humiliate can get some revenge?
    sissy tay tay

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    1. Absolutely not! Now go clean the toilet bowl with your tongue. ;-)

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    2. yes ma'am.
      aww...shit! i have never felt so humiliated in my life...:(
      i feel myself blushing and harden
      sissy veegee

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    3. - Julie
      - Yes my beloved ?
      - Go lick the toilet bowl.
      - Never!
      - Julie...
      - No David...Pleaaase...

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  36. Change is good. I look forward to your continuing blog.

    Baxter

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  37. Hope we still get to hear about the trainer antics if you find a kinky Trainer when Canada reopens those along with the diaper and shopping experiences were always my favs

    Emily

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  38. I have totally enjoyed reading about your games of spanking and dominating your husband. It is a rare treat to find since I believe that male spanking female is much more prevalent.
    Certainly I developed my interests in spanking reading about women being spanked. I spanked my wife for many years and never really considered that she might spank me. I think that reading your blog was influential in my developing into my role as a submissive, belt whipped husband now.
    So, I am disappointed that there will be less stories of Julie spanking, but totally understand the switch and will always enjoy reading about you being spanked.
    These days when I read or watch a video about a woman being spanked I just wish that I was her, including having a hot sexy body.

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    1. That's right, just imagine you're the girl and all is cool!

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  39. Interesting to learn that it was only within the last year or so that you had this realization that you are more at home as a spanked wife. I wonder how many people will actually notice that the blog title is different from the URL name. Unless they are reading this post where you point that out, I'm guessing not many. By the way, I'm wondering what's going on with you and Mr. Stevens. Perhaps you could post an interim progress report on negotiations or whatever is happening at this stage. Thanks. - Frank

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    1. He vacations during July and August, so we are reconvening in September, hot to trot!

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    2. Hey Julie, thanks for that update. I and no doubt many others are looking forward to reading all about that little rendezvous. It's nearly August so September can't be that far away. - Frank

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    3. I am feeling a bit nervous about it! It's a bit of an experiment. If a dominant older man can do whatever he wants with a younger woman for an hour or two, what would he do?

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  40. Have you been spanked by an older woman? My wife told me that older women know how to give a sound spanking. I looked at her and said I know that, your mother does not hold back when she is spanking me. So just wondering. Jack

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    1. My Mom took a few swats, and Sue is a bit older, but no, not really.

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  41. je vous suis de loin puisque de France, mais suis assidu, et meme si je l'ai déjà dis, votre blog est parfait, bien écrit, et surtout une vrai connaissance de la fessée....

    Pour moi j'attends le jour, peu ĂȘtre, ou votre papa (votre vrai) vous fessera avec plaisir, comme je le fais avec mes deux filles...

    C'est tout le mal à vos fesses que je vous souhaite, et le plaisir partagé de la fessée parental, et aussi votre maman qui decide pourquoi pas, elle aussi, qui s'occupe aussi de vos fesses...

    la régression de redevenir la petite fille, avec le plaisir de l'adulte qui va jusqu'au bout de ses fantasmes, devient un partage de plaisir, pour aller hors des limites, dans ce partage hors du commun ...

    Ce que nous vivons avec mes filles est unique, et vous souhaite la meme chose....

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    1. Indeed! I have very strong Daddy fantasies, and fantasize about my real Daddy even!

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  42. You should investigate the possibility of a public spanking.

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  43. Hi, Julie. Long time reader and lurker (maybe 5 years or so). I Love the fact that you've gone fully switch! It's been coming for a long time. As a switch, I 'feel you' and love that you are sharing your journey with us. And, babe, women in their 40s are sexier than at any other time in life. I just love the whole transition you've shared. TL

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    1. Certainly hornier in my forties! I want it, like, all the time now. Husband is exhausted...

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  44. Hi Julie, you mentioned something about spanking david while he is fucking you, and said you will make a post on that.
    Please make this post soon as I can't figure out how can you reach and spank his ass in this position.

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    1. Consider it done! I'll see if I can't get him into the sack in a subby mood tonight and blog about it tomorrow.

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  45. I love that you quantify your kink. As the great Lord Kelvin said: "I often say that when you can measure what you are speaking about, and express it in numbers, you know something about it; but when you cannot measure it, when you cannot express it in numbers, your knowledge is of a meagre and unsatisfactory kind."

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    1. Yes, it took a few hours to score each post and quantify it like that, but seeing it in numbers is quite stark!

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  46. Lovely to read how you have adapted to the spanked wife, as opposed to the strict wife. I had mentioned and seen that many years ago, and now you are acknowledging it. Bravo! I started life wanting to be the spanker, but quickly learned that if spanking occurred in our married life, I would be the one being spanked. I have enjoyed this role immensely. A woman (Danielle) started by being the spanked wife, but reached out to me during the Spankedhubby blogspot(18 years ago) that I had, and after chatting for awhile on line, she became the spanker, which totally fit her demeanor, and her husband john, came to truly enjoy being the spanked husband. we have now visited and stayed with them In Holland on two occasions, and share a wonderful friendship. So, if ever you want to meet, and as couples we become compatible, then Cindy could spank me, while David spanks you.
    Keep on enjoying life
    bottoms up
    Red
    Ps: I think you should be spanked for real, as a celebration of your spanking scenario reveal!

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    1. I think I've evolved into a true switch, and so has my husband, so that's fun!

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  47. I am getting round the clock spanking, my wife spanks me for 2 minutes non-stop every hour, at night I get a special bedtime spanking, 5 rounds of 2 minutes spanking with short breaks.
    Of course every time it is a different implement. Though mostly different types of slippers also different size canes. Only one hair brush and 2 wooden paddles, no belts but a water hose.

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    1. What? I got two 10 minutes of spanking with a hairbrush, in a row. I am feeling hard done by!

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  48. Thanks Julie for the wonderful blog you produced over the years. I have followed and lurked since I first encountered you on HSX, a long time ago and some fantastic experiences. I will miss Julie Spanks but I accept your right to move on, heck it’s your blog to with as you wish, it just not my preference. I will still look in but not so often but I did want to say a BIG thank you.

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    1. Not so much moving on as settling in. I don't think the mix will change much over what it's been the past year, but that is 60% subby.

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  49. Such a great blog over the years! As a pure sub male for life, I miss the 95%+ Domme Julie, but everyone has their own journey and appreciate you sharing yours.

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