When I first got started, I posted my reactions and asked for advice on the "Spanked Husbands" thread on "topix". The link is here. Here are my first few posts on that forum and some reactions. I am "juliesp" (that's short for "Julie Spanks").
juliesp - Oct 10
Hi!
I just spanked my husband for the first time! He asked for me to, and i didn't mind, so I really gave it to him! I really enjoyed doing it, which I didn't imagine I would that much. I used a real-life excuse (dirty dishes he just piles up on the counter - hello, dishwasher is, like, right there!)
Now I'm kinda turned on by the whole idea and started looking for some chat sites. This one seems to be pretty decent, except for all you >other< pervs, that is, who seem to want your wives to do all sort of humiliating things to you - you're giving me ideas!
Mistress Margaret - Oct 10
Check out the "Disciplinary Wives Club" web pages for some ideas. They also have a rather effective wooden hairbrush you can purchase through them. Very effective, I highly recommend it.
Enjoy!
juliesp - Oct 10
Thanks!
I actually did use a hairbrush on him (he wanted me to, and gave me a big wooden paddle-shaped one I didn't even know we had). It was a good thing because I tried a couple of smacks with my hand and it didn't have any effect at all (except hurting my hand!!).
I think I might have gone overboard, though. He really seemed to be in pain when I was hitting him. I hope he still wants to do it again after that, cause I enjoyed it.
How do you know when he's had enough? I swear he really seemed to be in pain and his butt was all red, and he was begging me to stop, so i stopped, because I was afraid to hurt him, but then a few minutes later he's walking around as if nothing happened.
He said he wanted a "real" spanking. So why was he such a wimp about it???
Mistress Margaret - Oct 10
My husband screams and cries out when I spank him. He does get pretty red and warm from it all. I sort of gauge his pain from the amount of twisting and contorting he attempts to do during the spanking. He will often have some redness in the days after. But he will also get somewhat aroused from the ordeal. What I sometimies do to deal with that is have him jerk off while I watch. The he is limp, and I spank him some more, and boy does he feel it then........
juliesp - Oct 10
That exactly describe my husband's reaction: Screaming and crying out, but then hard afterwards regardless.
I would love to have that much control over him that I could just tell him to jerk off afterwards and he would. How did you get yours there?
Mistress Margaret - Oct 10
Well, since he is aroused during the spanking, it isn't too difficult to get him to jerk off, and besides, he enjoys an audience. I may have started by getting him off orally, then progressed to him foing it. Anyway, the key is to resume the spanking after he climaxes. Then you know he is feeling it, when he is no longer aroused.
Try it, I think you will be happy with the results......
juliesp - Oct 11
I spoke with my husband about his spanking. He says that while he was turned on by the spanking and the thought of me doing it again, when he is being spanked he is actually in a lot of pain.
In other words, he was not faking when he was over my knee even though he seemed just fine right afterwards. So he claims anyways.
Can some of you guys who are spanked tell me if that sounds right to you?
He also says that he felt really submissive to me after his spanking. I guess I should take advantage of that and make him do some housework when he's in that mood! Ha ha!
Jim - Oct 11
Did he get an erection? If so, what did he or you do with it?
juliesp - Oct 11
He was hard during his spanking - I could feel it poking into my thigh. I got pretty excited, and took him to bed, but to tell you the truth, it wasn't his erection I put to good use!
Jim - Oct 12
Ah, you naughty little minx. Spank him and then use him for your own pleasure. That's the best way. Please share with details when it happens again, and it will.
Over the years, I have been spanked, paddled, whipped, birched, caned or strapped by two wives (and several prior or intermediate girlfriends) and always with mutual enjoyment... (keeping in mind that the women involved were usually ready to get as to give ;-)
ReplyDeleteThe thougt of a man striking a woman, even for mutual enjoyment, makes me very uncomfortable. On the other hand, a woman spanking a man seeems extremely natural to me.
