Sandy's Story - First Punishment Roleplay

Where we left off in Sandy's Story - Anal and Spanking, Tom explored Sandy's boundaries with some anal fingering and spanking her all over with full feedback. I thought it was by now high-time for Sandy to experience her first real roleplay spanking from boyfriend Tom.

I wanted it to be easy to act out, and pretty constrained for their first time. I wrote them as follows.

Ok guys, time for Sandy's first real roleplay spanking. You've both done amazing to-date. Tom, you especially have really stepped up and been so skillful. You are very well prepared to deliver a convincing hand spanking to a "protesting" Sandy.

You are going to roleplay something that will require relatively less acting. Tom, you will be a live-in boyfriend who spanks Sandy for disciplinary purposes. Sandy, you will be Tom's live-in girlfriend who requested this arrangement from Tom. So even in your roles, there is implicit consent from Sandy to be "taken-in-hand" (that's what we call the bottom in such arrangements. Tom, you play "head-of-household", the top role).

You guys should choose some sort of misbehaviour from Sandy. It can be something real from your lives, but if so make sure it's nothing too controversial or too serious. Like, maybe Sandy leaving a mess in the kitchen, or not doing a chore that is hers to do. Or you can make something up, like distracted driving, or smoking when she said she would quit. Choose something lightly real or made up but easily imagined.

Tom, your job is to give Sandy a "punishment".

Assume the initial discussions and sentencing to a spanking has already occurred. Assume it's your normal rhythm to have Sandy standing in the corner with her unspanked bare bum showing prior to her spanking. You'll start the scene from there.

Tom and Sandy, discuss in advance what clothes, if any, would be best for Sandy at this stage. Whatever turns her on most.

Tom, go to Sandy and take her out of the corner and bring her across your knee. Use the same positioning as you used for the earlier exercise. With this scene, Tom, you can scold Sandy if you want, or you can be the strong silent type just doing what needs to be done. Although I think Sandy would like a bit of scolding at this point.

Tom, use only your hand, and only on the most classic spanking areas. Use right/left alternating spanks only to Sandy's "sit spots", those lovely fleshy girlish curves at the base of the butt just above the line where thighs meet butt.

Sandy, you should be a bit of a brat. Initially you are not at all sorry for whatever it is you did and you think Tom is overreacting. Over the course of the spanking you will become more and more contrite.

Both of you will use the amount of contrition (or lack of it) in Sandy's voice to determine whether to go harder. Realistic spankings are pretty fast and quick, so don't drag it out, don't try to extend it beyond. It's not sensation play like last time, it's a played out punishment.

Sandy you have complete access to yellow and red safewords, of course. But both of you should try to use indications in the scene. On the other hand, Tom, you can't let Sandy off while she's still being a brat. The spanking continues until she promises to be a good girl and to behave, and that she's sorry, so sorry.

Maybe use a set phrase from Sandy to determine when the spanking should ultimately wind down. Like "Oh, mercy please Tom!" Until you hear that, Tom, keep going, even if it surprises you how much she wants. Tom can pause when he hears that. Give a final bit of a lecture, and then give Sandy a set number of good hard ones to end with. "I'm going to give you ten more to each cheek to make sure you learn this lesson, young lady." Always good to push your sub a bit beyond where she would prefer it to end (while still respecting safewords, of course).

Or, Tom, just end it when you want it to end and you've felt that Sandy has "learned her lesson". You're in charge.

Hopefully there will be a few tears from Sandy (and hopefully NOT from Tom). It won't necessarily happen and is not a goal, but if it does happen, Tom, realize that it is an emotional release for Sandy, and she wants more of it until she uses her escape phrase.

Since you're only using your hand, Tom, and only to the fleshiest bits of her bum, your chance of injuring Sandy is so close to zero it's not worth mentioning (but that is what the red safeword is for, so fear not). Her bottom will colour up, as you saw before, and maybe even a bit more spectacularly than that given Sandy's relatively virginal bum. Keep those Big Girl panties hoisted right up there Tom, and keep at 'er!

Also Tom, you can scold during the spanking as much or as little you wish. You can also take pauses for a bit of a lecture, and you can modulate the spanking to harder and then back off to lighter (but never too light, or it's not realistic to the scene). If you get a yellow, make sure to respect that and bring the intensity down, but don't acknowledge "in scene" that you heard anything from her. "In scene" that word is inaudible. And it's ok to progress back to the point where you got a yellow, and then even go beyond it if you are not getting another yellow. Often the bum gets more used to the spanking and the tolerance goes up, sometimes way up, after the butt is "warmed up" and when the head space is right for Sandy.

Mind you, it is not a goal to get Sandy to say yellow. If you're at the peak of your game, Tom, you should sense when she's about to yellow and back off a bit for some scolding or something.

Once the scene is over I think cuddles and forgiveness is called for, merging from the scene back into real life expressions of love and caring. This is called "aftercare", Tom, and Sandy will need it after such an emotional experience (you will also, after having to "beat" your girl like that).

