A Real Man

I have been exchanging messages with "Submissive Husband" on the Topix forum.In a recent post he wrote something that turned my crank nicely:

... we did have a new twist this morning, she had gotten ready for work, and came to make sure i was up, with a smirk, she said good morning. as she was totally dressed for work, i asked, "may i please jerk off?" to which she said yes, but didn't do more. your not going to help? i asked. nope. so there i layed, naked stroking as she just sat and watched. was a twinge of embarrassment of sorts but, i liked it. to her surprise she commented after, i kinda liked that.

I answered him with a bit of a saucy dommie response, hoping to fuel more jerking off in future (ASIDE: I love that guys may be jerking off to stuff I write - just put a little picture in their mind, and there they go tugging at their poor abused little penises. I think they do feel shame, but can't stop doing it. Ha Ha!)

Well you should be embarrassed. Little boys tug on themselves like that (and I have seen monkeys in the zoo do that as well). A real man would be able to fuck his wife whenever he feels like it. But I guess not in your case, eh? Poor boy! ;-)

and he responds

Hard to tell if you approve of her control or not? Does you husband get you whenever he wants?

To answer the first, of course I approve of her control. But I think he was wondering if I was being critical of him for not being a "real man" in bed. I will come back to that later.

As for the second question, my husband used to get me whenever he wanted. Of course he never forced me, but I would let him have me when he wanted, even if I was not particularly in the mood. I figured I had duties as his wife. In his vows he had promised not to sleep with anybody else. So if he couldn't just go out and get another pussy whenever he wanted, I guess mine was the price I had to pay for that. So I put up with a lot of sex that was satisfying for him, but not always for me. Pretty twisted thinking, looking back on it.

But lately, since he started asking me to spank him, well my thinking has turned and I don't think he gets that privilege anymore. If his fondest desire is to be spanked, which I associate as a very unmanly thing, suitable for a little boy or a submissive girl, I'll treat him like a submissive girl in bed also.

He handed his pants over to me when he first asked me to spank him, so he does not get to wear them anymore. Don't worry though, he's not completely bare all the time, I gave him panties to replace them with. As for his cock, he does not get to use that as he pleases anymore either. If I want it in me, then it better be hard and ready for me, and if not, I would now not hesitate to belt whip him to teach him a lesson. If I don't want it in me, well I can replace his cock very adequately with my strap-on, only with him bending over and taking it from me.

But I don't mean "unmanly" as a bad thing in the context of the home or bedroom. I love it! A male can be a real man in the outside world, and we love them for being strong like that. After all they need to hold down a job, be in control out there, protect me physically from other guys, and bring me home lots of nice money to spend! I love a "real man" and my husband is all that and more.

Some men, so inclined, with a partner so inclined as well (as used to be the case with david and I), get sex basically whenever they want it, as I explained above, and are dominant in bed. In the bedroom, I would call that "a real man", and there's nothing wrong with that. It can even be a thrill.

In fact, I used to think it was a big thrill to have him be all dominant like that in bed. Now I realize that the thrill I felt was the thrill of power and control, and while it was ok when he wielded it, it's ten times better when it is me with that power and control!

So in the house, in the kitchen, and especially in the bedroom, I for one have come to prefer my man submissive to me. I want a real man in the outside world, but not in the home or the bedroom. There the man must ask politely for sex, and may be refused. It is the woman, who by virtue of wielding the hairbrush, also gets to call the shots in the bedroom. It is so natural that way.

When you submit to going over my knee and getting your bare little bottom warmed, you give up your right to be a real man in my house. Too bad for you. If only your craving to be spanked like that could be kept in check, then you could keep your "real man" bedroom privileges. As it is, it's going to have to be panties and an apron, and "Yes Ma'am" and "No Ma'am" from now on, or I'll put away my hairbrush and then what will you do?