ReplyDeleteI know it's non-sensical, and you'll probably suggest I need to get a spanking myself, but that ain't happening anytime soon! My little pantied ass is staying lilly white, thank you very much!
I am concerned about my friends finding out. My wife is now carrying a strap in her purse. She tells me while she wouldn't spank me in public she wouldn't hesitate to do what she did at her suster's house and punish me in semi private. I am not able to quiet my cries and she can get me to promise anything to get her to stop. So anyone in ear shot can hear. The idea of her brandishing the strap is very embarrassing. She tell me she fully intends to soank me in front of her mom which sounds terrible.
ReplyDeleteI think it sounds great!
DeleteYou sound like a little baby in need of some stern discipline from any handy woman.
I never thought of myself as submissive until getting my first adult spanking. As my wife has upped the ante I find myself preoccupied by various suggestions she has made about spanking me in humiliating situations.While the spankings hurt a lot it seems it's really the humiliation that I am fixated about. My wife and her sister are younger than me. My wife has told me some details of the spankings they got from their mom and I see her as a matronly figure. I am not going to suggest it but I think getting spanked in her presence or by her would be a new dynamic. Has David ever commented on the lasting sensation of a really sore bottom?
ReplyDeleteI think it would be lovely if you got a spanking in front of your wife's sister and mother both.
DeleteAnd oh yes. I once gave david such a hard strapping that he felt it for several days afterwards! He seemed to enjoy the lingering pain of it, the bad boy!
Hello Julie
ReplyDeleteI am dan's wife and as he said , we are just taking our first steps in that FLR lifestyle. And I just begin to realize how fun it is and how much I enjoy it and it benefits our marriage. Discovered your blog via Dianne's one (wifesincharge) and find your approach more and more appealing ; at first spanking was only for "punishments" to broken pre-established rules between dan and I , but poor dan , he may get a little more than what he was asking for when he first introduced me to the joys of spanking , a revelation ! Congrats for your blog , fun and inspiring. keep on the good work ;)
-Lilly
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DeleteYou certainly are, mister! Now hush and put your nose in the corner while I speak with Lilly.
DeleteLilly,
The worst punishment you can give a lad like dan is not spanking him. I use that threat very often with david. If he tries to game me in any way (ie, deliberately acting bad, for instance not doing the dishes) in order to get punishment, then he absolutely must get much more than he bargained for. dan enjoys the thought of spanking, and he enjoys spankings, but he will not enjoy a severe strapping that leaves his legs black and blue. But that is exactly what he should get if he tries manipulating the situation. If he does not submit to the strapping, then you should stop spanking him altogether. I mean, what's the point in all this if he gets to be in charge? That's no fun for you.
I apply the same rule to pushing his boundaries in semi-public or public situations. It is ONLY my judgement that counts. He has no say. If he does not trust you to this extent, then you should not be spanking him at all.
All right, dan, you can get your nose out of the corner now, crawl over to us on your hands and knees, and kiss Lilly's feet until she tells you that you may stop, thanking your lucky stars you have a wife who spanks.
Completely agree to your saying . Love to have him kneel before me too , kissing my feet, which he has to do morning and night to my greatest pleasure. The view on his back and ass in that position is very arousing to me ;) Helps him remember of who is in charge in this house from now on.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm. My favourite is when I step out of the shower, and david is kneeling there naked with a towel to dry me off. As he dries my legs and feet I get very turned on seeing him bent over like that, doing this service for me.
DeleteYou make david lick your pussy after you spank him? That is nice. He must be very good at it and had a lot of practice.
ReplyDeleteOh yes! I get a lot of pleasure from that. I grab the back of his head and really mash him into me! Ha Ha!
DeleteMy wife preferred using a razor strap because it was 18 inches long 2 1/2 inches wide and an eighth of an inch thick made of horsehide that was very effective on a bare bottom. It pounded the muscles all the way to the bone but did not cause permanent damage or cuts and she could strike me at 300 to 400 times during a whipping.
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