Make it a good one Tom, and make that little brat sorry for her misbehaviour and for any bratting she does along the way. It can actually be a powerful unconscious boost to the male ego to transform a girl like that. It's in your lizard brain - you ought to experience a surge of testosterone that you will control beautifully.

Afterwards, you may fuck if so inclined. Tom, you might well have a tiger in the sack after that. Or Tom, your T may be so high that Sandy won't know what hit her. Just go with it!

Good luck and have fun!

Fun exercise, no? After a few days I got my expected reply. They wrote it back to me together, both at the keyboard (so sweet!). It was a bit hard to parse out the scene description, Tom's comments, and Sandy's replies to Tom's comments, so I clarified it by adding colours and indentation to distinguish. I also added my own commentary in there as I'm writing this now as well.

I'm indented black.
Sandy is indented red.
Tom in indented brown.

Guess what, Julie?

I got spanked! Spanked and fucked. But mainly spanked. The spanking I was dreaming of getting. Tom was amazing and it was perfect.

That's what I like to hear! 

We went with just regular clothes I wear everyday. A sort of ratty grey track pant, T-shirt (no bra), plain cotton panties, and socks. Feeling a little trailer-trash domestic.

We chose "dinner on the table" as my misbehaviour. I was supposed to be in charge of cooking a healthy dinner, and I had not done it several times before and we had to order in. I did it again today, and it was the last straw and Tom decided to spank me for it.

In real life, getting a healthy dinner on the table is something I want to do, but I too often don't and we have to order in. Tom doesn't mind (I think he prefers ordering in to my cooking).

Not true, baby, I love your cooking.

So it feels like a failing of mine, to me, and so it's a good choice for my spanking, I figured.

I know you said to start from the corner, but we both thought it would be more fun if Tom put me there, and if we could act that part out. Hope is ok?

Sure! That's fine. I had you start that way to minimize the amount of roleplay acting/improv, as some folks are uncomfortable doing that. I figured Sandy would likely be ok at it, but assumed Tom would not be. Delighted that my prejudices were proven so wrong!

We did it right at dinner time after work. 

Tom said, "how's dinner coming, baby?"

"I was going to go to the supermarket but then I forgot. Let's just order in tonight, ok? I promise I'll cook dinner for you tomorrow."

"Sandy! This is getting ridiculous. It's the third time this week we have to order in! Who's in charge of getting a nice healthy dinner on the table?"

"I am..."

"Yes you are, and I think I need to remind you of that."

Oh Julie. I had those butterflies in my tummy you get too when he said that. I knew what "reminding me" meant. I was feeling my role totally. It was so real already. Brilliant move having our roleplay be so close to home.

I knew I had to be a bit of a brat according to your email, and understood why (so he could "tame me" during my spanking). I'm not sure that's really me, but I thought I'd try it on for size.

I stomped my foot on the ground, channeling my inner toddler, and said, "I don't see why I have to be the one to always do it!"

"You know darned well that's how we divided the chores. Get your nose in the corner. NOW you little brat!"

Ha ha! Loved that Tom called her "little brat". He's a natural.

I stomped my foot again and huffed, but I went to the corner. Tom followed me, and when I was there he pulled my track pants down to my ankles, and then my panties to my knees. Then he made me put my hands on top of my head. 

We had discussed corner time after the last session, and asked him to put my hands on my head during it. He remembered. 

I'm not an idiot.

"I'm going to go order some food for us and as soon as that's done I'm giving you a spanking."

"Tom, no!"

"Shut up. Stand there. And think about why you're going to be getting this spanking"

"Oh!" I said and stomped my foot again.

Tom never says "shut up" to me. It felt so degrading that he did. It was a bit of an unexpected turn on.

I was having fun with it. I've wanted to say shut up to her in the past but was always too polite. It also felt sort of good ordering her around, being the "man of the house" or whatever.

I could feel that energy from Tom and liked it. (During roleplay, and maybe sex, only!) 

yeah, yeah, I got it. Want another spanking? 

yes.

Tom actually did order food as I stood there. It felt like a long time he was gone.

It was literally less than five minutes.

Tom came suddenly into the room, walked over to me, grabbed me by my arm, and pulled me out of the corner and over towards the couch. I was losing my balance and tripping on my track pants all bundled around my ankles. Tom held me up and sat in the middle of the three seater couch and then propelled me across his lap.

I was trying to channel what an angry dude who beat his wife would be like.

Not exactly the vibe we are going for here, Tom. No anger. No wife beating. It's "spanking" and it's because you love her and want her to be happier long term.

"Why are you getting this spanking?"

"I have no idea!" I said, still being the brat.

"No ideal, eh? We'll see about that."

And then he started spanking me. 

Yay! He used his hand, and he stuck to my A+ region at the undercurve of my butt, alternating sides. He was going pretty hard and at a decent pace. 

The sensation exercise was great so there was no guesswork in how and where and how hard and how fast to spank her.

He paused with his hand on my butt and asked again, 

"Why are you getting this spanking?"

"Because you're a big bully!"

I knew his sensitivity on that point, relative to him spanking me, and said that anyways. I'm a bad human being. 

I felt a twinge of genuine anger. As in, fuck you. But I figured I was in the perfect position to express a bit of anger.

Be careful with this, guys. Playing with real emotions on important subjects is fraught. Smarten up, Sandy.

He didn't respond with words, but my spanking suddenly got a whole lot harder.

I started ow'ing and saying I was sorry for calling him a bully.

Pause. Hand on butt. "Why are you getting this spanking?"

"Because I didn't get your stupid dinner on the table."

He started right back in spanking me. I was again ow'ing and now saying it wasn't a stupid dinner and I was sorry for saying it was.

I couldn't believe how long she was holding out. I think we were past the point of yellow from last time, and her butt cheeks where already super red looking.

Yeah, I was holding out. I wanted my first real spanking of my life to mean something.

Thinking about me at all? My comfort level?

Sorry.

Look at you guys, arguing right in my email reply! But yes, Tom, it's often harder than one thinks. That was definitely my experience learning to spank my husband. Felt like 10 times harder than I was comfortable with. Sandy needs it like that, and I was so happy to see you stepping up. It'll become way easier after you have multiple experiences with Sandy being perfectly ok 5 minutes later and begging for more.

Pause. Hand on butt. "Why are you getting this spanking?"

"Because I didn't have your dinner on the table."

finally

One big spank. "How do you address me?"

"Because I didn't have your dinner on the table, Sir!"

Learned that one reading Julie's blog - she always sir's David during her spankings. 

I figured that was what he wanted, first time. 

"Good. Now that you understand why we're doing this, I can start your spanking."

"What? No! You already spanked me!"

Safewords rock. Since she wasn't using them, or her escape phrase, it only meant she wanted more. Getting the hang of it.

Exactly! They do rock. We can plunge right into the fantasy of "no don't" and everybody can remain comfortable and in control.

"This is to teach you a lesson you won't forget."

And then he started in spanking again. It was really pretty hard by now. I wasn't crying exactly, but the pain was bringing wetness to my eyes.

"Are you learning your lesson?"

I don't know what got into me, but I said, "no, it's a stupid lesson!"

It's like a battle of the fucking wills. Just escape out already, please.

sorry

I have to side with Tom on this one. You're being a bit selfish and short-sighted, Sandy. You want Tom to remain comfortable spanking you, and bringing him along more gently, even though you may not be fully satisfied the first few times, is important. Fortunately, Tom stepped up regardless. He's a keeper!

"Alright then," he said, and he started back in again, harder and faster.

Had those Big Girl panties on, Julie. This was beyond my comfort level, but I knew she wasn't being injured, and I knew what needed to be done.

You are a STUD, Tom! 

I took it for a bit longer and then decided it was time to be tamed.

"Ok, ok, ok. I'm sorry Sir. I've learned my lesson. I'll have dinner on the table next time, I promise"

He paused my spanking and lay his hand on my hot ass.

"You promise, do you? I've heard that before. Why should I believe you now?"

"Please Tom, have mercy on me. I promise I'll be a good girl."

Fucking finally!

They used my "mercy" escape phrase idea. 

"Ok, Sandy, I believe you. But I'm going to give you twenty more now, really hard ones, to make sure you don't forget."

Ha ha ha! These were my gift to you, Sandy. Enjoy! 

"Please, no Tom. You've spanked me enough. No more." 

"I'm going to make sure you feel these ones."

He parted my butt cheeks with one hand and smacked me right onto my inner bum cheek with the other. All near bumhole and vag and everything. Really hard.

I know you said only spank spots, Julie, but this was an "A" area for her, and who's in charge here, anyways?

You are, Tom. You are in complete charge, and it's wetting my panties a little. 

He gave me five like that. Then he switched hands, and did five on the other side. He then went back to my low ass cheeks and ended with ten super hard ones, alternating sides, paced about 10s apart each. He did this without a word. It was brutal. I loved it, and I loved him. I was way past yellow, but I knew the end was in sight, so I took it.

Tom helped me up and then sat me on his lap. My bum was so sore.

"How's that? Did you learn your lesson?"

"Oh, that was wonderful, Sir. I definitely learned my lesson."

We kissed and cuddled, and he had his hand under my shirt and on my tit one moment, and then down between my legs the next.

"Oh, please fuck me, Tom," I begged.

Oh my! Get a room, kids! I feel like a voyeur now.

We did it right there, missionary style, on the couch. His cock got me just right and I came right there, with him inside of me. It was very toe-curling. I was done and he was still pumping. I'm so sensitive after I've come, so it was an exquisite torture until he too came into me.

I was over the moon. I told Tom how amazing my first real spanking experience was.

I get it, but I really don't, but I get what makes her tick now and love giving her what she wants and needs.

Thats all Sandy can reasonably expect, Tom. You are a stud.

Thank you, Julie! And you know what? We feel like we graduated middle school at least. Looking forward to high school!

Sandy and Tom

Well done, kids!